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  • coni
    coni Member Posts: 181
    edited January 2012

    Yeah it's called diep, I can't do it cause I don't have enough fat So i'm thinking implants it is for me ... 3-6 months wait list .... Thinking saline implants

  • isa
    isa Member Posts: 11
    edited January 2012
    Hello!
    I will be in 2 months 34.
    Those days I'm waiting my Oncotype result .

    Is any of you with good score? 
  • kadeegirl
    kadeegirl Member Posts: 1
    edited January 2012

    I'm 15 with DCIS, i feel so out of place..even on this website. theres no people my age i can stick with and have similar feelings with..if anyone knows anybody that is a teenager with breast cancer you should tell them to message me on hear..i'd like to have someone to relate to<3

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Member Posts: 743
    edited January 2012

    kadeegirl so sorry you are here!!!  It is sad that anyone gets BC, but you are just 15 how awful.  I am not sure if there are any other woman your age on hear, I am sure if there is someone will let ya know.  Good luck sweetie!  Do you know what the plan is yet?

  • arenee98
    arenee98 Member Posts: 5
    edited January 2012

    I'm 31 and was diagnosed 2 weeks before my wedding this past October.  Everyone asks me how married life is and I don't know what to tell them because I haven't had just married life without cancer thrown in.  No children yet and bummed because I'll probably be going on Tamoxifen eventually and the doctor says at least 4 years before even trying for kids.  I have 6 more weeks of chemo, then I'll be having some sort of surgery.  Blessings to everyone here. :)

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    hey 

    am not a teenager but am 24 i can help u as well :) join ladies in their 20s thread u will be welcomed  

  • borntosurvive
    borntosurvive Member Posts: 194
    edited January 2012

    I am 33 and was diagnosed on 11/11/11 (lucky me!!).  I had my double mastectomy on Nov. 22/11 and started dose dense ACT on Dec. 30/11.  I am 3 treatments in and have 1 more A/C treatment left before moving to the Taxol.  So far chemo has not be great for me.  I reacted to a med they gave me for the first round.  I have had some pretty significant stomach issues (cramps etc) and have just felt awful most of the time.  I have a 3 year old and an 19 mon old at home.  It's hard to watch them suffer through this as I cannot do the things I'd like to be able to do with them.  I am left feeling like a pretty awful Mom most of the time and hope that when this is all over they won't remember. 

  • khegidio
    khegidio Member Posts: 4
    edited February 2012

    Hey ladies. I am 35 and was diagnosed with stage IIb, grade II at 35 - last September. I started chemo almost immediately and I had my last round on 1/4/12. I am currently in the hospital recovering from my bmx with immediate free tram reconstruction. I am hoping this is the last step for me, that no more treatment will be needed. My hair still hasn't grown back in. Can't wait for that.

  • Corrie
    Corrie Member Posts: 3
    edited February 2012

    Just wanted to say hi. I was diagnosed shortly after my 31 birthday, since then I've had double mastectomy, radiation and now on tamoxifen. I'm not married but my boyfriend has been wonderful. I'm sorry there's so many of us but it's nice to know I'm not the only one.

  • Biologybrain
    Biologybrain Member Posts: 18
    edited February 2012

    I'm 30 and a 2 1/2 years survivor. I've been married to my husband for 5 years. We have a son who is turning 4 on Valentine's day. We also have our miracle baby girl who is 2, but went through chemo in utero. I was dx with BRCA2 stage 2 at 20 weeks pregnant and 28 years old. I did FAC chemo while pregnant, followed by Taxol/Taxotere after delivery. Then I had a BMX with expander reconstruction. After a year I had my exchange surgery followed by intense chronic pain. I've now had TRAM flap reconstruction and a reduction in pain. However, I'm now undergoing testing for thoracic outlet syndrome/brachial plexus injury. I work full-time sort of (my pain levels and inability to fully use my left arm have me on FMLA allowances).

  • coni
    coni Member Posts: 181
    edited February 2012

    hello ladies...

    welcome to new ladies, its very sad to see how many more of us are getting affected by cancer..and its seems to be getting younger and younger...I have done it all finished chemo april 2011, double mastectomy may 2011, rads july 2011removed ovaries in Aug....its not easy, but with the support and faith u find the strength...

    Kadeegirl - Im so sorry u are facing this at such a young age... its not easy in our 30's just get a lot of support...

  • galena_79
    galena_79 Member Posts: 29
    edited February 2012

    Hi there everyone

    I'm 32, and was diagnosed with IDC nearly three months ago.  It has been the most difficult three months of my life.  I chose to have a mastectomy last month after an MRI found several suspicious areas.  This turned out to be the right decision as three cancerous areas were found.

    I've healed up okay since my surgery, and my ROM isn't too bad.  I will keep working on it.  I will be starting chemo in ten days.  Each step has been very new and scary.  It's nice to be able to talk about it openly on this forum.

    kadeegirl:-

    My heart goes out to you!  It is understandable that you feel out of place.  Going through breast cancer would be incredibly difficult as a teenager, a time when fitting in feels so important.

