So...whats for dinner?
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and your family Michelle0 -
Michelle: I have no words.. but sending you virtual hugs.
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Im also sending big hugs to you Michelle!
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Being able to roll the bed out onto the deck is a neat idea.
I don't have any good words to say either. But...don't pay attention to the elephant you talked about...
Sending you and your family thoughts and hugs.
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Michelle, what Eric said.
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Michelle, the deck is a wonderful idea. As for the elephant, you saw it, acknowledged it, now forget it. And go on with real life. Much love.
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Michelle, we'll all be in that bed....some sooner, some later. Given the year you all just went through, I'd be surprised if you are the only one there who sees that elephant. Any chance you can share that sad/worrisome thought so you can all acknowledge the fragility and realities of life, and then get back to living it in all those wonderful ways you do? My thoughts are with you, Rick and your children....sounds like the kiddie visit could not have gone better....three minute child curiosity, totally the norm....then back to their work....OF PLAY! I love the sound of this hospice.
Carole, I did invest in a Vita Mix, which makes a great smoothie...tho you might need to sell your RV!
I'll try to look up the website I read a lot when I started making these. But with the books you already have started you could just google "smoothie recipes" and you'll find a lot of resources. I now just keep lots of veggies on hand (kale, brussels spouts, beet greens, spinach, carrots beets, etc.) and blend a least two varieties with whatever fruits I have...blueberries, apple, raspberries, orange, pineapple, strawberries, banana, along with some walnuts and chia seeds, a few ice cubes and water or almond milk or coconut water. It's different daily.....tho the beet turns it the most gorgeous deep pink! I find that more appealing than the grey green without the beet.
Guests and DH all happily asleep after a wonderful day. May head into the Head of the Charles Regata tomorrow (international crew races). Had lots of appetizers while watching ND squeak one out, then had the pulled pork sandwiches, cole slaw, pickles, and veggie chili, corn muffins and black bean/corn salsa. Tailgating in our dining room!
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Lacey- Your tail gate food sounded good!
Michelle- Thinking about you!
Joyce-Have a safe trip to Florida tomorrow! I know it must be hard to leave Michelle right now but you have been such a good friend to her!
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Lacey Love your thoughts to Michelle...I second that! Did you make your own cole slaw for the pulled pork? I like a tangy dressing and cant really find a pre made one that qualifies.
Just made omelets with diced bacon, onions, tomatoes and cheese inside..yummm maybe spaghetti and meatballs for dinner.
Hope everyone is having a great weekend.
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Thanks, Lacey and all you fabulous friends!
We're here at hospice and mom is still resting comfortably - no sign of difficulty breathing or any other distress. We haven't even thought about unpacking from our trip - good thing it was all summer clothes that we're not likely to need for a few months!
DH made supper last night - black pastrami and cheese paninis. At least it wasn't restaurant food. We stopped at the grocery store on our way home and sort of wandered aimlessly. Neither of us knew what we wanted and nothing sounded appealing.
Lacey - I hope you get to the regatta - it's a perfect day for it. It's a beautiful fall day and I need to take some pictures of the foliage. Isn't it odd that some of the most beautiful color in our area is found in the big majestic trees in the cemeteries?
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I am sending big hugs and good thoughts too Michelle. I agree with the elephant in the room. I had the same thoughts when my mom died in May and when my brother in law died last July. I think it's only normal for those thoughts to come, but then you just go on and forget about it. The hospice sounds like a wonderful place. God Bless those caring workers and volunteer. Sending you much love.
I had to tell you this. I think it will make even the youngest of us (I guess that's Laurie?) feel old. My DD had her first home coming dance last night (she is in 9th grade). It was a throw back dance. I was thinking 80's music, but no, it was early 2000's. Yikes! And a sign of the times I guess, each kid had a breathalizer test and had any bags searched before they were allowed into the dance. I guess it's necessary, sad though.
