MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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A good pair of jeans- now isn't that a question for the ages!! I have had good luck with lands end and talbots- both can be pricey but both go on sale- you can try on lands end ones if you have a sears nearby. Lands End will hem to your inseam and talbots has a length that works for my not-quite petite and not-quite average inseam.
I don't think "plumber's crack" is attractive on anyone especially me so I like jeans that stay up when I bend over, don't gap when I sit down and that I don't need to worry about a bikini wax they are so low....0 -
Regarding jeans, I'll just add that I bought a pair of Not Your Daughters Jeans at Ross last weekend on clearance for $19.99! I'm tall, and I figure they were in the clearance section because they were long (perfect!). I purchased the same brand about a year ago and loved the stretch in the fabric- absolutely the most comfortable jeans I own, but they were a little large (size 6). Years ago I consistently wore a size 10 pant, but my latest purchase was a size 4. The manufacturers are really screwing around with sizing, I think to make women feel better. I am the same size I have been for many years and figure within a couple more years I'll be a size zero without making any changes to my physique!
The other pairs that I love are by Paige. Also expensive, but I buy them at TJ Max or Marshalls. They too have some stretch to the fabric. I am in jeans every day for work, and will never go back to jeans without "give" in the denim! They also have a lower waist and do not look like "mom jeans."0 -
I've heard that downsize-of-the-sizing called Vanity Sizing. How true! I went thru' some months a few years ago, not knowing what size to buy or even take into the fitting room. Eventually got it figured out, and then it finally made sense how some of these celebrities were a size zero.
While finding the perfect jeans has nothing to do with B/C, it has everything to do with middle-age; but, Newbies, fear not...B/C info and support is a top priority around here, so even if we are off on a tangent, do jump in with any concern you may be having. We can switch gears unbelievably quickly, and don't mind in the least.0 -
Staynsane, lol, same here. I used to be a 10 twenty-five years ago, now I am a 4/6, except I am the same size. Scratching head.0 -
I'm the same size but instead of a 14-16 I now have to try on 18-22s. THAT is not vanity sizing!0 -
Eph, as I was reading the other posts, I was thinking...hhmmmm.....things must change after size12-14 because I'm buying larger and I'm the same! Thanks for saving me
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Gotcher back Marl!0 -
Ok, we have proved that there is no rhyme or reason to sizing these days! The size number means nothing and I don't pat myself on the back for seemingly getting smaller year by year; it's just baloney!0 -
Wow .............I feel like I have missed so much! WE have SMILEYS back!
So much has happened, welcome all of the newbies, beautiful.... ring good for you Dianarose 
jeans, parties, Halloween, Pocket parties that I missed 
! I did think about and pray for you ladies while I was gone. Going back to work full time (daycare) zapped me ..........
I've been dealing with some things also that I needed to just sit back and digest. I had my colonoscopy and had two polyps removed which turned out to be pre cancer, good thing I finally was forced to have the colonoscopy by my doctor. Now I'm on the three year plan!
I also have been to the 2 nd dermatologist ( the 1st one didn't do anything but stick a needle in my hip with cortisone which ticked my family dr. off ) the hair loss that I am having is permanent the bald spots are here to stay, it is not going to grow back. The hair follicles are destroyed and there is noting they can do about it. Now I am going to have two biopsies on the 25th to see if they can figure out what is attacking my head and hair. They need to figure this out soon...... I cry every time I see this hair coming out and know now that it will not come back.
On Tuesday I saw the PS for a final check, I have one squishy and one not so squishy boob. She doesn't think that the lefty will soften up but to keep the message up. The good news is that the fat grafting looks good and so do the boobs. It's just sort of strange feeling the difference.
Two weeks ago my son went to Lincoln to watch the Husker game ( we live in Omaha) He gets all the way to Lincoln, on the party bus, when he notices that he doesn't have his tickets. So yes, good old mom was called, in my hurry to get the tickets to him I bent over wrong to tie my shoes and hear this POP, yep my back, now I've been through two back surgeries and know this is not good, I did drive to Lincoln got the ticket to my son on time before the game started but couldn't even walk the rest of the weekend. Sitting was the worse part of it.
I go back to the family doctor tomorrow to find out about my back and shoulder, I have a small rotator cuff tear and not sure what the next step is. I am literally falling apart and scared but other than that things are wonderful. Ha Ha
Sorry I just needed to vent to someone! If anyone has anything on not so squishy boobs and hair loss I would be open to hear about it~0 -
Kat, You did a good thing, getting rid of the little troublemakers (polyps.) Going every three years for a check IS annoying but, trust me, you never want to give anything a chance to develop. I'm sorry you are falling apart. From middle-age on, it is so hard to make headway in the health dept., but keep at it and try not to become too frustrated. I do think the boob hardness may still resolve. It takes months, and it really has not been that long since your surgery, so give it more time. No knowledge of the hair loss issue. Isn't it just amazing how many things still are stumping the doctors in this day and age of all of our technological marvels?0 -
Katlebbie - ((hugs)) Sorry that you are dealing with so much. Glad those polyps were found and taken before they could cause any trouble.
