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  • grammaB
    grammaB Member Posts: 1,118
    edited March 2014

    I'm here! I have been cleaning up the yard as best I can after the flood. I've been really tired and in a sort of funk, not sure why. I have been reading, trying to catch up and then something would come up and I didn't get around to posting. I could have sworn I posted once, but I don't see it so I guess it disappeared.

    I finally called the county road department yesterday to report the damage. They had me send photos. He is filing a report, and I think he said someone will come out and look at it. They will send me a copy of the report. I'm just hoping I am not going to be financially responsible for any repair they deem necessary.

    So from what I remember I wanted to say before, here goes:

    Viv, sorry you are dealing with another infection, hope you get it cleared up soon.

    jsj Yay for the b9, best report ever! Love the cat photos!!

    sgc sorry you have been fighting ses!

    gramwe, sorry about the joint issues. Hope the vacation from the med will help.  Also sending prayers to that sweet baby girl that the eye issue is easily fixed.

    Zills, I don't think I remember you mentioning Ireland either.  A whole month, that is awesome!!

    Wren, sorry about Goldie and the peeing.  For the last few years every spring my cat goes through this peeing issue.  He'll pee in the most inappropriate places, like on windowsills or the kitchen counter or by the doors.  It lasts about a month and then goes away.  I am constantly cleaning pee/spray (well more like drips than spray) from everywhere.  He has 2 boxes and during this period, I set up a 3rd also.  The vet says it is some sort of male Spring territorial thing. The day Goldie peed on your couch Boo peed on my kitchen counter. :((  He is a rescue and even though I've had him 7 years, is also skittish and terrified of the swish sound a ski jacket makes when your arms slide across the body of the jacket. I once had some nylon/synthetic workout pants that made that sound when I walked and he ran for cover when I came near him.  I can't imagine the images that sound recalls for him.

    posting so it doesn't disappear...

  • grammaB
    grammaB Member Posts: 1,118
    edited March 2014

    bobo, I just don't know what to say about DB. Sheesh, after how well you took care of him after his knee sx. It is shameful. I would have as little as possible to do with him. Sorry but he is a selfish, self centered a$s. Can you arrange play dates for your nephews with your kids and not have to go through big visits with him?  So sorry this all hits you at a time you should be relaxing and centering your energies on healing.

    Vintage, you are still early on, the healing will continue for a long time and will be nothing like what you are seeing right now.   

    ldesim, good to hear from you, I have sort of been MIA for a while too.  Sorry about your mom, glad that it isn't her heart.   Airom is right about hospitals being the worst for picking up bugs! 

    Airom, sorry to hear about your head sure hope it isn't Shingles!!  I've been meaning to ask you, do you take the Olive Leaf Extract all the time or only when you may be exposed to something or feel ill?

    sgc so sorry you are having a rough time.  Hopefully Ariom's and Zills' ideas will help you.

    ndgirl, Zumba!!  I have been wanting to try that for the longest time.  I keep meaning to call the studio here in town and see if they have the gold classes there.  I'm not sure my back could take the younger folks version of it.

    otc, that little guy is so cute!  You should write these things down for when he is older. 

    Zills, that doesn't sound right about the ins not covering foobs and the sleeve. I'd call again and ask for a supervisor. Maybe you can get the code #'s from the dr so there is no confusion?  Oh boy, you really don't need to not have a dishwasher right now!!  Hope it is a quick and inexpensive fix.

    Hugs to everyone one of you!! 

  • bobogirl
    bobogirl Member Posts: 2,083
    edited March 2014

    Thank you so much you guys for your kind wishes.  Love those b1tch slap pictures!

    Z, gmaB is the GO TO person for insurance advice, I think!  Hope your parties go well.  And A, what is going on with your bump on the head?  Peeing myself thinking about you in your spa, imperiously, and your hair that fell back into place.  You are the best.

