MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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Thanks girls. I know that I can come here any time to let it all out. I have never really been one to "complain" but find that, yeah, it is a good idea to share.
Luv - my bs appt is on May 14. So a wee wait yet.
Eph - your grandma was a wise woman. Wish she was around when I got married -borrowed a bit of trouble there - lol
Happy Thursday everyone!
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Barsco, So sorry that you are saddled with something worrisome, and the suspense-filled waiting period that goes along with that. I'm not exactly sure what your findings were? Are you saying that the mammo and US were not showing the lump that you have felt? Yes, they might have to come at you with a biopsy to get to the bottom of this. As a wise friend of mine recently said: CANCER IS A PAIN IN THE LIFE!
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I love the Wax Lips ladies so much, I can't bear to part with them, so they are moving into the thread.
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Barsco- We all fear your sense of dread. I hope that you are able to let your mind focus on positive things until your appointment, knowing that many times our brains (and where our thoughts take us) can be our worst enemy. Our minds can be very keen when left to wander. But in many, many cases, whether BC-related, work-related, child-related, etc., the actual outcome of things that consume my thoughts almost always turn out to be minor or much better than expected. Please remind us of your appt date as it gets closer so we can be on-board for a PP!
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Barsco, so sorry you have to worry about this now. Does the 80% of lumps are benign still apply to BC patients? I'm always happy when the doctors are thorough, though.
What went through my head was "ignorance is bliss" - if you never saw those reports you wouldn't have this on your mind the next 2 weeks. Unfortunately, as cancer patients we are never allowed the luxury of "ignorance is bliss" again. We have no choice but to keep up with every single thing because our lives really do depend on it. Our non-BC friends, once again, have no idea what that's like. And it's huge.
Something similar happened to me last summer. The radiologist gave the suspicious area a Birads IVc or something. I was freaking out. But my BS was calm and said don't worry, I'm pretty sure I know what this is and it's nothing to worry about. It didn't stop me from freaking out, of course, haha. After all that fright, it was nothing and if this ever happens again I'm going to pay attention to what the BS says.
I hope you can find peace during your waiting period and that it all turns out to be your doctor just being extra cautious.
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Eli - your friend is very wise indeed. The mammo & US did see the lump and both do state benign. However the US states that further clinical evaluation is needed. Just worries me a bit as it is very similar to how the lump in my other breast presented.
Staynsane - I am glad that I am working these days. It sure gives me something else to focus on. And my co-workers are a hoot! I will definitely let everyone know of the appt date as it draws near - It's always fun when y'all tag along!
HNS - Ignorance IS bliss. However, since my original dx I think I would rather have the heads up about what is going on rather than have it hit me like a ton of bricks. I will get through the next couple of weeks - lots to keep me busy and beautiful weather to enjoy.
TGTF - Thanks Goodness Tomorrow's Friday!
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Barsco, May 14 is a good day...my 36th wedding anniversary. I'll give up all my happy thoughts for you that day. Thank heavens we can be honest and vent in here. I felt a lump about a year ago and said nothing except in here. I had a scheduled appt with my breast surgeon a week or so later and she felt it too. Immediate ultrasound which thankfully showed just another cyst. Point is...we all get it. Once bitten twice shy and all that shit!
Eli, love the page topper, and glad you kept the waxed lips lovely ladies
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I copied the wax lips ladies into my Word files. Who knows when you might need such a thing.
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No activity for a while, Middies, hope everyone is doing well. Busy weekend on my end, as usual.
E ~ Hope this past weeks Tx didn't wear you down too much. ((( hugs )))
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Got together yesterday with my two daughters and two grandsons (they each have one) for our Mother's Day outing cause I won't be home next weekend. First year with the grandbabies. Had a really, really good day. I hope all my middie pals had a good weekend too.
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marlegal - sounds like a wonderful weekend for you. I too quite enjoyed the weekend. Two great walks in the clear, fresh, warm air. One with my pup - well she is 8yrs but thinks she is a pup. Gotta love a lab! Another walk through the bush with DH to look for some yummy morales - no luck yet.
