Single life after a mastectomy

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  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    E, so surprised that a medical issue is not taken into consideration.

  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited December 2017

    E- my sister and her partner are okay. They had a close call on the freeway with two fires that erupted on Tuesday in the LA area. They were heading north on a trip to San Fran and the fires came down along the 405.

    I don't know if any of you saw this video that has been on the news or FB but this what people were dealing with early this week including my sister. The fires are moving an acre a second so if it comes across the freeway, there is no chance of outrunning it. They were terrified. But they got turned around, home and are glad to be so. There are five or six more fires as of today, four around the LA area, and one in San Diego. The fires in CA this year are horrific. I am glad they are safe, I was terrified when they called me and told me what was happening.



  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    ah well school finally gave in and said I can do the test on Jan 13th so I took that

    I will have some xtra time to study lol

    I finish the day and I am so exhausted so glad all ll ve over soon.

  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited December 2017

    Good morning friends- I did a bucket list thing yesterday for the holiday season to visit some of the ruins up in the mountains where they do this magical lighting. I went to a lovely concert at a church before hand as well.

    These missions were common here in the 1500s when the Spanish conquistadors came up from Mexico as they were in the new world looking for gold. They established these missions to convert the Native Amercians to Catholism (many here embrace both their native traditions as well as the catholic church today).

    At dusk, the luminaries that are basically paper bags with sand on the bottom and little tea lights light up around the ruins.

    I hope you enjoy these photos!

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  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    Thanks for sharing your latest adventure. Fun! Reminds me of ruins I have seen in the past which I have long forgotten.

  • juneping
    juneping Member Posts: 634
    edited December 2017

    omg, the fire was crazy. So many fires in CA this year. What’s going on??!

  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited December 2017

    June- the west has been very dry this fall. We have had no moisture now in two months in my city, although parts of NM are getting some snow now. Same for CA, very dry. We came out of a drought, only to go back in to one. CA has these very high winds and that is when things get bad out there. Jerry Brown (CA gov) says this will be the new normal for CA, fire fighting to through the Xmas holidays. Very sad.

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    At least the loss of life is minimal. To date I have only heard of one fatality and that from a car accident trying to flee. Think of the loss of the wildlife though. As you may know I am a bleeding heart for animals. Yes, this time of year tragedies seem all the more crueler.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    omg j just lost my post :(

    So just wanted to say me too I feel terrible about the wild animas in those fires ....

    Also 2 more days for my surgery .feel like a nightmare which ll finaly end soon.

    I am nervous and ancious. Just want to have it done. I went to the library testerday and Saturday .still disappointed I can no do the exam today but I guess I ll have more chance to study.

    Also not broken I wanted to show u something I am making now.

    Found these ideas in pinterest

    And then I had 3 dish holders no sure what you call those were u place hot dishes in our tables?

    Anyway I decided to paint owls on it and looks cute do far.

    Here are the ones from pinterest which are made with wood and stones to decorate walls.


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    I ll post now mine separate cuz don't want to lose thus post again

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    here the ones I am making SillyHeart


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  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited December 2017

    E- best wishes for your surgery this week. We will be in your pocket Heart

    I love your crafty ways. My mother was so good at things like that, but not me. The owls are lovely!


  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    E, yes, best of luck with the surgery. And you will have help for after care?

    I use to be so artsy and crafty but not now. I just pulled an old vintage snow shovel out of someone's trash and thought I would make a fabric bow, add some greens and hang my vintage ice skates that are packed somewhere, for outside my front door and then thought "Nah" and just threw it back in my trash. As for me I am suffocating with years of accumulation but you are in a different place and your projects are darling and so glad you are enjoying. I love to see you doing fun stuff.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    hI girls my friend margarita will pick me up cuz the hospital won't let me go home alone. But tomw I plan to make 2 different soups and buy Fruits yogurt and things I may feel like eating all I need is my pain killers hoping I can get those the day of the surgery and then my bed I don't really need anyone after my surgery I can manage alone if I have food to warm up and fruits I ll be ok.

    Notbroken I love crafts but I am like you I have no space and I always give away what ever I make :(

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    E, I will send you some picks of my art. I had fun and at one point I was in several galleries and did amazing well in a competitive market. Ugh...a friend was here today and she was a huge fan and encouraged me to make the spare bedroom into a studio. That is not my heart anymore and my art was simple and pure. I would be afraid of what might spur out. I will send and I am sure you will get me, or who I was.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    not broken you should do a little art. I use it to help me when I am felling down . Or stress which is very often. Right now I am getting ready to go downtown for my pre op appointment. After that I ll come home and get the car to go grocery shopping

    I need to buy water and fruit and vegetable to have for after surgery.

    Snow is on the ground now and I feel not so great about it. My appointment is at 2:30pm and only after 12 I ll be able to call and have the time of the surgery. I watch a few videos last night on people who had it done and I am getting ancious better to just wait until and take it 1 day at the time.

    I am still disappointed at not been able to do my exam tomw I fear by Jan 13 my memory will be gone of all I have study. No easy to review when sick but I ll try

    Sending you hugs I ll post later from the hospital.

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    E, I am thinking of you. Just think how good this will feel to have this behind you.

  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited December 2017

    E- I hope the pre-op apt went well today and you have enough food for your settling in tomorrow after the procedure.

    We will be in your pocket and as Bent says, this will be good to have behind you.

