MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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Lol, Eli!
Ok no more popcorn talk. I'm at the hair stylist b/c my DS said he got a great pic of my bald spot when he took a pic from behind of me looking at the statue of liberty in NYC. Out of the mouth of babes. So I am seeing what can be done. It is completely white now and I refuse to be that old. But when the roots grow out......
Hopefully I will not offend anyone dealing with hair loss.
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hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
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The hahas are for E's joke, not your hair loss maca
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haven't laughed this hard in a long time, thanks so much Elimar! Funny visual. Glad I'm reading it now, if DH were here, he'd be yelling at my laughter. I see what you mean about the header pic, didn't get it at first.
Macatacmv, I'm there with you! Got my hair cut really short a couple weeks ago as I was tired of looking at how thin it's gotten (it's already baby fine). Hurts to look at the back of my head..0 -
Speaking of nuts...
http://news.yahoo.com/eating-nuts-tied-lower-risk-death-221348223.html0 -
Eli~, if those are boobs, there are four women in extremely close proximity and it looks like all four are smiling!0 -
if you happen to be among those who loved those books where you can see things in other things...I forget the name...try it with Eli's page topper...it gets three dimensional!
Hub and I love the good nuts...several bags in the kitchen. We usually include them as snacks when packing our lunch, or with a cold beer on weekends. Gotta say, they taste better with a beer!0 -
Mormine- those are lovely shoes. I can no longer wear any healed shoes at all but I always thought he " hooker shoes " were the ones that have these huge platforms that elevate a tiny person several inches taller. I am 5' 6" so never walked very well in anything over a 2 inch heel.0 -
Grammy, I refer to anything that is a bit over the top as "hooker shoes." I do not normally wear heels, but for special occasions I sometimes put up with the pain.0 -
I'm 5'8" and have always loved wearing high heels. When I dated a guy 5'10" I stopped, but now I can pretty much wear my highest heels and not tower over DH. In fact I am wearing stripper shoes in my avatar, can you tell?0 -
Meece, my dh is not much over 5'10" and I am very close to 5'8". He never complains when I wear heels
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I think it was just a dating thing. Once in awhile DH will say "My you're tall today." But he doesn't complain. He's 6'1"0 -
Eli - "Clearly I can see your nuts" LOL I must admit that the first thing I thought of when I saw the page topper was "breast prints". Maybe it's because there is a picture in the MRI waiting room here that shows prints of several women's boobs. I guess it is to raise "awareness" but I think it is just kinda weird.
As for "hooker" or "stripper" shoes, I would be ok as long as I didn't have to walk in them. It's been a few yrs since I have been able to wear them successfully. My poor old back just can't handle them - plus I look about as graceful as an elephant dancing a ballet when trying to walk in them.0 -
Oh you ladies really know how to lift my spirits.
I really needed that today - I received news that a friend and fellow firefighter passed away suddenly yesterday. I'ts sad but being a firefighter was one of his greatest loves only coming second to his wife and family. Thank you for not only making me smile but I actually laughed out loud a couple of times (considering that I am alone in my office) it may make people start to wonder about my sanity.
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jcolford - so sorry to hear about your friends passing. It is good to know that we can come here to have our spirits lifted on any given day. As far as others wondering about the sanity thing, well.......keep em guessing is what I always say.0 -
When I had my cancer and then when I had to go get my rounds of poison, the clinic staff would always inquire, "How are you today?" I had to warn them that as long as I was in treatment, they would never get a "good" out of me, the best they could hope for was an "o.k." Well, today, I went to the MO and finally got to tell everyone that I feel GREAT. I stopped down at my RO's office too. He was out, but I visited with my rads tech and told him I was doing wonderfully.
I still have a few numbers on the CBC that need to come up a little, and I do have the stupid numb feet, but time is marching on and so am I. No looking back at the horribleness I have been through. I have to play catch up on things like dental, gyn, and my PCP (so he doesn't de-activate me after not going to him for 3 years) but other than that, I am on my own until next March. I think I will just sit back and enjoy my FREEDOM today.
The shackles of cancer cannot hold me!0 -
March on and be free Eli!!
So glad you can honestly say you are feeling GREAT!0 -
Elimar, what a GREAT feeling! Whenever I feel "free at last"" this song goes through my head. I especially liked the choir chiming in on this version - so gloriously over the top!0 -
yes, Eli Congrats!!! Freedom marcher 👠 you go!!! Jo0 -
I'm so glad you all are here! I think I've gained more info here than at the cancer center. I was told that because my cancer was invasive I couldn't have immediate recon. If they did recon immediately and I needed radiation they said the new breasts would be destroyed. Does that sound correct?
