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Happy Easter gals! Jackie, I just hope you get that danged contraption fixed! I miss your emails, and hearing about what is going on with you! I see you can only get on here, so "here" is where I am!
Hope you, and the REST of the gals have a wonderful Easter... !
Going to throw a Ham in the oven... Mashed Potatoes, that frozen bread-dough-ball cinnamon rolls, salad, and corn on the cob!
I'm also stuffing halved pickled jalapeno peppers, (seeds removed) with peanut butter!!! THAT is a delicacy, that you would all love! They aren't THAT hot, either!
Sam Arnold of the "Fort" near Morrison used to serve these to his special guests, and that's who put that recipe in the Coors cook-book, Taste of the West.
If you are doing a LOT, wear wome sort of vinyl gloves.... Ha! A friend and I served these once in down-town Denver, for a Chili-Cookoff, and Coors had me and Cindra, serve those peppers in a booth, dressed as chili-peppers... AND we had roller-skates on!
SOoooooooooo many times I could have broken my neck, AND hip, but I waited until I was older.... Ha, ha! But our hands burned for DAYS, after that! We must have served 20 huge cans of those things! If you DO them, I like the chunky peanut butter better...
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Chevy that was beautiful.
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Minus 2- as the mother of two adopted children(and 3 biological) I know family doesn't necessarily mean blood. Our children grew up far away from their grandparents and they had all passed by the time our oldest was 12. We found a couple at church alone one Christmas morning and invited them to join us for dinner (it was the one and only time we went to church Christmas morning) we thought they had no family. How wrong we were, they had 3 grown daughters and several grandchildren. Long story short, they became grandparents to our kids, and though Joe passed years ago, Aunt Jeanette is still very special to all of us. If you want the experience of being a grandmother, find a family that needs one. They are all around you. I say this, knowing that this may not be right for you, it is just a suggestion from someone who found some very special people to fill a gap in our lives.
Joan - Divorce is never easy, especially for kids. When our DD#2 left her husband, their son was only two. We decided that we would never say anything negative about Dad to Dougie or in Dougie's hearing. Since they moved back home with us, that meant a lot of time on the back porch with DD while Grandpa kept Dougie busy inside. After the initial few weeks, Dad joined the Army. We encouraged Dad's mom to continue the close relationship she had with Dougie- at her house or ours. We all spoke about what an important job Dad had and how proud we all were of him. When he came home on leave, he was welcome at all family functions, and also to be at our home whenever he wanted, especially at bedtime. It was tough at first, Dad had destroyed DD's self-esteem and finances. The Army, plus many, many talks with my husband and I, helped Dad grow up a lot. About 8 years down the road, Dad got engaged to someone else. Her grandfather passed away and Dad could not get leave to accompany her to the funeral. Weeks later, my husband passed away. DD called Dad as soon as I called her, and asked him to talk to her as she drove home from work. Less than 10 minutes after she got home, he called to say he would be on his way in less than 45 minutes. They are now living together. I don't know what the future holds. I only know that maintaining contact with Dad, and allowing Dougie to stay close to Dad and Dad's family was the best gift we could give him. If you can, keep your relationship with your SIL separate from your relationship with your grandaughter's daddy. It's a win-win for all.
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Happy easter
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I agree about extended family. My mother was from my grandmother's first marriage. After her death, I was raised by my grandmother and her second husband. I was in contact with the grandmothers who belonged to her first husband and spent precious time with them. In a class, we drew up a family diagram and then circled who the important people were in our history. In my case, it definitely wasn't who you would expect. The most important man in my life was my mother's brother (who was from grandmother's second husband).
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Anneb
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My oldest grandson, who is extremely intelligent, did not realize until he was 12 that "Grandma Jeanne" was not really his grandmother- she is Dougies grandma, and that His "Nana", likewise, was not really Nana to his cousins. As I have said many times, blood doesn't make a family, love does.
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Yes, exactly Anne! I think as little kids, we just love whomever pays attention to us... We don't even CARE or think about if they are blood relatives... And then our friends.... We love them, and need them in our lives.... they can be our life-savers... our guardian angels!
And then we have in-laws.... Okay, we won't even discuss this one.... Ha!
Hope you gals had a wonderful Easter! DD came over and we watched Curly Top, with Shirley Temple, before dinner.... So cute!
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Anne, you are very wise in your remarks about family relationships. I am very careful not to say negative things about the two fathers of my nieces children even though I feel contempt for both men.
