The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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Oh Kay I'm hardly ever right--but Thank you. U know I don't know much about the medical sides of things, just what I've been thru. And I learned that from the nurses. hahaha
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Wish I didn't have to add to this post but after spending a week in the hospital, I have a few beauts to add. How are healthcare workers so clueless?
My favorite. I'm in the emergency room (for hours) with breathing problems related to pleural effusion waiting to be admitted. I'm alone since DH is home with my 9 year old. I'm pretty tough and told him to stay home and just come up in the morning when she goes to school and we had family picking her up after. My nurse, Richard, I guess in an effort to 'connect' with me felt he had to tell me about how his 54 year old mother left his family too soon after dying of colorectal cancer. Oh yeah, that makes this 49 year old mother of a 9 year old feel really great. Don't they give them training in nursing school that says 'do not tell sick people about people who have died'. It doesn't cheer them up.
Most of the nurses/techs were good with few not so good. I had one nurse who kept talking to me about God even though I told her I was not a believer and she offered to do a massage on my shoulders and she basically just was trying to do this guided imagery thing. Horrible. Thankfully I only had her for one shift. She also let me know she was skilled in pain management and works for hospice. thanks. I want to think about hospice right this very second.
But her best remark was when checking my breathing she asks me if I'm going to do reconstruction. Why are you asking me that? What does it have to do with my care for pleural effusions. Why would I want to discuss it with you instead of a plastic surgeon? It was weird.
Just to show I'm not overly sensitive, when i was getting dressed to leave, the nurse assisting me (who just came on shift and was very nice) asked me if I had a bra. I said 'don't need those anymore'. She realized what she did and apologized but I was laughing. that I thought was funny. I think she was relieved.
My other favorite comment of the week was from my sister who implied that it was my fault that I was in the hospital because I wasnt paying enough attention to my health. Of course she has no idea that I've been through dozens of tests and drs appts in the past 6-9 months trying to figure out what is wrong with me. She always knows best.
Sigh.
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Reality - I'm so sorry about what you went through. Wow.
Aussie Sheila - I'd love to deck that tech who made the lymphadema comment. What a jerk!
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Gah, you would think people who are in the medical field would know better.
Dumbest thing I had happen in the hospital was after my mast. They were moving me from recovery to a normal room and were helping me off the gurney and onto the bed. One of the nurses was going to lift me by my arm pit. I kinda freaked out before she actually touched me so she didn't do it, but she should have known better than to even try in the first place. "Oh you were just cut open there? Let me poke it a little bit!"
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Annie, my sister is always right too, because she was a nurse 100 years ago and knows everything up-to-date!!! NOT!!
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Annie that's a long time in the hospital, I'm sorry u had to go thru all that. But what a combination of people u had. Wow made it interesting for u.
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Good Lord, people are idiots. I'm so sorry you ladies had that happen to you. I mean, I'm not perfect and I've certainly stuck my foot in my mouth more often than I'd like to admit, but I've never pushed or pulled on someone's fresh surgery site! And yes, I've had the opportunity, as I've worked in a hospital for nearly 30 years; but somehow, I've managed not to do that. Gee, Louise!
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Riley as a nurses aide having to be in 20 different places at once....sometimes we are not told what is happening with the patient that is right in front of us. It happened to me recently. I even asked about the patient. But I was NOT given very pertinent info. Because of HIPPA many things are not shared with me & other health professionals because they feel it's not important for us to know for there patient care. Yes in some cases it's not, but more & more much is left out that can make a big difference. I didn't stick my foot in my mouth in front of the patient ( I was very frustrated behind the scenes) my supervisor said because I myself have cancer I should know better! But as there was many other circumstances surrounding this situation (that I can't discuss here or anywhere) The long & short of all is that Aides were left in the dark about many things that could of changed our approach of care for this patient. If a nurse is brought in from another part of the hospital she/he needs to be made aware of what is going on! Sad but true! I will say that someone should of given a quick run down of what was up with you DAY! You plan out even if right in front of you how to move you safely to achieve the least amount of pain! I do it all the time especially if I am working with someone I don't normally work with.
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Julz I believe u cuz I'd have the pink wrist thin on my arms not to use for B/P but a couple of times I was all covered up and they o to take it and then see about my wrists and were usually suprised (i it was someone I didn't know) so I figured they're really not aware of all thins especially when u only see the aide once.
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I had my double mastectomy on Friday. I can't tell you how many times drs mostly asked me what I was having for a procedure. Whether that was so they would do the correct procedure but what is wrong with asking the patient? If the patient doesn't want u to know the. They won't tell. Unless of corse the patient is under anesthia.
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Ouchhh!! You just can't fix stupid! On a lighter note, a co-worker was inquiring about my post-surgery treatment and asked if "they were monitoring my PSA levels closely"!!
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LOL, Jomama! Did you tell her you didn't have a prostate?
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No...I just shook my head in wonderment, thinking: Probably the only two medical conditions I am NOT at risk for are erectile dysfunction and prostate cancer!
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Jomama Hilarious hahahahaha
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wahoo, FRIDAY and I get to sleep in tomorrow! well til 8:3o but better than 7 Ish!
have a lovely morning
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PSA can indicate breast cancer issues. It is only temporarily named PSA, until the scientific world contects all cancers. Even if only tangentially.
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Wow, Kay, did not know that. But what are the odds that other person did?
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When I found out about having bc, i called my family which were very supportive but my aunt who thinks that stay at home moms isnt really a job or if you arent working then there is something wrong, actually asked me "well how long do you think you will be out of work?" I was like What??? Really??? I have no idea!! WTC!! Now that I have had my BMX she doesnt understand that I have to do NOTHING....I had two of my sisters come help out around the house and she just didnt understand why I needed help? But she did say that she is here for my throughout my journey! Yeah sure you are! Your the first person I want to call when I don't feel well!!
Also my older sister made a comment that "she's not gonna really get upset until I am in hospice"!!! WHAT!!!! Of course I said something about how insensitive it was and she explained that she just didnt see the need to get upset. I was like really?? I couldnt talk to her for a few days.... She did apologize and came to help at my house and when she helped empty my drains and change my wounds and saw how awful the wounds were she cried...I had her take pictures to show my aunt! Well my aunt has seen the pictures and she cried but hasnt changed her thinking..oh well!
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Day, in all fairness, what does an LD flap mean to a lay person? There are SO many procedures done that the acronyms must be a jumble in most helpers heads. BUT, I think the point is she PUSHED!!! Like Doi!! Does she think that was a viable option if everyone is having trouble moving you????
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They should of had a drawl sheet under you to lift & slide you from the gurney to the bed. One side pulls & the other pushes/guides. You need nursing staff tall enough with enough muscle to do this. With a drawl sheet the length of the body you don't touch the body only barely & you can strategically plan where the points that will have contact with your hands full of rolled up sheet! If someone has breast surgery they are gonna have pain from the shoulder to the waist at least that is what I would think!
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Day, that is just inexcusable!!!! How horrid that you experienced this and it is so vivid in your mind and yet so long ago. Definitely traumatic!!
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gonzard I' sorry had to prove how horrid cancer is. The word alone is scary enough. Bt to be treated so nonchalantly abot it amazes me in this day and age. And needin all the support can get at least 'r sister came arond.
Day how awfl for --when have any kind of recon it's a totally different thing, srgery is so long--when u jst have a masectomy it's mch less time and really no pain, ncortable yes--bt not real pain--so had to be a mess.
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