Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Bummer, Cindy. I had something similar a few months before my IDC dx--turned out to be a torn glute. (A decade before that, a chunk of my iliac crest had actually broken off, and it was visible on X-ray. The last thing you want to hear your orthopedist say--especially in front of a gaggle of med students--is "WTF???" Both times, a hiking cane, physical therapy, ibuprofen, topicals (Lidoderm & Flector patches), ice and time did the trick--no need to go under the knife. Hope you can stay out of the O.R. too.
Mary, what a difference a week makes! Not 10 days ago, Chicago (with a high of 49F) was actually colder than northern Alaska. This week, it's been hot enough for my cilantro to "bolt," beyond reclamation. Fortunately, even the spindly frilly leaves and tiny blossoms are still not only edible but delicious. Guacamole toast for breakfast tomorrow. Picked another strawberry this morning. Have about a dozen blossoms and three or more berries "on the hoof," still white. The black raspberries have begun to develop & ripen too. Farmers' market again tomorrow (such a joy to have one in walking distance, and during the afternoon to boot).
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The more authentic you become, the more genuine in your expression, particularly regarding personal experiences and even self-doubts, the more people can relate to your expression and the safer it makes them feel to express themselves. That expression in turn feeds back on the other person's spirit, and genuine creative empathy takes place, producing new insights and learnings. -Stephen Covey
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High temps here today, but it is the first day of the drop in humidity which will make it a lot more tolerable. I do okay when the humidity doesn't wring you out almost before you do anything.
Nothing special planned today. Just trying to keep up.
We have a Farmer's Market here. I don't go much. I know they do fine w/o my input, but it is a longer drive than I wish to make and while they open early -- it can be pretty toasty on the high humidity days. Glad you get to enjoy one so close Sandy. I'd likely spend a lot of change there if I could walk to ours.
I hope you all have a great Monday.
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Good morning, ladies. Hot and muggy. We have had rain on and off yesterday and today. I have been cat sitting for one of my BFF's cat. DH is still having some issues. He gets another Emagality injection today.
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The baby parakeets are growing so fast. They still sleep in the bowl but spend the day exploring the floor of the cage. One actually climbed up on the perch, turned around and then appeared stuck. The Dad was quite concerned during this adventure. It did manage to get down but I did not see it, darn.
They are quite clamorous when hungry which seems to be every 5 minutes while awake. Here are some pictures from over the weekend and today. Their chest feathers appear to be coming in and some of the feathers on their heads stand up straight and look like a mohawk.
I have been working on some family genealogy for my husband's side of the family and it has been a challenge. His grandparents emigrated from the Austro-Hungarian Empire and some of the records I have been able to find are in Hungarian. My husband neither speaks (except for some salty phrases he learned from his GF) nor reads Hungarian. Using a Hungarian-English dictionary is painstaking for translation. The area they came from now is part of Romania. We have his GF's passport issued in 1926 and it is in excellent condition. He traveled back home then and seeing all the countries he had to traverse and borders he had to cross is remarkable. It was an expensive trip when you see that many countries charged $10 for visas and there are several in the passport. He appears to have been gone for nearly 2 months. He and one brother remained here but the other two brothers returned after their time in the US. They are the elusive ones and remained unnamed until we found a photo of the four with the names on the back. The brother who remained here was as erect in his 80's as he appears in this photo. He had a head full of thick white hair that had been black when younger. At my FIL's funeral he told me "he was a handsome man (I agree)" and then described in detail what he wanted for his funeral. He died within the year and had what he described. Like his brother, each only had one child (a son for GF and a daughter for this brother) so not much family here. I was able to find his ggf's name and the family for his gm including parents and siblings. I like genealogy because it is like a mystery and each page brings a new surprise or challenge. I used to haunt archives so using the computer is easier in one sense but I loved those archives that smelled of history. Anyone else do genealogy?
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I have, but once I got most of the answers to questions I had, I lost interest. I pay for a month every few years at Ancestry, just to see if anything new has popped up. I have learned a lot from the cousins who are more dedicated genealogists on both sides of the family.
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One of my great grandfathers was a pubkeeper by trade. The pub he ran still stands. https://www.google.com/maps/uv?pb=!1s0x48719000450166cd:0xed99a3d515d61bab!3m1!7e115!4s/maps/place/Green+Dragon+Bristol+England/@51.4902961,-2.5029218,3a,75y,110.17h,90t/data=*213m4*211e1*213m2*211swXtF9dHrv7q6astDKnn8zw*212e0*214m2*213m1*211s0x48719000450166cd:0xed99a3d515d61bab?sa=X!5sGreen Dragon Bristol England - Google Search!15sCgIgAQ&imagekey=!1e2!2swXtF9dHrv7q6astDKnn8zw&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjVz97ihJjxAhVWCM0KHZA2DRoQpx8wCnoECC4QAw
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What a great family story, Mary. Great looking pub.
