I look for other flat chested women. A rant.
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JoAnn K, It is a grieving process for your breasts as well as your other losses. I think it just takes time. It has been a really rough year for you. The loss of sexual pleasure is especially hard to take.
The silicone prostheses are heavy and fairly hot, but there is also a weighted foam that is much lighter weight and less hot. Going flat is convenient, but if you were large it may seem noticeable. There is a thread called "All Things Bras and Prostheses" which was started by a woman who also had large breasts and had a double mx. There are photos of her before and after and lots of discussion of garments and prosthesis choices. I'm a uni, so wearing something for balance is necessary.
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Hi JoAnn_K:
You've had a very hard year, and you are grieving two kinds of losses.
If you have not already been there, please also visit this site:
http://breastfree.org/index.php
The site was created by Erica (Barbara) of these boards, and you will find a number of personal stories there (see menu at right). It can help to know that people feel the same way you do about their loss.
There is a breastfree blog as well (link at bottom left of the home page), with excellent posts. The site also has a lot of information about various options for prosthesis, bras and camisoles, and going flat too.
It takes time to get used to a different profile. Figuring out what works for you is a process, but you will get there. I wish I could go flat all the time, but I seem to feel a little weird about it (too bad), so I do a mixture of things. I go flat at home, and sometimes I go flat in public (hiking, air travel, or if encased in down or a heavy coat). I have a small frame, so for exercising I can wear an empty bra (a Coobie with an extra pad so the cups won't invert). Otherwise, I wear a bra with microbead forms. I only wear the silicone forms for special occasions (which are typically air conditioned!).
BarredOwl
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please please. Help meDawn Lucas https://bravetheshave.org.uk/shavers/dawn-lucas/?success=1&campaign=147375
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JoAnn, It does take time to mourn, and you have been hit with so very much in a short time. Be very kind to yourself, it is all a big adjustment. 4 years later, there are still days where I feel pain, or just uncomfortable being flat.
But when I wish, I do wear small breast forms, not near as big as I was, and mostly everyone thinks I have lost weight!
It is all going to be ok, you have just has so much to cope with, it takes time to process everything.
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These were a tremendous help to me when it came time to live my life flat. I hold my head high and I'm not self conscious about being flat. It feels very normal to me and has since my surgery.
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For those who remember Barbie Ritzco, one of the founders of Flat and Fabulous,,, they are putting out a tee shirt with her tattoo on the front and the words ENDURE on the back. Here's a link if you are interested.
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As of three days ago I joined this club and I know it will be a great support. Thankyou all xx
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Best wishes with your recovery annecordelia xxx
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Hey girls the mods are making a slideshow of BC sisters from all over - it will be lovely!
If you would like to take part or even just see some of your BC sisters
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/135/topic/834934?page=1#post_4494722
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Thanks, feline. Nice pic of you and dd there.
I posted my T-shirt (thanks to your cropping skills)
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Thankyou feelingfeline :-)
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Yeah Melanie on The Huffington Post article that featured you and three others. You rock! And are such a roll model for going flat. Thank you!
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^ I saw that today, too! Awesomeness!
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Many here have donated . Thank you !........Wandering around and cheerleading again
Donate today, make a difference directly in all our lives. By supporting BCO, we support each other. Thanks and Hugs
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/110/topic/834331?page=1
Link to the mainboard donation page
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Absolutely beautiful Melanie! Your words resonate with me.
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Thank you, MT1. That was beautifully done.
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Thanks folks! I appreciate it.
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Now I know what to do with this bag of bras! Donate to a daycare!
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Good one. Thought it was a legionnaire's hat at first glance. too funny.
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hahahaha, excellent!!!
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mags, good idea.
Another thought - - can we re-make them into earmuffs?
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Oooooh I like it!
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hahahahahaha!!!!! Brilliant. I think we all need to wear our old bras like that next Pinktober and take pictures!!!!!
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I threw all my old bras in the trash. I guess I'd have to dig out one of my pocketed bras out and wear that.
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Thank you for that piece! I can't wait to have your confidence. You are beautiful!
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Lisa,
I threw mine out too but I'll find something and take a picture with it when it's time. I was really small anyway and never wore any thing padded but I can stuff something in my coobie and try that.
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Ha! Mine are 44DDDs! They are huge!
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Mag,
I just love this idea... Hey Halloween is Sat.I'm going for herceptin tomorrow...and one of my nurses is joining us for Halloween maybe I'll greet her with that!
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Sula, have you seen the photo of the Accidental Amazon, wearing a form pinned to the outside of her dress? Maybe I should go that route.
I never wear my forms. They may as well get some use.
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