    Idesim, so sorry about your loss too.  Wish we lived close. I feel out of touch.  And Birdie, I too will babysit Goldie!  Can't we find pet sitter for when you go out of town?  We used to have a great service when we lived... where you live... I know it should be a secret.  I loved my Goldie update so much.  Hard week.  ND -- wait -- are you going to Zumba?  Or did I hallucinate that? :)

    Birdie, I want to line up that pet sitter.  I loved your discussion of the poops and how she runs away, and your sweet husband and turning the newspaper.  Her head on the pillow.  I just love Goldie.  Our cats are BANGING on the double doors in the middle of the night because they want out!  Miguel, our rescue kitty.  I know cats should not go out but he was feral, and he is all Man.  And then -- he taught Edward, our mentally handicapped kitty who does not know how to wash himself, how to bang on the double doors!  And Edward goes out and sits on the patio!  But he does not know what to do there.  Edward!  He had never walked outside in all of his nine years.

    Sending all of you hugs, especially those going through sx.  I am right there with you, looking at my area.  XXXXX

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,928
    edited March 2014

    Someone is coming at 5pm to meet Goldie. She screened well and sounds nice, so we'll see. She would not be able to adopt before tomorrow, so we'll have at least one more night of her sharing our pillow.

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Oh Wrenn, that must be difficult for you. I can imagine you wanting the best for Goldie. but it will be a wrench for you. I admire you!

    Bobo, I am glad my time in the spa and my bad hair, turns good, gives you something to smile about!

    How are you feeling? Is it getting any better? M x

    Hi gB, I take the Olive leaf most of the time. I just take a few weeks off between finishing one pack and starting a new pack of it. If I feel like I may be coming down with something, which rarely ever happens, I just take a bigger dose for a while. Colin has had amazing results since he has been taking it, he has cut his UTI's down to just a couple a year, from virtually monthly, which is quite normal for quads and paras. He only has a short time off the Olive Leaf during the year. No sign of any Shingles yet, so I am hoping that isn't what this is. It isn't as sore today, but still there.

    I hope the weather is improving for you, and fingers crossed there won't be any financial outlay for you after the flooding. Take care M x

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    ndgirl, I have been trying to get to a Zhumba class for ages and have never made it. Good On You! You have inspired me! Just have to find a class now!

    I have been reading the stats on all the Osteoporosis medications and they are scaring the crap out of me. I had such a bad reaction to the Aclasta infusion a few years ago that I am scared of all of them.  

    sgc, I am so sorry you are taking the brunt of the SE's, our Zills always has such good advice on what to do. I hope it passes quickly and you feel on top of it soon.

    Big hugs to you M x

    I hope all of you have a  lovely restful weekend.. the Autumn is definitely on its way here. Chilly this morning, looks like rain and that massive Oak tree next door, is starting to shed some leaves already, into my garden.

    Going to a boat show at the Cruiser Club with Colin today, not his kind of boats, but I like these ones! M x

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,928
    edited March 2014

    Ariom, My senior center has a zumba class, but it's 8:30 in the morning. I just can't see getting up at 7:00 in my retirement. Been there, done that.

    Goldie update: The PA (potential adopter) doesn't have room for a second litter box and I think one is absolutely necessary, so no deal. Nice lady otherwise.

    I'm still going to PT for my back. She tried an electrical treatment yesterday. The exercises just seem to multiply like rabbits. One set is 3 x day, others are twice and one is every other day (like I can keep that straight). I'm going to try the pattern alteration for a curved back to see if that makes things fit better.

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Morning Wrenn! I hate getting up early too! Too many years getting up at 4.30am to get to the Airprort.

    I don't have a lot of choice here though, Colin's attendants come at 8am only respite is 9am on Sunday. I love it when they have a day off, and I get Colin up. We usually stay in bed till about 10am...luxury!

    Well, you tried to let Goldie go, and it wasn't meant to be...this time, enjoy her company a little longer!

    That is a lot of exercises to keep straight, are you on any bone meds? I am having a lot of angst about my choices.

