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  • kriskat
    kriskat Member Posts: 116
    edited December 2011

    Hi Amy-sorry u have to be here but it's a great place for info and support! It's amazing how much the support on this site helps! Usually I lurk more than I post but I just wanted u to know u are not alone!



    Cos- there are a couple of great threads on the her2 forum; triple positives and taxotere,carboplatin and herceptin. Usually for us triple posttives the treatment of choice is either ACTH or TCH with the h part lasting a yr. Everyone is different, but I chose not to have a port and only have 3 more herceptins to go-for me, I just didn't want to deal with it and have seen a couple infected first hand in my line of business. With that said, I have terrible veins and hate to be stuck but my wonderful nurses and I have found what works for us and hopefully I can make it thru these last 3 treatments! Good luck and hope to see u on the other threads!

  • Kite
    Kite Member Posts: 81
    edited December 2011

    Hi Amy, you are diffinetly not alone.

    I am 32 and have had my double Masc. on 12/8/11. I have no node involvment and clear margins. Radation isn't certain for me yet but I am told Chemo should be. I meet with all of the Oncology docs the week of the 9th. I will have a better plan then.

    I have a stepdaughter 6, and 2 boys who are 2 and 4. I have an amzing husband who works out of state so I raise them alone right now. We are hoping to reunite soon. 

    I've started other threads but I thought it would be nice to be here where I could talk to other mothers. I have a hard time not being the same Mommy I was before the surgery. I can't hardly play or dare pick up my 2 year old. He is a mama's boy so it's tough somedays. 

    One day this will not be an issue, but for now I am trying to face it head on and one day at a time.

    Kite

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Member Posts: 743
    edited December 2011

    wanna wish you all a Happy 2012 full of great health!  Stay strong and positive.  We all can beat this!

  • LaurenCollins
    LaurenCollins Member Posts: 8
    edited December 2011

    Kite, I had my BMX on 11/14 and have two young children too (3 years old and 19 mo).  Not being able to lift, play, tumble, carry and be their normal mommy has been one of the hardest parts of this for me too.  I am a few weeks ahead of you and can say that the 6 week mark is really a big turning point.  I can now put my kids in my lap gently and read books.  I can pick my daughter out of her crib on shimmy her onto my lap -- I feel like I can do more without constant help.  The tenderness is not as overwhelming and I some numbness/tingly feeling has gone away on the upper part of my chest.  Hang in there and I hope too that as time goes by our bodies will adjust to a new normal that we can live fully in.  

  • JennL
    JennL Member Posts: 17
    edited January 2012

    Hi Ladies, I am 37 year old mother of 3 girls (10, 7 1/2 and 6).  I found out on Dec. 27 that I have breast cancer, IDC after an excisional biopsy on the 22nd.  I don't have all the results back from pathology right now but they are putting it at clinical stage I, grade 2, I had 2 masses and both were cancer.  The margins were not clear because the doc did not think this was a cancer it did not show up as so on MRI.  I will be going to another BS on Wed for second opinion (thinking this will be who I stick with).  The waiting is the worst part, I just want to have a plan and move forward with it.  I have a wonderful supportive husband and wonderful family and friends so I consider myself lucky for that.  I am keeping very positive and this site has really helped me the women on here are brave wonderful people.  I hope you all have a great 2012, this will be the year of healing for me, physically and emotionally.

  • mom22grls
    mom22grls Member Posts: 2
    edited January 2012

    Hang in there JennL! I know the waiting is the toughest part of all of this. I'm with you, this year is for healing ALL of me!

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    HI all sound that am the youngest patient here am 24 i have breast cancer and I satrted chemo FEC three days ago i hav a huge 8cm lump in my left breast n my oncologist suggested to start chemo to reduce it before gettin it out m a cabin crew and i cnt join my team i feel anxious and i wish i get well soon to get to my normal life I need ur support Thank you :) 

  • alison34
    alison34 Member Posts: 36
    edited January 2012

    happy new year ladies xxxxx

  • JennL
    JennL Member Posts: 17
    edited January 2012

    Thanks mom22grls I'm sending you hugs and I hope your 2012 is a great year!!!

  • JennL
    JennL Member Posts: 17
    edited January 2012

    Rosaa, sorry you have to go through this:(  All the women on this site are so helpful.  Stay strong and I wish you the best!!

  • MMTOMH
    MMTOMH Member Posts: 17
    edited January 2012

    Hello All,

    I was just diagnosed on 12/23 with DCIS/IDC in my right breast, the tumor is large, but staging is not complete, it is grade 3 and I believe triple +.  I live in Alaska and am having to travel to Seattle for treatment.  Will have abd/chest/pelvis CT, bilateral breast MRI, bone scan, and meeting with the BC Specialty Team on the 6th.  I underwent U/S guided biopsy and there didn't appear to be any node involvement, so we are hoping they don't find anything.  In that super-hard stage of just waiting and we have 4 kids 9, 8, 6, and 4 that we are leaving with family to travel down south.  Keeping a positive outlook knowing it's all in HIS hands.  Glad to add the wonderful women of this forum to my already awesome support system!

