Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Karen, I forgot to say in my last post that the school shooting you mentioned went national. I heard it on the news the day it happened and this morning they said the teen who did the shooting was found dead.
Sad, but I wonder why a student who needed a pat down was even at school or maybe they pat down all? Elementary schools aren't safe, just ask the teacher shot by 6 yr old, or Texas or Connecticut schools with mass shootings.
No where is free of active shooters thanks in large part to the NRA and a society with so many mentally ill people. I live in Philly burbs, there is never a day in Philly that's free of gun shot victims! Very sad!
The window of opportunity for real gun control and realclimate change are long gone! Sadly just part of life we can't do anything about!
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My DD was an elementary school teacher for 12 years. Although they never had a school shooting, they had drills and setup the school to prepare for the possibility of an active shooting. Sad that today children have active shooter drills along with fire drills and some schools are designed equipped to hinder shooters.
I stayed up late last night hoping to be able to sleep in. It didn’t work. I was still awake early. I was able to drink water until 10:30, but no food. It’s light sedation and the procedure only takes 15 minutes. Biggest challenge for me is that I suffer from dry mouth and I usually sip on water or suck on sugar free candy or biotene lozenges to help.
Karen - I use the reminder app on my iPhone to help reminder me to take meds or do something. It’s pretty basic, but does the job. Has a repeating feature.
Wren - I have never seen a tide pool. Is that a common occurrence on the west coast? Glad you enjoyed your vacation.
I hope everyone has a stress free and healthy day.
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There are two big forces at work, external and internal. We have very little control over external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness, and pain. What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control. - Leo Buscaglia
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Oh my. I'm over on the next page and will have to wing it again. Anyway, despite waiting for the BIG rain, there has been some this morning for most of the morning so far. I dread when the rain starts, as i think it will continue thru most of Friday.
Karen, I read your good entry and digested it at the time knowing how I felt and how I would respond to each thing. Uh, I'm ashamed to say I don't recall any of those thoughts and answers. Just know that my heart is with you and I'm sending all the strength I can find to add to what you already possess.
Taco, you are a wonder as well. I'm glad you have reached a place a while ago where you are comfortable about ALL your disease issues. It is not easy. I was married the first time to an alcoholic, who had a lot of it in his family tree. It broke up our marriage but he and I remained lifelong friends afterwards. He passed a few yrs. ago -- from lung cancer. He was also a very heavy smoker. I was soooo happy that he faced the last months of his life sober as did he and our son. That is essentially why my daughter and her husband live with us now. She was so distraught at the loss of her brother that she was terrified something would happen to me. We are fortunate to have the love of each other every day and always close.
Wren, the beach though tiring, sounds wonderful. I love the smell of seaweed and the sounds of the waves coming in is soothing. I think all the fresh air can get you though when you are not used to it. So glad you got this opportunity. I hope for some more for you.
School shootings -- horrid beyond compare. How could we let this happen, although our voices are ignored. That is quite sad that money and other political things are given more importance. I won't say more because it becomes a political thing, but no ONE should have to worry in school. No one, child or adult. I'll ikeep praying some sanity to prevail.
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Jackie, The quote from the 22nd hit home. Thank you for that.
The results for my mamo are negative. Whew
I did not sleep well and was up at 5:30. Since I have a little business, I have to pay IRS. The CPA recommended doing it online and it made a double payment. I am having trouble getting one cancelled. It is an extra stress I don't need. I am heading to the bank, one more time to try and get them to cancel, (third trip).
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I believe that to pray without ceasing means to think good thoughts without ceasing. I believe that the art of meditation is letting God speak to me. Each day I shall endeavor to find time to be still and listen. I believe that by making my life an open door to the Infinite, limitless power will flow into my life, giving me energy, ideas, wisdom and guidance to multiply my capacity to build and serve. - Wilferd A. Peterson
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Had our thunderstorm last night and it will rain all day today with the possibility of more thunderstorms or just downpours. It will go on all day and into the night. It is still warm but not as warm as yesterday before the storms which was in the low 70's. This is not really unusual weather necessarily for this time of year. It is just the amt. of wind we have had that is different from most years.
Glad you could relate to the quote petite. It is why I do it. I post them as I 'find' them so always think the universe sends them to me when someone needs them. Glad to hear you have a NED mamo once again. Always great words to hear, but sorry your having to go round and found with the bank. From my vantage point it sounds like such an easy issue to fix. Guess that is why no one has ever begged me to go to work for their bank.