    Very quiet here today, I hope everyone is resting........hugs to all..M x

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,928
    edited March 2014

    Ariom, No bone meds and total dread of ever needing them. They just seem to have serious side effects. Of course my elderly neighbor who had severe osteoporosis got out of the car and fell. They said she fell because her back broke, not that she broke her back in the fall. Yikes!! Maybe I'll risk those side effects when necessary. Are you on an AI? If so, tamoxifen is supposed to build bones.

    Goldie has made herself at home here. That always makes it harder to find her a new home. The PA asked how she was with furniture, eyeing my ripped up chair. Goldie's fine, it was a previous cat who did that. I need to get slip covers for those chairs before they totally fall apart. They are Queen Anne recliners and exactly one company makes a cover and only in 4 colors. If I win the lottery, I'm going to get all new living room furniture.

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Wrenn, I have been silly, really, I should have gone on the Bone meds many years ago, but was too fearful of the se's. I thought eating well, walking and taking my Vit D may see me through, but I was wrong my spine is reading -3, Osteoporosis, but my hips have improved...go figure! The reason is, of course, my long term Cortisone/Steroid use for the RA.  

    I chose not to take the Tamox because I can't take any more joint pain issues, especially since it wasn't really indicated for my Dx. 

    My neighbor went to step up on to her patio and her hip (edited to say HIP) gave way, so I know those things are possible. I have read and re read all the possibilities and have decided that I think my best option is the Actonel, which was what my Rheumy suggested all those years ago. The other drugs, have way more scary possibilities.  

    Hugs for Goldie and save one for you!

  • otceb
    otceb Member Posts: 129
    edited March 2014

    Hello all!  M, I hope you are enjoying a nice relaxing morning with Colin!  How is the bump today? Was the boat show interesting? Sorry about the osteoporosis. Is Actonel supposed to help with this? I assume you're also taking calcium? I stopped taking it when I started chemo, I don't know why, I wanted to minimize supplements to just my multivitamin and biotin (supposed to help with hair & nails that chemo wrecks), but I think I should start again. And I should start reading on tamox since I'll start in May, maybe there is some way to prepare my body for it...

    sgc, I really feel for you, with your mouth sores and not feeling well. I think about you all the time since we're chemo sisters on this thread! I hope you are getting more support than it looked like you were going to get initially. Is DH a little better? Are some friends coming through for you? I hope we can help as much as possible virtually!

    Wren, sorry (kind of!) it did not work out with the potential Goldie adopter. I'm sure you're continuing to enjoy her company!  I'm sorry to hear you have such back pains, I hope you see improvement soon with all the exercises.

    Zills, how was the daycare pizza party?  Is your dishwasher really broken? Don't you hate unforeseen expenses like these?!

    gB, so good to hear from you, I missed you!  You have been your usual busy self doing hard work! I hope the rest of spring is smooth sailing, no more floods or damage!

    ndgirl, zumba sounds fun!

    Well ladies, finally, 4 months after my BMX, I decided to wear the silicone foobs today (ABC Massage Form).  I had not tried them before, I had to heal for maybe 8 weeks (actual surgery and then the infection weeks later), and once I started chemo, I thought the feeling of a heavy bra would likely make me feel even more nauseous. So... I like them! I had been wearing the cushy foobs in my Amoena Mona bra, and when I put the silicone foobs in, whoa! It was really pulling down on the bra, I had to adjust the straps, but the final look is better than the cushy foobs. More natural. Not a massive difference though (for some reason, the cushy foobs on me looked ok), but I do feel better about having a more natural look. I will have to remind myself to sit straight, as I think my back has gotten used to not having this frontal weight. But it should be fine. Yeah!

    I hope everyone is having a great weekend!

  • ndgirl
    ndgirl Member Posts: 950
    edited March 2014

    Otc. so you are an official foob wearer! Glad you liked them and feel comfy with them. I too dont mind the silicone because I need some of their weight, also love the mona bra, I will be ordering more shortly! I have a lightweight amoena foob and it is ok but rides up on me. I am hoping to keep up with Zumba, kinda fun and sure need the exercise after this miserable winter. FYI, had dinner in Canada again!! always good. Hope you stay strong through chemo.

