The Hermit Club
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Smoking.....no.......drinking.......no......eating the wrong things.......GUILTY.......too busy raising 6 kids......no time to drink or smoke........Sorry......7.......if I include the biggest kid.......my husband....0 -
CC I watch person of interest----but that's certainly not me. hahaha
Oh to think about the older days of drinking all night and just doing whatever and never thought about later on in life--well especially when my parents lived long lives doing what they wanted. But we were drinking wine when we were young, my dad always thought it was good for u and he drank his red wine everyday and lived to 96 and my sister still has her 1-2 glasess of red wine everyday after work--She's 74, works full time Stage 4 since 2007, but I don't only because I get a headache from it unless it's really expensive wine, which is not in my budget LOL cuz it doesn't have all the additives in it.0 -
GUILTY----smoking yes...still smoke 1-2 a day
Drinking NO...stomach would never allow it..
Eating the wrong food....GUILTY...I was a junk food junky....it was hard givin up the sugar...
Not to mention how many times I quit smoking.0 -
Hi Hermits- checking in on this sunny Saturday morning. The weather here is lovely, and I plan to go for a walk down near the river to see the cottonwoods in their full golden color as well as whether I might see or hear any sand hill cranes. They come to winter here, and are very alluring to those of us who love nature. If I manage to get a good picture, I will post it here so you can see the real visual.
Lori- we will be here and waiting to hear from you after your surgery. I am sure you have lots to do to be ready to go, and know cleaning is a drag but having your bedroom comfy as well as good food in the fridge for when you return will be helpful. My surgeons always told me to do a more high protein diet after my surgeries last year, it will help with your healing.
And about those friends who come and go, life does have a way of showing us who cares by those who show up and stick around from diagnosis, through treatment, and afterwards too. I have had folks who have been present through treatment, but now seem very absent from my life. Like Granny says, people help you, but then do move on and our moving on process is much longer.
One of my epiphanies from all this is that one should really spend time with people who care about you. There may not always be a lot of those people around when you need them. Like many have said here, it is why we come here because it is a place where we are understood in a world where people are just afraid of the whole subject. I have learned to trust how I feel around people more, and just don't make excuses for people anymore. Not everyone is capable or willing to support us through our journey.0 -
gotta believe when it's your time, it's your time.......my husband died at 57........special occasion drinker, which were not that often......same with beer....with his crabs, or pizza...also not that often.......not a smoker......hard working construction worker,..........died at 57
Father ate a hoagie almost every other night (nitrate lunch eat).....if the crabs were small he even ate the shell.....not a lick of exercise..........the Mother......heavy, no exercise, loved sweets.......
The father died at 103 1/2, only on Valium for BP, and 1 bad knee...........
The mother died at 96.......had a massive BC tumor in 1980....mx, no chemo. Just Rads that was it....no recurrance......broken hip at 90.....replaced without incident.......bypass surgery at 92....survived..
Want to tell me the good Lord doesn't take you when he wants you.....
When your number is called.....you go......0 -
Hey Tek, anything is possible...lol0 -
Ducky- I agree with you about when it is your time, you go. I have lived through some things that quite honestly, I never expected I would like rolling a vehicle on black ice (and walked away without injury) and a ruptured appendix (which I walked around with for three weeks before they figured it out).
Likewise, I have watched a number of friends and family go early in this lifetime due to any number of things. I have friends who have said to me "I want you to get better and live to a ripe old age" as I went through treatment. Maybe their goal for me, but I am not looking for quantity but quality of life. Because our life expectancy has increased in this country, many thing they will live to be 80, but no one is guaranteed to make it to old age.
About alcohol, my med onc said to limit the drinking. I know some women who just don't anymore. I have lost a lot this past year and/or had to give up a number of things, so I try to find balance with these recommendations. For me, it's about enough sleep, good whole foods, exercise, time to read, mediate, do yoga. I am happy with the simple things.0 -
jazz.....and in the end isn't that what it's all about.........quality.....that is what I say every night when I toss down the Femara.......Is this what life is about.......live longer.......but is it quality of living or just existing through the SE's of living longer.....This is existing........I did not realize how much I did, till I no longer could do it.......but I push everyday waiting for that one day when I don't have to refill the "Devil Pill"..........0 -
I should be dead now too.
But
I also believe that when ur time is up that's it...the good LORD turns the page and calls ur name.
I lost 3 friends in 2months...I wanna live my life doin the things I want to do...
Just tryin to be stress free...yeah right!!!!
