I look for other flat chested women. A rant.
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Wow, I had to go back and re-read MT's post about this, that makes it so much more awesome for me as I am a huge MT fan!!!
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They are beautiful. Have shared with my daughters who would find these items so comfortable and fit their style!
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I'm sitting in a Pig N' Pancake on Highway 101, flat and without prosthetics. Doesn't seem to register for anybody.
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Shortly after my surgery I was texting with someone and she asked "how are you doing?", I replied "flat as a pancake". She answered back "mmmmmm, pancakes...". It struck me as hysterically funny!
I do think most people don't notice us fabulously flatties as much as we might think. On the other hand, I feel like if they do notice and it challenges their preconceived notions about what I "should" look like, then I have done them a service.
I is what I is and am happy to be me!
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There are women who never develop noticeable boobs. MIL said she wore an A cup while nursing and nothing the rest of the time. When I went to France, I realized that Brigit Bardot was such a sensation because the average French woman is small breasted.
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My heritage is part French. Maybe that's why I was small.
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Ok this was hilarious:
Been flat for a year, never even bothered to get fitted for prostheses. The other day at Walmart I saw a bra with enough firm padding it looked like it might help me with some of those blouses with darts, and it was a pullover with really soft fabric, so I figured, what the heck, what have I got to lose. Yesterday I tried it on and pulled on a tshirt over it. Walked into the kitchen where my 78 year old cousin (who lives with us) was putting groceries away. "What do you think?" I asked. She was trying to figure about what was on my shirt. So I pointed at my chest. As it dawned on her what I had done, she started singing, Tiny bubbles....0 -
hahahah, Mags, that's great!!Mmmmm, pancakes,,,,
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Right? My goodness! The campaign is still circling the world and being picked up by news companies and web sites around the world. Seeing this explode, experiencing the comments, many positive, some just plain mean and dismissive, was eye opening. I am really glad I did it and really happy with how far and wide it went.
I wanted my photos to appeal to the widest possible audience. I did this with FlattopperPride, a QueerCancer support site, which I am a member of. I am bisexual, married to a man (for the record). You need not be officially 'queer' to join, the group. We welcome queer supporters and allies too.
Even still, I have come to think that if you choose against reconstruction and don't wear forms, you have made a non-normative choice and that makes you queer- at the very least, it makes you unique and helps you push the narrow definition of what it means to be a woman in this world. And, EVEN though we flatties are in the -majority-! That is one of the other reasons why I did this. Another reason is that I can't stand all the research doctors are doing questioning female choices against reconstruction.
QueerCancer is a Facebook group, so if you would like to join, I will help. I understand not wanting to join Facebook groups though too.
I want to break the cancer closet wide open.
We are beautiful, no matter what.
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Is it so uncommon to choose no reconstruction? I too look for others. Personally I love being flat (1 month and 1 week from surgery tonight. Right breast 2 small stage one tumors and didn't want to be uneven and go through the whole process of reconstruction on one, lift on the other.. and all the procedures that entails???? and then down the road more biopsies etc... for the left????) Are we so uncommon that there have been no posts since 2012? I'm in 2015,
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I had my first MX in 1990 in my 30's never did reconstruction. Never wanted to bother. I was TN at the time and given a poor prognosis so I just never bothered. I was always small so even not wearing anything on the other side, nobody would notice. I did buy a prosthesis, and wore it or not depending on what I was doing, or where I was going.
So I had another MX when I was diagnosed again last yr. no question I wanted it off, boobs have never been important to me , the question of reconstruction came up and I did think about it for say 5 minutes, and decided a big flat fat no! I'm very happy with how I look, my husband has always supported me in whatever I chose, he thinks I look great. I have a couple of soft cotton thingies I put in my bra l am naturally small so it all works great. I am getting a couple of prosthetics. In case I feel like wearing them, but I am proud of my scars. Actually none of my friends except one. ( a nurse) knows I didn't "rebuild" and no one notices as it all fits well with my overall look.
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There have been lots of posts here over the last few months Tacticalnikita! The PSs seem to automatically thnk we want their wares but it's not uncommon to go flat. Check out the website for Flat and Fabulous! My DH likes me rea
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i am on the fence, but both legs are hangin on the no recon side.
Just not interested in any more medical tx, unless absolutely necessary. I hated medical tx before bc and REALLY hate it now. TEs and implants sound terrible, during and after, and seem fraught with horrors. The only thing I would consider is a flap, and then only the one where no needed trunk muscle is used. But for now.......meh. I cared at first, but now I got no F&$ks left to give. DH does not care either, so no one else's opinion matters to me.
