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  • whippetmom
    whippetmom Member Posts: 6,028
    edited May 2009

    Elaine:

    I just cannot imagine having your resiliance.  You will get through this....but there is no doubt that you have truly been down the toughest parts of Reconstruction Road!  You and JAX!  I am praying for you girls! 

  • fairy49
    fairy49 Member Posts: 536
    edited May 2009

    Hi ladies, sorry to bug, but a fellow sister needs our extra prayers, if you can visit the Alternative/Holistic/Complimentary board and click into the "Let's Shower Flalady with cards" ,

    thanks,

  • Estepp
    Estepp Member Posts: 2,966
    edited May 2009

    Oh Elaine.. I am so sorry... geeezzzz girls.. too much!

    Jean... what a beautiful thing he did. I do not think either one of my sons would think of that. They think I am just fine.. it is over... move on...Happy Mothers Day to you!

    Lorraine... oh my... of to check on her... gggzzzzzz... she has been through it all...

  • Jan1
    Jan1 Member Posts: 281
    edited May 2009

    Hi ladies, Thank goodness that it is Thursday and I am off for the week-end. I am tired.  I have been lurking to keep up on all of the happenings.

    Karen, Bless your heart!  I am glad that you are home and that you are recovering nicely.  You are a Queen who deserves a party!  

    Elaine, Jax I can't imagine the frustration of going through all this TE stuff.  I hope that the PS can rectify this situation and get you back on track for healing and restoration.

    Linda54 and 2newboobs.  You both are a hoot.  The 5 # weights hanging from his gonads, cracked me up.  

    I am headed to Newport Beach to see my sister this week-end, it has been a long time since we have spent 1-1 time.  BC has taken a lot of my time over the past 6 months.  Have a great week-end everyone.  Jan

  • tami48
    tami48 Member Posts: 270
    edited May 2009

    Okay, I have Mentor Gel 425 High Profile Implants.  It just seems like my PS could exchange me to smaller, less heavy implants.  I used to be an A so I don't mind having small boobs.  I don't even care about alot of projection, just wanted it to look like a little something was there.  I'm now a 32D and am tired of having heavy, uncomfortable boobs that always feel like their pulling on me. 

    I know I've been complaining alot, but I just wish he had of listened to me.  I just wish I had of known what I was doing.

    Great site!

  • Linda54
    Linda54 Member Posts: 509
    edited May 2009

    2NewBoobs

    Love that name!!!   I don't think it is that easy to just replace the implants with smaller ones....you would need a lot of pocket work done because they are stretched....I am no expert on this topic but seems like I remember this topic being discussed here a while back....

    the best to you and getting your smaller boobies......I just wanted to fill out my bras and look better in my clothes and that does not require a D cup for a small person....why do some of these PS think that women want BIG ONES !!!!!!

  • georganne
    georganne Member Posts: 56
    edited May 2009

    Elaine,

    I am praying for you. Your journey has been crazy. 

    Jax,

    I hope you're beginning to feel better too - Hugs and prayers to you.

    My Kids Mom,

    Your story was so heartwarming!  Nice boys!!!!!  BTW I got my actual exchange surgery date today. It is Fri. June 26th. I'll get Allergan style 15.

    Happy Mother's Day!!!! Georganne

  • rockwell_girl
    rockwell_girl Member Posts: 517
    edited May 2009

    2 new boobs 

    I think Sprtwareor just got her's switched out for smaller ones

    she is the gal that started the April thread if you want to chat with her

  • rockwell_girl
    rockwell_girl Member Posts: 517
    edited May 2009

    not sure where all that stuff came from

    I copied and pasted her name maybe it was that...

  • tami48
    tami48 Member Posts: 270
    edited May 2009

    rockwell_girl - thanks!  I'll check it out.

    I just made an appt. with another PS for May 27.  I'll check out some more PS's also.

    Does anyone know of a list of questions I should ask?  I don't want to forget anything this time!  I know I need someone that's good with pocket revisions.

    Hope everyone has a good weekend!