Still have questions that remain unanswered and swear we are descendants of "talkers" not writers so I will continue searching and researching. I can remeber my children had a family history assignment when they were in school so my research helped them and I am sure my grandchildren will have a like assignment someday.
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Betrayal, I too am the family genealogist. Have already had grandchildren questions. One of my treasures is the handwritten family tree my brother did in school, he was 9 years older than me. I don' t remember having such an assignment!
Fascinating following the baby birds!
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I've never done any genealogical research. I would like to know what tribe my ggf was from. Unfortunately he had a very common name. I do know what the address was, which may help.
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I too am a pretty addicted family searcher. Mine has been easier because most ancestors were from England. I have always struggled with other languages so am certain I would be frustrated. My "brick wall" is Margaret Ward who married Issac Hogoboom in De Kalb Co., Il. in 1857. Her tombstone says she was born Dec 22, 1823 (in Dublin) but I have no idea whether Ward is a birth or married name. Can't find her in any of the immigration records or the 1850 census under that name (although Ward is pretty common). Given the age difference between the bride and groom and the fact that their only child was named after Issac's second wife, I'm guessing Margaret was a servant in the Hogoboom household but it really is a guess and my imagination running wild. The other unsolved mystery about this couple is that they had a second child (who was reported as a daughter) living with them in 1860 who just "disappeared." My sister thinks based on conversations with my grandmother that the second child had been "stolen" by Margaret while she was still in Ireland and brought to the states. That's the kind of information or lack of it, that gets me hooked.
It's supposed to be 115-120 all week so I will have plenty of inside time to look more.
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OMG, the baby 'keets are just the cutest things EVER. Thanks for the update, Betrayal.
Hope everyone is doing well. I'm halfway done with AC chemo and it hasn't gotten any easier. I don't recall ever feeling so bad. Cancer sucks.
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But halfway through sounds really good. You will have ( likely can't be seen at this vantage point too well ) such a sense of accomplishment when you get through. All the things I did made me happy after the fact, because they saved my life. So, no matter how hard to see there is a positive possible silver lining.
Wishing you great healing and health from these trials you are going through now. Hugs.
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Betrayal, Yes, I've been researching my family history for several years, I'm a Mayflower descendant of John and Priscilla Alden, and am also a member of the DAR. My genealogy interest got me involved as a volunteer photographer for FindAGrave. This week I found a new tombstone had been placed for a person who only had a temporary marker - 48 years after they died!
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Betrayal, I was into it for a while. After I traced my mother's family back to the 1400's it became too difficult to trace. My father's side, I was not able to go as far back. The most interesting part was we also thought my father's side was German Dutch, but there was never any Dutch. DH thought the same, that he was German Dutch, but he was 67% Russian and German, also no Dutch.
This morning has roared in with a thunder storm.
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I love hearing about your genealogy info and stories, but I confess I'm not into it. I suppose it is somewhat due in part to my strong spiritual sensations as anything. I've had issues just keeping up with my generation of aunts, uncles, cousins, and those removed of whatever numbers. I have a small family tree a close cousin made up and I use that as a guide though it doesn't go back very far. All I know for sure is that we are related to Wm. Jennings Bryan ( an Illinois statesman ) and I'm told the Indian woman on the coin Sacajawea. My youngest Aunt gave me this information so I'm not at all sure about that although I do know I am 1/8th Cherokee.
At any rate, I see that we all intertwine as humans on this Earth one way or the other and we share it with many other species ( animal, insect, plant or whatever ) so it is easier for me to accept it all on that level and not wrack myself up figuring out just where I 'started' from other than we are something of a Heinz variety from across the pond. Dutch, Eng., German and the Indian once we got to America.
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Petite1: If you look at maps of Europe in the 1600 -1900's the boundaries between countries were quite fluid due to wars and land acquisition so this could account for the Dutch-German designation. My neighbor insists his family is Dutch but their surname is actually French, so go figure. His father did emigrate from Holland and he spoke Dutch. When you consider how difficult it was to move then, they were surprisingly quite fluid in movement.