We walked out to the local pizza joint last night and had one of their "gourmet" pizzas, roasted chicken and red pepper on white pizza. They also have a beer garden with 850 different kinds of beer. DH had one I'd never heard of. The only lite beer they had on tap was Miller lite, so I had that. Boring I know. I guess I could have tried a bottle of a different kind of lite beer, but I don't think too many of the 850 they have are lite beers. $3 for the on tap Miller lite though. I agree Carole $9 for a glass of wine is outrageous. Around here, restaurants have to have liquor licenses to sell alcoholic drinks, and they aren't that easy to get, so we have a good bit of BYOB restaurants. That sure can save some money on the bill. I don't think the BYOB's are around other states though. The liquor laws are kind of crazy here. The state is the only one allowed to sell liquor other than restaurants or some limited take out liquor licenses. I guess they probably make decent money from it.
Tonight we bought some mahi mahi from the local fish store. It was on sale for $9.98 a pound, way cheaper than any of the other fish they had. I've had it in restaurants, but never cooked it before. Hopefully it will be good.
Enjoy your Sunday everyone. A weird Sunday here since the Eagles have their bye week. Maybe I'll actually be productive today instead.
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Michelle- I don't imagine anything would sound good right now! It's been a hard few days for you. Hope you are taking it easy and resting when you can! (((hugs)))
Carrie- I made omlets for breakfast too. I used bison sausage in my omlets. A vendor brought my DH Bison steaks, hamburger and sausage some were very spicey but good. I love when he brings those things home to to try. The sausage was cajun that i put in my omlet but very good.
Kay-Thats funny! I know what you mean, I couldn't believe my GD didn't know who Elvis was! Really? I was shocked LOL! I don't know if you know who Bruno Mars is but when he was 8 yrs old he used to sing with his parents on stage in Hawaii we would go see them every week. He played recently at Dh casino, now a grown man it sure does make you feel old. There is a place in Hawaii called the yard house (favorite place to eat) that has about 300 beers on tap can't imagine 850! Wow!
Dinner tonight will be bison sausage and beans.
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Joyce- I am so very sorry about your dear friend. I agree with the killing the F..king elephant in the room! Sad times!! ((((hugs)))))
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Said goodbye to a HS friend with a handful of friends from class of 69. I hate to say this but the funeral home did not present her very well, they did not put any make up on her at all and her neck was all wrinkly and bloated. No excuse.
We stopped at the Bull Run in Shirley and raised a glass in honor to Ellen. I had Roasted Stuffed Vegetable Ravioli, creamy corn sauce, toasted corn and eggplant salad.
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Made a lovely lamb Indian curry tonight. Lamb shoulder, lots of spices, garlic, ginger, and then tomato and onion paste. Served with a fragrant basmati rice. This is the best Gosht I have ever made. Good thing since my lamb was in a 3lb block. We have a LOT of this dish.
Busy week here, so this maybe the last complex meal I make for a while.
*susan*
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Just got home from hospice after being there since 10 a.m. It's been an exhausting day and I am glad to be in my recliner for a while. We actually had a little football watching party in the room - wings, veggies and dip, onion rings and steak tips. The only thing missing was beer...
It would appear she will make it through tonight as things were relatively unchanged. She's one strong woman!
Susan - the lamb dish sounds yummy!
Joyce - glad to hear you made it safely to Richmond. And I'm so sorry to hear about your friend from CT. I'll call you tomorrow - I didn't see your text until we were on our way home and I was afraid you'd be in dreamland.
And oh Joyce and Debbie - the vision of you two slaying the fu$#ing elephant...made me laugh out loud! Thank you!
Deb - that is the risk with a viewing...if it's not just right, it's very very wrong. And then I think it's even harder on family and friends. So sorry for you and your friend's family.
Carrie, Kay and anyone else I may have missed - thanks for your support!
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Susan- Your lamb sounds good it's one thing I don't think I have ever cooked.
Deb- Sorry to hear that your DF was not takin care of right.