  • rachel11
    rachel11 Member Posts: 38
    edited January 2012

    Hi everyone,

     I am 37 years old and have just found out on December 20, 2011 that I have ductal carcinoma. My family doctor has advised that it was caught very early, which reassures me a bit. I haven't yet been to see my surgeon, I am scheduled to see him on January 20. Not sure what to expect next.

     I am glad to have found these forums, it will be nice to chat with women who are going through the same things that I will be going through.

  • khegidio
    khegidio Member Posts: 4
    edited January 2012

    Hi ladies. I was diagnosed in September of 2011 at age 35 with IDC. I have a 2.4 cm tumor in my right breast as well as one lymph node involved. I have had bone, chest, pelvic, and abdomen CT scans and fro what we can tell there has been no spreDing beyond the lymph node. I started neo-adjuvant chemotherapy last September (TAC x 6, every 3 weeks) and just had my last treatment yesterday! Yay! I am bald as a cue ball and eager to find out when my hair is going to start growing back.



    I just had a post chemo MRI this morning and am waiting right now to see the Dr for the results. Eager to see the shrinkage. We will also have a pre-op discussion.



    I am having a bilateral mastectomy with immediate free-tram reconstruction on 2/08. Based on my MRI results and whether or not any surprises are found in surgery will determine my need for radiation. I am hoping not but hey.... After dealing with chemo - I know I can do that. I will also be on hormone therapy for 5 years after surgery since I am ER+.



    Nice to meet you ladies. Anyone feel free to PM me if you have any detailed questions. Feel like I've been at this for a while now.

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    my bioposy showed IDC grade2 SBR (EE) is it manageable and curable??

  • LeeSha79
    LeeSha79 Member Posts: 1
    edited January 2012

    .I'm sorry you're so young! I'm 32, but I look like I'm 12. So I know kind of what it's like. Every doctor walks in, and then takes one look at my face... then there face just drops. Most even say "my they said you were young but..".Any ways I did Herceptin and taxol, then FEC to shrink the tumors first and now I get to have my surgery so it works. Chemo to me was easy. I just made sure I watched a lot of funny shows, I read some wear laughter makes white blood cells grow and well my counts were always good. Tip if you have to take neulasta make sure you take your medicine on time :). I know this sucks, it sucks at 32 it must really suck at 24. But as my doctor said youth can be a good thing as well, it means your body is strong and can take getting hit hard with chemo & recover fast. Get better and then live go out and do the things you should be doing now... but with a way better appreciation for life! That's a gift few people ever get :) good luck.Vent when you need to vent Laugh when you need to laugh!

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Member Posts: 743
    edited January 2012

    Does anyone else have weak/ sore muscles? I was doing an activity for 20 min. yesterday that involved squatting and today I can barely walk, because my leg muscles are hurting so bad. I also notice if I sit for a long period of time that when I get up I am like an 80 year old woman. I called my Onc office and the nurse just told me to take ibuprophen. Is this normal for us?

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    Dear Leesha,

    Thank you for ur encouragement m living like a little lady on the verge of dying thinking how much my family will miss me m 24 i should be enjoyin my life with my crew members in dubai i work for emirates a very lovely airline company but m crying over my wretched situation thinking that i will never catch this dream again i will never fly i see worry in my mum s eyes when she sees me crying m desperate i feel different whenever i see pple crossing the street i feel tht m the only one with cancer a burden or a sin i keep asking myself wat bad things i hav made to get such a punishement i have always been good to everybody hurt nobody n helped when possible It s unfair bit i have to cope with it YES I HAVE TO TURN MY WEAKNESS INTO STRENGTH i have to fight to get back to emirates my lovely dream lifestyle  

  • meglove
    meglove Member Posts: 105
    edited January 2012

    Dear sister, just wondering how many of you have your period back after chemo but on tamoxifen? My last chemo was in March 2011 and haven't had period since then when I am taking tamoxifen. Now I felt a lump near my left lower abdomen and hope it is not ovarian cancer etc. I am contacting with a gyn to have a complete hyster and have an ultrasound on Jan 11. I hope my ovaries could hang in before the surgery. Thanks! Meg

  • lisa75
    lisa75 Member Posts: 6
    edited January 2012

    Im 36 with no family history. my mom had ovarian cysts but Dr says this wouldnt be linked.

