Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Famine museum and Irish Stud:
Mud hut of the Irish poor.
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Irish Stud and their Japanese garden:
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Some of the horses at the stud had been bred there, were gelding used as jumpers or steeplechase steeds and earned retirement for their contributions to the history of the stud.
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I'm now using breathing tubes. I want to die, is that weird to say? The thing is I never thought such things ever in my life. I traveled a lot, retired and bought a house by the beach to swim every day. I worked too much and had just retired to enjoy life and was so excited. I can not believe I am crying 24/7 now and thinking I want to die.
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Dear justforher,
My day started with tears as my brother-in-law went into surgery last Tuesday and is now not able to breathe and appears to have his body shutting down.
I hope that you can try to think about the beautiful place you will be when you leave this earth. The descriptions from the NDE are all the same. With all my heart, I trust that God is there waiting to welcome all believers and nonbelievers back with open arms. Your husband is right… it's those you leave behind that suffer more. It took two years for me to even function when I lost my husband.
This morning I saw two beautiful deer walking through the back of my yard. I felt God was sending me a sign because of my brother-in-laws situation. Perhaps was the second one was meant for you.
Take each minute in, but try to think of the beauty that comes… I cannot explain things, including why my cancer went undiagnosed for many years, but I accept it as God's path for me. I have already learned that if I survive, there are things that I will advocate for women in the future. My prayers continue to come your way.
Taco, hang in there. My knee replacement was a year ago. I am still getting used to it. It takes 18 months to fully recover and I am not even there yet! My other knee needs to get done but I can't think about that now. Ice is definitely your new friend. Hang in there….
Sending positive energy out to all as I try to come to terms with having to say goodbye to those we love…
justforher, maybe God put me on this site to let you know He's there for you.love the photos betrayal… my husband played polo in high school, was an equestrian, and had horses growing up… brought back memories…
thenewme26
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betrayal,
I like the 1st garden sculpture!
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Dear justforher,
I just returned home from a pharmacy run and thought I'd share one little story about how strange life can be and how there has to be a more powerful source.
As a child and during my adolescence I screamed at my parents and siblings that I did not belong to this family. I had to be adopted! (My parents said they were thinking of giving me up! Ha!Ha!) I never understood why I was so sure that I was not a part of this family and it went on for years.
I also loved horses but was scared to death to be near one. Loved old cars or sports cars but despite my father's attempt to teach me to drive a stick shift…it never happened.
In college I was having difficulty trying to pass Biology (the most boring professor of my life who simply read from the book). My friends gave me notes from this guy who was brilliant in biology. Though I never met him, I was grateful.
There was also this guy that just kept checking me out when I was out with my friends on campus or at the local fast food eatery. Just never thought much about that.
Then I met my husband at the factory where I wove fiber seating chairs for my dad who was the superintendent. Lo and behold… he was adopted, an equestrian and had old sports car. He was also the brilliant biologist! It took a few dates before I realized he was the guy across the booth at the fast food place. Creepy, but cute!
When I shared this with a Native American colleague years later when I was teaching, she said, " You were looking for each other. You were probably together in a past life." Needless to say, I went home and told my husband that he had me for two lives… don't go hunting for the third time. We laughed. But after reading about life after death, I do believe these things are possible. As a matter of fact, a week before my husband died I moved across the king size bed to snuggle and hold him. I told him that it was okay to come looking for me again should we both come back for another swing at life on earth. This is what inspired me to explore more about life after death.
Some believers say that you can choose to look like you want, have the kind of house you want, and exist in peace and tranquility. So don't think about not enjoying the beach house (I won't get mine until I get up there!). Try to imagine what you would like your spot to look like. I am praying really hard for your peace and I am so glad I had this opportunity to connect with you.
The tears are okay because you want more time and did not get to enjoy what you have, but try to think of what will come.
thenewme26
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Here's some photos of Kylemore Abbey:
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Kylemore Gardens:
Connemara pony.
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I post on the dinner thread but lurk here and enjoy hearing about the travels and travails of this group.
@thenewme26, I live in the big town 18 miles to the west of you. My breast cancer also went undiagnosed for two and a half years (found by an oral surgeon) so I travel to the big hospital in Boston where I already had a gastroenterologist thanks to an upper GI bleed at Logan airport. There is an excellent acupuncturist in your town with experience treating those undergoing cancer therapy. My problems stemmed from radiation but she also treats for chemo SEs. PM me if you would like the contact info.
@justforher, I am so sorry that you find yourself not knowing whether you will make it. Four years ago I was in the same situation due to late radiation SEs. These toxic treatments kill the cancer but in rare instances cause your immune system to go haywire. For me the hardest thing was accepting I had absolutely no control over what might happen and my good lungs (I was a swimmer) could betray me. Prayers for comfort and peace.
Hello to those I know from other threads and my appreciation to the rest of you for posting about all you do. I live like it's still covid lockdown so I value that.
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Dear thenewme,
I am reading, and my heart is with you.
I am also deeply sorry for the loss of your loved ones.