Not much planned for today since we know it will be quite wet. Not too cool -- in the 50's but un-pleasant from dampness. Our furnace is coking on plenty right now.
I hope you all have a great day and that you acomplish ass you want and need to.
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Oh Petite!!!! You have no idea how sorry I feel for you! Taxes cause me such anxiety and the only reason is because I am one of the many who try to always do the right thing, would never try to cheat anyone, including the government, and combine that with my lack of understanding of taxes, causes me to use a tax preparer every year. Honestly, our taxes now are pretty straight forward, and I have taxes taken out of all our income, but no way do I ever want to do them, even using a computer program!
My kids of course, use computer programs with great success. They are a whole different generation. I do pay bills via my bank website, on line, and I am comfortable with most everything else computer oriented, but not taxes! I REALLY hope you can get help to delete the extra payment!!! I would call the IRS today! Hopefully someone there can help you as you can't possibly be the only one who ever accidentally paid twice! Please post when you get it settled! I am seriously sending you the biggest cyber hug ever!!!!!!!
Today is overcast with light rain. I am ok with that as it we need the rain and it is so much better than many in USA are experiencing.
My retirement pension application is still processing, and I don't expect a check until the end of April. It is ok, I don't need it for bills, but I can't plan a real budget moving forward until I know exactly what I will receive. I guess as far as problems go, this one is tiny!
I think I am just feeling antsy due to surgery restrictions and Letrozole doing it's menopause imitation.
I can do the paperwork I put aside until "I had time to deal with it," aka prior to retirement. So, yesterday, I pulled out our emergency folder for our kids for when we pass, so they know what bills we have and how we pay them. It definitely needed updating, but it always makes me feel depressed. I also need to call our lawyer and get a codicil to our wills to make our children co-executors, rather than just have our oldest child as executor. I guess that was one good thing that came out of 2020 and Covid, it forced us to make new wills! Good thing too, as our former one still had a guardian listed for our kids, who are now grown with families of their own! Yikes!
Doing laundry and going through papers in the home office today. I really "get" why I put so much of the paperwork aside, it is NO fun to do!!! LOL
Have a great day everyone!
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MM - we redid our wills, POA etc 3 1/2 years ago. The previous will was from 1989 when we had a 2 1/2 year old and I was pregnant with our son - so same type of will as you.
Petite - good news on the taxes
We use a CPA for our taxes and it is expensive but DH got tired of doing them with a program.
We spoke to DD#2 earlier this morning. DH and I were both on face time and the first think she asked was "is everything okay"? It broke our hearts. She was crying and so worried and scared. She was planning on staying in Israel for Passover and asked if she could come home. Of course we said yes. I also said I don't want the visit to mess up with school. She said she was going to tell friends and I told her she can tell anyone she wants, even on of her bff's mom who she is she knows well and is a nurse.
DD#2 called me back about an hour ago and she sounded good. She had questions and had told one of her bff and I forget what her friend said was funny - something I said. When I told DD#2 I would be on medicine for the rest of my life, she didn't think it was a big deal. She takes meds, my husband takes heart meds so to her it's normal. It made feel so much better. Lastly, she texted me a photo of a shot of single malt scotch with the bottle behind it and wished me a good Shabbat. I love that kid.
For me saying I wasn't sure I wanted to share with many people, I saw someone in the parking lot at the grocery store and she commented that my husband and I don't age. She asked jokingly who our PS was and I said he did my boobs (she knew I had BC) and then she said I'm doing good right? For someone strange reason, I said no and told her about the MM. My husband can't quite figure me out. But I told this person not to tell anyone and she says she's become a hermit and I said so are we, but let's get together for drinks. We've been acquaintances for 30+ years.
DD#1, when I told her about DD#2, she said I haven't cried yet, but I'm worried too. I just want to be a support for my sister. I texted DS about the PET/CT scan results and the way I worried it, he had lots of questions. I said favorable no surprises. I can tell that he too is really worried. I really do have wonderful, caring loving children.
