Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Bonnets, those symptoms do sound like heart attack. Hope you can figure out how to make them go away.
Norma, your daughter is beautiful. I thought it was you in the picture and was going to scold you for lying about your age! It's a shame to have to live in a location you don't enjoy. Louisiana has a miserable summer climate, too, but there are pluses as well as minuses about living here. It's nice to have blooming plants year round, for example. And we have an abundance of shell fish to enjoy. The people are friendly and kind on the average. Since dh retired, we seek out a cooler climate during the summer months.
We're running late this morning. Usually dh gets us up early on gym days. It's raining this morning and it looks like a gigantic greenhouse outside. The trees are all that gorgeous spring green. You can "see" the humidity.
Wishing everyone a great Tuesday.
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Okay.... Little brat Daugher #2 just sent me this...
I mean I wonder if she is referring to me occasionally falling down? Ha!
And welcome Cheryl! YOU are almost the same age I was when I found BC also! I mean THEY found it... I didn't... I had no clue... but when I started, I thought I was the oldest one HERE, Ha! But no, Ducky is even older than I... See, we just get better as we grow up... we actually know more.....can boss people around, can drink whenever we feel like it, and we can do anything we want to.... almost....
And Bonnets...YES! Ranitidine is the best... and drinking Aloe Vera is even better! Take 2 Ranitidine a day, or go get some Aloe Vera from Super Walmart... It's only $7 something a gallon... Mix a little with your juice, tea, and drink it 3 times a day... It's a proven remedy for stuff like what we have..... Make a good smoothie with it! This will take care of all your digestive problems. Promise.
We love cats too.... Dogs cats... and little kids....
Norma.... isn't it funny how these little kids just crawl their way into our hearts, and we hold them in there forever! Oh just WAIT until someone wants to take him to another STATE! I don't care how old they are... fight that notion with all your might! Mine didn't get moved until they were about 14 & 16.... I STILL cried until they made that move. I KNOW they aren't "ours" but doesn't matter... we still should have control.... at least I think so. Love the picture!
Carole.... sorry about Mom.... Maybe she will look at it as a vacation.... Ha! Glad she has so many loved ones around her. THAT makes all the difference in the world.... Gets their mind off what is going on with them.... They need diversionary tactics... Like with my older neighbor Theresa... She is 91, and is NOW involved in more stuff than she can keep track of! The Assisted living makes sure these people are always busy.... Bingo, entertainment, Happy Hour, and always someone there checking on them... Not cheap, but she is so happy!
Okay.... gotta go get my coffee...My mouth and throat feel like the Sahara dessert.... or is it desert... one of those.
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When we experience moments of ecstasy—in play, in art, in sex—they come not as an exception, an accident, but as a taste of what life is meant to be. . . Ecstasy is an idea, a goal, but it can be the expectation of every day. Those times when we're grounded in our body, pure in our heart, clear in our mind, rooted in our soul, and suffused with the energy, the spirit of life, are our birthright. It's really not that hard to stop and luxuriate in the joy and wonder of being. Children do it all the time. It's a natural human gift that should be at the heart of our lives. -Gabrielle Roth
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Chevy -- it's the second one which I bet you already knew, but it is hard sometimes -- I mean to have to stop and think. Carole, I knew exactly what you said when you said you could see the " humidity ". On occasion ( thank goodness not too often ) that has taken place here. Makes you want to stay inside and not even go out to get the paper on the front porch.
It is so pretty ( but on the cool side ) here this morning. Rain is done for a bit and the coming week-end will have our temps going back up to the 70's. Well, there won't be an argument from me on that one. I don't want humid heat, but I do like it cozy warm. Had enough cold weather for the yr. The grass and bushes are that deep new green that starts our Spring out just right. That alone has the power to make your insides dance with delight.
Off to work, but I'll be back later. See you all then.
Jackie
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Mornin all,
Welcome Cheryl- you have found a great group of "mature" women here. We met because of BC,but stay now because we have become good friends and are interested in each other's lives. We, as a whole, are interested in many things and we like to share those interests. Some are interested in traveling, gardening, golfing, pets, food, the weather, sewing, knitting or crocheting, bird watching, photography, and, of course, our families. Most of our posts are good, but this is the place to come if you have a problem, or just need a safe place to vent- about anything- not just BC.
