Single life after a mastectomy
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I love you to girl
Today is a new day and I will put on my brave face and go out there and smile to everyone ha ha ha also hope the morning goes fast it doesn't help that my appointment today is late afternoon and that I woke up at 4:30 am
I been listening yo a meditation at night no sure if any of you have done that?
Well so far I manage to fall sleep but I get up as if I do not rest so I am not sure this is helping I will keep it up in case it takes days to get use to it?
Anyway
Here is the link
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C- good luck with your apts. I meditate regularly, morning and before bed. It does help with sleep. Some restorative yoga can help before bedtime too. I have sleep issues and often wake up for hours middle of the night. Finally slept through last night.
I hope the tests will give the docs good info to know the full story here.
Keep breathing friend, one minute at a time right now.......
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E- good luck!! Keeping my fingers crossed
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thanks girls
Ya one day at the time. Today's test was easy I was lucky enough to do it at an earlier time so got the cd and all. Now I must wait and hope to get a call with a date to find out what am I facing.
I will concentrate on my accounting exam for now in order to distract my mind.
Yes this maditation I found I am trying hopefully my body starts fighting back.
I also read a lot about things to do in the natural path and I will also try some of that.
G night all
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Sleep well E and keep us posted on when you can get your consult on the images.
We love you sister
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E - hope you’ll get an appointment soon.
Thinking of you
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hi friends. No call yet
Now something interesting happened yesterday.
My ex msg me to say hi .how is it going bla bla about all he has been up to and I decided to tell him. I thought ok now this is going to make him stop contacting me for real. Let see what he has to say.
And to my surprise he say" oh shit C. This is so unreal. What is your plan? Do you need any help? Do you want me to come over and be there when you see the specialist? What are you doing for xmast? " oh no wait it gets better.
I told him no thanks I need to handle this my way. And no plans I don't really celebrate xmast since my sister past away. Xmast just has no meaning .
He said " oh come on my nieces are always asking me when is aunty clair coming for a visit .my family wold love it if you come for xmast. Why stay alone and depressed just come over it will be fun .we are going skating on xmast eve "
So I told him thanks a lot . I just don't feel like it and that was It.
Then 1 hour later his mom and his sister started msging me . Inviting me bla bla bla
I told them I will think about it.
What the hell???
What is this?
Why why why
I just wanted to share with you all
How is it that all of the sudden there is this kind of interest? Ah reality check came nocking on his brain?
Anyway I wish he had not contacted me cuz now is in my mind
Last thing I need right now.
I spoke with my friend Julie she is having her recon on February and she is moving north in 3 weeks.
Actually 25 minutes from where my ex lives
So when I vent to her . She said . C you are very loved just embrace it and go there have fun. Enjoy fresh air and see what happens maybe he finaly grew up .
NAH way that is the girl who hated my ex and now just cus she will live in his area she wants me to go back with him so I also one day move there ?
Anyway I am speachless
What you all think about this ?
Is it just guilt or could he be serious?
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n broken and June I think jazz is on a yoga retreat this week.
Give me your opinion on the ex situation wonder what you guys think
Oh yesterday I went and grabbed a juicer and today I am drinking fresh juice and I am loving it
I wonder why I did not get one before
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C- well, his response is appropriate in the situation here. I find I never know what people will do when faced with any difficult news. And sometimes they surprise you with an offer of support or invite for a holiday.
If you can say "hey I will come for awhile, but need a break from all this, please no questions", then it could be okay. I would not want to have to sit and have those questions especially because you have no idea yet all that is going on or yet to come?
But sitting at home on Xmas may be okay some years, but not this year friend. The ex and your family sounds like they are trying to embrace you and be sure you have a place to spend the holiday. And yes, there could be guilt too but that is theirs to work out. Maybe say you will go for awhile but cannot stay a long time.
I think you should consider it but maybe create some boundaries around conversation and time you will stay there?
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Oh jazz so glad you are around I though you were at the yoga thing.
Well I am not sure
I will think about it but I don't think I will go. Is just going to feel wierd. I never spent xmast at their home in the past so no sure is the best time to do so. I would love to see the kids and go skating with them that is the only thing I wish I could do
But I am not sure I am up for the drive and all.
Thanks for your words I really can use some other people s prospective thing my mind is just not great this week. I am like a graneda about to react. Lol
Hope you are having a great week. What are your plans for the holiday?
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agreed w Jazzy that spend some time w them and see how you feel. I really believe they truly care about you and reached out.
Go have dinner and then come back.
I don’t think it’s time to push ppl away....just embrace the love they share.
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have your ex drive you. It’s the time to milk the most out of this situation
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I was just outside thinking of you E and thinking how I hated you going thru so much alone, and wondering about your holiday plans. Then the thought came to mind about your ex and if he didn't have a GF maybe he could be of help to you just now. I must be Psychic! How weird is that? My thoughts..... since you told him about your situation and so the proverbial cat is outta the bag, I would embrace the help he offered. As to the holiday it could be a much needed distraction if you are up to it.