The hematologist's nurse called around 9 with PET/CT scan results. They were good - no bad news on them. What a relief. I asked what time is best to take the oral drug and she asked the doctor and he said at bed since it can make people tired. So that was one of my concerns. So for the moment, I'm feeling a little bit positive - but I'm sure that will change throughout the day. Waiting on the courier to deliver the oral chemo. They said between 9 and 1.
Well, I best get busy if I want to get anything done today. It's already after 11:00 and other than the grocery store, I haven't done anything in the house.
Have a good Friday.
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So glad to hear your mammogram was good petite. I hope you get your tax issue resolved.
I think your rain came our way last night Illinois. We had 71 degrees around midnight but the front and storms came through. It’s been raining since and is in the low 40s.
I had a 7:30am appointment to see the eye surgeon. Left eye has better vision than the right clocking in at 20/20. The right one is really dry probably from the steroid drops, so I’m using the OTC a little more frequently.
Mavericksmom - since so many of our bills come via email or electronically, I should probably share our list of bills we pay by credit card, etc with our kids. The don’t have POA on our checking accounts or credit cards though so they have no access. Need to share applie ID and passwords some day too.
Going to see my DD, SIL and granddaughter tomorrow. She’s 6 months old, chatting away and very active when we FaceTime. I bought her a toy cell phone since she likes to grab the phone when we FaceTime. Illinois - she also likes to feed herself. It’s messy, but she does manage to eat. Gone are the days of spoon feeding rice cereal and bananas baby food I guess.
Hope things are going well for you today Karen. Thinking of you.
Enjoy your Friday.
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Karen so glad your children all know now and also happy for your good PET scan. Petite, glad your mammo was good, and I know how crazy a double payment to IRS can feel. I hope the bank works with you to get it all corrected.
I didn’t take notes so good wishes to all with procedures going on. Weather here has been hot hot HOT. Yesterday we spent at a baseball game in full sun drinking plenty of fluids. I was so wiped out by the end of the game. We went to Sun Harvest Citris, a fruit/juice/gift store, and as partner waited in line for ice creams, I went and got us juice samples. So fresh and delicious - I had a strawberry orange and he had orange juice. That saved me.
Today I went to the chiropractor for my lower back and a new issue with pain in my right shoulder. The shoulder is painful reaching for something, even the steering wheel, or turning a certain way. My back feels better but my shoulder still can make me yelp. If I were in NY I’d go to one of the two the walk in orthopedic practices. Here in FL, Fort Myers area, there are no walk in type orthopedic places. I’d have to go to urgent care, get an X-ray and hope for something.
On another note, oral surgeon visit Wednesday - I can’t remember if I’ve already told you all. Still swollen, she still recommends a MRI but said I could wait until I’m back in NY due to my coverage at HMO. I called my ENT group in NY to be proactive and was requesting to see their salivary gland specialist, thinking they’d make ne see my regular Dr first. Well my regular Dr has left the practice, so they let me see this salivary specialist. First available appointment is July 31st! Over 4 months out. I just shake my head.
Baseball again tomorrow. Another hot day 89-90. Hoping your weather is good
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Got the snow-tire off my granny-trike, put the regular one on. Took a spin around the neighborhood. Wiped out on a turn. They called an ambulance. My memory was in absolute chaos, so they took me to the hospital. X-rayed my right shoulder and my knee. Apparently no further damage to my knee. BIG bump on my head. Took a CT-scan of my head, looked OK. When he told me that my knee looked fine-- I responded "for the condition it is in" and told him that my memory was coming back.
So my daughter called while my friend was in the apartment, and she called my brother, who cried. When I called him, he gave me a tongue-lashing about helmets. Still will call my sister tomorrow.
Gonna have a few rough days.
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Wow, Mary, that sounds pretty scary. I'm sorry to hear you will have some aches and pains to nurse for a while. Sure glad you did not actually add other injuries and that your memory seems to be intact once more. You will be in my thoughts for sure and your brother is right about the helmet.
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Mary, you’re like H E double L on wheels! So fortunate you’re not still in the hospital with major injuries. Thankful you are ok. You’re going to be sore tomorrow if you’re not already. ((HUGS)
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Mary - please be careful. You don't need anymore stuff going on.
Good news, Karen and Petite. My mammogram is next week.
Someone several pages back asked about my career. My usual comeback is that "I never knew what I wanted to do when I grew up." After getting my PhD in sociology I taught at George Mason University in VA and then Beloit College in Maine. Alcoholism was really peaking then.