Just so you start to feel like you know us, I am 66 yrs old, lost my husband of 42 years thirteen months before I was Dx in Sept of 2013. I have five children and 7 grandchildren, the oldest will be 17 this month and the youngest will be 3 weeks old on Thurs. Then in June, I will be blessed with another girl.
Chevy, I agree grandparents should have control over our kids taking our grandchildren away. My son moved from Fl to SC right after he married. Missed him so much, we went to visit him for his birthday about 3 weeks after he moved. Problem was their sold house down here hadn't closed yet, so his wife and furniture hadn't gotten there yet. I brought 3 lawn chairs and we slept on an air mattress. That wasn't too bad at the time - they had no children. Then, completely out of the blue, my oldest DD decided to move to GA ?!?! Their 2 sons were in 2nd and 5th grade. I was with them at least 5 out of every 7 days. They only lived a mile away, and Nancy and I were best friends. They didn't need an excuse or invitation to come over. They had never been with a babysitter- we were their second set of parents, and if, for some reason, we weren't available, they had 4 siblings that were. We were included in all their activities. I chaperoned many a field trip and volunteered in their classes. I missed them so much I flew up 2 days after they moved to help them set up their new home. That was 6 years ago, and since that day my life has become that of a vagabond. I travel constantly between Fl, which is my home base, Ga, and SC, where my son now has a daughter who will be 3 in June, when his second daughter is due. I travel so much, I have complete wardrobes at all three houses. We moved from NY to FL when our first daughter was 16 months old. I never realized how much that hurt my parents until my DD moved her boys to Ga. And we are so much better off nowadays than we were then. We relied on snail mail, once a month phone calls, and once a year visits from them. Now we have unlimited cell phones, email, texts,and best of all Skype or FaceTime. My son n SC calls me very day on his way home, and his wife is very good about FaceTiming me about once a week while their daughter is having lunch. I have made a personal commitment to be with each grandchild on their birthday and so far, haVe only missed one which was here in Fl while I was in Ga during chemo. No matter how happy I am to be with whichever grandchildren I happen to be with, I always miss the ones I'm away from. I have begged them all to choose one area aNd all move there- within an hours drive, so I can be with them without having to fly,or drive almost 4 hrs between GA aNd SC to see them.
So again Cheryl, glad to have you on board. We look forward to getting to know you. How are you doing recovering from your surgery? Did you have chemo first or are you in chemo now? Remember that if you aRe having any side effects, there is probably someone here who has dealt who has or knows someone who has dealt with what you are experiencing. Even if we don't, we will be here for you, giving you a safe place to voice your pain and worries without judgement. Looking forward to hearing from you
Anne
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Aw geez Anne..... I know how you feel...(felt).... It is completely different with our Grand-kids.... except I don't know what I would DO if our youngest daughter (55) moved away from here.... We are so close to her... both in distance and our feelings with each other. After I broke my hip, and not getting around very good, she would come over on her days off, and bring Shirley Temple movies for us to watch.
She is just one of the greatest joys I have whenever I see her... ! She didn't have any kids during their 4 year marriage YEARS ago, and that worked out great for her!
I just wish I could get over this Bronchitis/Asthma I have had now for 2 weeks! I can't walk 10 feet without coughing.... I took my last antibiotic, but that dry cough just hangs on! I can breath so much better, and my chest is clear.... but I've been using that Nebulizer, and now I have thrush.... Been drinking Aloe Vera with my tea, swishing my mouth out with that and vinegar & water, and eating lots of yogurt. It all started with those darned Chickens, and their dirty coop, and then trying to clean the dirty cat-box litter!
I told the neighbor gal, I just can't do it anymore.... They need to get someone else.... So now they want to get rid of their 6 hens, because they aren't laying anymore, and GET MORE BABY CHICKS!!! I SWEAR, that family should move out onto the Prairie!
I've heard you can now buy eggs at the STORE! They make them pets, and name them, and then when they get older, get rid of them? They are all nuts.
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Joy is what we are, not what we must get. Joy is the realization that all we want or need in life has been
etched into our souls. Joy helps us see not what we are "going
through," but what we are "growing to"--a greater sense of understanding, accomplishment, and enlightenment. Joy reveals
to us the calm at the end of the storm, the peace that surpasses
the momentary happiness of pleasure. If we keep our
minds centered on joy, joy becomes a state of mind.
