Kiwi ladies who need encouragment, but all welcome.
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Hi Donna, your boss is certainly being unfair to you. It seems like she seriously lacks empathy and hasn't had to deal with a life-changing diagnosis and treatment herself. She would get a shock if it ever happens to her. For you to have worked those extra hours during radiotherapy was amazing. I can remember the fatigue towards the end especially. Remember that all workers in NZ have certain rights. If things get worse could you contact a union delegate for support?
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No fair Donna!
I hope your meeting goes ok tomorrow. You are doing everything right by them, working to make up that time. I hope she treats you right too!
Will be thinking of you.
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That is crap Donna. I hope that at your meeting your Boss can empathize with your situation. I will be thinking of you x.
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I hope today went ok at work Donna. And that tomorrow's appt is good.
I'm back from chemo. Knackered as per, but at least I go to Arrowtown tomorrow!
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Have a great time KT.
Good luck today Donna. Hopefully yesterday, at work, went alright.
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Hi guys, I'm to gutted to talk about yesterday. But I have just been on the phone to the Dept of Labour and now know they can't treat me like this so watch this space. I am really nervous about my appointment today but thanks for all the good wishes. I can't tell anyone in my family as I don't want my Mum to have another stroke or my poor kids to worry. I find this site so wonderful as you guys all understand. I will let you know how I get on. Have a wonderful break KT, Donna xxx
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Oh Donna. I'm sorry about work
I'm sure it can be sorted with help. Will definitely be thinking of you today with your gynae appt. I hope it goes well.
((Hugs!))
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Hi Donna, glad you contacted Dept of Labour. I'm amazed at your employer treating you so badly. Best of luck with this and medical appt.
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Oh I am sorry to hear that yesterday didn't go well. My sister's best friend is a Labour Inspector and has said previously that this happens all too often. Hopefully the Dept of Labour can help you out.
Good luck this afternoon x
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Hi guys, just got back to workfrom my appointment, talk about a rush. Well my uterus is a lot thicker than it should be and I may have a polyp or several? So the Gyne doctor did a procedure starting with P which hurt so much I nearly cried. They will send that away and then I will have a Hysteroscopy and a D&C at the Superclinic so that is another day off work (if I haven't resigned by then). Hopefully the camera will tell them something. Hope everyone is doing well. Take care for now, Donna xxx
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Oh Donna, I am so sorry that this is happening to you. The gyne still is enough without the work hassle as well. Do you have sick leave to cover your op day?
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Hi Nikki, I have heaps of sick leave and over 1 months annual leave, that's the crazy thing about it. I'm actually feeling quite strong at the moment. I have been on to someone I know in the legal profession and she is seeing if I have a case which I suspect I do. This lady is a bully, it's not the first time, but this time she has really got my back up. I hope every one is doing well today and enjoying this glorious weather before winter really sets in? I am so glad it's Friday I feel like doing a happy dance all around the office haha!
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not good to hear about your mean boss Donna and on top of all the other worries. I had the Pipelle procedure you are talking about about 6 weeks ago. They clamp your cervix open which is what hurts to buggery and then get tissue samples. I have to have the same op as you but not booked it in yet - I'm dragging the chain as my results came back all normal so I'm figuring if it's a polyp it not going to change in a few weeks. A few other things going on is making it less important too.
The weather continues to be nice here so can't complain.
We have landscapers doing work on our section now so that's exciting. Amazing what they can achieve in a couple of days. I had to heat them up a pizza for lunch today as our dog ate one of the guys lunch left on the table!! Lol.
Was that fish a yellow finned tuna Donna? A good size.
Glad all your tests/results have been ok so far Nikki.
How was Queenstown Kt, or is it this week? It will be fab.