Minus, I don't have grandchildren either because I chose not to have children. For me it was the right decision and I do not feel sorry for myself in that regard. Though there are times when I get in the "poor me" frame of mind! Most of the time I am very grateful for my blessings.
Today was a beautiful day. We had 12 assorted family members at my mother's house for noon Easter dinner. Ham, potato salad, mashed potatoes, mac and cheese, baked beans and green beans. For dessert, banana pudding made with sugar-free pudding and bought chocolate cake. Everyone seemed to enjoy the meal.
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Happy Easter!
Carol you dinner sounded yummy....a quiet Easter for us, as our daughter left for Las Vegas yesterday for a social workers conference/ mini vacation without her son....my one and ONLY 8 yr old grandchild, he is with his father this weekend, as daughter and son in law have been separated for 5 years.
We had toasted tortas sandwiches with cold pastrami, sauerkraut and onions....fresh raw veggies (broccoli, red peppers, celery, carrots and tomatoes), colorful deviled eggs, and pretzel/chocolate treats. A quiet time.
hugs, Di
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Oh Di looks yummy--is that white chocolate on the pretzels? such a cute idea. and u can't ever make enough deviled eggs, I always liked them. That's probably why I like egg salad so much, but the way I or my DD (same) make it. It's the basic recipe but sometimes other ones just don't taste as good..
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Cami ....Yes
-white Dove chocolate eggs, cut in half,
- put in oven for just a few minutes (on top of pretzel) to soften white chocolate,
-remove and put a chocolate M & M into the soften white chocolate....EASY!
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Oh Di that is easy, have to remember that.
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Anne - thanks for your words. Yes, I have lots of substitute kiddos that I've played with or worked with or taught. Did Scouts for years after my son was grown and involved with the library.
But Carole hit it right on. I like my life and only very occasionally get into a "poor me" mood. My son likes his life too and it's his choice not to have children. And my foster step-son has also made the choice not to have children. I have wonderful times w/them when we get together. Sorry - guess I was just whining.
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Fill your mind with
truth, your heart with love, your life with service." Author Unknown0 -
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Jiminy sakes Jackie I said it, when I'm in a thinking mode.
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Loved all the " Easter " posts. I also agree where love is concerned. Sometimes shared genes won't necessarily be 'family' because they themselves either don't know how, or simply don't 'click' with you. So, in my lifetime I've been fortunate to have many sisters.....just not the one who had the same genes I did.
We are here on this earth to hopefully love as much as we can.....appreciate differences, and find common ground even when we can't agree on a lot of things. It is caring and loving that will keep the world going.
Ah, my computer. It is getting better. I have limits and won't explain well probably but my version of Outlook Express was just way too old and was throwing so much out of whack....making a number of my features either impossible to use or so awkward that you really hated all the "steps" needed. I am working with Microsoft and we gave it up for the night and will resume tomorrow with a higher tech level. But things are better. Still can't open some things......and I need some address and other importing done but I'm hoping that when it is all done I will be back in business.
I had a wonderful Easter though I worked a few hours this morning. Went over to my cousin's and had a fairly traditional meal. Ham and sweet potatoes, potato casserole ( for those who don't like sweet potatoes ) green beans, cranberry sauce and mole meringue pie, coconut cream pie, and cheesecake. All really yummy and I brought a bit of everything home. Oh it will still be so yummy tomorrow.
I will see you in the morning I think. I have now ( in the repair....they got downloaded in my web mail too ) 4500 emails to dump. Oh my....not going to be fun.
Anyway.....thinking of you all and hoping it was a wonderful, wonderful day.
Blessings
Jackie
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So Jackie, you are still out of email business it sounds like? When you get up and running, ask them how to prevent these things from happening again...?
Glad you had a nice Easter anyway!
Di, I made deviled eggs too, but how did you color them? Just put them in the same dye as dying the whole eggs?
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The
highest form of praise you can offer to yourself, to God and to the world is to
spend time each day expressing gratitude.
It says to God that you are aware and appreciative of grace.
It says to life that you are acknowledging its awesome presence in
you.
It says to yourself that you are worth the time it takes to be
healed.
Time spent in silence, contemplation and gratitude is time spent in
devotion to a higher calling and a more loving state of
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Morning all....a few sprinkles outside already and there will be more. The good news is that it will be a "warmish" rain as our temps won't drop much, so I am thankful for that.