I have foobs and I wear them sometimes. Been out without them an no one seems to notice
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I'm not sure whether I posted it here or in a similar thread, but my BS said about 50% go flat and about 25% who do reconstruction undo it later or wish they hadn't done it. Informed personal preferences, and medical circumstances, ought to be the deciding factors.
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I didn't even consider reconstruction. Everything I have read since makes me believe that was the right choice for me. Maybe if I was 30 and not married I might want it, but maybe not even then. DH is OK with it, although he's a little resistant to my idea of having the other removed. I'm tired of trying to match a perky foob with a decidedly unperky old lady real one. It would be a lot easier to wear 2 foobs or none at all.
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MT1, my niece (who posted the link on twitter) lives in London, England, so I would say, yes, you are really getting around!
I pointed you out to her and now you have another fan
Free to be me!
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I hear you Wren! And also,, no more mammo's if you go all flat! Definitely something to be said about that.0 -
I'm a uni and initally planned to do TRAM recon, but I'm currently re-thinking. I HATE the TE. Hate, hate, hate. I'll be honest. The biggest reason I wanted recon was to actually have nice breasts. When I'm at my healthy weight I'm an A cup. Barely. I don't need a bra. My mammo side with the stupid TE is as big as I usually am.
My PS told me that if I do TRAM, I should only go to what I am naturally as losing weight will make the non-mx side smaller and the TRAM side will lose some volume too. I didn't want implants, so now what.
I'm leaning more towards having the TE taken out and just going on as I am. I'm overweight now so I'm very lopsided. I DO notice people's eyes sliding down to the mx side but most of the time it doesn't bother me. No one at work cares and honestly, I don't care if my husband cares. It's nice to see so many of you happy with the choice to skip recon and go natural (or as natural as you get after BC).
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Suzy, The advantage to being a uni without recon is being able to match whatever size the other side is. I lost 10 lbs and had to go down a size in the foob. I'm tempted to have the other one off and have matching sides of whatever size I want.
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I am a BMX'er and can go any size I want and love it. I usually take off my foobs when I get home from work and go flat the rest of the night. My husband is always commenting how my breasts look so nice and don't sag as much as my real ones did. What a guy!!!!!
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yeah, I'm not going to remove the healthy breast. If my genetic tests had come back differently that would be one thing, but I'm at very low odds of recurrence so...
Having said that, if I lose all the weight I have planned, the healthy breast will disappear and it will be a moot issue!
I'm tired of surgery and I'm tired of recovery and I'm tired of being tired. I just want my life back. I want swim and dive and paddle and sail. Surgery will only delay me getting back to these things. Are boobs worth it???
I'm almost 52 years old. I'm married at the moment but that is subject to change without warning. If I'm single will I care? Will I wish I had foobs???
So many questions.
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Just love flat. No more procedures. No more pain! Wear foobs when I wear makeup. In this June heati don't miss sweating under my breasts. I have foobs for A and AA. Depending on what I wear can mix it up
So much in BC is out of our control. This is something that I can totally control.
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I hear you, Chloesmom -- gotta love the flat!!!!
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My niece, whom I hadn't seen in 37 years, came for a visit to learn more about her father's (my brother) family history. Her dad had thyroid cancer and cancer of the 4th and 5th vertebrae. And of course, I had breast cancer and live everyday flat - even wear knit tops. It must have made an impression on her because she called me and said she had a discussion with her husband that if she was diagnosed with breast cancer she wanted to live flat and would he be ok with it. He commented that if that is what she wanted then he was fine with it. It made me smile as that is what my husband said to me and we are both still very happy with my decision.
MT, you rock!
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My problem is that I am not flat. I still have miss lefty. I go in public as I am. Large left breast. Going to get a prosthetic for when I return to work. My homemade prosthetic is a (new) ankle sock with rice inside. Stitched up rice sock. Keep misplacing my rice sock. LMAO!!
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I am very happy for you.
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I just had a double mastectomy on June 12. I chose not to have reconstruction. I am proud to say I am flat and almost feeling fabulous. I am 32 and had this done as preventative surgery. Too much breast cancer in my family (mom had it four times before she was 43). Genetic testing proved I was at high risk. Recovering from surgery and will be flat by choice
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wish you the best prekteacher. Healing and health. Welcome to flat, fabulous and free!
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Welcome, Prekteacher. Be good to yourself and take care. Should you need anything we are here to help.
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Prekteacher best wishes with your recovery.
Guera NM there are several of us on here who have had umx. Maybe miss lefty can meet miss righty
! Best wishes with your recovery too.0
