Stop Smoking Support Thread
Comments
-
Cbwitt1970, so glad to hear that your surgery went well. Listen to the ladies on these posts as they can give you all the ins and outs. I didn't have full surgery so I can't help you re drains, etc. But I'll listen! Rest up!
MT, ooooooh you lucky girl. Enjoy your vacation ... I didn't realize it was coming up this fast. Me sexy .... I gave that honour to April!
0 -
Cbwitt , glad to know it's over for you . and yes same advice . I too hate pain pills but if you do not take them like they say then pain will get out of control and it will be hard to overcome .... and on that note I also hated my drains but knew i needed them , be j=kind to yourself and rest .. and also dont hink becuase the pain is gone you can jump around .. glad all went welll .
Thanks for all the well wishes on my one year of sobriety , it was amazing ,,,
Chanty ,, yes tje biopsy and sono are the easy part is the darn waiting for the results .. that sucks ,,,, I am praying for you that all goes well ..
Judi. minus, bosom and aprl xoxoxooxox
Lisamarie
0 -
Hey gals.
Well, no biopsy today. BS couldn't see the lump on the ultrasound and she thinks it's the result of wearing underwire bras. I'm super frustrated. I posted a thread in the "Not Diagnosed but Worried" section with all the details. I think I'm just giving up on all of this. If there's something in there then it wins. I can't keep banging my head against a wall. Anyways, another day without smoking thankfully. I'm super tempted though, after the most frustrating appointment ever, the a/c went out in the Enclave. We hit the auto shop and they said my compressor went out and it'l be $1700 to fix. Just shoot me now. Why does everything go to crap when I decide to quit smoking? Thanks Murphey.
Although today sucked for me, I'm so happy to hear your surgery went well Cbwitt! Take it easy and rest up. I'm praying for smooth healing!
MT: Enjoy the vaca! I bet it'll be amazing. I love vacations where you completely unplugg, it's a great re-charge to the system. The hubbs and I have been starting to plan our 10yr wedding anniversary trip for next year, and we were talking about doing the same thing. We were thinking of hitting Tulum, Mexico and leaving all electronics unplugged. I hope your trip is ah-mazing and I can't wait to hear about it when you get back!
Hugs to everyone else, you are all inspiring!
I'm off to break my diet and then go punish myself on the treadmill. Have a great night!
0 -
Chanty, great news today re the biopsy but not your car. Something to think about ..... look at getting a second opinion. I remember about 7 years prior to my "C" they tried to do a biopsy and couldn't do it. Said the lump was too close to the heart. Well, 8 years later I again went through the crap and found out I had cancer. Second opinion is time consuming but could possibly save your live. I know I sound hard on this but I'm a strong believer of second opinions. On another note, glad you are breaking your diet and then punish yourself. I break the diet then punish myself by chanting "why did I do it". Yes, unplugged holidays are the best but when we get home, we plug in.
0 -
Wow ladies, lots of exciting posts going on here.
Today is Day 1 of my quit! I smoked during my morning "getting ready" routine and put the last one out at 8:34am. Then went to chemo & enjoyed an allergic reaction to Taxol. Yay! It's all good, and I haven't smoked, and am still in a "stoked to do this" mindset. That iPhone app I posted earlier about is also every bit as amazing as I hoped. I can't really tell what Wellbutrin is changing about me, but whatever it is - it isn't bad so I'm sticking with it. Per the MD, I'm doubling the dose from 100mg to 200mg starting tomorrow.
cbwitt1970 - wishing you well during healing. Congrats on getting past a huge milestone! I will be having the same surgery in January after chemo's over.
lisamarie68 - wanted to also give my congrats on 1 year of living clean!
Chanty - welcome! I agree w/ JudiH to obtain a 2nd opinion. It will either give you peace of mind or a call to action, either way it's important. No matter what, congrats on your quit - keep it up!
JudiH - hopefully you have your final mammo results back by now & are all good? Also, happy almost-60th!
april485 - your career is wonderful, thanks for doing what you do.
@MinusTwo - by the time you read this I hope you're still basking in the greatness of a perfect vacation!
BosumBlues - hoping that your Mom is doing better.
0 -
MT , I am sorry with all the chaos going on in life I forgot to say I hope you have an amazing vacation... xoxoxoxo
Chanty , In a way that sounds like amazing news .. I am also a worry wart .. so if it makes ya feel better then go have a second opinion .. anda hopefully that may ease your mind .. xoxoxox
SVG.. congrats on the smoking ..