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ha ha ha you girls are good .
No I can't have him drive me cuz I need my car.
What ever I do I need to be able to get my keys and leave. If I depend on others usually is not good. They live far like 3 hours drive so I am not sure I am in the moode or shape to drive and back but I will see maybe is a good to go on the 24th come back on the 26th but again this will mean to be up late and wake up early since kids do get up at 6am and are full of energy so I am not sure I feel up for the challenge. Could be nice to go and drive back and not stay the night but that is not an option.
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ah not broken we must have been posting at the same time. Haha ha well I will see how I feel by the end of the week . I had some beautiful dresses I bought last month to send those two girls and I didn't so maybe I should go and bring those to them. Maybe on the 24th come back on 26. Since their plan is to go skating on 24th then celebrate xmast day so I can get home the next day. But another problem with this invitation is that around that time my period will come and I don't want to be at someone else house in case I experience anything else?
It sucks but my p is suppose to come around the 25th cuz my last date was November 30th
After the surgery I have been wondering how it ll be ? Will it be normal or way more ? No sure what to expect
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E, don't know what to say except do what is best for you and don't worry about the dang dresses or anyone else. What do you want to do?
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hi so I got an email now from the hospital
My appointment is on Dec 27th 9am
The name of the dr. Is Laframboise, Stephane
So now I can decide if I go anywhere this few days. Yes I think I ll go visit them on th 24th but I ll wait to confirm with them after I see how I feel these few days ?
I will now search about this dr. How I wish I had a copy of the CT scan report
but I guess I ll get a copy on that date 0 -
this is who I will see
DR . Stephane Laframboise was born in Ottawa where she completed her BSc and MSc in Kinanthropology. She then pursued her medical school in Toronto (1990) and her Obstetrics & Gynecology residency at the University of Toronto (1995). She then went on to complete a 2-year fellowship In Montreal at the Univeriste de Montreal (1995). She has been on staff at PMH/University Health Network since October 1997 as an Associate Professor in Obstetrics and Gynaecology at the University of Toronto and Gynaecologic Oncologist in the Division of Gynaecologic Oncology, with consultant staff at Mount Sinai Hospital and Hospital for Sick Children. She is involved in teaching medical students residents and fellows. Her clinical activities include colposcopy, surgery and chemotherapy. She is co-director of the gynecology oncology fellowship program, and site leader for gynecology oncology at PMH. At the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons, Dr. Laframboise is on the Nucleus Committee for Obstetrics and Gynaecology, as well as the Chair of the Exam Committee for Gynecology Oncology
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E - i am glad you can have an appt on the 27th.....
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yes this is good even though I wish it was tomorrow
But on the bright side a few more days of no knowing may be ok too.
I just need to distract my mind with my exam shit and maybe go out for walks or yoga or something. Yesterday I did a few exercises but I avoided abs just in case.
I hate all that is happening now. Honestly wish I could just go far far away from all this
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So the 27th is just to meet with the doctor or is that for surgery?
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E- I am still here but getting ready to leave for the hot springs. But you were right, I was at a yoga thing this week (winter solstice yoga tonight). We gather to decide what we need to release from the year and what we will bring in for the next via angel cards. They are cards with little words to meditate on. The practice was good and great vegetarian potluck after. I am going to the hot springs for the long weekend and back on Xmas day to hit some parties in town. I had a sucky holiday season last year and making up for it this year.
Three hour drive each way. Is there any way you can spend the night? Can they offer you a room so you can drive back the next day? Driving 6 hours in one day for a party would be hard for me too. Then again, maybe too much time with them right now. If you chose to not go, like June said, do accept their help. You need to say yes right now to offers of help friend.
Your gyn onc sounds very experienced. The one I had when they thought I had my ovarian (and who essentially saved my life by pushing to get a surgery done when NO ONE ELSE could figure out what was going on in my abdomen). I am forever grateful for her to saving my life (she found the ruptured appendix). I am glad it is a female surgeon too, really important with this type of surgery.
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Jazz, enjoy your spa experience. It sounds wonderful and what a lovely holiday with spiritual and nurturing time and yet back for time with friends. A perfect balance.
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girls girls I got a call at 1pm to say the dr. Wanted to see me today atv1:30 pm
So I got ready and came to the hospital I am now waiting to see her.
I will let you know what she says
This is great cuz now I will know more I rather know exactly what I am facing 🖒
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Check in when you can. Email better?
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yes pls let us know
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hi ladies I sent you an email just now
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I decided to go up north to my ex sis in law tmw after I am done at the hospital.
I think if I don't go somewhere and distract my mind I ll go nuts.
I ll post tmw after I get the hormone thing implant and the other pill
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E - I think it’s a very good idea to be around friends. Hugs
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E- I think it is good to go and be around people right now. They may be able to listen and help you talk about some of this. Way too big to handle alone.
Be careful traveling friend. Take good care of yourself.
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