    Wren, how I love the sound of Goldie under your covers.. just plain sweet. sorry about your back problems, that is a tough one. I understand about this arimidex med and se, seems every thing we do is between a rock and hard spot! Hope relief comes soon for you.

    M, how is the bump on the noggin? 

    hello to everyone! have a relaxing Sunday.

  • jsjherman
    jsjherman Member Posts: 142
    edited March 2014

    Hello sweet sisters. Not to much going on here. Was actually a nice day with no blowing dust! We desperately need rain in our neck of the woods. Sailman worked in the yard all day while I cleaned out the pantry and did the shopping. Think maybe I was a bit too adventurous as my breast is sore tonight, but you live and learn eh? We did get the smoker out and smoked up a roast and some pork ribs and tenderloins to stock up the freezer and tomorrow we will do up four chickens that are marinading in the fridge. Helps tremendously for when I have my sx. I hope that each of you have a blessed and wonderful Sunday.

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Hello ladies! I have had a quiet day today, didn't even take Dex out for a walk. Just pottering around at home, and I watched a couple of movies this afternoon.

    Ho otceb! I still have the bump, but so far, no sign of Shingles, I have no clue what caused it. It feels better today.

    Boat show was a fizzer, Colin went alone and was back in less than an hour, glad it wasn't far to go.

    There are a few different classes of Osteoporosis medications, but as Wrenn said, they all have se's, some very scary, even one type being looked at as a possible contributor in BC. The others have stroke and heart attack warnings, all increase the possibility of joint pain and the one I am considering, can play havoc with your digestive system, so definitely something I'd rather give a miss, but having a reading of -3 in my spine is at risk for fracture. I just have to suck it up and take the meds. I have always taken my vitamin D and have taken calcium  on and off, along with lots of other supplements and super foods for my RA.

    I am really pleased that you are liking the new Prosthesis, I can't believe it is 4 months for you! I really like the Mona bra too, I wear one of those a lot of the time, I have a couple of black and an ivory one. I also really like the weighted, foam form, by Tru Life, worn inside a Crop Top, Sports bra. I have been wearing, Tru Life foam, since the revision surgery and it has become my new favorite, for casual wear. It has just enough weight to hold the bra down but not as heavy, or as structured, as the silicone. 

    Hi nd! noggin is feeling much better thank you! Oooooh, just think, you can have as many Mona bras as you want now! LOL

    Hi js! Sorry you have felt the wrath of overdoing it, it is so easy to do. We all did it! Great idea to prepare all that food in advance....Yum! I love ribs, turn your head Bobo!

    Have a lovely restful time,,,,hugs to everyone! M x 

  • bobogirl
    bobogirl Member Posts: 2,083
    edited March 2014

    Hey M!  Worried about you and the bone meds.  And Birdie, you too.  How are your exercises?  Stupid question alert:  Would Pilates help?  Am thinking about Pilates.  I am such a physical wreck right now.  Must have something in place for when PT ends: Pilates, personal trainer at the little University gym (which is not too expensive), yoga class.  All will be an expense.  But, I swear, I have never been laid so low.  Terrified of infection at the moment.  

    The children are off tomorrow to spend five days at MD's.  It's Spring Break, and DLLP and I still have to work.  MD said she would not come here -- she's been in our town a lot this month between me and my brother.  We will pick them up Saturday, then drive home Sunday, so no rest for me next weekend.  But hopefully some rest this week.  I am going to be very worried about the baby.  No one takes care of her like I do.  MD has done it before -- when I was in the hospital for two weeks.  But I was so sick then, I could not actively tell her what to do.

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Hey Bobo! No decent Pilates studio around here any more. It closed just after we arrived here. I am hoping to get back into water aerobics, if the pool is warm enough, back doing the Rites again, after having to stop for the last revision. I must get to the gym and do some more weight bearing exercise, problem for me is that it can flare the RA, so I am in a difficult position.