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Good morning all,
It is a gorgeous one here. Good ole' Sol is up in the sky doing what I most love --- shining down brightly and helping me feel that JOYFUL state of mind. My outlook is almost always better when sun is a part of it. I'm not a sun worshipper in the sense of spending long hours in the sun as such. It is the 'light' it brings more so. It always seems to me that it helps the birds with their chirping songs, and buds and leaves spring forth and it warms us all after the winter cold.
Maybe I'll wash my car today some time. There are always so many things to do, so I'm really talking about using the car wash. Also need to find a time to clean out space in the garage for my car. Dh is not looking to have a lot of time off ( as much as it might take for that garage ) in the near future. You know sometimes there is sooo much drama that goes on in a working career. Dh as many may know left the home-town Sears store here and went to work for the new one that opened in Mt. Vernon. Until it closed --- he had worked for the corporation Sears store in the big Mall in Mt. Vernon.
Well, he finds yesterday -- not only did an employee at the new home-town store in Mt. Vernon end up being arrested ( all thought he was so nice and a good worker ) and it is drug and weapons related so he won't be returning to work that is for sure --- but as well there is drama with the home-town store here. The people here had two stores but they walked away from one of them a yr. before their contract was up with Sears for it. That has caused a huge rift and the owner of the Mt. Vernon home-town Sears has been contacted about the possibly of running the one here too. This is one of the things that is so irritating to me and why I chose to try not to line up with employment through businesses ( knowing someone has to though ) because I have never liked the GAMES that on so often behind the scenes that put workers sometimes in odd positions. Well, nuff said about that I guess.
Hope you are all going to enjoy a wonderful Spring day where-ever you are and can get into that joyful state of mind.
Jackie
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Mornin all,
Oh, boy!! Jackie, I need some of your joy fullness. The stress here is building very quickly.My son's wedding in June is much fancier (and expensive) than what we are used to, and it is causing stress everywhere. My oldest son is Best Man, and both my SIL's and my brother are also in the bridal party. The tuxes the bride chose are $250 each. And out of the four, three live in other states. The hotel, where the reception is being held is way expensive for their pockets- $179 per night, plus $33 for parking your car overnight. If you just call to get a room for that night, not mentioning the wedding, you can get a room for $129, but you have to pay the $33 for parking. If you say you are coming to the wedding, you pay $179 for the room, but $10 for parking. I have never heard of paying for parking other than at parks, attractions or hospitals. My oldest DD called the bride last night, and she doesn't have a problem with it. If they didn't agree with the price of the rooms the day they were there ( which was the height of snowbird season) they could reserve any number of rooms, but they would have to pay full price for any unused rooms. The idea was to not have anyone driving after drinking. My youngest DD is also quite upset that her 10 yr old daUghter is not in the bridal party, but her 3 yr old cousin is.
And to make my life even more stressful, I found out last night that my son ( the groom) has been sneaking into my neighbors garage at night. Nothing bad is happening but they (son and neighbors) are so tired of dealing with the daughter I live with, that Tim calls when he's on his way, they move their car out, he pulls in, they shut the garage and visit on the baCk porch. She is also the reason I haven't held baby Alex in a week. Technically, I "saw" her at Saturday's soccer game. She was asleep in the stroller and totally hidden from the sun and random soccer balls. I know the daughter I live with is an alcoholic, but have no idea what to do about it. I have confronted her many times which results in a cut back for a week or so, then full steam ahead. She is not a happy, good times drunk, she is loud, nasty one. All of us have just learned to ignore her ramblings as much as possible and have our own conversations under her noise. I don't see any way of changing her at this point, believe me, I have tried. But I am also a little angry - ok- full out furious that I am losing out on time with Tim and Jamie and her kids. I have told Tim I will meet him wherever and whenever he wants for breakfast or lunch or dinner- anytime! I finally had dinner with him when Jamie was in the hospital having Alex. Tim works there, so I met him on his break for dinner and we had a great time. I told him I will do that every Fri. Last Fri he had to cancel, cause his dept- psychiatric ER was too busy for him to leave at 4:30. We will try again this week. And Jamie knows Tracy works full time. She gets home between 4:30 - 5:00. Jamie can come over any day and leave before Tracy ever walks thru the door. I know Tracy isn't their problem to fix, but I am upset that they can't fit me in without her.