  • skippyrcis
    skippyrcis Member Posts: 28
    edited May 2009

    Hello,

    I just left a post on the May surgeries. I did great today and have brand new silicone implants.  I don't know the specs.  They forgot to give me my card.  They delivered it to my department at the hospital and someone is going to bring it to me this weekend.  So that info will come later.  Thank you for your prayers and well wishes!  I so appreciate every single one.  You ladies ROCK.... as my Dad would say. :) 

  • Bukki
    Bukki Member Posts: 103
    edited May 2009

    Made it home!!!! I may work in a hospital but I sure don't like being the patient in one.

    Got 2 full days IV abx......ouch....Also got stuck 7 times to get an IV to stay......my friend the "House supervisor" finally got one......now my arms are sobruised I look like an addict....

    Thank you all for your wonderful prayers and support.....I know we each have had our share of strange things with trying to get new foobies........some of you sound like company reps when answering questions about sizes and types.....I am soo impressed!

    My PS and PS wouldn,t let me see my chest when theywere changing the drsgs.....but I got a look as soon as I snuck off to bathroom aftr we got home...YUK!!! To me it looks like an eighty year old mans "butt"......all wrinlled and caved in.......not to offend anyone's father or grand father.....it was just the image that popped in my head.......and they put a huge drsg over it....an medium abdominal drsg that goes all over foob area and over to under my arm where the pesty drain is, I hated those ......sooooo now I guess I let it healand start over.....The PS said there would be lots of pocket revisions due to the infection causing adhessions. BTW my PS said he had never had a patien that had so many strange things go awry.......

    The ID physician that I work with on ICU pts said I couldn't have picked a finer PS to work with on my reconstruction......he also agreed to take a look at the fluid cultures from this last surgery.

    Bless you all for being there and listening to all my whining.....I feel humbled most of the time when I read your posts and how you all face your problems with such class and style.....make me want to be better person so I can "run with the Ta Ta sisterhood.

    Sorry ran on for so long ....I get maudlin after anesthia......even had a crying "jag" today.

     Hugs and prayers to all of you......super healing vibes going out to ALL.........Elaine

  • Bukki
    Bukki Member Posts: 103
    edited May 2009

    I really do admire all you ladies who research and post the implant size and specs........WOW!!

    Maybe they should recruit you all for consults with all the PS patients who need help and fitting advce as well as moral support.....Elaine

  • Peggio
    Peggio Member Posts: 105
    edited May 2009

    Elaine ~ I am typing this with tears in my eyes.  You have been through so much and to have your attitude is something to admire.  It really says something about someone's character about how they handle adversity. You have been amazing.

    Skippyrcis - I posted on the May thread to you too and am glad to hear everything went well.

    Peg

  • whippetmom
    whippetmom Member Posts: 6,028
    edited May 2009

    Oh Elaine...CryCryCry

    I am so sorry.  But we have seen some success stories and successful reconstructions after mammoth complications.  So hang in there.  We are praying for you!

    Skippyrcis -  Cannot WAIT to see your photos!  Post some soon!!!!

  • val61
    val61 Member Posts: 969
    edited May 2009

    Oh my goodness!  I've been in Indianpls since 5/1 helping my mom  - and dad maybe more! - after her cervical spinal fusion surgery.  It took me an hour just to catch up on this thread!  Hugs and prayers to all those hurting and healing........

     Had my third fill today - 50cc and 40cc - so now  (@ 125cc & 135cc) am almost to the point where most of you started from!  The joys of being a  (formerly! )flat girl......  Now  it's like when I'd wear my "big girl"  (ultra padded) bras! Smile   I did have my 2nd episode of a muscle spasm just when my ps accessed my port, though  Frown

    I'm so glad to be back near a computer.  I really missed you all and have realized how much I've come to rely on the support from you all every day!  

    Valerie

  • Estepp
    Estepp Member Posts: 2,966
    edited May 2009

    You know, it is posts like Elaine's just now and many other post of the like, that make me proud I named us the Ta Ta Sisterhood so long ago!

