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Not quite a horder - decluttering

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited February 2012

    Some people are just meant to "be there" and others choose to the the ones they are "there for".  My sister hasn't been to any of the milestones in my life, but I have been to hers, Graduations, babies, weddings... I don't dwell on it, but it does hurt.

    Sooooo, what can you make with a knifty knitter?  Do you make strips and put them together?

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited February 2012

    Duh, I just noticed in the header picture that the lady has an awful lot of white elephants on her shelves.  Mine don't look quite the same, but it does bring to mind that I also have too many.

  • inmate4232010
    inmate4232010 Member Posts: 288
    edited February 2012

    Yeah, I just found this thread!  Since finishing two years of treatment in January I haven't quite had the energy to jump into the cleaning and organizing that has been neglected.  Well, the other day I just did it.  The "do something" suggestion is the best.  I am not putting too many deadlines on any of the tasks.  My measure of success is whether or not I actually did something, even a little bit, on any one of my chores.  This way I can work on whatever strikes my fancy for the day.  So far so good!

    On sisters, I am very lucky to call my big sis my best friend.  She has been incredibly supportive throughout.  Her way of handling the stress of it all was knitting me a cool dozen hats to keep my head warm.   

  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 2,234
    edited February 2012

    Meece, you can make baby blankets, shawls, afghans, scarfs and "much more"  on the knifty knitter, up to 24 inches wide.   It basically allows you to make strips of various widths.   The "long loom series" has several lenghts.   www.provocraft.com

    I have made a few narrow scarfs using 2 colors of yarn - football team colors - as gifts.    Medium weight yarn is best, but thinner if using double strands.    

    I do not lose any sleep over the lack of support from friends or family.   It is what it is.   But I do treasure the ones who do step up and "are there" for me.     

  • suzwes
    suzwes Member Posts: 765
    edited February 2012

    Glad you found this thread inmate4232010!  A little at a time, good not to put the deadlines on, just a few items at a time!  I'm going to get offline now and declutter my desk at work!  How can I possiby get my needed work done when I have the mess of a desk?????

  • suzwes
    suzwes Member Posts: 765
    edited February 2012

    I forgot, I had a friend post the saying on her facebook today and I think it is perfect!

    "Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up" - Ann Bradford.

  • hotandcold
    hotandcold Member Posts: 70
    edited March 2012

    Laughing my head off about the past two pages.  Had a nasty cold and just couldn'g get the gumption up to do anything for the past two weeks.  Now there seems to be more stuff on the kitchen counter and table again.This all seems so ongoing. Hello to all the new posters.  Today I'm going to clean off all my kitchen counters and polish my formica. Yep, I still have my original formica, 24 years old, and I'm keeping it.  It still looks great and it has a matte finish not shiny. I'm using fly ladys suggestion to set the timer,  My variation is I set the timer for 20 minutes and try to get a job done in that smount of time.  I get 3 jobs done and then I goof for 20 min.  No more goofing.  Off to do more jobs.

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited March 2012
    yeah!!yesterday 3 bags full for donation, and 1/2 the back porch free of crap!!rearranging the furniture we decided to keep will take another day.. moving ahead, finally!!!!3jays
  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    3jays:  Sounds like you off and running again!  That must mean you are feeling better and I'm so glad to hear that!  I'm starting to feel like my old self again too after being down with that cold for a couple of weeks...it was a hard one to kick.  Last week when I went to the holistic doc, he gave me an infusion of anti virals and it seemed to kick this thing once and for all!

    Cleaning lady didn't come last week...what's up with that?  She couldn't have an easier job cleaning this house...it hardly gets dirty with just the two of us...easy money...but they don't show.

    Busy week...app't with retina specialist to see about my advancing macular degeneration, then app't with new MO to talk about hormonal treatments....already taking tamoxifen...but going to ask about alternatives with less SE's.  Also app't to get my first thermogram on my breasts...the three month mark after surgery.  I will alternate with mammograms going forward. 