    Take it gently Miss Bobo, there's no need to be pushing the exercise hard right away. I am so sorry that you are at such a low, but not at all surprised. This has been an absolutely wrenching experience for you. I am exhausted just thinking about all you've been through.  I am not understanding, are you afraid you already have an infection? Are you eating garlic with everything? Great antibiotic! or are you afraid you could still get one?

    That will be a nice break for both you, DLLP and the kids! No one will ever look after the Princess like you do, but it will be fine, and only 5 days! Can you make next weekend into a relaxing little road trip for the 4 of you? Stop at  a cafe and have lunch, look at scenery or stop at something interesting along the way? It may be fun and just what you need to get you away from the house and work...just a thought. M x

  • Zillsnot4me
    Zillsnot4me Member Posts: 2,122
    edited March 2014

    Bobo. Check for a Livestrong program in your area. Not always at the Y. Also the gym attached to one of the hospitals here offers a breast cancer yoga. I'm going after Livestrong. You need to start easy and don't be like me. You don't want LE! I second water aerobics. 

    One of my shirts rubbed my armpit yesterday. Just because of the swelling. Can't pull anything over my head. Guess it's either button up or baggy. Not allowed to shave armpit either. 

    Did too much on Friday with swim lessons, pizza party and stop at grocery for bread and tp. It was great to see everyone. Boy had a blast. He fell asleep on the way home but baby stayed up til 9!  Cried on the way home I was so tired. Very frustrating. How long does this last? I'm so over it. 

    Was in a crappy mood on sat but figured it was just leftover tiredness. Boy has allergies. Baby cutting 4 teeth! 

    Need to find something/someone on the weekends to do or hang with. DH working like a mad dog. I wish there was something I could do. He says taking care of kids and house enough but I've never not worked. 

    M. Hope your head is better and the weather cooperates. 

    Drawing a blank on everyone else. Time to get kids up. Hello everyone! Happy Monday! 

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Hi Zills, sorry about the bloody LE, what a pain in the proverbial! I hope you can get that swelling down and maintain it.

    So glad you and the children had a good time on Friday, but oh poor baby, 4 new teeth..ouch! I can understand how you'd be exhausted after that big day and then listening to crying all the way home, would just be the icing on the cake!

    Head is better, still have a lump, but not sore now and no shingles! Yay!

    Take it easy, and I hope you find something fun to do on the weekends.

  • ndgirl
    ndgirl Member Posts: 950
    edited March 2014

    Oh Zills, you sound like you are just tired out, you have been through so much, dams the le, hopefully it will go down soon, I can only imagine that since you have always worked it is a tremendous change in your life, along with bc. When is your trip to Ireland? think I must have missed that, hopefully you can get some well needed rest and help with kids too. ouch, baby teething, brings back bad memories for me, my boys had tough times with it. Glad you had a good time at party and boy was pleased and played out!! Sending you the best wishes.

    Bobo, thinking of you alot, hope things can slow up for you when kids are with MD, just kick back if possible. I know how hard that is to do. Big hugs to you! hoping no infection finds you, go slow with exercise, just gentle at first.

    Js, hope your are feeling ok and didnt overdue, but we all do, oh Texas BBQ sounds wonderful! when ours son and family lived there we loved it!! Take it easy, sure wish I could be out cleaning our yard, turned cold here again, but at least no more snow.

  • jsjherman
    jsjherman Member Posts: 142
    edited March 2014

    Hello ladies, hope all is well with you. I did overdo Saturday and paid for it by being a royal grump yesterday. Poor Sailman and DS... they had to put up with me :).   ND~ the bbq turned out great. Hide you eyes Bobo... we had the pork country ribs last night and they were heavenly. Zills~ hope you are feeling better today and not so worn out.  Ariom~ I m glad the knot wasn't shingles! I hear those are the worst. glad you had a restful day yesterday. I am sure it was well deserved :). Bobo~ I hope that this week will without the sweet ones will allow you to get some much needed rest. Wren~ I am not sorry the lady didn't work out for Goldie... but I do understand that you need to find her a wonderful home. I couldn't foster animals, I wouldn't be able to let them go. I admire you for what you do :)

