Lets do a Sh*t People say to Metastatic BC Patients
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Latte,
Utterly outrageous! Just when you think you've seen it all, along comes an "intimacy counsellor" with a foot fetish and boundary issues.
She's lucky you didn't kick her across the room. You could have said, "Ooops, sorry. Strong reflexes."
Tina
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Thanks for making me smile, Tina!
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I don't usually congratulate people for yelling at other people but ... Latte, I congratulate you for, in your time of sickness and weakness, to have the strength to say, "Hey! Cut that sh*t out!"
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Is it so hard to ask a hospital patient for permission before molesting her?
Your foot needed some "intimacy" with her backside.0 -
If it was a nurse or someone that I knew, I wouldn't have yelled at her, but it was someone I had never seen before and hopefully will never see again. Don't want you all thinking that I am always like this!!
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All I can say is WOW! People's idiocy is why my mom has been "in the closet" for 18 months!!!
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Had to rush here and tell you what happened to me today. My five year old daughter does a daily check to see how much of my eye brows are left (not much at all) - I think she's cute.
Today, my Dad heard her checking them and asked me - why didn't you shave your eyebrows off when you shaved your head? I said - are you serious? And he said - yes, if you know they are going to fall out anyway then why not shave them off beforehand, what difference does it make.
I don't mind losing my hair, but eyebrows and eyelashes are a different matter, and for him to be so insensitive. I was so angry at him that I had to leave the room!0 -
That's an odd thing for him to say, Latte. But he probably though it made logical sense. Must be a male thing. But I certainly understand the difference between hair and eyebrows. I was upset the first time I lost mine because I wasn't expecting it. I knew about the hairloss but didn't realize I would lose brows and lashes too. Besides...eyebrows you can hang onto a bit longer...they don't seem to fall out in huge clumps like the hair does. All things your father probably just doesn't get.
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Yeah, I know it's just a guy thing... I just get easily upset with him at the moment (he has moved in with me for three months to look after me and my daughter, which I really appreciate, but it is hard too...)
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Oh...didn't realize he lived with you. That must be hard even under the best of circumstances.
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Latte I'm happy you have your father to help you. He doesn't realize how lucky he is that you love him 😫 lol! Jo
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Don't get me wrong, I am very happy and grateful he is helping me, I couldn't manage without him at the moment. But that doesn't mean it is easy...😁
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Loving this thread.
I work at a nursing home, and one of the nurse said to me "why didn't you have a mastectomy? " I answered, " I did, 4 years ago and guess what? The new bc tumour is in the mx side! "
I guess I used to be that ignorant, but at least I was not a trained health professional.0 -
Carol, I also had a recurrence on the same side as the mastectomy--under my arm. My PCP argued with me that that wasn't possible. He looked at me like I was really slow, and said I must have had a lumpectomy, not a mastectomy. Like I wouldn't know the difference! 😳
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Um, like shouldn't HE have been able to tell the difference???
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He never actually examines me. He pretends to listen to my heart and lungs, but that's all. He gives me authorizations with no arguments, though, and contacts me right away with test results, so I'm ok with him.
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More concerning to me is his lack of medical knowledge - that he was sure there would be no breast tissue left for a recurrence after an mx. That seems like such basic info (at least for any of us on this forum!)
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Oh Latte, I am still giggling over you yelling at the foot fetish woman! Good on you! Some people know no boundaries do they! I hope she stays away from you in the future, crazy foot woman!
Dawn. Xxx0 -
What the heck's an Intimacy Counselor, anyway???
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Latte, I wish you would have thought to ask your father, if he is losing any hair on top of his head, why doesn't he shave it all off knowing it will all eventually fall out anyway?
Just kidding. Sometimes it enough to just be snarky in your head. That just made my day though. Some of the sh*t we hear...
Teri
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Thanks Teri! I like snarkiness too!
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During my annual eye exam just this morning, my ophthalmologist reviewed with me all the changes in my health--eye and otherwise-- over the last year. He then said, "Well, I certainly hope you're not as tired as I am!" Then he proceeded to tell me about all the vacation time he had taken over the summer and his busy workload (most likely from overbooking!). I just said, "Well, I'M still persevering" and just left it there. More than likely something funny or better will pop into my mind later!
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I was watching The View a few weeks ago and one of the guests had just had a double mastectomy. The hosts were going on and on about how fabulous she looked and that now she would always have perky breasts and would never have to worry about sagging. I wanted to jump through the TV screen and strangle them. It's bad enough to have to keep your cool when someone says something insensitive to you, but to have to keep it together on TV must have been really tough. Anyway, I felt awful for her.
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It's like these women on the view who are supposed to be so 'informed' are still trying to shove the idea down our throats that the main thing is how a woman "LOOKS" and not about her health, how she feels, the stuggles she may have to endure. It's just the perpetual notion that women are mostly concerned with superficiality and living up to what society says they value in her, her looks. It angers me.
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Amen to that!
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I am getting so tired of these comments from people -- I could get hit by a bus anytime so don't worry about death. But last week, my rad onc said that. I expect more from them. I have 15 brain tumors andmlung, liver and bone mets and you are telling me that we have an equal chance of dying. It took all my self restraint to keep quite while dh was smiling as he knows how I hate it when people say that. I love my rad onc so just kept quite. I know people mean well and life is unpredictable but can they all stop saying that or let me know the bus route so I can stand in front of it!
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After my mastectomy in the hospital bed, the PA says, "Oh my gosh, you have no hair!" as she walks in. Yes, that is usually what happens when you have chemo! Wish I would've thought to say, "Oh no! They took my boobs AND my hair."
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Fresh from the oven...
Tonight I was just chatting with mom, with whom I share my MO, so that she gets to have that mom talk behind my back somehow teacher genes I guess), though MO is not that talkative.
Mom: I asked your MO how your boob just shrunk flat & she replied the c-buggers ate the healthy tissue.
Me: (just about to shout at her to stop talking with our 😡MO) really??
Mom: You are so lucky not to have gone through the mx.
Me: 😳😠😡😡 yep.
It was hard but I did manage not to break stage 2 remission ( not survivor I think) mom's heart.. Hope she never finds out herself how lucky I have been during the past 1,5 years!
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I have peripheral neuropathy which makes it tough to open bottles, jars etc. I just hand the jar to one of my sons who opens it and wordlessly hands it back to me. When we were visiting my out-of-state inlaws, my BIL saw me do this to a twist-off bottle of pop and called me a "wimp" in front of the whole family. I told him that it was tough for me to open bottles. He wouldn't let it go and kept calling me wimpy. I think he thought he was being funny but it was getting very uncomfortable. I told my BIL that I loved him and I understood that he had no idea about the side effects of my cancer so I would let him live. He STILL wouldn't let it go so I think I used the F word. I'm pretty sure I heard my son whisper "go mom!"
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CJRT, lololol! " Who the F- stole my hair?" Would have been priceless.
Formygirls, someone over on Flat and Fabulous once gave the odds of being hit by a bus versus the thousands of women who die of cancer every year. I'm gonna have to look it up for further use, as I think friggin' oncologists (no matter how sweet they are) should know better!0 -
Don't know about being hit by a bus, but chance of dying in a car accident within 5 years is 1 in 1300. I used that in a sermon a couple of weeks ago.
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