Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Ok Ladies! STOP THE INSANITY!!!! And if you can't just yet, please don't stop posting altogether. It's a good thing most of us are on FB so we can keep up that way.
I got home around 5:00pm and told myself I had to unpack and start the laundry first. Also, to check on the mogs and settle Murphy back in. I have missed you all so much!! I had to read back a few pages and love the "wash rag on the head," Nadine. It's great to come back to a good laugh. I am so sorry your husband lost his job. I will be praying that he finds something else, and soon! I hope farming can take your mind away at least for a little while.
Oh, Janet! It was so hard not to get my daily fix of your positive spirit. I am really worried about your nipple. Please keep the surgeon informed so you can keep ahead of any infection or further necrosis. This is going to sound idiotic, but it can't hurt. Soak your boob in nearly hot water and Epsom's salts. I remember years ago when my brother's arm was eaten up with poison ivy. We had just moved from NC to Maine. His arm turned green and so hard you could knock on it. It hadn't been that long since my little brother had died and dad had a fierce distrust of doctors. He was afraid the doctor would want to take my db's arm off. For a solid week my dad kept my db in a huge claw foot tub full of hot water and Epsom's salts. As soon as the water turned cold, dad would fill it again and add new salts. Box after box, tub after tub. He lived in that thing for a solid week but his arm healed. I know medicine has come a long way and I'm not telling you not to go to the doctor. I am just trying to think of anything I can to help you. Are you allowed to let you nipple get wet? Disregard this if you are not. I am praying for you as I do all of our bc sisters. Like, I said, it can't hurt. Bella is absolutely adorable! Watch out for you shoes!
Hey o2b and malle! Sorry you both are sick. Hope you are getting better. malle, I'm not sure if you are on chemo or not. I think I may be confusing your stage of treatment with mb. But, I am wishing all of you chemo girls strength and courage and it takes it. I am so happy for those of you who breeze through it but, I think, more often than not, most of us don't. I am so glad, o2b, that your trip to the ER turned out well. Your DH was right! Don't hesitate to call your onc. Am also thinking of you mb and hope you have completed or are getting close to the end of your chemo. How is your lung? How are you?
flfish! I think you are wonderful at your new job and am glad you are enjoying it!
Irene! You had better not stay away or I'll have to come to LONG ISLAND and kick your a@@! It may be hard, but I think it's "doable." Heh...heh...!
Glad to see rachel and lefty posting. It is not my intention to leave anyone out so here is a blanket "missing you" and pls let us know how you are doing.
Well, I better go and check my email and my farms. I know my crops have long since withered and I will have to start again, but hey! That's life!
Love to all of you!
Nancy, Pat, Susan
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I posted and saw a butterfly! Forgive my seive-like brain. Keep your chin up. Your situation sounds bad, but you sound well. My prayers are with you also and God bless that neighbor!
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Hello ladies! So glad to see you back Nancy! You always make me smile.
Butterfly, glad to see you here, I am sorry it has been so tough on you lately. Trust in your God and you will get through. I know you spirituality is very important to you. You will be in my prayers.
Janet, I hate that you are feeling blue. I am the opposite, when my depression kicks in, I smoke even MORE. I hope today is better.
ReKOZ, I am with you. I feel guilty posting since I am still smoking. But I do love seeing you on facebook, so at least keep in touch there.
Love to all of you!
Ellie
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Good Morning! I pray that today will be a good day for everyone.
I would like to tell you Nancy that I am so glad your back home. Sure seemed like you was gone for ever. I watched your crops die off and couldn't do anything for you, but tried.
My dear friend Janet, I enjoy our conversations on the phone and on Facebook. Your a gem. I hope a new loving man comes into your life and brings you all of the love and joy you deserve. Call me anytime.
I am really bad with names however so many wonderful friends on this forum. Would hate to have anyone leave even if their still smoking. Smoking or not hang in here we all luv you and don't want you to leave us.