Cammie....you know I always forget at the last minute to change that "Author Un-known" to your name. What is wrong with me, huh !!!!
I do still have some issues and they will connect me to a more experienced tech this morning. Not sure when the call will come as Microsoft has 'those' offices over in the Philippines though they should be used to co-coordinating service call times. Anywhere from now to 11 a.m. my time and it is 8:45 where I am right now.
Sure hope this isn't much more involved or expensive. I did work a lot extra the past three days.....but did not wish to spend it all on a computer just because one old program failed. Lordy.
Anyway, I will be back in a while to chat more. See you all then.
Blessings
Jackie
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Good morning everyone
Minus two- hope I didn't come off sounding like you can't be happy unless you are a grandmother. Becoming a grandparent is not really a choice we get to make, is it? Either way, as long as we are happy, that is what is important. You sound like you have the perfect mix. You know how to be involved with kids when you want, and still have your life the way you want it. As far as whining, we are entitled to whine a little right now. And I find that what I am whining about today, I will be grateful for tomorrow and vice versa.
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IORT is internal radiation at the time of surgery. Instead of weeks and weeks of rads, it is a one-time shot. My insurance company did not want to pay for it, so I am getting ready for regular radiation. I have a follow up visit with my surgeon later this week. I am feeling fine, so far! Just some soreness in the armpit. Thanks for being there!!
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Morning Ohio! My Radiologist talked about that.... and the significant changes that are coming out, to help give us radiation! I was diagnosed almost 5 years ago, and she knew about this then.... I had the MammoSite device implanted, and got radiation that way... 2 times a day for 7 days.... And didn't have that longer 6 week treatments...
Our Insurance covered most of that, but I still had to pay $2,000.... Those treatments were $17,000.00! I just don't know what kind of treatment one could get without any insurance!
I've just heard radiation has it's problems, but all worth going through! And being tired is the worst one I have heard... So just be near a bed during treatments...Ha!
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Anne - you were fine. Just whining. Done & Done.
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We come here to whine because it is such a safe place to do it. And because this disease seems to put us all in the whiner's category at some time or other. So, whatever you need to get off your chest or if there is somewhat of a lack thereof.....we are going to welcome it all and hold your hand and whine right along with you because we all can put our heads together and sooth each other......what one person doesn't think to add, another will.
I had a HUGE whine but it is all taken care of by a wonderful Microsoft technician. I almost could not concentrate at all the last few days with my computer in a partial melt-down. We didn't feel it was anything like a virus --- but had some of those odd events that you can get when you do.
Turns out...my Outlook Express ( an old program anyway ) would not update. I tried to update it and due to age it corrupted something.....which in turn, started to make my computer very difficult to use. I had to find all sorts of odd ways to get into some of my programs....and Internet Exp. would not open at all.
So after nearly 6&1/2 hours total and $117.00 I am back in business and I think I will be able to keep my "mind" -- what little I have of one, on what I'm doing and saying now. I have to admit that though I never believed I had a virus....I was distraught. With a power surge ( and a very old power strip ) I had to get new speakers, mouse, and monitor and knew that PC repair would likely take very last cent of what I just made working over Easter....I was saying ggrrrrr big time. So, I could not be more thrilled.
Anyway......I don't go back to work till Thursday....plenty of time to delete and clean house on my computer. A job I don't like but more palatable now. When I get tired of cleaning cycles....I'll just sneak over here.
I hope you all had a fantastic Monday.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Chevy...I used neon food coloring.....after boiling the eggs, I peeled them, put the yolks in a bowl to mash.... mix miracle whip, sweet honey mustard, and a little sweet pickle relish.....(set in fridge). Then I wash & clean the egg white halves, then put in the food coloring and a bit of vinegar in glasses....put egg whites in the coloring for 10 min.
EASY!!!
hugs,
Di
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Now my whine....went to mall with hubby....I said lets go into Victoria's Secret.....looked at the bras and nighties...too low cut & I can only fill half of a cup....
I know since I have a VS bra at home and the cup is only half full (no cone shape but more of a hamburger bun shape)......
I said let's go .......left the store, a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes....
My whine.....I can look at myself as half full or half empty....just like a glass of water....damn cancer!
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Jackie, a big sigh of relief for you that your computer problems are solved.
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Jiminy sakes Jackie I said it, when I'm in a thinking mode.