  • Faye33
    Faye33 Member Posts: 10
    edited April 2012

    Hi!  I'm 35 now, but was 33 at diagnosis.  My kids were 1, 2, 8 and 10 when I was diagnosised.  My husband, thankfully, was and still is very supportive.  However, he still doesn't understand me and the emotions I have since going through diagnosis and treatments.  I really believe no one can understand/get it unless they have gone through it, and even then, everyone's experience is so different.  The main reasons I am here, is because I have no one to really share my fears/concerns with IRL that gets it.  So this is my place to vent and relate with people who've unfortunately had to go through this awful diagnosis.  So sad to see so many women here. 

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Member Posts: 743
    edited January 2012

    I really need you all to say alot of prayers for my friend Janet. They just found out Wed. that she has lung and liver cancer and they have only gave her days. I went to visit her today and she was unresponsive :( this breaks my heart that Cancer is going to win another battle..

  • Lady_Madonna
    Lady_Madonna Member Posts: 313
    edited January 2012

    ksmatthews, I'm so sorry...there's nothing fair about this awful disease but sometimes it really breaks your heart. I wish you could have said goodbye :( You are both in my thoughts and prayers.



    All my sisters here- sending you love and wishes for a good new year. Keep the positive attitudes!

    This IS the place to be for support.

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Member Posts: 743
    edited January 2012

    my friend Janet passed away this morning.  thanks for all the prayers and kind words.

  • kriskat
    kriskat Member Posts: 116
    edited January 2012

    Ksmatthews-sorry for the loss of your friend:;((((hugs)))))

  • coni
    coni Member Posts: 181
    edited January 2012

    I'm so sorry for your loss ksmatthew..prayers go out to u and your friends family.

    To all the new sisters that have to join the sisterhood of cancer, this sucks but at the same time it's a great place to vent our fears and sometimes anger.

    Rosaa I know exactly how u feel I was diagnose at 32 and I went through same emotions, I felt like this was a punishment but now that I've gone through the whole thing it's was more like a blessing seeing how much my family loved me, met so many ppl, had great support from family and friends. And u learn so much from yourself.but most importantly got me closer to God.

    Its not an easy road but God gives u the strength and u will get through this.i remember ppl telling me it will go fast, and I use to mad because I was like sure u r not suffering it will be me. And now looking bad time did go fast!....just stay on top of ur meds, specially for nausea. I chewed on ice cubes while infusion it helped with mouth sores. If they give u neaulasta shots don't exercise day after it gave me muscle and bone pain at least that was my experience. Feel free to pm

  • mebert
    mebert Member Posts: 9
    edited January 2012

    KS, So sorry you are grieving the loss of your friend. Hope you find moments of relief when knowing her pain is over. Hope you find moments of joy when remembering the laughter you shared with your friend. Take care.

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    Hey girls 

    thank you for ur encouragement i know it will pass and that it s a test of patience from God I feel good after reading ur stories I keep reading and it made me very happy to see how many survivors are now I hav a good news for you there is a new tachnique of breast reconstruction better than protheses it s based on taking some fat from stomach or leg and reconstructing the breast with it it s getting successful in france and my surgeon told me about it it will mak us feel normal having a biological breast and the breast will increase when we add weight means back to normal :) I hope this help you all kisses  

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    Hey girls 

    thank you for ur encouragement i know it will pass and that it s a test of patience from God I feel good after reading ur stories I keep reading and it made me very happy to see how many survivors are now I hav a good news for you there is a new tachnique of breast reconstruction better than protheses it s based on taking some fat from stomach or leg and reconstructing the breast with it it s getting successful in france and my surgeon told me about it it will mak us feel normal having a biological breast and the breast will increase when we add weight means back to normal :) I hope this help you all kisses  

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    Hey girls 

    thank you for ur encouragement i know it will pass and that it s a test of patience from God I feel good after reading ur stories I keep reading and it made me very happy to see how many survivors are now I hav a good news for you there is a new tachnique of breast reconstruction better than protheses it s based on taking some fat from stomach or leg and reconstructing the breast with it it s getting successful in france and my surgeon told me about it it will mak us feel normal having a biological breast and the breast will increase when we add weight means back to normal :) I hope this help you all kisses  

  • Rosaa
    Rosaa Member Posts: 12
    edited January 2012

    Hey girls 

    thank you for ur encouragement i know it will pass and that it s a test of patience from God I feel good after reading ur stories I keep reading and it made me very happy to see how many survivors are now I hav a good news for you there is a new tachnique of breast reconstruction better than protheses it s based on taking some fat from stomach or leg and reconstructing the breast with it it s getting successful in france and my surgeon told me about it it will mak us feel normal having a biological breast and the breast will increase when we add weight means back to normal :) I hope this help you all kisses  

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