When I was told I had BC, I felt like my whole world had been turned upside down. As all of you have also done, I went through the struggles of day to day...and most days that struggle hasn't ended. However on the good side of BC, I have found such wonderful friends...some I talk to on the phone and or Facebook. Others we write PM's and others we follow each others postings. No matter how we stay in contact the important thing is we really do need each other and do rely on each other for support, a kick in the pants when needed, and most importantly friendship. We are members of a sisterhood that we were chosen to belong too. This was never a sisterhood I would have asked to belong to, however I have never had the privilege of meeting such a fine group of women...This group of ladies is far stronger individually than most realize.
A reminder anyone wanting to join us on Facebook just let us know, we would love to have you.
Have a wonderful day,
Nadine
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Nadine, I could not agree more, and you sure said it beautifully!
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Hello Ladies, been working hard. I didn't quit today, I fricking hate this!!!! But I need to quit soon and I will! Booking 5 more flights today for the Oct 17th event. Wish you all could come but there will be others.
Rachell, good luck with your fill and keep us informed on your Onc. Think I will try to quit soon, maybe we can make a date together.
My beautiful Butterfly! Blues are better, we will get through this together! Thanks!!!!
Pantufas, so glad you are back. Thanks for the tips! It's been quiet here without you and you know you are missed. Can't wait to see you!
Nadine, love our sisterhood. We will do great things together whether we help here in the room or FB. Thanks for the laughs, you crack me up!!!
FIfish, sorry you can't make it on Oct 17th, but there is Vegas and with our group, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.
Got another crazy week but wanted to check in and let you all know that I think of you. Check out this movie, cracked me up. Hope it brings a smile.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sht3LNTvFnY
XOXOXOXOX
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Hugs and good vibes going out to all. Nancy
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Oh man, being an adult stinks! That is what my daughter just said to me...heehee... I agree. When it rains it pours. We just found out my dh's brother had a stroke a couple days ago. I will be sending him up north so he can help him adjust and get settled when getting out of the hospital. Then I found out that my dear friend lost her brother in a boating accident over Labor Day. I feel SO bad that I can't be there for her. Why do bad things happen to good people? Why did all the awesome ladies on this forum get cancer? Why??? It just feels like I am sinking lately, no longer holding it all above water. I so wish I could be at the event on October 17. You are wonderful ladies doing what you do. Please be sure to take a LOT of photos and post them.
I have to go get ready for work :-(.....Oh, how I miss my old life of being home, but, being an adult stinks, right?
Love to all!
Ellie
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Hugs Ellie. Too many sad things happen - and all at the same time. I treasure those happy times and hope you too will see some soon.
Did I miss something earlier? What is happening on October 17? October is an eventful month for me besides BC awareness. What would have been our 40th wedding anniversary on Oct 11 -- my husband is dead 6 1/2 years now. Oct 16 would be my Dad's birthday -- he died 12 years ago. My ( still living ) sister's birthday is October 12 -- name is Christine (Colombus Day)....The LAST of my weekly Taxol and Herceptin in 2008 was October 30.
I am still smoking, but working my brain around a quit date and exactly how to do it. Hugs for all, Nancy
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Ellie - sending love and hugs your way. So sorry to hear about your dh's brother and your friends brother.
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Thanks for all the hugs. I feel better now. Sometimes life gets overwhelming, but it is really amazing is that we just keep getting through it....day at a time.
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Hey flfish,
Sorry for all of the bad things coming your way. I don't know why we get hit all at once sometimes. My prayers go out to you and yours.
I won't be posting much because Flarbio will be here the day after tomorrow. Wishing you all a good night and a better tomorrow. Come farm with us. I don't know which is worse, farming or smoking. lol. They are both so addictive!
Love you all,
Nancy, Pat and Susan has hair!