My DH's family claims to be Romanian but actually originate from what was then Macedonia and the others from the Austro-Hungarian Empire are really Hungarians (born in Albania) but my MIL found them to be (her personal bias) "undesirables" and convinced them they were Romanians. Talk about bigotry but then where my DH grew up they lived in neighborhoods based on ethnicity as were their churches. We had a Polish only Catholic church in my hometown and another that accepted all other ethnicities.
I keep hitting brick walls and try to find workarounds but haven't had much luck. So we called his cousin to see if she can supply some missing data on the grandparents. She lived with them so she will have resources we do not have. For all the unusualness of their surname here, in Europe it is like the Hungarian version of Smith.
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Puffin - how interesting that you are a photographer for "Find a Grave." My Mayflower ancestors are Stephen Hopkins and Thomas Rogers. I just finished a term as AZ Pres. of Daughters of Founders and Patriots (through my mother's Taylor line.). Lots of Winthrop Fleet ancestors. Have you ever read "The Winthrop Woman?" I wrote a paper for my local genealogical society on my descent from 4 of Henry Adams children. John and John Quincy were descended from a fifth Adams child. Dad's family came to VA. The first colonial Pruitt (my birth name) was an indentured servant who arrived about 1652. Dad always said his family had lived in KY forever and it turns out that he was right - I have ancestors on the memorial at Boonesburough. For a variety of reasons, I'm taking a break from all lineage societies right now, but I continue to search. Doing genealogy has really increased my interest in history in general and I read a lot.
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Betrayal, We did the DNA and no Dutch. I know my father's side left Germany, because of religious persecution. and went to Holland, but seemed to marry other Germans with like religion. (I think it was Mennonite.) They went to Pennsylvania. That is research for another day. On my mother's side they came over on the Mayflower, but not the first Mayflower. I do qualify to be a "Daughter of the American Revolution", but have not followed up on it. On her side, my claim to royalty is Lady Fleming, my great, great,...grandmother. My late brother enjoyed Genealogy and sent me a disc of all his research before he died. It was hard to follow and Ancestry flows easier.
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Betrayal, Since it was on my mind, my Father's people were Brethren and stayed with the Mennonites until branching out to form an American branch of Church of the Brethren. That was in PA.
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Petite1: I live about an hour away from a large Amish and Mennonite population. They usually keep very good genealogical records. Their food is to die for and we used to go to a German festival in Kutztown every June-July. The festival featured crafts and food. We went for both since the fare varied by booth including one that featured a roasted oxen cooked on a spit. Many of the food workers were Mennonite. My DS makes runs out there to pick up meats and produce for us. Pre-Covid we would go to family style meal restaurants there, buy wonderful pies and other baked goods. Miss that a lot.
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We have a significant Amish population here, but not the complement Mennonite. They do well at greenhouses, quilting, beekeeping, basket-making, baking, and jam-making. They also have their internal businesses, like rebuilding wringer-washers. Yes, that is allowed, but a woman rendered quadriplegic by a buggy accident cannot have an electric wheel-chair.
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Coming late today to chat. Had my Urology appt. It was decided that we would wait ( since Dr. Barrientos removed the small tumor ) and do another scope in three months and see if anything registered then. There is a chance he got everything out this time. So, we both felt since all the previous tumors were of the papillary sort -- why do more chemo that possibly could be un-necessary. Also, should I need more chemo later -- I would have more options( kinds ) and any kind used would be put directly into my bladder. Dr. Barrientos suggested Adriamycin should that happen. So, I'm on reprieve for three months.
In the meantime my car is in the garage getting new struts ( hopefully they will get them in tomorrow. My job tomorrow is small so Dh will take me. We will go early and beat the heat.
Hope you all have had a great day.
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It is funny how the Amish have developed workarounds. They did not have telephones in their houses but could install one in the barn or work shed or sometimes on a pole in the yard (it had a little roof over it: Amish telephone booth). Many now have cell phones. They build furniture and use gas powered tools for that but again it is not in the house. We have seen them on trips all over the US where they hire a driver to escort them. We had one remove trees for us. He used a gas powered saw and we offered him the wood because it was ash and we already had plenty of fire wood. He refused to take it and told us to have it cut in to logs and allow it to season. They do a lot of construction in this area and their work is top notch. In the event of an emergency in their community, they all unite to help out providing food, whatever is needed for the project such as wood, etc.
Unfortunately, there are buggy accidents quite often with poor outcomes for the passengers and the horses. Most involve cars, since they do use major arteries, and in PA they are supposed to use battery operated lights on the front and back so they are more visible after dark. We would go to this one emporium run by the Mennonites and there would be buggies parked outside.