I’m unfortunately not able to write much right now because my fever keeps rising, and the cardiologist is currently visiting me as I had some heart issues today.
Life is beautiful, complex, devastating.
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Justforher, here's hoping they were able to break your fever and you are feeling somewhat better.
Went to Spiddal today for a favorite shop of ours from 1975. Then it was in an old garage, but on our 1984 visit we were wandering around the newer large showroom when I heard a very distinctive voice I recognized. It was my brother-in-law's mother traveling with her sister. They were on their way out of Ireland while we were at the beginning of ours. Between us we bought so much, they offered us free lunch in their Cafe.
I was able to find hand knit Aran sweaters here, not the machine knit ones sold elsewhere. The price was also better than the prices we had seen in other shops selling hand knits. So DH and I each got new cardigans. The color I initially chose wasn't available, so I had to take my second choice and I am glad I did. When we got to the shops on Inishmore, the prices were outrageous for both the hand knit and the machine knits.
The weather was awful. It was clear until we got to the port when it started to rain and was bitterly cold. I had a long sleeved shirt, a hooded sweatshirt over that, and a fleece lined raincoat on and was comfortable though my feet felt like ice cubes. We did not walk up to the old ring fort due to any rocky surface being slippery. We had lunch at Jie Watty's pub and had a local singer for entertainment. Then we had a bus tour of the island after some brave souls went to the fort. It was foggy so Connemara was not visible. Enjoyable day in spite of the weather.
Here are some photos:
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Hope everyone had a wonderful day andcwaving "hi" to everyone. Tomorrow is Cliffs of Moher and travel to Limerick. We are doing the medieval banquet at Knappogue castle tomorrow evening.
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justforher - holding you close.
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Horrible weather this leg of trip. Rainy and cold for the most part. Definitely a damper for sightseeing. Not taking many photos as a result. Attended Knappogue Castle medieval banquet last night. Better than Bunratty Castle banquet food and entertainment wise.
Hoping everyone who was being medically challenged has seen some improvement. ((HUGS)). Waving "hi" to everyone else.
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Have loved your pictures Betrayal. Im taking a virtual trip to Ireland.
Our houseguests from the last week are leaving. Wonderful time but I'll need a nap today. 😴
Also thinking and praying today for those undergoing struggles.
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@justforher and @thenewme26 My heart is breaking for your anguish of what you are going through. You both will be in my prayers today that you find relief and peace from your pain and fears. May God and His angels surround you as you battle this challenge.
Today marks 10 years since my original mbc diagnosis. I was dxd mbc de novo with many mets in my bones and liver. Monday's PET scan showed I am stable and my oncologist yesterday told me she was happy with my results. I was on oral pills only until January when I was switched to IV chemo and I have been anxious ever since. Monday I feared progression but I have been given a reprieve…at least for now. But it saddens me what I have put my dear husband through all these years, and I am tired. As I sat through my infusion yesterday all I could think of was how tired I am of it all. My dear sweet half-sister, whom I met only six years ago, took me to my infusion yesterday and told me she had no idea what all I was going through. From the time we left the house to our return took seven hours. My prayers are that our journeys can help others.
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Mods - new posts aren’t showing up within the notifications. When I go look at the forum, there are new posts. 🤷♀️
My heart goes out to all of you suffering any medical issues. ((HUGS))
Pool is clear. Ran the battery operated vacuum today. Temperatures were in the 90’s - 90 to 94, and today have dropped to the 70’s. Feels cold without sun. Tomorrow it’s going even cooler; 60’s over the weekend holiday. We’ve had the AC splits on, and may have heat back on before the weekend is over. 91 Monday, 68 tomorrow.
I had my lung CT on Tuesday. All nodules are stable. I don’t see the Thorasic surgeon until 5/28, so I’m glad I could peek at the report in my portal.
Funny story - I had bought sneakers about 1 year ago. I always have back ups, 1 or 2 pair. Pulled out a pair about a week ago. They were too big. Tried leaving the insole and adding my orthotic; still too big. The short story is Amazon sent me a size 10.5, when I had ordered a 9. Thankfully I can return them and get a credit. They were in a box as a 9. LOLBetrayal - love the pictures!
Harley - today as I went out to check on the pool I found a baby bird getting fed my the momma. LOTS of bird squawking at me as it flew off. It scared me as much as I scared them; wasn’t expecting it.Carole, I think you’re on your way. Safe journey.
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Hi, Ladies. I think there is a problem. I didn't have any notification of new posts. I was back in March. I have have missed a few posts. Cyber (((Hugs))) to the new folks.
I have been very busy as I will be starting my position as the local LIFT president. LIFT is a group for the bereaved, It is a Social group. We go on outings, dinners, etc. Today, we went to Floral City. We explored the historical museum and toured an antebellum house. Then went to Pudgies for hotdogs and ice cream. I had to drive a couple of members that are no longer able to. It was fun, but I had to take a nap as soon as I got home. LIFT is National, but may not be in all areas.
Betrayal, love the tour photos.
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Hugs for those with heart-breaking difficulties.