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Please help me ladies. I am in a crises! My daughter was en route to her friends house to stay a few days before coming here and I haven't heard from her since 2:00 this afternoon. She has been in a no where relationship for several years now. He lost his job and she has been supporting him for over a year now. I don't mind that, but the fact that he hasn't looked for one bites my a@@ big time. Also, the fact that he cheated on her twice that she knows of. You all know of the last episode. He is 15 years older than her and keeps her housebound because he let the insurance, tag and taxes lapse on their car while he was driving the company vehicle. His own father has left his mother because she his enabler and he is fed up. This is all beside the point.
He called a few hours ago and I told him Flarbio was in the shower. He hasn't called back and neither has she. I know she is over 21 but it's not like her to make me worry. I pray they are having a great time and it has just slipped her mind. God knows she needs to laugh and have a good time. So it's the waiting game. I can't get in touch with her friend and she's not answering her phone so I see that as a good sign. No news is bad news right?
It's confession time. I just got back from the store and you know what I bought. I have smoked two. I figure I'll be up all night drinking coffee and waiting. I couldn't do it alone. I had to have the comfort of that old friend. This comes off after my husband called and hurt my feeling terribly the other day. He has since called and appologised but you know what they say about words spoken that can never be taken back. I am just at a low point.
You are the only ones I can turn to. My sister will castigate me and my BIL will stay neutral. Hopefully I'll get a call soon and I can finish this pack and start over. I can never quit as long as there is a cigarette to smoke. I think of what I'm doing to my poor lung and just cry. If anyone is there and can hang with me for a little while, I would appreciate it. I can't go to facebook because he would know that I was there. I wouldn't be doing that if Flarbio was there. Yeah, flfish, when it rains, it pours. Please pray for her safety.
Thanks,
Nancy
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Big crises over. She called and is fine. Has called him as well. So now I just have to give up smoking again. How can someone be so weak? It has been all I have wanted for the last month and I finally gave in. I'm sorry for letting you down and I'm sorry for letting me down. At least my heart is not racing but I still will have a sleepless night after this mega strong coffee. lol. Sorry for taking up space with my mundane problems.
My love to all,
Nancy
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Big crises over. She called and is fine. Has called him as well. So now I just have to give up smoking again. How can someone be so weak? It has been all I have wanted for the last month and I finally gave in. I'm sorry for letting you down and I'm sorry for letting me down. At least my heart is not racing but I still will have a sleepless night after this mega strong coffee. lol. Sorry for taking up space with my mundane problems.
My love to all,
Nancy
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Pantufas it's ok, So just quit right now get it done and over with. Hurry up... take a deep breath and stop smoking while you can before you body and poor lung knows you did it.
For some reason this week has been hard, maybe it's just the change of season?? I am so glad your daughter is ok. I just checked my emails and saw yours and thought oh my God she needs someone. We are here..sorry I wasn't here sooner.
malle
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Ok someone please tell about the facebook farming. is it farmville or farmtown?
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Malleme - FarmTown is my favorite...some people like FarmVille...I know a few play both...Try the out and see what is your favorite
Pantufas - So glad Flarbio is ok...It has been a horrible week for lots of people...let hope this weekend is much better.
Love to All
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Thanks malle and o2b for coming to my rescue so fast. I can't tell you how that makes me feel. If there is ever anything I can do for you and it is in my power to do then you've got it. You have good advice. And what is greater than loving friends?
I play both but Farmville is faster and easier if you want to start out with that. It's not competitive like FarmTown. But I am addicted to both. It's fun on FarmTown because you can gab with each other while you are playing.
I am not enjoying these cigs but am too cheap to throw them away. I will smoke them through the night and be done by the morning and tell my brain I never smoked them after getting rid of all of the evidence. This has been plagueing me for a month, and if I can realize that I don't want them as well as don't need them then I will win. Besides that, my lung is not very happy. Some one was saying the other day that they put more addictive things in cigs now so it is harder to quit. I am lighting these,taking a drag and then letting them burn out in the ashtray. All signs must be gone because ds and Flarbio will know. I'll be roasted alive by my sis and Flarbio will think it's her fault. BTW, do any of you have dragons for sisters? I'm blathering now. Will run. Good luck and much love to both of you. I know Janet is working her butt off for this tournament on the 17th of Oct. and I need to be in shape to go.
