MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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Caught up on reading, but no time for posting much. I love Eli's last comment about putting the squeeze on "will any machine do?" So many great visuals there
Lots of good commentaries in the last couple pages. We're a very diverse group and I just love us all0 -
haha, Elimar! Maybe a "scrotogram". Some female urologist should invent that - doubt if she'd have too many takers, though! If I was rich, I'd go ahead and put a patent on that - can't you just see all the male lawyers cringing?
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Sherry, I am so sorry for your loss. For your FIL to be with loving family at that gentle time is very special.
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I am 50 and diagnosed with IDC. Stage 2. I have surgery May 8 lumpectomy with radiation. And breast implant removal with mastoplexy. I think thats what she called. Anyway I will go from a 34DD TO an A or B she says. Freaks me out. I also have fibromyalgia and am wondering how radiation will effect me. Getting nervous.
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proyalty - sorry to have to welcome you here, but you will find it to be a very supportive, crazy, serious and fun group to be a part of. I don't have any experience with rads or fibro but am certain that there will be someone come along soon that will be able to comment on that.
We often hold pocket parties (PP) when one of us has an appt, tests, scans, surgery etc. We all jump into the pocket of the sister who needs our support and hold a virtual PP with all the snacks and drinks we want. (there is no calories or bad effects from virtual snacks) So if you are willing to host a PP for us middies we will be there with you on May 8 for support. No one goes it alone here!
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proyalty, welcome! I had lumpectomy (Lx) and radiation (rads; and check out the link at the top to learn all of the helpful abbreviations) but without any downsizing taking place. I have fibromyalgia (FM) too. First of all, good luck with the upsoming surgery. Secondly, then find a thread on here for rads in the month you will start yours and you can compare notes with all the regular side effects, etc. Thirdly, I do not think you will experience a worsening of the FM, especially if you can get enough sleep. Finally, although this looks ahead a little further, if you will be taking the drug Tamoxifen and take something for your FM, please ask and check the interactions of the two because some do not go together very well.
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Eli- Thanks for posting the link to that article. I hope others will take the time to read it.
Sherry- Sorry for your loss; I hope that everyone in your family will take comfort now that your FIL is no longer having difficulties and that positive memories will leave you smiling.
Thanks all for the morning chuckle about squashing scrotums! I wish neither sex was subjected to squashing body parts, but I certainly agree that men would just be less likely to endure it! After my second and last baby, I told my husband that I wanted him to consider a vasectomy. After all, for him it would be a minor snip. Having my tubes tied would have been a bigger surgery. He hemmed and hawed and told me I didn't understand what I was asking of him! Bastard! Somehow we are not on an equal playing field. But I wore him down and supplied the required bags of frozen peas and after all was said and done, he said it wasn't as bad as he thought it would be.
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Welcome proyalty ~ I also had Lx & Rads. This a wonderful place of support. And if you want to rant, don't worry about offending anyone here. We ALL go through it, early on & even further down the road. Like elimar, I did not downsize, but, unlike her, I do not have FM.
I will also be in your pocket May 8. It gets sorta full sometimes as we all jockey for our space - "jockey" - hummm, that goes along with the male smash talk further up the page, doesn't it?!
staynsane ~ Oh my goodness, your tale of the DH giving you fits for having a vasectomy could have come from me! After having our two daughters, I went through the same thing! You'd think I was asking him to cut off one of his you-know-whats!! (that rhymes with you know what!!)
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E ~~ That is some freaky, walking dead picture up top!
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LOL, Valjean I agree. What are those women wearing? Wax lips? Blow the pic up real big and look at them.
Sherry - It sounds like your FIL had a very peaceful passing if somewhat sooner than expected. (((HUGS))) Prayers for your DH, MIL and your family.
Welcome proyalty. We whine, b***h, love, hug and generally get nutty at times. Jump right in. Questions always welcome and if someone doesn't have the answer we can point you in the right direction here.
Heartnsoul - Hope you are feeling better.
Have to make eye doctor appt. These glasses have gone to hell in a handbasket. Lenses are 2 years old. He said last year change was so minor in RX that no change needed. Well, they are getting changed this year. I'm pretty careful with them but I think microsratches are on them. He's a good optometrist; wife BC survivor. Also beginning cataracts per last visit. Interested to see what change in them. DH had it done 10 years ago b4 the fancy lenses. He uses reading glasses. Looking forward to no glasses even though eye surg. is really creepy to me.
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Oh, come on! Don't act like you've never seen a group of middle-aged women wearing WAX LIPS before.
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Thanks all for the sweet comments and Eli yes he had a bladder infection. It was very bad and he was not responding to the IV antibiotics. His lungs were also very weak so with his overall health not being good his body just could not fight it off.
Welcome proyalty this is a good place to hang. I had lump and rads and then later a BMX with TE's and implants. Just curious if you want to share but why did you decide to go with lump & rads and remove the implants instead of MX and new implants.
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Barsco--you and me both! My co-workers bring me a cup of coffee if I'm cranky in the morning.
Staynsane--great article, thanks for mentioning it.
Sherryc--my sympathy on the loss of your FIL. I'm glad his passing was peaceful and painless.
Heartnsoul--the prednisone will calm down the inflammatory response going on in your lungs, so you will breathe easier and cough less while the levaquin is doing it's thing. When a person has been through a lot of stress and/or chemo the immune system gets wacky. Some parts of it--like inflammation--will over work while other parts don't work as efficiently. So sometimes we need a little extra help getting over an infection.