After I sobered up, I got involved in a variety of non-profits. ED of two, started two, and on a number of boards of directors. At least temperority, I've decided to give that up. It's been 39 years.
Did some divorce mediation, and then successfully ran for the Maine State Legislature and served for 6 years. That was my favorite job. Really felt I was making a difference for Maine citizens.
DH followed me to DC where I was CEO for a non-profit which worked on adolescent reproductive issues. Lots of material development. We had an office in LA which worked with the industry to deliver safe sex messages on TV and movies. Also an international division.
Ken retired in '97 and we moved to AZ. I worked as a realtor but that was my least favorite job. I'm not assertive enough and the paperwork grew every year. That was the job I stayed in for the insurance.
So, maybe more than you want to know.
Happy weekend everyone!
Marge
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Marge, what an impressive woman you are! Thanks for sharing. I was the one who asked,
Mary, you are an accident waiting to happen! Glad you weren't seriously injured.
Cindy, no aches and pains can keep you away from those baseball games! I admire your spirit.
Karen, I know you're relieved to have accomplished telling your children about your health news.
I went to an accountant for a number of years when I earned income as a writer and made contributions to personal retirement accounts, wrote off a home office, etc. But after retirement I began to use Turbo Tax and have had no problems, like Petite experienced. Our financial affairs are very simple at this stage.
I played 18 holes of golf yesterday and was very tired last night, but am no worse for wear today.
I had hoped for a drenching rain yesterday but we got very little. Fortunately we also had no violent weather as did areas of Mississippi.
Happy Saturday to all.
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Mary, sorry to hear about your mishap! I applaud you for going out and riding your bike! Accidents can happen to anyone. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason and while it seems like a bad thing, and you are most likely feeling very sore today, you probably crossed paths with someone you otherwise would not have known. Hopefully this was not the end of your bike riding days!
Life isn't easy, no one ever said it would be. My life is challenging, living with a DH who has been more like a roommate than DH for over 20years. I know that I have one or more angels looking out for me, so I go with the flow, even though at times it is really hard to do.
Petite, woohoo about your mammogram! Crossing fingers that you get the same "negative" results, Taco!
Taco, wow, what an interesting life! I can't imagine how many people you crossed paths with! You are strong and confident now because of what you went through. Just think of all the good you did in this world, isn't that what life is all about?
I love this group! Each of us with our own stories, our own challenges, all brought together by a horrible disease called breast cancer! The very fact that we are all here, exchanging ideas, most having nothing to do with breast cancer but everything to do with life, is a bright silver lining! I must be a slow learner since it took my third time with BC to join this topic group! LOL You all enrich my life so very much! Thank you!
Karen, so glad your children all know now, and thank you for continuing to share your thoughts! I don't always know how to respond, but I can relate to what you are going through. I am inspired by how you are moving forward in your treatment plan. You have such a special family and whatever chanllenges you face, you aren't facing it alone! That is huge! Family and hope, two things that make life worth living!
Sandy, hope all is well with you and Bob in the windy city!
Cindy, glad you got to see another game, even though it was super hot outside! July 31st! Wow! Well, I guess it will either shrink and go away by then or become so much larger that they will have to see you sooner! Reminded me of my DH who was told in November to make an appointment with a neurologist. The first available appointment was April 6th! Now he and I are both less enthusiastic about the visit as we now don't think his main issue is even something a neurologist can help with. (He has balance issues.)
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A neurologist can help by determining why. Whether it is neuropathy, joint problems, Eustachian problems, visual problems, or brain problems. Then refer to physical therapist, who can apply the right kind of therapy.
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Magic exists. Who can doubt it, when there are rainbows and wildflowers, the music of the wind and the silence of the stars? Anyone who has loved has been touched by magic. It is such a simple and such an extraordinary part of the lives we live.
Nora Roberts
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Maverick, you said so much and I can relate to it so well. It is a wonderful thing to be able to share with so many interesting people. We each have a niche in life, from legislating to writing novels, to teaching or whatever has given us drive or meaning in life. One of the biggest reasons I stay here is I really feel I am a better human being for the people I interact with here. You do make me better than I otherwise might have been.