Am curious, doesn't a family member or friend usually help with that? I told my sister no matter what don't let them put Red lipstick on me. I hate it on me!
Michlle- ((((hugs)))))
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Deb, Nice that you had your 'group' together for this evening. I have made it very clear that there will not be a viewing for me. I am not all attractive while breathing. Dead isn't going to be any better. My family has never done viewing, ever, so this won't be a hard directive for my family to follow.
Michelle, what you are doing right now is hard. I can't imagine you are anything less than exhausted. Jet lag, plus an ill mother... the football afternoon sounds like a good way to enjoy your time together.
deb, lamb is a real New England thing. Each generation is eating less of it, but before modern fabrics, New England was the land of wool and textiles. Sheep do really well in our rolling hills. Eating the animals just made sense.
*susan*
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Susan, your lamb curry sounds delicious. My dh loves curry but we seldom have it. As far as I know there's no Indian restaurant in our area. We've tried a few curry dishes but none has ever been good enough to try again.
It's the custom in the south to have a "wake" the night before a funeral with the open casket. I've always hated the idea and find it really ghoulish for people to look at a dead person. The next day, there's another briefer period of viewing and then the casket is closed and transported to the cemetery for the funeral. After the funeral, everyone is usually invited somewhere, maybe the home of the bereaved family, for food. Meanwhile all the neighbors and friends have delivered food. Hams, casseroles, cakes. Tons of food. The visiting is very good for the family. There are many memories revisited and funny stories. I'm dreading my mother's passing when the time comes. I've been a caregiver so long that there will be a giant gap in responsibility. She's still well enough that I can enjoy being with her. She has two dr.'s apptments this week and I will be driving her, loading up the wheelchair, etc. My heart goes out to you, Michelle. It's wonderful that your mom has no pain.
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My best GF tomatos are not giving up, so yesterday we canned another 12 jars of salsa, also did some brushetta. We had to do some quality control testing so we put the brushetta on some baquettes with some parmesan cheese and baked I must say...we did a good job. May have a new retirement occupation. LOL
Susan I am with you. I have told my family that I do not want them sitting around staring at me while I die. I hoppe that they will be together at home having a nice meal with some wine, telling nice stories about me. (At least I hope they are nice stories) ha ha
Michelle It is so hard to see our parents go. I think it is especially hard to think of losing our moms, when you think of everything our moms have done for us over the years and how much we relied on them for their strength and wisdom. I still call my mom to this day if i need some advice or just want to vent, I am also very thankful for my sister that I am very close to. Get out the photo album and let all the good memories and stories roll!
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Sunday is cooking day. I try to make enough main dishes to last through the week, so all I have to do each evening is cook a vegie or make a salad (or both). Things stay cleaner that way, and since the house is now on the market this will be the "new" me. (Hubby always says I'm a great, but messy, cook....
Anyway, hubby barbecued a salmon filet, sausages and a leg of lamb. I made a salmon quiche (with part of the salmon he barbecued), a chicken, spinach and cheese pie, and a pot roast with LOTS of vegetables. When the lamb is about 1/2 gone, I usually make curry out of the last portion, so we're pretty well set for the week.0 -
Joyce- I am so sorry about your friend. Did you turn around and come back? When my parents first bought a place in South Carolina it seemed every time they headed to go there someone would either die or there would be a major medical issue for someone here in NH. Once she had called me and said " we leave Tuesday for S.C.....I almost feel bad going. You know it means someone is going to die : /"
Michelle- More hugs coming your way. I know how rough this is for you. I am glad you could laugh at your DH and mom having a snoring competition. And you can tell that elephant to f*ck himself. It is hard not to worry about those things, I worry about those things! I am glad your mom is comfortable and has all of you with her. Remember to take care of yourself too. YOU are very important.