Wishing everyone a terrific week filled with good news, lots of laughs and plenty of love!
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Barsco, I had to laugh about your quest for morel mushrooms (which are very yummy,) because you have used the Cinco de Mayo spelling on that.
I almost felt like I had a virus this weekend, but its probably the chemo.
Not too many posting on the weekend...a lot of the "regulars" off doing Spring stuff, Newbies that haven't checked back yet, and where has Barbe been lately?
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Good morning came across this topic and laughed out loud. I am 49 and never felt middle aged til bc hit me! Reality bit me hard! I have perused some earlier posts ( not 800 pages lol) and this seems to be a wonderful place for the inspiration I need.
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Welcome, lpc! Good point. Middle-age + cancer FEELS a lot more middle-aged, doesn't it?
One more thing...So for about three years now I have been encouraging others to drink Ensure (or the like) to boost their protein intakes for healing or weight gain purposes. Well, I found out I don't like how the ensure tastes and what is worse is that I think the vitamine/minerals in the drink just upset my chemo stomach.
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Eli- I admit I've suggested Ensure to many patients have never tasted it. Did you try different flavors or maybe mix it with something? I had a pt who mixed Boost and fruit juice, don't know what flavor. I think she was not a sweets eater so much. Maybe diluting with melty ice cream.
Welcome lpc. We are crazeeey here but lots of good support. We have pocket parties for tests/appts/surgeries with Cheetos a must. Good to have you join the fun but a bummer you had to be here at all.
Busy Saturday. Took 3 goatie babies to vet for a playday. They were heavily loved on. Got to keep my vet happy. Little sunburn but more pollen/wind scorch. Made it to Sunday School yest. but skipped out on worship service. Lazy afternoon. Got to get crackin' on housework today. Off to optometrist tomorrow. At least he does not dilate my eyes but his numbing drops turn my eyes yellow. Look like I have a terminal case of jaundice - so after my late afternoon appt. guess I'm headed home. My glaucoma dr. uses a less yellow form, only minor jaundice. Means I need to get of house early is there is to be any retail therapy done. If I want something for Mother's Day will have to buy myself. Haven't spoken to DD in 2 weeks. Text last week that she was "busy" and would call me. Doubt she even knows M's D is this weekend. Know she's alive only because her work would have called me. Don't think I can get in her facebook though she says she doesn't hardly use it. But she is Independent so I can only blame myself (and DH too) LOL.
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Lpc, I hear you, lol. I was just thinking this morning that I still think of myself as early 40s, and I will have to get used to the idea that I am actually on the verge of 50.
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Imagine my surprise when I discovered my 50th will be spent in chemo chair! 25th anniversary two days before that and 1 day after I will miss sons graduation from nuke power school in Charleston! So many plans in the tank!
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welcome lpc - sucks that you are going to be in the chemo chair on your 50th. You'll have to make it double celebration on your 25th anniversary.
Eli - never knew there was a Cinqo de Mayo spelling for morels. Just knew that I would find no "morals" out in the bush. Learn something new everyday.
Luv - Hope you won't be seeing red out of those yellow eyes. Kind of ironic that we teach our children to be independent and then it comes back to bite us in the butt huh? For Mother's Day my son has offered to take me to my MRI appt. I think I'll have him toss in lunch and he's got a deal - lol
Off to see the onc tomorrow if anyone wants to come along for the ride. You will have to deal with my two sisters as well, which is not as easy as it may seem! Actually they would fit into this group quite well. A little on the crazy side.
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Oh yeah - just an FYI - saw Barbe over on the Canadian thread.
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Elimar, vitamins can make me nauseous and those Ensures taste vitamin-y to me. I remember my father shaking his head "no" when we tried to get him to drink them. I tried to drink them during chemo but just couldn't so then I started drinking Carnation Instant Breakfast instead - yummy! Maybe try those. I got the packets that you mix in with milk. I don't know if the cans taste good or not.
lpc - I felt like I was in my late 30's before I got diagnosed. I definitely feel middle-aged now, but hopefully I can go back to De Nile soon! Sorry you have to be here, but glad you found us. We're pretty good at making all this not feel so bad. And hey, that's no way to spend your 50th birthday! Be sure to remind us when it's coming up - I'm sure we'll have a party!