Sorry for another rant- just have to get it out .
Anne
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I was diagnosed at 59 and am now almost 67. I have 6 grandsons, 1 great grand daughter and 1 great grandson. Cancer has changed how I am able to play with them but somehow we get through it.
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mhmama, welcome to the older women. Good to hear that you are ( like so many ) hanging in there and making the most of your grandchildren no matter what it takes to accomplish it. Moms and grandmothers are usually fairly good at adjustments. Hope you will feel welcome to come anytime and join in our conversations.
Anne, I don't know what to say. I know women want to have a gorgeous wedding and for the most part I'm for that, but I do think sometimes things price-wise can get so out of hand. I'm a little startled by the fact that JUST because it is connected to a wedding, rooms cost more. Also think back in my day --- no one much held a wedding reception at a hotel for the purpose of making sure people didn't have to DRIVE after the reception was over. I guess we all just took our chances and I'm un-aware that there was any BAD accidents connected to any of the weddings through the years I attended, including my own, nor in fact, any accidents at all. Times change and I can sure see why the stress is building up.
As to the rest, it really sounds like you have a problem that just doesn't really have a solution at the moment with your daughter Tracy. Like you though, I wonder, since everyone has full awareness, why some sort of arrangements can't be made so you get some decent Grandma time. Hope I don't make the apple cart even worse, but spending time with you while Tracy is at work just seems so simple and I'm wondering if I haven't understood. Anyway, hopefully the new parents will get it together and work this out better.
Jackie
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The most glorious moments in your life are not the
so-called days of success, but rather those days when out
of dejection and despair you feel rise in you a challenge
to life, and the promise of future accomplishments.
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Another beauty of a morning here and it will get into the 70's. I'm just going to say AHHH right now because I'm going to love it. Work this morning, but that is ok. Dh has to take his truck into the shop. Not happy about that as he will keep my new car while I'm at work. Sounds horrible of me, huh !!! Well, I've already given him his instructions about where to park in parking lots if he goes where there are some. Not to get it dirty since I went to the car wash yesterday and to be on time to pick me up after work.
All that said I likely have to thank him that I have a new car since his old truck has always used up the budget for car maintenance and my old Blazer ( 2004 ) just never got enough to keep it going. I had suggested that maybe he should retire his truck and get something else, but instead when my Blazer needed ( absolutely couldn't go any longer without ) some major things --- it got retired.
Anne, I'm hoping a new day will have you able to get through the maze of difficulties that you are having. Some things are not fixable sometimes, but hopefully there might be a 'reasonable' spot so I'm hoping it shows up.
Thinking today about Puffin as well as Sandra and Mike.
Joan, you are on my mind as well.
I guess I just want good things for all of my friends ( Carole, Linda, Sunny/Chevy, bonnets, termite, Norma Jean, Wren ) and just each and every one and so I keep all kinds of wishes stashed that I think about in the morning when I come here. You are all just the very best.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Jackie- thanks for the support. As far as the wedding and cost of hotels, looks like most of my kids will go home after reception. Rob's wife can't drink because she is pregnant so she will be the designated driver for them. Neither of them are usually big drinkers, but I am not totally sure of Rob this time. Bob was Tm's father, but Rob is his Daddy. He taught Tim everything he knows about sports, coached him in soccer, baseball,flag football and basketball from the time Tim was old enough to play on the local teams until he reached middle school and was on the school teams. At that point, Rob stopped coaching but never missed a game, unless he was sick or away. So it's kind of like he is not only Best Man, but father of the groom. My guess though is he will be very careful with his drinking so he can make sure everything is going well, and even more important is that his wife could go into labor at any minute at that point. Jamie's husband doesn't drink at all, so it is just Nancy and Tracy. I get a room with the wedding, so Tracy can share my bed, and our neighbors will be there, and since Dave is head of nursing in the ER, his wife will have no more than 2 drinks early in the evening. So Nancy and family will ride with them.
Jamie and the kids came by as she picked them up from school. I got my baby cuddling time and helped Jamie give her a bath. I helped Kayden with his homework then we ate and went to Victoria's soccer game. At the soccer game, Jamie said Tracy told her she hasn't had a drink since Nancy left! I pray, pray, pray that is true. She was very pleasant when she got home from work and found not only Jamie, but her friend here as well. She accepts Jamie is going to be here at least once a week to do laundry, but the friend being here every time Jamie is, is getting old.