I do know having breast cancer soooo helped me to stop taking life for granted in a major way and to understand that bad/negative things do happen to good people. I know I wasn't a bad person, but I fell out of touch with life and was just existing, passing through and not contributing. Some time ago I realized that I do have something to give and this is one of the places I choose to be to lived more fully. It is the goodness, care and love that has such a strong attraction and I never feel alone. Thank to all for this.
The sun is trying to come out. Hope it does although we may have to watch it come and go through the day. The gray of cloudy, rainy days always makes me a bit moody and while I know we will have the rainy days I can't say I welcome them very often.
Nothing much today I think, but a trip to the bank and maybe to our friend's house. They like to keep abreast of my health issues as he is a retired Dr. I like to know what is going on with them as well. Sometimes it is hard to watch. I've seen them when they were both in much better health and am surprised at where they are. Almost seems like they both stayed better while Jo's mom was living with them so they could take care of her. I think it is close to 5 yrs. since Sally passed away.
Hope you all have an outstanding day. Hugs to all with medical issues.
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Great news about your PET scan Karen. I’m sure you’ve felt such a relief as you began the weekend and sabbath. Glad you were able to share the news with DD2 as well.
Glad you’re enjoying spring season Cindy. We didn’t get many NATS spring training games on MASN (TV) probably due to contractual reasons. Same reasons that are holding up the sale of the NATS. Sorry to hear you have to wait to get ortho or dental care until you return to NY. Hope you’re not in too much discomfort.
So sorry to hear about you trike accident Mary. I’m glad that you’re okay. I hope you’re not experiencing too much pain.
Taco - you’ve had quite an interesting, wide range of life experiences. And a variety of places (and climates) to live as well.
Carole - glad you’ve had nice weather. Do you like close to the golf course?
Mavericksmom - well, my bracket is broken now that Houston lost. My SIL picked Gonzaga, so she’s the only one with a possible winner. What a funny season. All #1 are out. DH will watch the games despite.
Our trip to see DD, SIL, and GD was pushed till next weekend. DD and GD both have colds so we decided to wait. We FaceTimed and the baby was fussy, probably due to needing to go down for a morning nap. My DB and SIL who live in Hong Kong be coming for a visit, starting next week. They’ll start off in Toronto to visit family for 2 weeks. My SIL will need to return early, but DB will come to northern VA for several days to visit family here. Looking forward to seeing him.
Enjoy your Saturday.
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Cardplayer, my bracket was "smashed" as I picked Pudue to go much further. I did well in round one, ok in round two, but after that, I had few chances for winners left. Still I do like to watch some of the games. We live across the river from Princeton, used to live and work there, so it was fun watching that game even though they lost. Seriously great athletes on all teams, most fun to watch and really not feeling there is much of a gap between the majority of teams. A few more minutes and so many games would be won by the other team. I love hearing the stories of featured players, both men's and women's teams. Very inspiring. Gives me so much hope for our grand children's future!
Illinois, I feel the same about you and your posts! Hopefully if the sun isn't shinning for real, it will in our hearts as we go about our day!
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I think the ambulance people told my friends to disable the bike-- they also told me to not use it for a few days. I can still use it without the battery, but really don't want to stress my knee. I guess I will comply. I am seventeen at heart.
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Mary, sorry to hear of your recent injury but love that you are "seventeen at heart". My inner me is always in conflict with my outer me because it wants to feel younger and is resentful of the aging skin it sees. I can relate.
Karen: Good news on the pet scan. Glad that all your children know what is going on now.
Petite1: I ended up paying the IRS twice for my mother's estate because they failed to log the initial payment. The second letter came with a warning of a penalty so I paid again. They finally caught their error and I received a refund plus interest on it. It wasn't immediate but I was surprised they paid interest. Hope this is resolved soon.
MM: powerful message that does describe why most of us come to this forum and support one another. Support means everything when you an issue that seems overwhelming and life altering. I really felt the support I got as I went through BC treatment sucked big time even though I was in a healthcare system that bragged about its "support" for BC patients. Then I found support here that helped me gain perspective and made me realize I was not alone. Agree that your DH should see the neurologist to assess his balance issues.
Cindy: hope the salivary cyst will resolve on its own. Glad you can get to some ball games for entertainment and distraction.
Taco: You are an amazing woman and I am humbled by how much good you have done and are still doing for others. You are the poster child for magnanimity. So little of that today when everyone seems to be focused on being selfish.