Barsco - would love to ride along to the onc and meet your sisters! Will you find out about the lump tomorrow? I think this calls for margaritas - it's close enough to Cinco de Mayo!
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Barsco - yes, along for the appt. tomorrow. Is this where you find out about your new lumpy friend? Crazy sisters sounds fine. I only have one brother whom I see once a year at Thanksgiving. Love him to death but we lead very different lives. Us low key, stay home. He and SIL off and going all the time, here, there. Not what I could do and DH would not do. in your pocket tomorrow. What snacks sound good?
OHH - see HNS has margos. How about nachos?
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Cheetos for Barsco's pockets. May a few mangos, tacos, burritos, & switching ethnicities- some Ouzo!!! WooHoo!
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Question. I had my Diep flap last August and I am all done with surgery and nipple reconstruction. My question is has anyone else had really stiff and sore shoulders after this surgery? I am working out with a trainer and noticed a fair amount of pain and figured it had to be the surgeries.
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Eph - Of course Cheetos must be present at any PP. Haven't had Ouzo in ages. Sounds like it's going to get a little wild in the pockets. Yeeeeehaw! You girls better make sure you have a DD to get you home safely.
HNS & Luv - margaritas and nachos would make great snacks to go along with everything Eph is bringing.
Tomorrow is appt with onc to see about the weight loss and nausea & early satiety. Find out about lumpy next week so save some energy for then!
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That Barsco sent me looking for morales in my bushes and I couldn't find either over here @))
I'll come along for the ride Barsco but no Cheetos for me.....sugar...yep, sucre a creme...yum yum! Xoxox Jo0 -
I don't think morales are found in bushes only amorales.
OK, who's bringing the nice warmed finger wipes for our Cheeto/nacho/mang/buritto covered fingers?
Kd6blk - Good question about your shoulders. Have you asked on Diep thread? Maybe someone on here knows the answer as well.
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Welcome Ipc. I was dx'd three weeks after my 50th. I was all cocky...look at me! I'm 50 but still hip and super healthy. Then whoops...cancer? What? That was almost 8 yrs ago, after the same chemo mix as you, and Tamox after. Glad you found our whacky bunch to help as much as possible as you go through your treatments.
Barsco, I'll be there tomorrow too. Wear the baggy pants please, I hate when all the crumbs fall on me and I have nowhere to put them0 -
Eli: A friend who's husband had pancreatic & esophageal cancer will NOT do Ensure but will do protein powder. He adds it to Instant Breakfast and juices. Not a commercial, but the brand he uses is Bene Protein. She's bringing me some to try.
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Kd6blk--I had DIEP in 2010. I had sore shoulders for while after that I figured was from the surgery and the hunched over position I was in for a while afterward. How long was your surgery? Mine was 19 hours, and anybody's whole body would be stiff and sore after being in one position that long! Keep working with your trainer, I'm sure it will get better!
A bit of trivia--Ensure and Carnation Instant Breakfast ( or store brand Instant Breakfast mixes) are pretty much the same thing. Compare the labels sometime, there is very little difference between the two when you mix the Instant Breakfast with whole milk. The instant breakfast mixes are more versatile, taste better to most people, and are a LOT cheaper.
I've also heard that Ensure, Boost, etc are easier to drink when really cold. Most people I've worked with cannot drink those straight but have to dilute them with something.
I was amused when my RO said NO to any vitamins, nutritional supplements, especially antioxidents during rads, but then suggested Ensure 3 times a day. Ensure is FULL of all that stuff! Turns out the company that makes Ensure "donates" cases of the stuff to the rad center. Makes me wonder what the real reason for the recommendation was.
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Mainer, that is quite hilarious about the Ensure. What can you do but roll your eyes.
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