We arrived in Mn on Wednesday and are settled in our 5th wheel camper. As always, it’s taking me longer than dh to acclimate to the changes.The weather has been cold at night and cool during the day. It’s raining this afternoon and the forecast is for rain tomorrow morning on our first farmers market. Next week will be much warmer.
I forgot to pack the charger and cord for my laptop, so have to use my phone as mini computer.Happy Friday to all.
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Mods please check the site. Something isn’t working right. As I noted, and Petite too, no notifications, but new posts are in here. It boots me back a page when I try to look; I page up, scroll through to the end and back up to the last one I’ve read. .
Petite, it’s nice you’ve taken on being president of LIFT. I’m sure it will keep you busy and provide great joy. And naps are good for you!
Carole, glad you arrived safely, the price of gas not withstanding. We hit Sam’s Club, BJ’s and once Buc-ees for fill ups. Funny you mention your chargers. SO did the same thing years back. We were sitting in NY when he attempted to use his laptop, asking me if I’d seen his charger. I asked that obvious question, did you pack it?? Luckily Amazon had it pretty inexpensively. Now he has 2.
Yesterday was a busy one around the house. I had the robot vacuum going upstairs, and the pool vacuum going, while I was up on a ladder trying to fix the Ring camera. And before that I was setting up a new WiFi booster/extender to reach the Ring camera. I think it may be the camera and not my wifi boosters (2 different ones; old one, new one). Ordered a new camera last night.
We then sat on the stones in the side garden and pulled weeds, cut back all vegetation getting too close to the AC splits, and bagged it up for yard waste. My fingers ached last night from pulling all the tiny things growing back there. Naproxen is my friend.I think I’ve been on a “Woot!” buying spree. Besides ordering the camera, I’ve ordered new luggage, 2 candle warmers, shampoo, slippers & boots (Xmas gifts), chlorine, a cube type storage piece, and more. Some things I needed, some I will stick the linen cabinet, and others are Christmas gifts (super early, super sales).
I hope everyone has a great Memorial day weekend. Ours has low temperatures and rain in the forecast. It’s not looking or feeling like Memorial Day, 58 now. Some smaller local parades were Thursday. Our Monday parade may get rained out. No parties planned due to weather, and our pools are open but way too cold.
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Fyi I reported the notifications issue to the mods with some detail that hopefully helps.
Today was to be the nicest weekend day so we boated out to a local little island/ preserve then came back to a barbecue. Exhausted does not begin to describe it but a fun day with family and friends. Albeit with a very early start.
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I don’t get notifications, so don’t relate to complaints.
Our first farmers market of the summer yesterday was a big surprise considering how “unsummerlike” the day was. I was bundled up with three layers of clothing. Weather was overcast with occasional drizzle.
Crowds of people appeared and we were busy with customers. We sold some of dh’s new creations including his most expensive bowl which we counted on having as a display piece. So much for people not having disposable income.
He was pleased with the sales of less expensive items like scoops in different sizes and spatulas we call roux spoons. I will take some photos to post next Saturday.
Today the sun is shining and it will be warm enough to enjoy being outside. I plan to take a walk and plant flowers in a large pot on the deck.
Some of the weekend people are here for the holiday. There will be socializing for those wishing to socialize and greeting those we haven’t caught up with yet.
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I wish I could buy some of your DH's wooden creations, Carole.
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Any place can be romantic if you're there with the right person. Being able to travel well with a partner is a great read into whether you can make it as a couple.
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The temperature rose into the 80’s yesterday and we turned on a/c in the afternoon. Turned it off at bedtime and slept comfortably with fans.
Today I have a list for shopping in town. One to do item is summer membership at Anytime Fitness.
A loon built a nest close to the dock. She probably didn’t realize she would be posing for so many photos.
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Accept everything about yourself - I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end - no apologies, no regrets.
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I’ve been running to doctors.
I felt like something was stuck way back on the tongue, into my throat. Portal to pcp; she said to go to the walk-in ENT. Reminded me of a tonsil stone, but tonsils were clear. I went to the ENT and saw a PA, she put a scope up my nose into my throat and saw nothing. Which is good news. But she set me up for a swallow test, and sent a referral to the Gastro for an upper endoscopy. It could all be reflux/GERD related.
Then from all my yard & garden work, my left shoulder has been killing me. This morning I went to our walk in orthopedic office. They took X-rays and say they believe my rotator cuff is inflamed. The gave me a new script and 10 pages of PT exercises! Stop naproxen, start diclofenac sod dr 75 mg. I go back for a follow up on 6/16. If I’m not better they’ll give me a shot. I kind of wish he just gave me the shot now. I get trying to avoid a shot, but I’ll need a spread sheet to track all the PT exercises! (some 5-6 days a week; some 3 days a week; use of weights and bands)Tonight we’re headed to AOH, Ancient Order of Hibernians, for a presentation on dual citizenship - US & Ireland. I believe I qualify but need more information. I’ll have to have a Smithwicks if they’ve got it! It’s been a long week for a short week.
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Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.
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