Hi to everyone else. 👋👋
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Hi Kruise, that made me LOL about the dog, that's just the sort of thing my Lab Jet would do. His life is ruled by food and I always joke if I ever died on my couch, they would only find bones because he would eat me. Yes the P procedure hurt like bloody hell. If mine comes back as a bad result I don't know what I will do because now I am too scared to take any time off work
Talk about stressed out. I have contacted the Department of Labour and am pretty sure what she is doing isn't allowed but it costs $170 to lodge a personal grievance and I'm too scared to talk to her about it. I am going to look for another job but just waiting for this current medical thing to pass. It's not easy is it, this breast cancer crap!!! That fish was a Kingi Kruise, tastes amazing baked with onion, garlic, tomatoes and a little bit of butter. Really good for my Mediterranean diet. I am now living on vegetables, fruit and fish and feel pretty good, despite the worry about my job etc. Can't wait to hear how KT got on in Queenstown? Hope she had nice weather. Take care everyone, Donna xxx0 -
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I got back an hour ago from Arrowtown. It was lovely to be somewhere different and so beautiful (& cold!- thank goodness for the fire)We did lots of walking and relaxing, lovely autumn colours. Saw the Wildepeople at the cute movie theatre.
Ouch Donna, that 'p' thing didn't sound fun. I hope you & Kruise have no dramas with any further procedures. Funny about the dog Kruise
Long weekend next weekend yay.
Here's a pic from Tobins Track above Arrowtown. (Oops, that's on the way up the crown range not the track)
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Sounds like you had a great time KT. It's so beautiful down there.
Donna, hang in there. Hopefully you can get this latest thing sorted soon before you start looking for another job.
I met up with woody on Friday night - we have mutual friends in common, and Woody was staying with them. She is just lovely. I wonder if it's the whole 2 degrees of separation thing, or NZ really is a small place!
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Wow Nikki. Small world (or NZ) for sure!
Did you know she'd be there, or just bump into each other at your friends?
Hope y'all have a good day. I'm back to reality here- lots of washing & housework to do (reality bites...)
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My friend Carlene knew that we'd connected via this forum, so when they were coming to stay she invited me over to meet her.
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Hi guys, wow that truly is amazing Nikki haha, such a small world aye? That photo is gorgeous KT. I remember driving up that crown range and actually screaming because I thought we were going over the edge haha.
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Hi guys, hope you are all doing well. I just got a call from the Super Clinic, they want to do that Hysteroscopy next Tuesday 26th April. I am all in a flap now though as I'm too scared to tell my boss. So I am thinking I will just have to have a sick day. I have sick days owing but feel really bad not being honest. But I don't know what else to do. If we want to book in leave we have to give a couple of months notice. Damned if I do and damned if I don't. Anyway, it's a nice day today and a long weekend, thank goodness. Take care guys, Donna xxx
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It shouldn't be so hard that's for sure Donna (it may be worth paying that $170 to get her off your back!). I'm glad you'll get the procedure out of the way so soon.
I'm sitting at chemo at the mo. Busy as per usual & too many young people here.
Hope the day is going well for you all
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Good news Donna, that you can get your surgery done so quickly. I am so sorry that you're in a difficult position with work. Do let me know if you need someone to hold your hand x
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Thanks for that kind offer Nikki. My daughter is on holiday from tech at the moment so she can take me and pick up me. Nikki you don't have too long to wait now until your scan but then you have to wait some more for the results. It certainly is a waiting game this bloody breast cancer thing. This is what my boss doesn't understand I think, it's not the initial diagnoses but all the appointments afterwards. Never mind I have sent my letter of to the Dept of Labour so just waiting now. Knowing me I will probably get cold feet so nothing will come of it. The funny thing is my boss just emailed me this morning to tell me I need to take some leave as I have over 1 month owing and some of it is from last year. I can't even tell her that I need next Tuesday off for a medical appointment so I am going to call in sick. And KT you are right about all the young people with cancer. My friends daughter fought some type of cancer last year (not sure but think it was leukemia) and has just relapsed, she is 14. Anyway I better get back to work. Take care everyone, Donna xxx
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Hi girls. Hope you are all going well.