  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 1,997
    edited March 2012

    Did I tell you all that I got new cleaners. I feel like the dumbest person in the world not to jump on it right away when I first started suspecting the former cleaners were taking my meds and mom's jewelry. WHat the heck was I waiting for them to ask me to carry it to the car FOR them!  It is so weird I felt like I was somehow at fault, or being too suspicious. I was afraid I would make a fool of myself. Argh!!!!

    So now I have a big safe, I am afraid to go look at my silver and see if it is all still there! Seriously I think I will go over the edge if it is gone. What a wimp I am, you would think I would be charging to the cabinet and checking. I am going to wait until my DD is here to check. I hope the little thieves are happy when they realize all my earing and braclets are faux pearls. I wear ten dollar pearl studs. They suit me and when one comes loose of the back I just crazy glue it back on!   I am thinking that I should have just taken my mom's jewelry to a gold merchant myself.  Rant over for now. I do not like feeling this vulnerable. I was really really nice to these ladies. 

    A good thing happened. I was looking in an unopened box from moving and I found all my good tee shirts. Or knit shirts would be a better way to put it. I had wondered why I was only wearing shirts and good dressier tops. I have just been so out of it haven't I?  

    I donate my books where ever they will take them. I have a big stack still to read to I am trying to only buy non fiction for now. I tell my husband I need to get through my stack before I get a kindle type reader.  

    Have a good evening or morning depending on where you are

    Love Ginger

  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 1,997
    edited March 2012

    We need a big Kindle for magazines.

  • blessings2011
    blessings2011 Member Posts: 1,801
    edited March 2012

    I got a Kindle. It's full of obscure, free books that I never read.

    Then I got an iPad. Planned to put Martha Stewart, and Better Homes and Gardens on it. So far all I got is People. (You know, the mindless magazine they tell you to get before your surgery....)

    And all I really use it for is Pinterest. At least that saves me buying SOME magazines....

    BUT I AM STILL BUYING OTHER MAGAZINES!!!!! Surprised

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited March 2012

    had ot take the day off today.. weird day.. went to brand new eye dr about the staph infection.. its been "flaring" badly.. he fit me in today, since it was irritated, and red..

     long story short, he said it was a bad bacteria i had in my sinuses, that probably traveled to tear ducts, and he was going to lavage it.. so, he put the anesthetic in, and low and behold, took a tool, preesed it, a little "something" came out, i was sweating by then.. but no!!!THEN, an inch long needle is in my tear duct, before i know it, and he squeezeed saline thru it.. the worst is, he didn't know i failed a swallow test, so it went clear down my throat, into my lungs, and of course, i started choking.. so, my hand flew upo.. thank goodes, i didn't knock his hand, the needle was still in, more going down...

       DH jumped up, and said no, it goes tonher lungs!!! then pounded on my back, till he got me "started" again/!!!

       thats one way to breK IN a new dr, hu?hahaha scared the bejessus oout of all 3 of us!!!

     (there's a big red flag on my chart now, thank you very much!!!

      so, came home, took my anxiety meds duh!!and took a nap.. i still can't believe i let a stranger put a needle to my eye!!!

     im kinda glad it happened with no warning, though.. if he had said next time..etc.. i don't think i would've had the nerve to do it!!!

      it worked out great, but for the "incident"with choking.. and, if te tear duct had anything in it, im on clinamycin, so that'll clear it up// wheew what a day!!!

      Ginger.. have you looked yet?? i hide all my moms and nanas stuff with clthes, wrapped up.. once, when sorting , i "found" it in DHs' underwear!!!we laughed ourselves silly.. he said why my underwear.. i said who would look gor my jewelry in there??? i hope you find it..

      i used to clean houses, had 3 girls working for me.. can't understand why anyone would steal.. they'd more $$$working!!!

      and Kaara; youre what i used to tall the girls . no problem, its a windex job.. just maintenance.. a peach.. you shouldn't have any trouble finding another service..