    Hang in there Elaine and Jax...you inspire me NOT to complain...

    I am happy you are home Skippy

    And to Sandy and Deborah... the time you take to post and re-post the sizes for your sisters here, may I give YOU a standing ovation!

    I am proud to be here too! I am proud to have named us the Ta Ta Sisterhood...

    For those going to Vegas... maybe that should be our Tee....

    Much love and many prayer for all of us!

    Love,

    Laura

  • smmr
    smmr Member Posts: 34
    edited May 2009

    Elaine,

    I know it shouldn't be funny, but your description of the first peek at your chest was hilarious!!  I used to work in a nursing home, so I've seen some 80 year old butts!!!  I admire you for keeping your sense of humor throughout all this.  What else can we do right??  Hang in there!!

  • Bukki
    Bukki Member Posts: 103
    edited May 2009

    Well another night with little sleep....can't stand the darn JP drain......makes me feel like was back where I started 12/30........those JP drains pull at your skin and mine itches no matter how I try to secure it ..........any ideas?????? I have split wick drain around the insertion  site and placed the bulb in a little silk bag and have that pinned to cami strap

    I think the anesthesia gave me the "blue funk" or something this time......I just want to scream at my family.......they have adopted the attitude I should be back to old self again only super faster.......i must of left my super girl cape at the hospital.......I had to cook last night and do all cleanup.......my sister got new car and everyone went for ride as soon as they got done eating........left me the whole mess to clean up...........or maybe I am just being cranky pants????? 

    thanks for listening........and all the great support....hugs and prayers to ALL.....Elaine 

  • Mykidsmom
    Mykidsmom Member Posts: 448
    edited May 2009

    Oh Elaine - You need to be treated like the treasure you are. You JUST got out of the hospital and you are on antibiotics. I think a bit of cranky is in order. They need to take care of you!! So many hugs going your way!

    Georgeanne - I will be happy to add your exchange date. Congratulations!

    Skippy - I am so psyched for you! Rest easy and enjoy!

  • KEW
    KEW Member Posts: 450
    edited May 2009

    Hi Ladies!

    Elaine, I do not know how you are going through these challenges while keeping your sense of humor, but you are doing a great job.  I'm so sorry that your family expects all things normal, if you are close to your sister maybe you should ask her for some help and see if she will talk with your family.  My boys have been great, but want it all normal, so one of my other "mom" friends had a casual talk with them about how important it is for things to be clean, how they need to pick up the things that I would do, and some other things.  They've been great since, they are older 15 and 20, so they should be helping.

    I'm glad everyone seemed to have good experiences this week, although looking forward to hearing from our quiet sisters.

    I'm doing OK, very happy with my implants.  I think they are the most beautiful things I've ever seen, and they feel so great.

    Now, my abdominal stuff is a different story, I'm in pain, have yet to "move" so very bloated and gassy.  I hope I "move" soon, I'd hate to end up back in the hospital. I have a slow fever develop each day which peaks at about 100.5 and then begins to drop--small complaints when compared to what others are going through. Still very glad I did it, I feel so much happier knowing my estrogen bombs are out.

    Last night was big in our house.  My 15 year-old, who is a distance runner, but running track this spring, finished 2nd in the 800m during the district finals!  I was not able to go, but was so proud of him, let's me know he is handling things well and able to focus, now, to get him focused on cleaning his room.

    Love you!

    Happy Mother's Day to all our moms.

    Karen

  • skippyrcis
    skippyrcis Member Posts: 28
    edited May 2009

    Elaine, It sucks to hear that you are going through so much.  The JP drains are a PIA.  I was very uncomfortable with them.  You must be a strong woman.  Cooking and cleaning for others while they go for a joy ride..... I would have an attitude too.  I am a selfish person to start with so this BC has made me worse.  I am thankful to have support around me and if it is not there I don't have a problem voicing my needs.  This morning my husband was sleeping on the couch (he fell asleep there) and the kids were up and came to me in the bed.  I hollered at him that he was supposed to be taking care of me.  When that did not work I sent my two year old to tell him that Mommy wants coffee.  I am a stinker and I know it.  Have you told them that you still need their support? I wish the best for you.  