It's gonna be freezing tonite...and I don't no if I'm getting a cold or it's my sinuses acting up
Cookin chicken soup...Jewish penicillin...0 -
thank you everyone, i feel in a strange world, and currently have partners family over, finding it tough, nine people to deal with when i would choose to hide, having said that we have had some good times, not staying with us thank goodness as no room ........but i feel sealed in a bubbke where nothing quite reaches me and i seem to think about nit being alive every day0 -
oh and i am bemused by this thread seeming more aggressive? I just see ups and downs but i dont see any aggression.........am i mussing something in my little bubble?0 -
Bgirl - Hi from the Tami Thread.
I am one that tends to post off and on and can get way behind in reading all the posts. I am finding this thread a bit confusing and trying hard to figure it out. Haven't quite figured out the purpose. Some know me from other threads and know that I can be not only very supportive but also very fun. I try to stay positive and go with the flow.0 -
Lily- your bubble may be the protection you need right now from the world. We all need a little buffer from the harshness of daily life as we go through this, and afterwards too. Just go with what feels right for you, and hopefully the folks that visit you will tread lightly. I am sorry things feel so hard. Sending you a bit southwestern hug tonight.
Went for a walk by the river and took photos of the cottonwoods until my battery died! Then to the gym for weight and a short swim. Triple work out. I wonder how I will feel tomorrow?0 -
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Some days are diamonds.....some days are stone.......it happens.......not every day is perfect......pity parties are ok.......just do long as we remember to snap back.......we're here, we understand, we have been there......hugs to everyone.......
People come, people go, go where your happy.....no one forces anyone to stay......life and laughs are what you make it......0 -
hey good women hermits unite! How i have missed you all! First time i have found cellphone bars since i have been in utah! So many lovely pics i wish i could show you. I am grateful to sissyd for starting this thread. I am roud of cami for being such a smart hacker, and i love firekrackers fiestyness, and wonder if she knows i found a casino in los vegas that had a "pink table"? And soldpink cupcakes? I am glad tema is feeling better. And i understand lori55 s fear. Stage 3 is a very scary place. And that pummkin giving birth? Eewwwwwwww! Love it! I am loving all the beauty of utah, and can hardly believe i have been able to do so many of the trails. But the natural beauty of the place distracts from pains. And i do take percocets everyday for pains, i dont think i could have done thiswithout them . Lori55 i thought i pmd you on your birthday, but my memory these days... Hope you had an excellent one. Hermits are valuable to my heart and spirit and healing powers are evident through all the postings her. You are my favorite gals anywhere. Peace to you brave n "hearty" souls.0 -
Good grief, so much going on. Can't keep up. But hugs and prayers for surgery, gentle strokes not to pop fragile bubble, smiles to all the silliness/craziness/coping, and hopes for all to be where they best fit. Lots of grading, scrutiny, evaluations, testing, blah, blah at school, so I'll most likely be scarce as Camille says... (Joey reading anything good?) I know we all move in and out and among as we are comfortable, but I do hope Markat, LaurieParr, Slick, and other quiet voices are ok. DD2 came home from church saying her pastor was out... his mom just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer... given six weeks. What is it about this disease? It's everywhere... ick. Hugs to all. May you have a peaceful week ahead. Gotta go grade and do laundry. and maybe pet a cat or two. :-)0 -
nice to see you Kath...all that pink stufffff..u no what u can do with it right?
And please post pics.
I'm sick...don't no if it's allergy,sinuses or a plain old cold...eating chicken soup yesterday and today
Hope everyone is doin well today.
I am the FireKracker....0 -
Skittle...new to this thread, but some know...my husband died in 1991 at 57 from Pancreatic cancer......brutal disease....0 -
ducky... I am so sorry. Far too young... Can you think of any way to support the family at this early shock state? I don't know a thing about pancreatic... (Lost my father when he was 58 to liver mets. Weakened liver from malaria from a tour of duty in the Philippines. It, too, was brutal... hell on earth. Some chemo/treatment options have not seemed to progress in over 30 years...) sad, sad.0 -
it is deadly Skittle.....my husband lasted 2 years 9 months......at that time it was unheard of surviving that long.....there is nothing they can do...it is usually stage 4 when it is diagnosed.....the only reason my husband got longer was....his was inside the bile duct...inside the pancreas, so when it blocked the duct he was jaundiced........first clue.....Whipple surgery whic removed and reconnected everything after removal.....gave him more time....most die within the year or less.....or some go through loads of chemo and rads...then they die anyway......my husband got worse when the cancer came back and they did chemo and rads.......huge mistake.....just made him weak, and lost close to 100lbs.."enough said"
Pancreatic cancer is a death sentence no matter ehat they do.....and I believe. Chemo and rads takes them faster........0 -
Teka - Thanks.