      i wished i could do it now.. i loved it. it gave me a sense of satisfaction, on a daily basis to "leave it sparkling" (that was my logo on my cards.. ) I think my frustration HERE has alot to do with that.. i cannot abide the clutter anymore.. i want it sparkling here!!!its not dirty, not messy, just cluttered!!!aaarrrggggggggh.. tommorrows another drs. day.. so watch out thursday and friday hubs home.. back to the OTHER side of the porch!!!hahah3jays

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    OMG 3jays!  What else could happen!  I'm going to the eye doctor today...I better watch out for that needle!  I already know that's a treatment for the MD I have, so I'm prepared for it, but they probably won't do it today...I hope:(

  • blessings2011
    blessings2011 Member Posts: 1,801
    edited March 2012

    3jaysmom - OY! What a day you've had!  Hope you heal quickly and feel better soon!!!

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited March 2012

    How are you doing, 3Jays?

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited March 2012

    hi gals.. i've had a week, for sure.. im officially SICK  of drs!!!!

      had to have the stitches removed from mohs skin cancer surgery, yesterday,  and there was one that JUST HAD to be removed!!!

      ive been sick all day in bed.. just weak. i think its the drugs they've used over the last few days... we're having dinner, and im going back to bed..

  • Bluebird-DE
    Bluebird-DE Member Posts: 1,233
    edited March 2012

    Some parts of this place are uncluttered and organized, some parts look like they were dumped upon.  Good news is we are having an auction before we move, letting it all just go away except what is needed.  I just do not know what I will elt go though.

    I cannot believe you were able to be caught when the dr was coming w the needle!  Once one thought he would give me a steroid injection in foot when I had plantar fraciatis (sp) but dr thought it was something else..... and when he turned around the needle broke, fluid squirted everywhere, I didn't even realize what was happening.  Then I saw the needle in his hand and I said, I don't want the shot, he said, you don't need it.  Well, guess I didn't, my energy made it blow up.  The foot is one thing, the eye, man, you were lucky today, huh!

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    Hummmm...I wonder if that's going to happen when I go in on Monday to get the injection in my eye for the first time.  I'm really trying to remain calm, but there's just something about poking a needle in ones eye that gives you cause for concern:(  I didn't hear anyone screaming in the office the other day when I was in there, so maybe it won't hurt.  I think I'll take one of my anti anxiety pills leftover from a dentist app't before I go in, at least this first time.

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited March 2012

    really, Kaara: the other day was my first.. he made SURE i didn't feel a thing.. if you have anti anxiety meds, take them before.. i wished id had, but i thought i was just going for a change of meds!!!!

       my eye is still tearing, so i'll be going back next week.. to the dr i was going to see originally.. i need more than just a cream at night.. drops in the day would help..

      i'll be keeping you in mind monday...let us know.. i know you'll do fine.. if i could do t, so can you!!!!3jays

     

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    Thanks 3jays....I need all the encouragement I can get right now.  I never liked any foreign substance in my eye...not even contacts!  I don't even put eye drops in very much, so it will be a new experience for me.  It's the thought of a needle going in my eye more than anything else.  I'm more nervous about this than the breast surgery, but I'm going to suck it up and get it done, because it's better than the alternative.

  • hotandcold
    hotandcold Member Posts: 70
    edited March 2012

    Kaara: My mom had injections for wet macular degeneration. and I was with her. She told me it was a lot easier than she had thought it would be.  She said she didn't feel a thing.  Try not to scare yourself.  She was pretty worried and all hyped up.  After ther 1st time it was actually fairly easy.  Good luch to you with your treatment. 

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    Thanks ladies...I needed to hear that!  I'm just a ball of nerves right now thinking about tomorrow.  I wasn't nervous at all about my bc surgery...but this...yikes!  I'm sure it will be fine.

  • blessings2011
    blessings2011 Member Posts: 1,801
    edited March 2012

    O.K. Kaara - please feel free to skip the middle of this post....others, too, with needle phobia.

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    You know how they always ask how your pain is doing on a scale of 1 - 10? I hit a new high two years ago. My podiatrist tried to kill me.