Unfortunately, many of them are dog breeders and they run puppy mills that don't always produce a good product. Their philosophy about animals (purpose only) is a direct contradiction of mine so that's one aspect that I do not admire. Once a buggy/plow horse can no longer work, it is sent to the slaughter house.
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Interesting about the Amish dog breeders. Brought to mind the last Yorkie my former employer got. They found her on line and it turns out she was ( I think this was not known right away ) from an Amish lady. I recall when they got home with the little pup, Joan told me they did not drive up to the house -- but instead this Amish lady come up to an arranged meeting area riding a horse and carrying Leia.
Joan was quite surprised. The dog had been paid for already and Leia has stayed healthy and all together has not been a bad dog although she is slightly food aggressive. Fortunately she was never mean, but would constantly nudge the others away from the food dish. So, that part is good but I'm pretty sure ( after your description of the Amish dog breeders ) that the reason Joan was given an arranged meeting place was so she would not 'see' anything that might tip her off that she was buying from a puppy mill. There are two other dogs at Joan's. Another Yorkie ( the oldest of the group ) who has had some issues, but nothing horrendous. The second oldest is a miniature Schnauzer. I tend to think that lady that Joan got her from was a good breeder. She had detailed records such as birth order, and lots of daily notations, and even to the point of personality being displayed. She had shot records and I do recall she asked Joan to wait an extra week before she took her as the breeder thought she should weigh just a bit more. Too bad all the dogs did not come from good breeders as Sammie is just a totally sweet, great natured pet who has tolerated the a couple of not such great habits from the others while keeping her cool to the max.
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Just wanted to tell you that Taco1946 has become 1946Taco. Had to change all my passwords and BC.org only had my last email address so had to re-enroll. I know may of the German Mennonites went to PA so your theory could very well be right.
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My DB bought a yellow Lab from a "reputable" (not) Amish breeder who had supposedly all these records, papers, etc on his dogs including AKC registration. Later it was discovered the dogs were bred constantly, lived under deplorable conditions, etc. so if a breeder won't let you see the kennels there is a reason that needs to be questioned. Many live in small cages with wire floors that cause painful lesions on their feet and leg deformities; competition for food can cause food aggression or guarding. His dog is beautiful but so neurotic he chases birds that fly overhead and runs himself ragged. He ate the wall in their laundry room and tries to catch the fish in their koi pond. It is netted so he can't get them but he still hasn't caught on. He's just a big, goofy, love bug.
I have purchased dogs from reputable breeders since I prefer Dalmatians and they can be a real horror show if not properly bred. The first allowed us to visit the kennels, her dogs were rotated through the house to socialize them and to begin housebreaking, and she had a nearly 20 year old English setter that ws one of the first pups she ever owned. The dog did not look its age. The kennel was immaculate, and each dog had an exterior run. When we adopted the dog she made us sign a contract that if we ever decided it was not a good match we were to return the dog to her, she would refund the purchase price and she called nearly every day for the first week and once a week for about 6 weeks after. She even offered to board the dog if we needed to do so when we went on vacation. It was a 2 person kennel, her and her husband, assisted by extra help to provide socialization and to keep the kennels clean. The dog was 18 months old when we got her, she fell in love with my son who was 2 years and trailed him everywhere. She also loaned us a crate for her to sleep in and to retreat to while she was adjusting to her new home. We put the crate in our laundry room and allowed her the run of the room with the crate door open. The first night I could not find one of my cats and found the cat and dog sound asleep in the crate. They were bosom buddies after that.
We have a rescue now and while she has evolved into a great dog, she was a "puppy mill" product from SC. She was 2 1/2 months old when we adopted her, timid, had kennel cough and a skin disorder that required daily baths with a special shampoo for weeks and needed puppy classes to help her adjust. I was able to housebreak her in less than a week just by taking her out on a schedule and to teach her basic commands easily. She needed to be socialized to get over the trauma of being in a "kill" shelter that spayed her at 2 months (too young according to my vet) and then transported from SC to PA. She still has moments where she feels insecure but gets along with 3 cats (who rule her and steal her beds all the time) and is fascinated by the parakeets (she watches them). We've had her for 12 years now and hope we can get a few more.
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Awe enables us to see in the world intimations of the divine, to sense in small things the beginning of infinite significance, to sense the ultimate in the common and the simple, to feel in the rush of the passing the stillness of the eternal. -Abraham Joshua Heschel
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