Bosom , April , and Judy .. hello too u all
Today my son would have been 26 .. I am going to the grave and spend some time with him ... it's a hard day for me but nothing will make me smoke or drink today ..
Cbwitt .. Hope you are healing well.. gentle hugs from me
xoxoxoox
Lisamarie
0 -
Hi Chanty:
I saw you deleted your other post. I think you have an unexplained lump? It can be frustrating to go through all of this and not have clear answers. You probably just want to be done with it, but it may well be a good idea to seek a second opinion. You can look for a breast center, preferably at a center of excellence. Check with your insurer that a second opinion is covered, and the breast center and doctors are in-network. Maybe there is an NCI-designated cancer center near you?
http://www.cancer.gov/research/nci-role/cancer-cen...
You can have all your imaging, associated written reports of the radiologist, pathology slides (sent overnight), pathology reports, and reports of the breast surgeon reviewed, and obtain a new consultation with a breast surgeon (preferably specializing in the treatment of breast cancer or those at risk). The second opinion place can explain to you how to get the materials they need. A second opinion may concur with the first, but if it does not, or if there is a recommendation for further imaging or biopsy, then it is best to know sooner rather than later and get things checked out.
In my case, I had a breast cancer diagnosis on the right, but my second opinion recommended a diagnostic mammogram on the left, which led to a biopsy that found DCIS. I think there is some element of art, experience and judgement in this science.
Good luck!
BarredOwl
0 -
I was one of the lucky ones to have been selected for Casting for Recovery. I attended the one in Glen Rose Texas last November. And in Texas there are two camps one in the spring and one in the fall. If you get to go to one you get to go to an annual reunion camp in the fall, this was year 5. We use this camp to raise money to support another women to attend the camp. I just went to my first reunion camp Sept 13 and it was wonderful. You will build some lifetime friends. It was amazing to observe some of these 5 year friendships and the permanent bonds they have built.
CFR is free to anyone having had or currently fighting Beast cancer. You have to apply and only a small limited number can be selected. Only 14 women per camp here in Texas. One lady had applied for Several years before being selected and I was lucky and my name was pulled for the first one I applied for. Just keep applying. We had one woman who was a 15 year survivor and she got so much out of camp because she had never experienced any group support. It is a very moving experience even if you don't fish afterwards.
This was the smartest thing I ever did for recovery.
Good luck to all.
0 -
I was one of the ones with a lump deep against the chest wall at the six o'clock position. I thought my lump was from a broken underwire irritation. Thanks to a great physician he insisted on a diagnostic mammo and ultrasound even though I had a clear one just 3 months prior. Whamoo BC.
I did go to a breast cancer surgeon specialist. She actually runs the breast imaging center full time. She no longer operates but forwards you to a specialty surgeon she chooses. She still does all my follow up imaging personally and will continue for the next several years.
Please do not give up, stay vigilant. Do not consider it a waste of time.
0 -
LisaMarie, lots of hugs to you! You are an amazing person and deserve to be told this over and over, and over. I'm going to keep telling you this!
SVGsurvive, way to go. It's hard but doable. We're here when you want to scream, vent, cry. We've all done it!
Bosum, what's up?
0 -
LisaMarie, be gentle with yourself. This is so very hard for you and you are AMAZING as Judi just told you. We all are totally blown away by your strength and courage under what is the absolute most horrible of circumstances! A lesser person would have crumbled under the weight of all you have been through recently. You are strong and you are powerful beyond measure. Keep on keepin on girlfriend. You are ROCKING all of this. We love you and we are here if you need to scream, cry, vent, pull your hair out (but don't do that cause you need it for when you meet a WONDERFUL man who will treat you like the Princess that you are. Or, if you decide to hell with men, you need it for YOU! LOL xoxoxoxoxoxo a million hugs and kisses for you.
SVG, hang in there!
Bosum, yeah, what's up?
MT I hope you are having the BEST time on your unplugged vacation!
CBWitt, hope you are doing well considering. Be good to yourself!
OK, running as usual. But, the good news is IT'S FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!! Woot!
Love you all!