I got two nice tops last weekend that will do for the showers (bridal for Nissa and baby for Anna) but still need something for rehearsal dinner, and something formal for the wedding. I dread the thought of shopping for the dress. I am very much a jeans and tee shirt kind of girl, and I am at least 40-50 lbs heavier than I would like to be. I did go last weekend and bought a wig, because there is nothing I can do with my hair to make it look good. They are having people at the hotel the day of the wedding, and with enough "product," skill and time, they could probably get it to look okay that day, but I can't afford to have that done for the showers and rehearsal dinner.
And Rob's wife thinks it would be best if Rob stays at our house while she is down, because she can sleep in with her mom and Lu will have her own room. Rob asked what they would do if she went into labor during the night- would they wake Lu up and take her to the hospital, or would he have to go from here to pick her up, adding at least 45 minutes to the trip? He suggested that it would be much better if Lu stayed here with him, then she could stay asleep and he could meet them at the hospital. She was astonished that he would van suggest taking Lu from her- he said, that's exaCtly what you are doing to me. He said they could all stay here, and Rob and Anna would have their own good sized room, and Lucia would have her own room, without displacing anyone.
As my kids have said many times- we could beat the Kardashians in a reality show, no contest! I have gotten used to having to assure people that the stories I tell, are, in fact, the whole and honest truth without exaggerations or embellishments.
Anne
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oh the good old days when most of us just eloped. Lo
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Right you are, mhmama! And they weren't so long ago. We gave each of our three daughters beautiful weddings, and didn't come close to spending as much as the bridal gown cost in this one. It is going to be the most expensive and high class wedding I have ever been to.What hurts me is that because they are paying for it themselves, they have decided on who will be there. That's fine, but I asked for 3 first cousins, who live in Fl, to be included. Six people- they say they don't know them well, so they aren't invited. I'm sure it bothers me more than it does them, but it bothers me. I have not been able to suggest any of my friends who have watched Tim grow up from infancy. Somehow, along with a lot of things, we have not passed on family ties and an honoring of family just because they are family. They did invite my 2 sisters and 2 brothers only because I knew 3 out of the 4 would not attend, and the 4th one is part of the bridal party. I have learned to pick my battles and this isn't one I choose to fight. I absolutely adore the bride and feel so blessed that Tim has chosen her. I was kind of worried about some of his past girlfriends, I couldn't approve more with his choice. I will enjoy the wedding and not focus on who is not there.
Anne
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Isn't THAT the truth about a JP? We didn't have very much money.... Just enough to get me a pretty "sheath" dress... And a suit from my Aunt for HIM! We got married at a JP.... And it was perfect. My Mom flew into town for the "wedding"... We were Soooooooooo happy and blessed!
We even had to wait until after the week-end, to go get DH's drivers license! He had too many tickets, so it was taken away.... So then we went up in the mountains to a little cabin... I cooked corned-beef & cabbage.... Hah! That was our honey-moon!
We started out with nothing.... even all used furniture for our little 2-room apt.... My Grandma bought us a box of groceries.... but all we had was each other... That was over 57 years ago.... We made it work, because we didn't know how to do any different.... Just knew we didn't want marriages like our folks had.... We were just 20.... Had been "going steady" and "engaged" for almost 2 years before that.... But we did it!
For our Daughter's.... we helped them out as much as we could.... but they paid for their weddings.... I cooked all the food for the receptions, did all the silk flowers.... but we didn't have to borrow any money to get them hitched. We just didn't have the money......
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I have seen two very expensive weddings in the last couple of years and both ended in divorce within 6 months. Unfortunately both girls have the same mother and insisted she pay for these weddings. Mother is working 2 jobs to pay for them. Sad, but whose fault is it?
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mhmama -- that is sad that a mother is having to work to pay for the folly of her girls. I certainly hope she has told them the next wedding ( if it comes for either one ) is on them. She likely wanted to be like any other parent and provide what we all came to see ( more so in these latter yrs. ) as sort of the expected actions that most parents take.
Some children/females want to do things 'their' way all the way and take it upon themselves to have full control by footing all the bills. My daughter did it that way, and that was good because elsewise it would have been a VERY small wedding. In some ways, it would be nice to see traditions change a bit into less showy and expensive --- but many still wouldn't be happy. We forget that sometimes the less planned events reward us with a lot more happiness anyway.