I did check on disability but was told I'd only qualify if they deemed me to need a year off. Pfft, yeah, THAT'S gonna happen! (insert sarcasm here )
I checked on the Pink Ribbon Fund. I don't qualify, but maybe someone else might? I have an app if anyone here needs info.
I work for a public school system so I qualify for FMLA, just not st disability. Staysane you're right. I do need to breathe! I get stressed and morph into cotton brain anyways. So, it's best for me to stay coherent.
THANKS FOR ALL THE WELCOME AND ADVICE!0 -
Eli ~ It's encouraging to see someone who's come out the other side. Congrats!0 -
JoC, You have been absent from here for a while. (Don't think I did not notice!) You must tell us how YOU have been feeling.
HnS, I don't think I have heard that with the symphony before. Enjoyed the righteous Daltrey wailing in this version.
Today, I told more than one person that I had another 30 years left in me. Probably just my bravado. (But if that's what it was, I should have set my sight even higher!) I should try the visualization of my goal, but I have my eyes full of wrinkles just looking in the mirror lately.0 -
TessaW, Yes, that sounds about right for the recon./radiation. I am guessing that your B/C might be near the chest wall? Sometimes, with a tumor very deep near the chest wall, they like to radiate. Or it may have something to do with how your nodes look in the surgical pathology. I don't have a response for you about getting disability. Maybe another Middie knows and will respond.
Also, I'm not quite out of the woods yet, but I figure if I can get three years of clear scans (for another cancer) at which time I will be about seven years out from B/C, then I will be doing pretty good. Meanwhile, going to live cancer-free until they inform me otherwise.0 -
You little overachiever Eli. Congratulations. Are the page toppers breaking free too???
Tessa - so what do the other disabled employees do or do they do without???? I know there is another thread on here for disability but I think it is for Stage IV. You might do a search for the topic. Wish I could help.0 -
TessaW- Back when I first took time off work I had only been w/the company 3 years so was kind of pleasantly surprised re disability. I had to first use up all vacation/personal time and then I got short term disability I think during my 6 week post op plan. I did go back to work after 6 weeks and still getting chemo. I then worked another 18 months before becoming permanently disabled d/t walking and neuropathy issues. I did lose my health insurance for a while until I officially disabled for 2 years then Medicare kicked in along with SS. By then I was 61. It also help to have a very helpful and understanding MO.0 -
E~ Love hearing your 'freedom' news.0 -
Catching up...
Momine, love the shoes! Can you walk in them?
Elimar, love the new header pic - breaking free? Congrats on feeling great, even if only one day at a time...0 -
Tessa, yes that is correct about the rads potentially messing up the recon. Also, when you need extensive treatment, many doctors prefer to delay the recon, because it is very common to have complications in connection with recon and they do not want such complications to delay your cancer treatment.
I was initially told I could have immediate recon, and then they changed their minds when they realized how serious the situation was. My doc asked me to delay recon for two years. Those two years were up in September, but I doubt I will ever reconstruct. When they asked me to delay, I was a bit freaked at first, but now I am grateful to have had the extra time to think about it, research, look at pictures and also get used to just being flat (although I usually wear small, light foobs).0 -
2nd time, yes, of course. I do not wear shoes I can't walk in. But it doesn't take long for my feet to hurt, when I wear heels. One exception are the ones below. I have even danced in those:
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Yay Eli! As one of your groupies pulling for you through your latest struggle, it gives me personal joy to hear how positive you feel. I'm sure I'm not alone. It makes the words "you can do this and you will get through it" have more meaning.
TessaW- I feel compelled to mention that my BS initially told me that it would be best to do recon later (rather than placing an expander at the time of my mast) because he was concerned that radiation might be indicated. But I'm a "git er done" kind of gal, and knew I would want recon and the thought of an extra surgery later to have the TE placed didn't appeal to me. He agreed that the decision could be made during surgery when the initial pathology came back. My PS was there, and the decision was made to go ahead with TE placement (sentinel node was clear and they were confident they had good margins). So I didn't know ahead of time if I would have a TE when I woke up, but I did. I'm an "over-achiever" in the recuperation department, and my recovery was really fast and painless. I have heard from women that the TE caused them a lot of discomfort, so like many decisions, this is a very personal one and you really have to listen to your inner voice and have peace, knowing you will make the decision that best suits you.0
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