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Thanks, luv! I'm finally feeling better! Pretty much been in bed since Tuesday trying to cough up a lung.
Thanks, NM! That answers a lot of questions. I had no idea what the connection was with a bad cough and prednisone. This is the first time I've been sick since chemo. I didn't know what to do - I'm so glad you said to go to the MO.
The prednisone is rapidly calming down the cough. A decongestant wouldn't have touched this thang!
Prednisone is a double-edged sword. My father had a fatal auto-immune disease, relapsing polychondritis (NM, I'm sure you can break that down and figure out exactly what it is). We had to do a delicate dance with prednisone to try to keep his symptoms from flaring up while trying to keep his prednisone dose as low as possible.
Elimar - you have inspired me to go buy some waxed lips. I'll answer the door wearing them. That picture is a hoot!
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Eli- I know doc's have been pissed at you as well as me for doing our own research, but this is why we do.
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Heartnsoul--yes, prednisone is a double edged sword that has to be used carefully. Relapsing polychondritis, wow, not fun! Talk about tightrope walking with the prednisone!
Dianarose--great article, thanks for the link.
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I think the article is great, and just posted about it on someother strand about Komen, wasn' t sure where to put it!
So glad for the article. Had seen the documentary Pink Ribbons Inc last year: this article a toned down , better filled out version of that angry (rightfully so) documentary.... So much that needed saying, both re DCIS and IDC stats, Komen money an dwhat it funds, mammograms, etc.
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Hi! Just popping in the say "Hello"...I'm 47, so I guess I can join this group...
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HI violet 1 welcome, lovely ladies here...sorry your here. you have come to the right place for support and hugs
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Sorry, just want to clarify I was referring to NY Times Magazine article by Peggy Orenstein "Our Feel-Good War on Breast Cancer" metioned above link here
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/28/magazine/our-feel-good-war-on-breast-cancer.html?ref=magazine
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Proyalty, one note of caution. I am not saying this to scare you, but I was told I was Stage 1 and would only need radiation after my lumpectomy. Once they got me into surgery though, they found that the lump was a little bigger, and after doing the sentinel node biopsy, one node had cancer cells, so when I woke up, I was told that chemo would be a part of my treatment plan after all. I am only telling you this in case your doctor didn't advise you that things can definitely change once you're in surgery. I'll be in tour pockets on the 8th too.
HnS, I was hysterical about the convo with hub about vasec. After our second child I raised that question and the look of pure panic and fear was almost comical. There was also some comment about how I dealt With 'that kind of thing' better than he did. Pathetic!
Wax lips....gotta love 'em
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Thanks, Kaza...
. There are so many threads on the bc.org site, it takes a bit to figure out which threads fit you. But, I have learned sooooo much around here! What a blessing...0 -
Welcome, violet_1 and jessica749!
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I'm breaking the weather rule! We had a long ass winter in the northeast and this weekend was spring perfection. Everything is blooming, warm temps with a cool breeze, opened up our campground place, lots of outdoor time. Makes everything seem just a little better somehow. I hope lots of you had a good weekend too wherever you are.
To anyone having tests or treatment this week, I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Get those pockets ready0 -
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marlegal - you are a rebel aren't you? I do have to agree that this weekend's temps did merit mentioning. You better hope that Eli was distracted enough by the weather that she doesn't catch your post or you may get 40 lashes with the wet noodle - lol
Happy Monday everyone!
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Anyone who wants to come along and keep me company for my second chemo is welcome to jump into a pocket on my chemo bag. It's pretty full of puzzle books, MP3, a rock biography, hand sanitizer, Tic-Tacs, a beanbag eye mask and earplugs, and some pretzels, but there is a big pocket on the front with only my petrified rock (for strength) in it. Just shove that to one side and there should be enough room for a few at least. Be sure and wear your wax lips. If you all make enough noise, maybe I can sneak out and they won't miss me.
I already made a friend at my first chemo, a wife of a Stage IV man (not B/C.) I eavesdropped the nurse's conversations with them it was his first week too. I saw every med. the nurse hung which was exactly what I was getting. So, I will have someone to compare S/Es with, but he didn't have the noeadjuvant or surgery because he is Stage IV.
Here's a question and I hope we have one or two that might fit this: Did any of you have neoadjuvant to shrink your tumor? If so, did you have adjuvant also AND was it the same chemo and the same number of rounds that others who did not do adjuvant get? What I am getting at is do neoadjuvant getters end up getting MORE than others, or do they get a shorter version of the adjuvant, if any?
When all is said and done, I will have gotten plenty.
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Now, if Mar had just said she opened up her campground place, the rest would go without saying. Just like if I say I was out riding my bike on the weekend, you could be quite sure it was neither raining nor too chilly. I was, in fact, out riding and smelling the blossoming trees on Sunday. Mmmm! So glad the Bradford Pear trees have finished up tho'...how can something that looks so pretty stink so bad? Maybe you have to be a bee to appreciate it.
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Eli, I had chemo before and after surgery. The schedule was 4X of one kind and 4X of another. Depending on response, I was to have surgery either after 4 or 6 of these TXs, but either way, I would get all 8 chemos. I ended up with surgery right in the middle, but the switch to a different chemo after surgery was only because that was the plan anyway.
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Momine, you got fluorouracil too, which is a part of what I get. So I got it low-dose beforehand, and now am looking at 12 rounds on top of that. That is a lot of flourouracil. (Yes, I am going to ask the NP today, but I have a feeling that they don't adhere to the "less is more" philosophy, like I do.)
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