Jackie
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We were married at home in my parents living room. I had a white lace dress and we each had one attendant. My college roommate played the piano. Afterwards there was cake and punch. I would do it exactly the same again. We've been married 56 years.
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Wow--just had to catch up on over 150 posts! I was in Europe for 10 days during IL's wild weather--it snowed as I boarded our flight to London, while I was away (including snow that stuck several times and again the night before I got home) and again the day after I got back from Paris. London weather was typically gray and miserable. (I lived in Seattle 7 yrs., and its rain was much easier to take). The morning we were to fly from London City airport to Geneva, Hurricane (!) Katie blew through the UK and up into Scandinavia and caused our flight to be canceled. A friend wasn't even allowed to check in--her passport had only 3 wks left on it, and the “Schengen" group of mainland European countries will not let people from outside the EU or their group in unless their passports were valid for at least 90 days after their scheduled departure date. She had to go back into central London to the US Embassy, only to find it closed due to being a bank holiday. The only choice she could afford was to eat a humongous rescheduling penalty and fly back to Chicago. The rest of us got rebooked on flights out of Heathrow, and Swissair paid for the taxis. Got to our hotel in Lausanne, and discovered that prices were over 50% higher than anywhere else in Europe, much less the US. ($95 for a piece of salmon, a salad, and a drink--my first two nights, dinner was an Atkins bar and coffee in the room). Fe_Princess (a BCO sister in Zurich) had warned me but I still got profound sticker shock. Fortunately, the facility hosting our legal conference fed us lunches, lavish coffee-and-snack breaks (with baristas manning the espresso machines) and dinner on our final night. Took the TGV through the Alps to Paris....only to arrive in the middle of a citywide general strike. For 2 hrs, nothing was moving between the station and the center of town--no trains, no taxis. Finally, it ended, and made it to our hotel. Apparently these strikes are called in advance, there are short demonstrations, then life goes on and sometimes the strikers' goals are met due to public sympathy with their cause. Paris was terrific (and a bargain compared to Switzerland). Then two days after flying home, flew to a resort & spa outside San Antonio with my husband for his echocardiography conference. What a joy walking around in a T-shirt, jeans and sandals!
Home now, life is more or less back to normal. (Had a crisis when I was in Europe--kitty needed a tooth extracted and the anesthesia caused him to hallucinate and run around the house crashing into things. He severely bruised his thigh and limped badly for a week--and because he was off his feed and didn't drink, he got dehydrated and his kidneys were on the brink of failing. Fortunately, he turned a corner and is back to normal now--minus a large patch of fur that had to be shaved for ultrasound & CT scan). We got a pleasant surprise regarding our taxes: no liability to the state, and a modest refund from the Feds.
By way of intro, I'm 65, and was diagnosed at 64. Married almost 45 years, one adult son, no grandkids (that I know of). two cats. We were married at a country club on LI that had been turned into a restaurant/event space, capable of handling two events at once. As we were walking down the aisle, we heard a splash--it was the maid-of-honor from the next wedding falling into the pond while posing for pictures. ANd during the ceremony, we were interrupted by the roar of a helicopter--it was my cousins from L.A. and Tel Aviv, who were delayed because the Israeli cousin got stuck going through Customs and they hired a chopper from JFK! (My Canadian cousins couldn't be bothered to drive the 300 miles down). What's amazing is that the wedding cost less than our son's Bar Mitzvah 26 years later--and neither my parents nor we went into debt to pay for either event. (We saved like crazy, though, for a decade). Of course, friends and relatives back in NY threw much larger and more lavish bashes, and their kids had to take out huge student loans later on. Gordy managed to get through 5 yrs. of college without borrowing. (He was considerate enough to pick a college that was cheaper than his high school).
Been spending a lot of time on other threads--especially “Political Junkies." This election is giving me agita--and we're only halfway through the primaries!
Sandra, glad to hear Mike's transplant is finally “taking." His hair will grow back, for sure. Gordy says he hasn't met Allison. I guess the improv and comedy community in Chicago is a lot bigger than most people realize.