Damp, overcast, spotty rainfall day. Typical for spring so I am taking delight from the daffodils and hyacinths that are in bloom to get me through the gloom. I changed the flag from St. Patrick to an Easter bunny one, put out my spring door wreath and put my Easter egg runner on the kitchen island. Trying to work so I can ignore the outdoors.
My DD got tickets for us to see Andrea Bocelli's new documentary: The Journey. Love his music and have been a fan since forever. Would love to see him in person but this will do.
Hope everyone has a good Friday.
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Starting to really stress about Monday - about 36 hours till I start treatment. I read all the information on Revlimid and it scared it scares me. But just want to get the show on the road. Have a few questions for the hematologist. DH said he asked at last appointment if we wanted to meet the transplant oncologist. I don't remember this, The reason to have DH with me. Yes, I want to meet with the transplant doctor sooner than later. I want to know timelines - when is bone marrow biopsy after finishing induction chemo and how long after that is the stem cell transplant. Life as I know it now will never be the same.
Sweet dreams
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Karen, I don't know what to say about your stress as I would be the same way! Very good your DH was with you for your appointment. I assume tomorrow you will call your hematologist about setting you up with an appointment with the transplant oncologist! The unknown, for me at least, is always harder to deal with than knowing what to expect. I always want to know everything, I don't handle the unknown very well. I feel as if we are the same that way.
Your treatments remind me of my sister when she was going through her treatments for non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. She was so positive through her whole ordeal, such an inspiration. She beat it too, or at least got it into remission. Since she was diagnosed with NHL at the same time she was Dx with breast cancer, I thought for a while that breast cancer saved her life. It would have, had it not been for her getting MDS from the treatments.
Things would have been very different, and I believe, with a much happier outcome, had she only been battling one cancer at a time. The medical world is so amazing, there is never a day that I am not blown away by the advancements in medicine.
I think the hardest part of going through things like cancer is that our mortality smacks us in the face! I never thought about my own death prior to breast cancer. It isn't as if I thought I would live forever, just that I was living in the present and focused on life. Cancer certainly is a wake up call.
I remember seeing a movie back in the 70's or early 80's about police and their families. One moment in the movie stood out to me for the rest of my life. It was when the friend of a police officer's wife said to her "how can you deal with your husband having a job that puts his life in jeopardy every single day?"
She responded, and I am paraphrasing here, that each day when she said good-bye to him, she knew it could be for the last time and because of that, she took nothing for granted. She relished every day, every moment, and appreciated life way more than most people. She said most people say good-bye to their husbands expecting them to return later in the day, and if something happens to them during the day, they regret that they didn't tell them how much they loved them that morning.
The point is that life is scary, full of uncertainty, and battling cancer is only one of the horrible things that we can face in life. While no one is 100% positive moving through their life, putting a positive spin on the hardest things we are facing, for me at least, is the only way to move forward. My co-workers and friends kept saying they were inspired by how positive I am as I navigated through various cancer treatments. While that was nice of them to say, honestly, I don't know another way!
So, Revlimid, scary yes, but wow, how great is it to have something to help you beat this! Again, knowing as much as possible, the good and bad of it, will help you keep your positive outlook! 100 years ago, there wouldn't be a group of "over 60" cancer survivors. We are all here, alive now, because of medical miracles in the form of technology, medications and amazing surgeons! I guess that is the science nerd in me showing.
I think of those who are going through natural disasters, specifically the tornado's that wiped out whole towns a few days ago. How lucky we are as we face whatever health issues we face, that everyone in the community is not facing the same thing! I simply can't fathom having my entire neighborhood, or community, being destroyed. I guess the closest thing I experienced to that was working during Covid. I wanted to scream at times, due to restrictions and stress, but then I always thought "get in line, everyone is feeling the same!"
Carole, I am trying to break up my very large paragraphs!
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Hello from the Paragraph Police!!! MM, you're doing great!
Someone asked if I live close to the golf course where we play. We do not live in the gated country club subdivision but our membership number is 97. We joined in the 70's to play tennis and years later transitioned to golf. Depending on the traffic, it takes me 15 to 20 minutes to drive to the golf courses. There are two 18 hole courses. This membership is our largest expense aside from food since we own our house and cars. I would drop the membership if there were only myself to consider but dh still enjoys golf at age 83 and scores lower than his age now and then. He plays with a small group of men and sometimes stays for lunch with them so this is a good social interaction for him. Otherwise he spends many hours in his woodworking shop. For entertainment he listens to books through his hearing aids.