  • juneping
    juneping Member Posts: 634
    edited December 2017

    E - thinking of you. GL!!

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    hi friends.

    I have some real bad news. I woke up an hour afte surgery and first thing I check my tumy and I was so happy cuz only small cuts.

    But then after another hour in the recovery room. The dr. Comes in and he close the curtains and I knew something was not right.

    So I have cancer again. Yap ovarian cancer. He basically opened me and close me up again. He is sending me back to prince Margaret hospital and I just have to go home and wait for their call.

    So how I feel? I am behond mad piss disappointed once again the medical system fail me. Why no one could listen to me back in March? I asked my dr. To give me his honest opinion and he says it all depends on the CT scan the will do. He says most likely they will suggest chemo to shrink the mass then surgery but that I can request surgery right away. Which i plan on doing please don't get mad at me but I will not do chemo again. I want surgery right away I will demand for it or I will just dyi

    Please don't be upset but it is my choice. I cry so much now and I am no sad I am angry I wish I could just hit someone in the face I am so so angry. Behond angry

    Yes I guess I am now stage 4.

    And again what ever life I had left is torn in a million pieces

    I love you all and I will keep you posted.

    Right now I am just waiting for my friend so I can go home and go to my bed. I just want to sleep and not wake up.

    I am so piss so piss so piss

    So sorry I don't want to make you sad or depress you are my real family some how. I don't plan to tell my family. I will fight this one alone.

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    Oh E,.....I have no words but I just feel sick. I can't even begin to comprehend what you are going thru. Post when you are up to it. I am very worried about you.

  • juneping
    juneping Member Posts: 634
    edited December 2017

    E...i am so sorry to hear this. did they remove the mass? or they just opened and closed and did nothing else??

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    hi June .

    They only did pelvic wash to take some fluid built up but they did not take the mass 😂😂😂😂

    Basically he preferred to send me to the so called experts so the responsibility will be on someone else hands. I am so sick upset piss I promise you that is what I am I feel so betrayed

    So I went to the medical records office on the ground floor to ask for the surgery report. And it was designed they say to call them tmw that they will then tell me when I can pick it up. Even though I know they could just print and give.

    I also asked the nurse to fax to the pharmacy the prescription so once my friend arrive I can go pick it up they were very nice and fax it down around 11am then my friend only showed up at 2pm cuz she was help up at work then we went and the pharcy says they did not get it fill that I must wait another 30 minutesSickTired

    So I stand there cuz I could not sit .

    After that we went out side took a taxI home

    Warmed up a soup offered food to my friend and sat down. had my soup and then talk to my friend till now is 6pm I had to tell my friend to go home. I say I hope I am no rude Xxxx but I want to go to bed pain is coming and I need to go to my bed pls go home cuz is already dark." Can you believe it? I love her but come on how can you not clue in that I am not able to entertain you I just had a stupip surgery and I was told I have cancer again? Pleas forgive me girls I am venting I love my friend and I am glad she was no offended she is actually worry cuz she think I am suicidal. She means well but still piss me off that I am in pain and I need to tell her to go home cuz she can't stop talking about shit I don't even care about I was not talking just was there listening and all of the sudden I saw dark out and realized I needed my dame bed.

    So the dr . Was honest he told me he did not take the mass cuz he felt he could make things worse cuz it is not his expertise so be it. He said he will arrange for me to have a CT scan for my entire body now to make sure it is not everywhere else?

    So ya I am not sure I will win this time . Not broKen I am worry myself and just piss just upset. And the fact I can't tell my family is worse. But how can I? They are seen my sister fade away with her own sickness I just won't do that to them.

    I have you here and for now is ok I just need to focus on what battle is coming my way.

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    E, you have so little information and as we know that makes everything worse. I just hope you can get in ASAP to get your scans and doctor appointments so you can get your answers and a plan. The shock of it all and the lack of info must be unbearable just now. :(

    Any chance this friend of yours can make it to any of the doctor appointments? I hate you going it alone again. :(

    Hope you can get some sleep. Don't hesitate to get some anxiety meds if needed.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    hi friends no my friend can't go to appointments but she will be the one taking me out of the hospital when I need her too. You see I have done it for her too. Usually I go and pick her up.so is our little arrangement cuz she like me has no family here in Canada.

    I am a little better. Still upset but better now

    I will just try to see the so call sperts and see what can be done. No much I can do but try to heal now from what ever they did to me today.

    Saw a video which has all my symptoms worth watching it.



  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    Get your rest.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    yes I am trying to sleep but I just can't

    I decided to delete the few posts

    I am just not in my right mind I better not share now. Just glad you all read you are who I want to know what I am going through but no the entire globe since I plan to no say to my family and not sure if any relatives may come here sometimes.

    Sending you huge hugs ll post tmw how I feel from this surgery which got me pain and discomfort plus disappointment SickTired

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    E, I will send you my email. I don't have yours anymore and mine has changed.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    hi friends I sent you both an email.

    June please pm your email so I can update you.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited December 2017

    hi friends

    Well is just another day. I did some painting and wanted to show you all. I think I ll give them as xmast gift to some folks who have a vegetable garden and always give me lots

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    Jazz thanks for finding the other tread.

    Lots of information there.

    I will keep you all in my thoughts this coming days

  • notbrokenjustbent
    notbrokenjustbent Member Posts: 326
    edited December 2017

    Love you E.