Norma Jean, have you tried taking biotin (either on its own or as part of a “hair, skin & nails" formula)? There's also a multi-step product line for thinning hair called Nioxin, which includes a women's version of minoxydil as well as thickening and scalp-stimulating shampoos & conditioners. I've been on letrozole for 3-1/2 months now, and my hair is a little thinner than a year ago--but before bc I didn't pay much attention. I suspect a lot of women experiencing AI and tamoxifen drastic hair thinning had previously lost their hair from chemo; perhaps the effects are cumulative, especially after Taxotere?
Getting ready for my trip to NC next month to attend and perform at the SERFA folk music conference at Montreat in Black Mt., NC (40 min. e. of Asheville) and then on May 22, playing a benefit concert for the Healing Touch program at Vitality Medical Spa in Hickory, which provides free spa services to breast cancer patients. (Our own Happy Hammer is organizing this). I was a little conflicted about going to NC because of the discriminatory anti-LGBT laws its state gov't passed; but the Montreat conference center (Presbyterian-run) has issued a statement denouncing those laws, and I wouldn't dream of penalizing a wonderful charity like Healing Touch because of the mean-spiritedness of its state's legislators & Gov. I hope those in the Asheville-Charlotte corridor (as well as northern GA and SC) can attend!
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Good morning. Another beautiful day here!
God my car back yesterday, from the body shop after being backed into on Mammo day. They not only put on the new bumper , but gave it a wash and wax, looks better than new!
Reading about weddings and sometimes suffering thru those awful bride programs on TV, or the house hunters, show the "look at me, how much I have "values of this generation. Be it houses, weddings or cars. Stuff is valued so much more these days. It's sad. we had a home reception for my first marriage and a church reception for the current marriage. Only family in the wedding and a friend did the pictures. This generation wants MORE of everything!
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I agree, Bonnets. A lot of emphasis on "stuff."
DH and I slept in this morning. It felt good not to have any compelling reason to get up. It's cloudy and raining but the sun will probably pop out later. Today is my sister's day to go and spend time with my mother at the nursing home where she's having rehab. I may get out my sewing machine and work on a project that was interrupted when my mother had the stroke last month.
ChiSandy, that was quite a trip. I enjoy hearing about your travel. I have some beautiful pottery that I bought in Black Mountain, NC, years ago. There were wonderful potters in that area. I just saw a funny video on Facebook about a guard standing at the door of a public rest room (toilet) and checking ID's. I can't see that it would matter who goes into a women's rest room since they always have doors on the stalls. About this year's presidential politics, I just shake my head with amazement. And concern. Enough said. We steer clear of polarizing conversations on this thread.
Anne, you live in the midst of a lot of family conflict but your motherly love seems to help you deal with it.
Jackie, I love your protectiveness toward your new car! I know the feeling. I'm still in love with my little 2014 Prius. I had planned to wash it today. I guess I could park it out in the rain!
Wishing everyone a good Friday.
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Join the great company of those who make the barren places of life
fruitful with kindness. Carry a vision of heaven in your hearts, and you
shall make your name, your college, the world, correspond to that
vision. Your success and happiness lie within you. External conditions
are the accidents of life, its outer wrappings. The great, enduring
realities are love and service. Joy is the holy fire that keeps our
purpose warm and our intelligence aglow. Resolve to keep happy,
and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulty.
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You won't get disagreement from me that the newer generation wants it all -- and not a care in the world if they can't pay for it. Bigger, better, best. I think maybe years and years ago, only a very few could have along with publicizing it, a big, big expensive wedding. Somehow ( I think it started with some mothers my age ) little ones were pushed/guided into life in big ways. Starting so early with mental ( the best schools ) and physical ( all sorts of different sports and competitions ) challenges. No wonder when it comes time to marry -- let no expense be spared.
Wren -- I so agree with you though. You can save all the money, do something quite small and meaningful and well over 50 yrs. later know that you didn't miss a thing. Perfection can happen in any situation and be just as memorable. I had a "Church" wedding the first time. That marriage survived for 10 yrs. but most of them were miserable, so having a "Church" wedding ( though not so expensive in those days ) did not help a bit. Second marriage done by JOP ( happened to be a minister who was Johnny Cash's best friend ) and we were married in his living room on Lemonwood Ave. 41 yrs. ago this coming July 19th. I still remember it like yesterday. Just as the Rev. pronounced us man and wife, the clock on his fireplace mantle chimed 10 times. The very small wedding party of 7 people went out and had brunch.