    I believe there is a thread for girls in their 20s, which you may feel more comfortable expressing yourself in.  However, please feel free to share your thoughts in this thread if you like.

    Kia Kaha everybody,
    Angela 

  • November_11_11
    November_11_11 Member Posts: 1
    edited February 2012

    I am 33 and was diagnosed on November 11, 2011.  I'm in the midst of chemo, it's been really tough both physically and emotionally.  

    I had a meltdown this afternoon, while sobbing I decided to register to this site, posted a comment about how alone I felt and within minutes I was greeted by women with support and sending me love.  So sad there are so many of us on here but thankful we are. 

  • sanbar8771
    sanbar8771 Member Posts: 36
    edited February 2012

    I am 34 and was diagnosed 5/2010... I was 33 then and newly engaged. I was bald as a bat on my wedding day.  I had a BMX with immediate recon but the left expander had 3 infections... yes.. 3 infections. I had expanders in for 1 year and in Nov 2011 I finally got the silicone implants. They look amazing. I also had ACT DD chemo and now Im on zoladex and tamox. I do not have any children and I dont think I will try after tamox. My husband does not want me to be put at risk again. Oh I am also BRCA2+ (unspecified variant)... yay me.

    Kadeegirl, my heart goes out to you.  I can't imagine being 15 and dealing with this. There is a group called young survivor coalition and they are great. You can meet other women who have the same issues. Actually, we are all going though the same concerns no matter what age. Hang in there it will get better. You can always PM me if you want. Big hug.

    Julie C

  • Kim137
    Kim137 Member Posts: 105
    edited February 2012

    November, you are not alone! I was diagnosed Sept. 9th, bilateral mastectomy 10/13, started chemo 11/17. Radiation is next on the list! I just finished chemo yesterday. I had 8 rounds of DD ACT. I've been on an emotional roller coaster that just won't stop! I will say I have many more good days than bad days, but when The water works start they are very hard to stop. So allow yourself to have a meltdown. Cry, scream, punch a pillow....but then remember to breathe and laugh at yourself when possible. We're all in this together!

  • Hopingforthebest33
    Hopingforthebest33 Member Posts: 21
    edited March 2012

    Hi born to survive, I am also 33 and have  Triple negative, with no lymph node involvement .You more then likely will have chemo and radiation. I am finishing the last three cycles of my chemo and then starting 5 weeks of radiation. I was pregnant through this whole process and just finished delivering my baby 8 weeks premature. He is doing great and so am I and know that you are not alone and you will get through this even though sometimes it feels like you won't!

  • lea33
    lea33 Member Posts: 3
    edited March 2012

    Hello ladies! This thread comforts me and saddens me simultaneously. I am 33 and was diagnosed this month with DCIS. I am having a BMX on Friday the 2nd and am feeling pretty nervous.  It is good to have company on this journey although I would wish it away for all of you if i could.

  • raffomimi
    raffomimi Member Posts: 25
    edited April 2012

    Hi GIrlies,

    I was DX when I was 38. Had a double BMX August last year, I started Chemotherapy October and finished end of December. I am hoping to have reconstruction this year and I'm pencilled in for a full hysterectomy in the next 6 months(My aunt died aged 35 of cancer, possibly ovarian but not 100% sure) but getting the the womb, ovaries and cervix removed.

    Lea33 you will be ok, you WILL get through this and we are all here for you.

    Blessings anad hugs

    Maria. 

  • Madismommy719
    Madismommy719 Member Posts: 377
    edited March 2012

    Lea.... big hugs to you, you're going to be ok!!  I had my BMX in June 2011 and remember how terrified I was going into it.... I promise you that you're going to get through it! 

    So... I know I've introduced myself on this thread in the past but it's been awhile.... here's my story.... My name's Jenn, I am from the Chicagoland area.... I was diagnosed with BC in April 2011 at the age of 35.  No family history of any cancers, I'm the first.  I was first diagnosed with DCIS and had a BMX with immediate recon. on June 14, 2011.  A week later when I went to have my drains pulled i found out there was lymph node involvement and I was infact stage IIA.  I ended up having the dreaded AND on July 13 to determine just how much it had spread and luckily my additional 16 nodes all came back negative.  I started chemo on August 30th and finished up 6 rounds of TAC on December 13th.  I'm now anxiously waiting for my hair to grow, trying to get back to "normal" life and been keeping busy with work and my 8 year old daughter. I am also having my exchange surgery this coming Monday to finally get rid of these expanders, but i'm dreading being cut open for the 3rd time in a year.  :(

    Why must breast cancer take SO much from all of us? 

    I'm sorry we are all going through any of this....we're all WAY too young.... but i'm very grateful for a support system like this site.... it's definitely easier knowing i'm not alone.  I just wish none of us had to go through it.  Now my one wish is my daughter never does!!!!!  

  • lea33
    lea33 Member Posts: 3
    edited March 2012

    Thank you ladies! Your encouragement means a lot and  your stories give me hope!  I am keeping busy this evening cleaning and hoping that time goes quickly. 