    I've had plantar fasciitis for years, but suddenly, I had this awful pain in the middle of my heel. I headed back to the doc, who examined it, and said he wasn't sure what it was, but it was NOT plantar fasciitis pain. Understand, I've gone to this guy for years, LOVE HIM, and his nurse and I actually were in Brownies together. It's usually a fun visit.

    But he suggested a cortisone shot. In my heel. Somewhere in the back of my mind a little voice was yelling "NOOOOO!"

    So that's what I said. He continued to examine it, realized how much pain it was giving me, and asked again if he could give me the shot. I couldn't remember why, but I knew enough to say this could not be a pleasant thing.

    Long story short: he convinced me. (My heel really did hurt, and the alternative was his putting a cast on it for a few weeks.) I said go ahead.

    At that point, DH was sitting next to me. He is an absolute wuss about needles. I told him to go out in the waiting room until it was over. For some reason he decided to be a hero and stay next to me. (First mistake.)

    I got no numbing injection, nor did I look at the needle the doctor stuck in my heel. It hurt, then OMG!!!!!!! It was excruciating!!!! I started to cry. I told him I changed my mind. He kept putting the needle directly in the very center of the bottom of the heel, and come to find out, it was a long, thick needle. I was weeping, sobbing....."Stop" .... "Please! I beg you!"   "I can't take any more!"

    DH, the big hero, was watching the whole thing, and started out by patting my arm. But as the pain got worse, he got a death grip on my arm that left marks for days. I thought HE was going to pass out!

    Finally, it was over. I was a drenched, exhausted, weepy mess. I realized the door to the examining room had been open the whole time, and said I'd be surprised if he had any patients at all left in the waiting room when I was done.

    He just smiled, patted my leg, and said "I knew you really didn't want me to stop..." with his charming little grin. If only I didn't love this guy so much....

    HOWEVER, on a scale of 1 - 10, the pain that day was at least a 20, maybe a 25.

    With all the subsequent biopsies and procedures I've had for breast cancer, not one came close to the pain I got from the foot doctor. OH, and later that day? I still had to go back in to be fitted for a walking cast! Sheesh!

    END OF SCARY STORY....

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    My mom had several eye surgeries, and each time she had a needle in her eye, I couldn't watch them do it. However, she later said she never felt a thing, because the numbing drops worked so quickly and so well.

    Kaara - may your procedure be quick and painless tomorrow! Hugs!

  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 1,997
    edited March 2012

    Blessings20, When I had Plantar Fascitis my pain was directly in the middle of my heel. I hope you never get it again. I only wear shoes that have about 1" to 1 1/2" heel and good arch support now. Nop flat shoes, no unsupoported arch. It has made all the difference to me.

    Ginger

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    My DS and DIL came and prayed over me today, and I got to see and play with DGD, so I'm calm and peaceful now.  It is what it is, and so I'll do whatever I need to in order to keep my sight.  Doc said I will only feel a pinch which I assume will be the needle going into my eye...kinda like the IV I get weekly. I watched an enactment of it online, and it doesn't look too bad.  It goes into the side of the eye, not in the center.  I'm going to take a half of an anti anxiety pill just to keep me calm.

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    Teka:  Yes, 9:15 AM...get it over with:)

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited March 2012

    Kaara, We will do the "pocket party"  for you. Good luck.

  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 2,101
    edited March 2012

    Thanks ladies!  I'll be thinking of you all in my pocket tomorrow having a party!

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited March 2012

    its when we all jumpr into her pocket, and support her thru the appt.. (think of a mans dress shirt, with the "pen pocket.." im in!!!!!3jays

       i agree, i had to have my foot injjected, years ago, and my eye ducts the other day..

      different needles, different meds.. the foot really hurt!!!!no anesthitic first; just bam!!!!

      know you'll be fine tommorrow,  Kaara>is your BF going with you?? i held murs hand, even though the doc didn't like it, it worked for me.. and i repeat.. weird, but no pain.. praying for tommorrow am.......3jays

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