Donna, how did the hysteroscopy go yesterday? Good to get over with. I guess it'll be a while before you get the results.
Good luck with the bone scan today Nikki.
I'm at chemo. Have my newspaper & my phone to help while away the time. & lunch has just arrived
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Hi KT, it went really well thanks. They found a large polyp which they have sent away but the Doctor said nothing looked sinister so I'm taking that as good news for now. Have today off work as well, but feeling really good thanks. Unlike my Breast Cancer surgery at the Manukau Super Clinic I can't speak highly enough of the staff that looked after me yesterday, they were lovely and it was all over really quickly, I was home resting by lunch time. Hope everything goes well today Nikki and the wait isn't too terrible (I know it will be but I reckon you kind of get used to it). Take care KT hope chemo is going well and not knocking you around too much?
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Hi All.
The scan is all over and done with, however I have some doubt that I am in the clear on this one. The first scan went through, but then they came back with some "hot" spots in my pelvis and ribs (both left side) and quite a bit more scanning and phone calls to someone. I find out next week with my Oncology appointment next Tuesday so not long really to wait.
So pleased that you've had your op Donna. Back to work tomorrow though?
I forgot that today was your chemo day KT. I would've dropped in. I was there at 10.30 for the injection and 1.30 for the scan.
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Hey Nikki
it would have been nice to see you in the flesh. I hope you don't worry too much before Tuesday. No matter what, it is what it is and worrying doesn't help. Lots of distractions is the answer have some fun. I'm glad it went well Donna. Hope you enjoyed your day off today, you deserve it.
I'm glad to be home. I had the 2 drugs today (zometa as well as taxol) so I'm a bit more tired (& my DH would say grumpy!).
Take care all
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Hi everyone, Nikki I really hope results are good for you. Donna I had the same operation a few years ago also because of Tamoxifen side effects and it wasn't too bad. KT you seem to have an amazing way of coping with it all.
I see my breast surgeon Dr Blair in two weeks' time on 11 May. She's expecting an answer from me about removing the other breast and/or reconstruction. I've decided against reconstruction of any type, mainly because of reading through threads on this website about DIEP flap and implants. It seems such a lengthy, painful, difficult process and for me I don't feel it's worth it. She seems in favour of DIEP flap but I just can't put myself through it. I may delay the whole process further and stick with 6 monthly surveillance.
My oldest son has been struggling with mental health issues for a while now but particularly in the last few months so this has been extremely stressful. He and I are very close and he tends to turn to me rather than his dad which is ok in some ways but causing me a lot of worry. He's seeing a counsellor once a week but it's not really helping that much. She mentioned antidepressants but I've been reading that these can be harmful for under 25 year olds. Take care everyone.
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Hi Optimist,
It's so hard when our kids struggle isn't it. We went thru a similar thing with our daughter a few years ago. Hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel sometimes, but hang in there. Just be there with love & support (as you are I'm sure). We ended up going the antidepressant route for a bit & she no longer needs them.
((hugs)) to you both (& the rest of the family)
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Donna I'm glad your op went well. Hope the recovery is nice and straight forward.
Nikki hope Tuesday comes round quickly and the news is good. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
Optimist we have the same problem with my 2nd son. He is 20 and has been under mental health for sometime so I know how that feels. We have had a couple of suicide attempts. He went to live with his dad late last year as it was all getting too much for me. He is on antidepressants and antipsychotic meds.
KT taxol and zometa makes for a long day. I'd be cranky too.
Not much to report here. I'm still on the oral taxol and it seems to be going ok. I'm starting to get a bit fatigued but the SEs are fairly mild and only having to go into oncology for clinic and not weekly chemo does make things a lot easier.
I'm off to do the dishes before I fall asleep. I was lucky though Caitlin cooked. Night everyb
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