  • TXBadboob
    TXBadboob Member Posts: 109
    edited May 2009

    Elaine, I'm praying you will heal fast and get back to recon soon.  Family can be like ostriches with their head in the sand sometimes.  You might just have to stop doing stuff for awhile in order to take care of yourself.

    Kew, I'm getting my estrogen bombs out next month hopefully during my exchange, so I'm following your progress closely.  Hope you get to feeling better soon.

    Skippy, glad everything went well for you.  Hope to see pics soon!

    Happy Mother's Day,

    Deen

  • KEW
    KEW Member Posts: 450
    edited May 2009

    Deen, I'll keep you posted.  PM me if you have any questions.

    Karen

  • FACECRAFTER
    FACECRAFTER Member Posts: 433
    edited May 2009

    Elaine  I'm sorry you are going through this but.. You need to be your own advocate at home too!!  We're really good at advocating for ourselves at the doctors, but when it comes to home, well, that's another story.  You are just out of the hospital, you need to act like it..nuff said.

    As far as the drains go, I foujdn that taping mine down about 1 inch or two beyond the opening in the skin, helpd a lot with the itching and the pulling.  I had plenty of time to figure it out.  My drains wsere in for three weeks!  Good luck to you. 

    Happy Mother's Day all,  JUDY

  • firstmate
    firstmate Member Posts: 153
    edited May 2009

    Well ladies, I am back.  My father died, and I am still dealing with that.  And I also have been sailing in the Virgin Islands.  So, I have over 40 pages of posts to read. 

    Here is my update:  I had my second revision surgery on March 18.  Unfortunately, I am not totally pleased with the outcome.  I still have a large indentation at the top of the implant, and the implant hasn't dropped into the tear dropped shape yet -- too much projection at the top.  It looks a bit more symmetrical with the other implant than it did before, but not as good as I had hoped.  So, the question is -- what is the point of having nipples done, if I am unhappy with the implant?  I don't want another surgery - 4 is enough!  And I won't show it to anyone, because I don't like how it looks, so why have nipples?  I am so frustrated!

    Robin

  • georganne
    georganne Member Posts: 56
    edited May 2009

    Elaine,

    I am sooooooo sorry you've had to go through all of this. I don't understand it, but I know God is RIGHT THERE!!!!! You are in my prayers continuously.  You will get well and look beautiful, I KNOW it. Hugs!!!! Georganne

  • Bukki
    Bukki Member Posts: 103
    edited May 2009

    Judy....thanks for the tip on controlling the drain.....it does seem to reduce the pull/ movement of the drain,

    ((((((((Jax)))))))) hope everything is going your way ths time with great healing vibes going out to you.

    Thanks everyone for their support and  comments....you ladies make my day.

    Like I have heard in several posts....our family and friends just want us back to normal........yet only you girls know how much we have changed on the inside as well as outside ........and I gather from the comments you are the awesome strong "glue" that holds our families together.............HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to

    all the great ladies on these threads 

  • Bukki
    Bukki Member Posts: 103
    edited May 2009

    This is garage sale weekend and I thought I might find a bargain  on a right foob....LOL.....No lch

  • georganne
    georganne Member Posts: 56
    edited May 2009

    Robin,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  I lost both of my parents in the past 4 years. I'll keep you in prayers.  Hope the foobs do turn out well too. 

    Elaine,

    When I had my drains, I had a surgical bra that opened in the front with velcro and had velcro straps that went through a plastic loop on the drains. So, mine hung from the bra strap and were held tightly to my body.That made it fairly comfortable. Do you have a surgical bra made like that?  If not, maybe your doctor can get you one like it.  Mine is by Cardinal Health. It is Allegiance Brand SURGI-BRA - hospital orders 800-964-5227; patient orders - 800-829-1081.  I hope you can get comfortable!!!! Georganne

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