ChiSandy, don't know how you do it. You seem to breeze though complications like they were almost nothing while I would have melted down at the first cloud. Glad it all worked out ok, but I think that level of stress would finish me. You're made of sturdy material. Glad you will go to NC and support your charity and be bigger than the 'crazy' controversies.
Going to take Dh to Marion V.A. today for his eye exam. May work later --- depends if they choose tonight or tomorrow night as the night out. So, may be a long day for me but that is ok. If we have time we will likely stop at the Steak & Shake in Marion so I can get my Garlic Burger FIX after the eye exam is done.
We will have another stunning day full of sun and warmth which will make me most cheerful and content. Who could ask for anything more --- well, maybe just to win a huge lottery. Other than that, I'm good.
Jackie
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Mornin all,
I had a stress free day yesterday, which was a nice change. My passenger rear tire haD started going flat twice this week. Thank God for the neighbor next door. He filled it with air both times, then my daughters found a nail or something. Dave came back over and marked where the leak was,then told me where to take it to get it fixed. I am always afraid to go into anything like that alone. I think They must have someway of telling I am an older woman on her own, that knows nothing about cars (all true) and think, wow, we can really make a bundle here. But they were reasonable and my tire is fixed. Funny part is I called them first to see if I had to make an appt or just come in. The guy says "there's no one here right now" I assume all the techs are at lunch, so I asked if there would be anyone there later in the day. He said"I have no idea". Now I am scratching my head, thinking this is a business and he has no idea whether anyone is working today??? Finally the lightbulb goes off above my head. " you mean there is no one waiting for service right now, not that there are no techs, right?" He said of course that is what he meant. And my tire is now fixed.
I have made travel plans again. I am heading to Georgia on Apr 25th. I have a BS appt on the 27th, and my oldest grandson will be 17 on the 29th. His brother is having his final orchestra recital on May 9th. He is not sure if he is going to play it in HS so he wants me there. I will fly back here on May 11th. I will try to get over to see Lucia for a few days while up there. Then it's bAck here for showers, a birth, rehearsal dinner and wedding. That's as far as I have planned at this point. I looked online yesterday for my dress for the wedding. Saw a bunch I liked, but have no idea what size to order. Some say order two sizes larger than usually size, others say they run true to size, but whose size? Every country sizes differently. guess I'm going to have to see if I can find something locally to get the fit correct. All the ones I saw online were between $100 and $150. As much as I love my son and his fiancée, that's my budget for a dress I will wear once. If I can find something on clearance, even better. The bride has volunteered to go with me, but I don't want to spend what she things is normal.
Have a great day and a calm weekend. Puffin and Sandra, you are in my prayers daily.
Anne
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Chevyboy......I may not be able to wear hats in Texas but look at what I found on another list that you could put your talent & skills to.......
http://www.knittedknockers.org (Guess you will have to copy & paste the link since it didn't come through.)
It does after I hit the submit button.
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Yes Norma, the link worked! I had seen those before...That would have been great for my Mom.... I remember how embarrassed she was, trying to get one of those heavier, life-like breasts to fit in her bra... This was about 1990... In those days they did a complete mastectomy.... I mean they took everything even close! She did okay with it though....
Same with my Aunt.... but with her, it started out everywhere I think.... at least before they found it in her breast.
We have come so FAR these last few years.... Thank God for that!
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One does not need to fast for days and meditate for
hours at a time to experience the sense of sublime
mystery which constantly envelops us. All one need
do is to notice intelligently, if even for a brief moment, a blossoming tree, a forest flooded with
autumn colors, an infant smiling.
Simon Greenberg0 -
Oh, the morning sunshine is so pretty and just nudges such gratitude in me. These early Spring days when my little corner of the woods is coming back to life and renewing just set me up perfectly to be happy and to want good things for everyone. Probably sounds a little Pollyanna but it is in my nature and some time back I decided not to deny it. There is a purpose to and for everyone and I am completely willing along the way to look for and expand on whatever seems to me to make life worthwhile while I'm attempting to fulfill that purpose --- even if I'm not totally sure what it is all about.
I'll be back later to chat, but I'm hoping you are all starting out with a gorgeous day and a little joy tucked away just itching to spring forth. See you all later.
Jackie
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