Ducky - I may have told you on another thread but I lost my mom in 1995 to pancreatic cancer also. What a brutal disease.0 -
Good evening all Hermits,
Just checking in. Welcome back Kath....my birthday was quiet, got some phone calls,DH made in special for me,
Granny, I hope you are feeling better...chicken soup really helps.....
CC- what a cool idea, write down all the good and interesting things from the past
Jazzy-LOVED the pumkin giving birth, so so funny
Lilly- My thoughts with you.....I am glad you vent and stay connected to us.
Blondie- always in my thoughts my friend...
Today started good, but I ended up in tears again....my feelings get hurt so easily, which is why I just stay in my little cocoon....had an incident with my sister, who I offerred my help cuz she is having marital problems, and she politely said thanks but no thanks.....it just hurt, and reaffirms that I need to retreat back into my safe haven....blah...wished I didn't give people so much power over my feelings....
I love this thread....I take away something from just about everything that is posted. When someone is struggling, I feel less alone....I feel loved when someone thinks of me.....and of course the pictures, make me smile. You are all gems, tonight I started out being sad, but now I feel less alone.oh and one more thing.....I cried in front of my husband and he didn't ignore me, in fact he listened to me and tryed to help.....woo hoo.....we are making progress!!! Remember all the times I complained about him?? Take Care......0 -
Lori- I am sorry your sister was not open to your support around her marital problems. It is okay to feel whatever you need to around people. I think our feelings are the barometer that either says to us "move closer or STEP AWAY!" I can think of many times people have said things to me in person, on the phone or via e-mail that felt so hurtful. It is why I won't talk about my health issues with some in the small community I shared it with. Some people are not very sensitive with us.
On the other hand, I am glad things with your DH have improved! Sometimes people in our support system just need time to understand this whole messy process we go through. And I am glad you find this place one of comfort and support. It is a great thread, a great place for us all!
Skittle- good to hear from you and you sound busy with school. I am sorry to hear about the pastor's mom's diagnosis. I will offer up what I have always done for folks in time of need, a card is a non intrusive way to just let the know you are thinking about them. They may not want to talk to anyone, but offering some things based on your experience, like maybe suggesting they ask the oncologist about cancer support groups would be helpful to them. When my sister met with her doctors, her oncologists suggested support groups right up front, but I started with the breast surgeon and it was never mentioned to me to seek those out. When my sister asked me about whether I was considering one, I said "I think I am going to try to find one on line" and here I am almost a year later. Those kinds of things may not be on their radar, but from someone who has been through cancer, it may be a great suggestion at some point. We all have found out how important it is to find others who have or are going through the same thing. People who have been through the whole diagnosis, drag you through all the tests, insurance issues, etc. are in the know with others who have no idea where to begin.
Kathyec- I love Utah and hope you are having a wonderful time up there. Good for the mind, body and spirit.
Went to a great therapeutic yoga workshop today and learned some new things for my feet that may help with the chronic pain from plantars and the AI se's. My feet felt immediately better, so I have some new tools for my toolbox. We also talked about how yoga can really turn things around with osteoporsis, and I am working up to do more yoga with time. I need to do more weight bearing exercise to help with the potential bone loss.
Going to see my MO on tuesday for my six month check in with him and will discuss a few things, including anastrazole and SEs. More to follow and wishing everyone a good week. Blessings to those who are under the weather, facing more treatment and just holding it together every day.0 -
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Jazzy u r always so positive and I enjoy u'r posts so much, I always have. And now u;r Pics. good stuff
Lori I am really sorry that u'r sister pushed u away but I love hearing u'r husbands reasction to you--u've come a long way with him And that's great.
Have I missed something or has anyone heard from Blondie?
Skittle u are one busy lady now LOL and Joey's reading 2 books--he's getting book crazy. But he's happy.
Ducky I think most of us agree when it's time , it's time geez u can have an accident and go. I mean like my dad didn't really do anything right his whole life smoked, drank, ate what he wanted did preety much enjoy his life and died of a heart attack at 96.But he wasn't sick with smething and suffer in anyway, my mom did for 2 yrs and it was horrible and she did every thing right her whole life. So we don't know anything.
We're here now so that's what counts.0 -
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