Sending best wishes to you for better days ahead.0 -
Katlebbie,0 -
Loral,
I love this and it soooo holds true for us on this board. All the best!!!0 -
Love the new header pic, but it makes me dizzy!0 -
Ha! Lego Escher, two childhood faves in one.0 -
Correct, Momine. That IS a Lego representation of Dutch graphic artist M.C. Escher's "Relativity."
In case anyone wonders what that has got to do with B/C, all I can say is who hasn't felt like they had days of not knowing which end was up?0 -
My brother is a lego freak. He is one of those people who buys it for his kids so that he can play with it himself. He also works on the lego commercials every year. Not so strange, since it was almost the only toy we had as kids, except for art supplies and brio trains.0 -
Barsco, Loral and El thanks for the support and the advice, I needed it! My primary doctor put me on steroids and a muscle relaxer today she is hoping it helps with all three conditions. I go back in a week if the shoulder and back are not better I will need a MRI which I agree with. The biopsy is the 25th so now I wait.
El~ I love all of the wonderful headings you post, where do you get all those wonderful ideas? How are you feeling these days?
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Thank you, Kat, for the compliment. There's no accounting for taste, and I don't claim to have any, so I just post what I like up there (which I just find on image sites) and everyone else is welcome along on the ride.
I have to say that, after reading the horror stories of the "potty training" which follows the reversal surgery, I thought I might have months and months of adjustment. However, here it is only a month after my surgery, and I am doing very well. In the past two weeks I have used very little Imodium, like maybe a half tablet just a couple times. Part of that is that I am in my home, so never too far from a bathroom, but I am rarely out of control anymore. I think I was reading accounts of people that lost larger segments of intestine because, overall, I am doing great by comparison.
Hope those meds bring you some relief pronto.0 -
Eli - glad that you are in control and doing so well. You are once again proving that you are an overachiever.0 -
WTG, EL!0 -
hi ladies! Time for me to jump from the shadows into the light of this thread! Hoping you're taking new members. Probably started lurking around Halloween - my 1 year anniversary of my 2nd mx. Started BCO shortly after DX, needed the threads to get me thru the info and surgeries, then found the games which continue to occupy my time and brain. Now it's been time to find the "new normal" phase. I find this thread very interesting. Btw, I'm at the upper end of the "age range" but who cares? Have been told I can pass for the lower age range (well, at times). I love the Lego pic at the top of the header - I can relate as I often feel like I'm going in circles!0 -
2nd time, welcome! We are always happy to have fresh blood (muaw!) and we are not picky about age
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I'm happy you found this site 2nd It's full of wonderful ladies who do not judge they just give laughs and advice and they have this wonderful support that is full of pocket parties so you are never alone.......something I needed to remember. Loral's post about strength is helping me get through some rough times right now along with the others.
Maddy my brain is so fuzzy right now from everything and google researching but I will get back to you and email you this weekend..... I promise You hang in there girl ......... many (((HUGS))) I don't think you have been getting enough of those lately!0 -
Welcome, 2TA! I am going to assume that you grew a brand new primary and did not have a recurrence after 16 years, right? Apparently the Cancer Gods (Demons!) felt sorry that you missed out on the joys of the hormonal drugs the first time around. So, what happened with the Arimidex? I see you made the switch to Tamox. Did you go without left recon. all those years? How are you liking your recon. results now (and feel free to comment on any residual hardness, as we have been on that topic recently.)0 -
Welcome 2ndtime - Glad to have you aboard regardless of where you fall in the "age range". We are all here for each other, to share, support and encourage.0 -
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Haha, that's a good one Loral!
Good news! My brain MRI came back fine! And yes, now that it's all over I'm glad that I did it.
Momine - sounds like your brother found just the right job for him!
Elimar - congratulations, you little over-achiever, you! I'm so glad the old normal is almost back.
AIM HIGH EVERYONE!
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Look what I found in NYC. They were fenced off in Battery Park with a sign reading "being renovated". Boy did I embarrass my kids by 1. laughing like crazy 2. taking pictures of them. Can any one relate? Talk about non squishy boobs.
Thanks for the sentiment loral, since we were in NY celebrating my bday. We had a great time. I definitely did not act my age. (except when I had to go to the hotel every afternoon to take a nap.)
I also survived my sleep study night and shopping for new jeans. lol! The topics we have been chatting about are certainly important for things going on in my life. I had my personal shopper with me, my DD. She is a great clothing critic, but also pushes me beyond my comfort level sometimes. I came home with some "cool" new outfits. I am still trying to get the sticky areas off my body from the tape that held on some of the wires from the sleep (not) study.
Next week I have my mammo appt and see my BS PA. I am not going to worry about it. What ever it is, it is. Last year I was a nervous wreck.0 -
oh, hns, that is great news!!!!
eli, glad it is all coming out all right. (snicker, snicker)
Also, we went to the Lego store at Rockefeller Center. It was amazing!! My son was mesmorised. He is 28. lol0