Nitey nite,
Nancy
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pantafas I'm still here.
Yes Janet is working so hard. Is janet's tournament the same as the other trip the BC women are taking to Vegas? I wish my chemo brain would leave for good. I thought by now I would start remembering things...no luck so far. Ok does anyone know anything about fat grafting???
I am getting tired better go to bed.
I wish you all a great day tomorrow
malle
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Have a blessed sleep malle, I do believe this is the same kind of tournament that was held in Vegas. I too wish the chemo brain would leave. The only thing I know of fat grafting is that they do it. Check the reconstruction thread. Seems I saw something in there when I was considering it. Sleep tight my friend.
Bunches of hugs,
Nancy
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Oh Nancy, I am so glad that Flarbio is ok. I can only imagine your worry. We mom's never stop worrying, I don't care how old they get. Ok, now, are you listening? Put the smokes away. You have done so well and have been such an inspiration to all of us, I would just HATE to see you start again, although I do not blame you for buying a pack. It is our best friend during stressful times. Enjoy your weekend!
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HI Pantufas, sorry I wasn't there for you, yes I have been running pretty hard and trying to catch up everywhere. You can call me anytime. Now.........I have to kick your @ss for starting again. I want to keep you around for many years and you DO NOT want to go back to the hospital. Before smoking again, please call me instead, I don't care if it is 3:00am. Ring twice and I will know it is you and pick up as I am usually a light sleeper. I have to get back to work but will call you tonight.
Sorry to hear you going through a hard time Fifish. The same goes for you. Call me when you are feeling down as connecting to others is good for both people involved. Life is going to happen during our BC and it will seem like a bad run which it is. But we are all there with you. Let's join cyber hands ladies and reach out!!
Malleme, the Oct 17th event is my grappling tournament which I am making it a breastcancer.org charity event. Even some of the fighters are dying their hair pink along with me. The Vegas trip will be just us, the BCBF/K group. A time for us to meet in person, maybe do some lay down pics and maybe we can put our heads together and see what other good things we can do to make a difference to other who are suffering. But the main thing about the Vegas trip is to finally hug one another in person.
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Hey ladies!
flfish, I did throw the pack away. It was a stupid thing and didn't solve anything but made me realize how horrible they are. Thanks for the good advice. I still worry about my 35 year old and his brother. Once a mother, always a mother. Flarbio is on her way and will be here around 10:00pm.
Don't worry ZinZin, malle and o2b were here to take care of me. Bless their hearts! What a great group of gals! You may consider my a@@ kicked! I wan't to be around for a long while too.
Hope you're a enjoying the wedding, Irene. Take some good pics (yourself included).
Wishing all of you as well as you can be and have a good week end. Just one note to remember those we lost on this day in 01. May you all be blessed, and thanks again to the posse!
Love,
Nancy, Pat, Susan
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Fifish, so glad you threw out that pack. You know I will cry!!!! You are a great mother and your teachings will rub off and she will find her way. I speak from experience, I had to learn the hard way on many things but it was the tools that my parents gave me in life that was such a huge help. And I know you gave your daughter great tools.
So happy that we have a sisterhood here that someone is always here to help, you all are soo awesome in your support. That's why even though some of you may not plan on quitting here for awhile, or maybe never, but keep coming back as you are a sister and well loved and we all need support. Your posts have saved me sooo many times, your words and kindness, etc. And we all need it from time to time. So stop in once in awhile and say hi or hang in there!!!
Lot's of work this month but I will try to check in once a day, more if you need me.
Quitters and quitted, let us know how you are doing.
Hugs,
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Hello ladies, I wonder if I will get everything done on time. Just finish working and the lay down logo is almost there, just a little more tweaking. Have to move quick so I can order shirts. Let me know what you think!!!