  • christina0001
    christina0001 Member Posts: 449
    edited March 2012

    madismommy - normal life...sometimes i wonder if by the time i get through this, i'll remember what "normal" life is... does it ever really go back to "normal"? Or will it be a new "normal"? I don't know. It makes me sad sometimes, cancer has shaded every aspect of my life.

  • Madismommy719
    Madismommy719 Member Posts: 377
    edited March 2012

    Christina... I think we have to go through the phases of mourning our old normal life and accept our new normal. I don't know about you but I truly feel a black cloud will be forever lingering off in the distance and my fear and anger of what I went through will always be there. Every time I get a headache or my knee hurts I immediately panic that it's more cancer. Will that ever go away? I hope so but I don't think so.

    I get sad sometimes too...you are definitely not alone!!! And I think it's ok for us to feel sad or angry sometimes, we should.... Cancer came up to me and smacked me upside the head, I felt great....I took care of myself, I'm a good person, I love life.....and my life has been completely turned upside down. I have had a mix of emotions this whole journey. I definitely have a "new normal".

  • katylynn
    katylynn Member Posts: 2
    edited March 2012

    Hi ladies. I can't sleep and came on here for some information then decided to check out the discussions.  I just got my biopsy results back today and the diagnosis is IDC. I had felt a lump on my right side about a month ago and finally got it checked out. Turns out I have 8-10 lesions (biopsy of three was positive) as well as an enlarged axillary lymph node. We have absolutely no cancer history in the family, especially breast cancer.  I am 30 years old, married, and three young children.  We will be heading to Madison, WI to meet the head of the breast clinic in two days.  I have a strong support system and faith in God, but I am still terrified as to how this is going to impact me and my family. I currently work as a nurse and just started back to school this past fall towards my bachelor's degree. It just feels like a bad dream that I cannot wake up from. Cry

  • Iz_and_Lys_Mum
    Iz_and_Lys_Mum Member Posts: 34
    edited March 2012

    Hi Katylynn. So sorry you have to be on here, but glad you found us. The ladies on here are great. Any questions, worries, fears, just shout. Good luck with your appointment. I've always found I've felt better once I could start to get plans in place. Please will you let us know how it goes?



    Sending big hugs xxx

  • txmomof2
    txmomof2 Member Posts: 48
    edited March 2012

    Christina and madismommy - I feel the same way you do.  I loved life so much before but I too feel that this black cloud will be hovering over my head forever.  It just really sucks.  I feel like I will never have a "normal" life again.  And I too worry about every ache and pain.  It's especially so hard with little kids.  I can handle the pain of surgery etc.  It's the unknown that's the worst.  Hopefully we'll hear from others with years of survivorship to tell us that it will get better!

  • christina0001
    christina0001 Member Posts: 449
    edited March 2012

    katylynn, so sorry about your diagnosis. It is horrible and overwhelming news to receive. I hope everything went well at your appointment.

  • ihatemyboobs
    ihatemyboobs Member Posts: 8
    edited March 2012

    I'm in my 30's! I'm 31, married with 3 kids (12, 9 and 2.). I don't even think my diagnosis has fully set in but I'm truly terrified for my bone and ct scan Wednesday - its definitely making this seem more "real." I'm so glad I found these groups however I'm really pissed to be here :)

  • lea33
    lea33 Member Posts: 3
    edited March 2012

    Sarah, you have every right to be pissed. This sucks. You are too young to deal with so much and you have 3 kids including a toddler. I hope your scans come back with good news. You are due for some.

  • Esmerelda
    Esmerelda Member Posts: 156
    edited March 2012

    Hi everyone - this is my very first post. I was just diagnosed yesterday (!) with IDC. My tumor is about 1.5cm, and I'm ER+/ER+ and HER2-. (I'm still trying to figure out what that means - or rather - what the combination of these factors will mean.) I have an MRI scheduled for Tuesday and then we go from there. OH! And I'm 38 years old, with a three-year old and a wonderful husband. (We just had a miscarriage in Decemeber and were planning on expanding our family... but for this DX.) Currently, I am having constant soreness and discomfort in my armpit (of the breast where the cancer is) and it really exacerbates my anxiety. If anyone has had any similar feeling or knows anything about this I would so appreciate it. I am so grateful to have found this community and am AMAZED at the caring responses to those who post. It really shows what could be considered at least one "gift" of this disease: the opportunity to really support others through their journey as well. My fear is my greatest struggle right now, and I understand that it will dissipate as I continue on this path - at least that's what I keep reading. :) 

  • ihatemyboobs
    ihatemyboobs Member Posts: 8
    edited March 2012

    Thanks lea, it feels so good sometimes to just let me be mad. Everyone wants to say something profoundthat will help me cope (which is totally understandable) but occasionally I just want to be pissed :)



    Esmerelda, I'm no Dr but from what I have heard, and our diagnoses are very similar, you're in a good place diagnosis wise (if you can imagine such a thing.) Just hang in there and know you aren't alone.

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