Mary, I did wonder how you wrecked a three wheeler!
I went to a couple of department stores yesterday to spend small birthday coupons. I really am liking the pull on slacks and cropped pants, also shorts, with the flat elastic waistbands. Such an improvement, for me, over the zipper fronts. The days are long gone when I tucked in my blouses.
Thinking of you, Karen, and sending supportive vibes.
Also thinking of you, Petite.
Some of us know Chevy, who used to be active on this forum. I learned on another forum that her dh died and she is moving to an assisted living home close to where one of her daughters works.
Happy Sunday to all.
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I forgot to comment that dh and I enjoy watching the college women basketball. LSU women narrowly defeated Utah and will play against Miami today, I believe.
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I took a corner too fast-- you know, a granny trike has a high center of gravity. I found the battery-- my memory is more problematic than usual. I now have a black eye.
My sister is coming with BIL.
We found a neighbor whose golden doodle died after many years of companionship. She also had problems with a beagle that she adopted from a sketchy rescue organization. She is going to walk him at noon and is determined to break him of his fanatical attachment to me. Like wear my winter scarf. If anyone can do it, she can. She is well into her 80's and walks two miles a day.
Sorry, right now I don't feel like scrolling back for comments. My brain feels a bit scrambled.
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Loved the quip "Paragraph Police". It does make reading easier with smaller or separate paragraphs. My brain freezes when it sees paragraphs that contain too many subjects/responses and it takes me longer to parse out the messages.
Regan was moved to a new class which was scheduled for yesterday. She had been aggressed by a dog in the last class at the first meeting which she attended with my DD and DSIL. We took her to week 2 where we specifically asked if she should continue and received assurances she should. Well, as each week progressed she became more and more uncomfortable around this one exuberant dog with nonstop barking. We finally withdrew her on week 5 since she was being triggered by him and exhibiting self-protective behaviors with growling and lunging when in the arena with him. She had been able to walk side by side with 3 other dogs in this same class so we knew it was not all inclusive behavior. So the trainer suggested we join this Saturday class where "the dogs never barked". Well, the minute we walked in this dog, who resembled the one who triggered her in the last class, started with nonstop barking and lunging at her. It was all downhill when we returned to the arena after walking around the store. There had been a minor incident when they crossed paths in the aisle where the owner did not have him on a short leash and he lunged at her. She was so wound up we decided to leave rather than continue her discomfort. The trainer now feels she needs private lessons and we are in favor of that. I read online about reactive dogs and found that excessive barking can be a trigger as well as "invasion of their personal space". I reached out to her former owner yesterday (we've only had her for 6 months and she is 2-1/2) and she had been bitten at a dog park by a male German Shepherd as a pup. Same owner felt once she was healed, it would be okay to take her back to the same park and that set this reactivity in motion. She may never be able to play with other dogs but has proven that she is okay with my DS's elderly laid back dog, the 3 small to midsize dogs she was okay with in class, and doesn't respond to dogs walking past our property even if they bark at her. Sadly, she had no issues with her beginners classmates, it was the Intermediate class that pushed her buttons and we should have listened to our guts and not the trainer.
Karen, I can relate to your fear. When I was diagnosed with a pre-cancerous GI polyp, which had been removed but reappeared a year later, I was advised to have major surgery. I was frightened for over a year about it coming back (physician reassured me it would not) and when it did I was scared out of my mind. The thoughts of major bowel surgery scared me shitless (pun) and my anxiety was palpable. I am sure the GI PA was ready to not take my calls or respond to my emails because I was so panicked. Thankfully, she was very kind. The day of surgery I was so calm and to this day I do not know why I went from palpable anxiety to absolute calm. I wish you absolute calm when it serves you best. All I can say is that the outcome was what really mattered to me and I knew it would be more positive once I had this resection. So if you can, focus on the positive outcome. You have a tremendous support team behind you in your family and the family on this forum.
Sorry, I needed to vent thus the long paragraph about Regan. It is a brilliant, sunny day with temps to reach the mid 60's. Nice after yesterdays rain and damp. Hope everyone ahs a lovely Sunday.
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