Can put this logo on the front or down the side of t-shirts. I made this so others can use it too. So all we have to do is write down below it what we are laying down for, such as breast cancer, for boobies, etc. I am going to revamp the site quick as I hate it lol.
Once we get moving on this, I know it is going to lift some of you up as helping others and working for a cause feels great.
Much love,
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Hi Ladies, thought I stop by and say hi before starting to work. I see I got my names mixed up, lol. Meds!!!! I wish I was more talented as a graphic artists, I am better than some but not as gifted as others but I am free. Maybe down the road we can find someone who is more talented to make something cool for us.
Fifish, how are you doing? I worry about you and miss your BAHAHAH. You always bring a smile to my face! I hope you are feeling better!
Michelle, almost done with chemo, yeah!! I can't wait for it to be over along with you. Miss you too.
Pantufas, hope everything is getting better with your daughter, I am sure that things will work out. Beauty like yours is passed on!
Rachelle, how are the patches doing. You doing okay. Worried about you too.
Malleme, I like both Farmville and Farmtown. Framtown is great as you can interactive with your neighbors by hiring them to work your farm. So I can get all of you on my farm at the same time and we all can chat together at the same time where chatting in Facebook only allows a one way conversation. So we have BC farm chats some nights, give it a shot, don't even have to play but can join just to chat with us. Add me as your friend and I will send you the invites. Click on this link and it will take you to my facebook to add me as a friend. http://www.facebook.com/janet.zingano
Nadine, I missed you last night, only if I was a few minutes early. Miss chatting with you, I hope you are feeling good today!
Got to go to work, love to all
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Hey ZinZin, sorry I had to go as soon as you found me last night. Flarb just did drive up and I leace the doors locked so she couldn't get in and had to call me. lol. We have had the best time together and she is trying to get me dressed for Denver. She loves my hair and did some new pics for me. I am amazed at how much weight I have gained since my last avatar photo. Oh well! At least I am here and I should be grateful.
I have sent her up to bed so I could have the computer. lol! Nads, I don't know how to email you my pics but Flarb put the new ones on my profile on Facebook. Thanks for helping me pass the time away while waiting on Flarbio. We have had a heart to heart and she has decided to leave the who used to be her fiancee, boyfriend and now the other person sharing her space. Her big brother is going to help her and I am so grateful because I don't want any scenes, him messing with her mind or worse. He is afraid of old buddy IZ. Men like that kill me. They think they are real big around women but shrink to mice around a real man. Well, enough of our histrionics.
I think all of you gals are great and the neatest thing is we can lean on each other no matter what the problem is. I am doing fine today without the smokes. Only a few twinges but nothing I couldn't handle. So today I am 1 day out.
Zin, your graphics are incredible! I love it! Can wait till you pull it all together. You work so hard and are so selfless and generous. You deserve some kind of award!
Irene, flfish, malle, cleo, butterfly, lefty, mb, o2b. Would love to hear how you are doing. You are so important to us. If I have missed anyone then let me know about it.lol
Good night and a better day to all,
Love,
Nancy, Pat, Susan
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Hi guys...got this link from another thread but thought we all could use it as well...
It is a link to resources for medication, healthcare issues, etc...
Feeling pretty good today! My company has left and now I am just trying to get caught up on here and FB!
Pantafus - hope you are having a GREAT visit with Flarbio...so glad she made it safe and sound!
Love to ALL!!
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O2Bhealthy, thanks for the link, I will check it out.
Pantufas, happy that you got things straighten out! You can lean on me anytime.
I have finished the logos, just need to pick one as I will order shirts this week.
http://rmbjjf.com/pics/bc/whitefront.jpg Large view.
I think I like number 1 the best. Sorry about the pink but it does make a statement. Let me know which is your favorite!!!
Let's keep this thread going!
Hugs,
Janet0