0 -
BosumBlues I am so sorry about your Mom. It is so hard to see our parents age. My mom has always seemed invincible to me & these last few years I have watched her get old before my very eyes & it is heartbreaking 😓
And don't you beat yourself up about smoking. I smoked through pneumonia, surgeries, illnesses, & when I was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease 15 yrs ago, was told to quit smoking or risk many complications & still never quit. It took a cancer diagnosis to wake me up & yet I still want to smoke. Life is so hard. And for some of us cigarettes are our go to for comfort. I'm praying you will conquer this addiction but if you don't, you are still loved & worthy. Don't let anyone make you feel any less
0 -
you're welcome
0 -
Bosom , I wish that you would not beat yourself up .. I know it's hard to quit when you rely on smoking as the crutch for stress .. And as far as mom goes I too understand that as well . I hate to see anyones mom go into a facility .. I am a caregiver and want to help the world .. Life is just so unpredictable .. It took me a long time to get here .. as you know .. I still some days cannot believe I am here with a year free from smoking .. and as far as diagnosis scaring me away from it NO .. nothing scared me and if it did maybe for a minute .. I also got the COPD diagnosis this summer ... but I am already quit for some time so what can I do .. Nothing .. I will pray for you and your Mom and I will always be here no matter what .. u can always chat with me /// Big Hugs
Cbwitt .. I understand about the mom thing as stated above ,, I always figured my mom would be arounf forever and always .. when I speak to her on the phone she sounds the same as always unless she is sick .. but after bieng around her and seeing her physically thats another story .. I miss my mom and she is sick as well and I am so afraid to lose her , last year sge was maybe 80 pounds and looking sick , now se says she carrys oxyegn all around ,,, damm cgarettes
xoxoxoxoxox
Lisamarie
0 -
Just wanted to send a quick post that today is Quit Day 5 & I'm hanging in there....sometimes barely!
The cravings range from a mere passing thought, to long stretches of some sick part of my mind telling me my life will be endlessly awful & aren't I the jackass for refusing to just light up and make all the pain go away. It's overcoming these evil cravings that give me strength to never smoke again. If cigs are my best friend, then this friend is controlling and abusive and I deserve better.
Bosum, I've found that self-worth is playing a huge part in this quit. I had to find the part of me that wants to take good care of me, when I can't seem to take good care of myself, if that makes sense.
0 -
Way to go SVGsurvive. I hear what you are saying. Today was a really tough day for me and I've been smoke free almost five years (in December). My urge to smoke comes when I'm cleaning and today I just wanted to smoke. 90% of the time I don't even think about it but today it hit me hard. Maybe because I just found out that my nephew has thyroid cancer and is scheduled for surgery tomorrow. WTF!
0 -
Yippee SVG ...that's Great 5 days is great great great !!! That's like that monkey on your back always saying oh you need me .. but do not give in ...I used to hate to think those crazy thoughts , like OMG how will i live without a smoke with my coffee and after i eat and because I am angry , sad , ect ,,,, but they do pass and get less with time ... Trust me they do .. I wont lie and say I never want a cigarette because it happens .. mostly when i am really off guard .. but I know if I give in forget all i have worked towards ... xoxox be gentle to you ..
Bosom .. we are so close with a lot of our situations and life in general .. I hope only the best for your mom .. xoxoxo I am praying .. and as far as I know COPD doesn't go away but with quitting it does not advance maybe ,, today I went apple picking and pumpkin picking and I got out of breathe and had to remember to pace myself .. it's times like that i get sad .. because even after a year and i am still having issues breathing depending on what I am doing .. and I am and will continue to be here ... Hugs my friend ... Soul Friend .. lol love ya
Judi , I think sometimes when I clean I find myself wanting a smoke but then again it goes right away because I am busy ... wow 5 years on my birthday month congrats woo hoo .. I always have admired you and always will .. I will pray for your nephew , and the thyroid cancer .. hopefully removing it will be all and he will be okay .. except for taking thyroid medicine the rest of his life synthroid ... Hugs to him .. xoxoxoxoox
Lisamarie
0 -
Hi LisaMarie! Thanks so much for your thoughts and well wishes. You truly are indeed a special person and I love ya for all of your kindness!
0 -
Bosum, way to go. Kick those f@#&ing ciggies to the ground. Ass to the curb, yup that's them. It's tough but I think your mindset is there. Don't turn back .... keep thinking of COPD and what is does to you. I remember years ago, a smoker with the oxygen tank telling me to quit now, and mind "mind blowing response" was sure! But the image always stuck with me and then my mom's best friend who was a heavy, heavy, heavy smoker, ended up with the oxygen tank. I saw her at her son's memorial (he died of lung cancer) and boom, she was then gone. It's not worth it. I keep reading what you and LisaMarie post, and I hope I never get COPD. Be brave and remember all the money you'll save. Worth a trip somewhere!