Kay- I think it was you that was talking about how things have changed simce we were kids? Crazy!! Breathalyzers when you went to a high school dance? I saw a car just like my first car the other day and the damn thing had antique plates? WTF? Lol! I often wonder how much more is going to change before my boys hit their teen years. It scares me to think about it!
Debbie- How is your dad you and Chuck?
Deb- I am so sorry about your friend and that on top of that she was not presented well. It just makes it worse. We had no wake or calling hours for my mom for that reason and just for privacy I guess.
Here is a kind of funny story about wakes, death etc. So way before my mom was diagnosed my grandmother passed away, my dads mom. I was very close to her and we were all at the funeral home for the final viewing of the body before she was buried. My dad started sobbing and actually went over and picked my grandmother up and hugged her in the coffin. I was 22 and I about shit my pants. I grabbed my moms hand and actually said "holy shit!" She laughed and we kind of walked out of the room. I told her " I don't care how much you love someone that was messed up." She said "everyone has their own way....." I said "when you die I am not touching you!!" She said " Who the hell told you I would want to be touched?" We both laughed so hard we had to go outside. So fast forward to the night she died. We were all sleeping in the living room where her room had been done up while she was in hospice in home care. We knew she would pass that night and had fallen asleep very briefly around 2am. My dad and I awoke at the same moment- weird- and he said I think she died? I don't feel her pulse- here, touch her. I wouldn't. He really wanted me to confirm before I called hospice...I told him I confirmed with my EYES. Somehow it had become a pact and that thought somehow brought be comfort. I felt we were still in cahoots with each other
Ok----anywho. Dh made an awesome chili yesterday and we ate off that all day, it was awesome. Saturday night we had no kids and went out for sinner and drinks, too many drinks! We met some friends and danced to a great band who had an amazing fiddle player in it. We had a blast! Tonight I think I am going to make Debbie's Belgian chicken.
A big hi to those of you I missed!!
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Sinner and drinks, eh, Laurie!
LOL! Glad you had a great night! And a cute story about being in cahoots with your dad 
Mom is still with us, although she is no longer producing urine so I suspect it won't be much longer. She looks peaceful, still, but I think it won't be much longer.
Someone makes really good chocolate chip cookies here at the hospice.
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Michelle, so glad your mom is resting peacefully. It makes such a stressful time a little easier anyway.
Tonight's dinner is tortilla crusted tilapia and creamy orzo with asparagus and parmesan. I know those two don't sound like they go together very well, but I have all the ingredients for the orzo and a new recipe, so that's what it is.0 -
Michelle, good that your mother is not in pain, and sleeping. Hard stuff.
I had my second hand shot with the cordisone today, and I am in terrific pain. So, I will be directing my husband as he does dinner. Tonight we are having a salad with a dill dressing, with tomatoes, carrots, and whatever I find in the produce drawer, with some smoked salmon, and perhaps a roll. Simple is good tonight.
*susan*
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Dolan Funeral home made my father look 20years younger.
Michelle, as long as she is not in any pain, that is what bothered me about my mom.
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Hang in there Michelle. i know how tough it is. and do take care of yourself.
What a great picture Deborey! I am very sorry about your friend. You all look like a great bunch, having a wonderful time together.
Carole, I am Irish, and our wakes and funerals sound very similar to the ones you describe in the south. I have always been uneasy going to them and seeing the body, especially when I am going for one of those left behind, and don't really know the decedent. I don't know where or how this tradition started, but I think it is time to stop.
The mahi mahi turned out good last night, but it was sweet. Next time I cook it,I want to make it spicy instead. Today we had chicken tortilla soup (not homemade) and some roasted veggies. It was good, but I am looking for some dessert now. Time torpid the Halloween candy. LOL0 -
Michelle - thoughts with you and your family.
Dinner was going to be roast chicken legs, brussels and roasted potatoes - but I have no potatoes... back to the drawing board.
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Dinner was red beans (kidney) and brown rice and tossed salad. DH cooked the beans with andouille sausage. Haven't had beans and rice in a long time and it tasted really good.
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