0 -
BosumBlues you go girl!! Those cigs do not rule you!! You are the author of your own story & you are writing a new chapter! One that doesn't include stinky cigarettes that are trying to kill you. YOU CAN DO THIS!! If I could, anybody can. I promise. It's not easy but we are strong survivors. And I say with all the money we save we all meet in Vegas next year & celebrate!
Catherine
0 -
Bosom , I am excited to hear that you are gonna do it . and yes you can kick them bad boys to the curb.. and as for the COPD you are better than me because I read on everything and have not been able to bring myself to read about it .. I am here for you as always ... love ya girl ... You got this !!!! xoxoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
0 -
P.s , My whole family has passed from COPD . you think id have learned long ago .. but we all get to where we need to be in our own time .. I am thankful for this year without smokes ... xoxooxox
Lisamarie
0 -
Just a quick drive by post and a hug for all of you from me. This is HARD ladies...no doubt about it. But, the rewards are HUGE both in health and in money. Keep on keepin on my friends. You got this!
Just for today...
0 -
Laugh for the day!
One day when a
> seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a
> river, her thimble
> fell into the river. When she cried out,
> the Lord appeared
> and asked "My dear child, why are you
> crying?"
>
> The
> seamstress replied her thimble had fallen into
> the water and she
> needed it to help her husband in
> making a living for
> their family.
>
> The Lord
> dipped His hand into the water and
> pulled up a golden thimble set with sapphires.
>
>
> "Is this
> your thimble?" the Lord asked.
>
>
> The
> seamstress replied,
> "No."
>
> The
> Lord again dipped into
> the river. He held out a golden thimble
> studded with
> rubies.
>
> "Is this your thimble?" the
> Lord asked.
>
> Again, the seamstress
> replied, "No."
>
> The
> Lord reached down again
> and came up with a leather
> thimble.
>
> "Is this your
> thimble?" the Lord asked.
>
>
> The seamstress replied,
> "Yes."
>
> The
> Lord was pleased with the woman's honesty
> and gave her all three
> thimbles to keep, and the seamstress went
> home happy.
>
> Some
> years later, the seamstress was walking with
> her husband along the
> riverbank, and her husband fell into the river
> and disappeared
> under the water. When she cried out, the
> Lord again appeared
> and asked her, "Why are you
> crying?''
>
> "Oh Lord, my husband has fallen
> into the river!"
>
> The Lord went down into the water and came
> up with George Clooney.
> "Is this your
> husband?" the Lord
> asked.
>
> "Yes," cried the seamstress.
>
>
> The
> Lord was furious. "You
> lied! That is an
> untruth!"
>
> The seamstress
> replied, "Oh, forgive me, Lord. It is a
> misunderstanding.
> You
> see, if I had said "no" to George Clooney, you
> would have come up with Brad
> Pitt.
> Then if I said "no" to him, you would
> have come up
> with my husband. Had I then said
> "yes," you would have given
> me all three. Lord, I'm not in the
> best of health and would
> not be able to take care of all three husbands
> so THAT'S why I
> said "yes" to George
> Clooney. And so the Lord let her
> keep him.
>
> The moral of
> this story is:
> Whenever a woman lies, it's for a good and
> honourable reason, and in the best interest of
> others.
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> That's our story, and we're
> sticking to
> it.
> Signed,
>
> All Us
> Women
>
> Laughter is like
> jogging on the inside.
> Exercise your 'innards' every
> day.0 -
Ha Ha .. I love the story Judi ... xoxoxo great to smile first thing in the morning . I am off too my appointment fllled day .. noyt fun .. first i have a brain scan MRI and then I have the dentist ... I had to take out all my jewlery as is the drill with cat scan mri ... I hate taking the nose ring out .. its hurts so much .. anyway a lil complaint this am .. love you all
Bosom Good luck on your quit day ... you Got this Girl !!!! xoxoxox
Lisa marie
0 -
We are with you BosumBlues. You WILL do it.
0 -
Remember BosumBlues - one day, one hour, one moment at a time. Whatever it takes.
Expect it to be hard, but embrace the challenge & constantly remind your subconscious of the truth: cigs are an evil piece of shit.
We're with you! You will do it!
0 -
Got your back Bosum. You can do it! Tell yourself this all the time during they day/evening.
0 -
Cigarettes are killers who travel in packs.
0 -
Bosom, Hey girl way too go ... anyway the morning smoke was the worst one for me to let go of .. and I played with it for a bit but then I finally let it go and you will tooo.. xoxoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
0