    I am just trying to stay sane until my next appointment. I really felt once the invader was gone that the moodiness would go away. And it did, for about a week. I think I was in such a euphoric state that it was benign and so relieved, that I masked the worries of the upcoming surgeries. I think yesterday it all started to hit me again and I realized I still have a long road to go. I know my loving Sailman has my back and will always be by my side (for better or worse, in sickness and health) He says he didn't just say the vows to be saying them, he meant them. He is so sweet and puts up with alot from me :). Then in the next breath he says "he is praying for the end of time to hurry up and arrive" (Paradise by the Dashboard Light is a song by Meatloaf that we love) Of course his sarcastic a$$ is impossible not to love. lol

    DS submitted his housing application to live in the dorms at the university and it really hit home that in a few months he will be gone. I am so proud of him, he has worked so hard to achieve his goals and has given up alot to do so. We couldn't have asked for a better son than he has been. We have been so lucky. I can't believe my baby is all grown up. Time goes by so fast. 

    The wind is back to howling today with the dust blowing again. Here is a picture of what it looked like last week when it was the worst. You could actually see the wall of dust descending on the city. Usually the sky is clear here and you can see forever.

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    Well, enough of my rambling, I was just missing you gals and wanted to chatter a bit. Huggz to you all and know that each of you are always in my thoughts and prayers. Hoping that Idesim, Otceb,Gramwe, Grammab, PRB, Fia, SGC, Viv, Vintage,  and Spookie (hopefully I didn't forget anyone???) are doing ok. BTW, I have a list I keep handy when I pray so I don't forget to mention each of you by name...you have all come to mean a great deal to me and I can't tell you often enough how much you have helped me get through the last few months. I am thankful that I am not having to deal with what so many of you are, thankful that you are there to give me guidance when I need, and hope that in return, I do the same for you. Be blessed and know that someone in TX loves you and admires you :)

  • ndgirl
    ndgirl Member Posts: 950
    edited March 2014

    Is it usually quite windy in Texas where you are? my brother winters in Harlingen, TX and it is windy there, I dont like so much wind.. I know, I know, what the heck am I doing living on the prairies of ND?? tons of it here!! Thanks for the picture, always love the pictures. What a great son you have, he sounds wonderful, sure it has something to do with great parenting!! hard to see them grow up but at the same time such a good feeling to send them out to spread their wings!

  • jsjherman
    jsjherman Member Posts: 142
    edited March 2014

    I live in the Panhandle and it is always windy here. We have actually been called 2nd windiest  city behind Chicago. Harlingen is down on in South Texas isn't it? I imagine the wind does blow on the prairie! 

  • Zillsnot4me
    Zillsnot4me Member Posts: 2,122
    edited March 2014

    DPs surgery is tomorrow. 

    Yes I've always worked so it's hard to stay home. I miss the adult company, the $$, the independence. I'm in no shape to go back to work. I don't want to take care of others kids to the detriment of mine. 

    I've heard different things. 6 months from rads, a year from chemo, a year to wrap your head around dx after all treatments. All that means this fall or end of year. DH is supportive but I don't like housework. 

    Ireland is mid to late July. Yes I expect to be spoiled. They can't wait to see us and help since they weren't able for treatment. I just don't want to wear out my welcome and I don't want to be too tired. I'm a little nervous about the trip. 

    Hello to everyone. Need to get supper out before it burns. Chicken pot pie. Then bath and bed. Livestrong made me sweat and sore. 

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Good Morning all! Thick fog and very chilly this morning, I can feel the Autumn descending on us. The best part is that you guys will be getting lovely warm sunny days as ours become crisp and chilled. I do love Autumn, the change in the light always catches me off guard. It is so beautiful, and the changing colors of the leaves makes the whole place look different. Then there's the raking! Ha, that can burst your serene bubble, so many bags of leaves, F leaves! I hate raking.....LOL 

    jsj, what a lovely post! I feel as you do, these girls are there all the time, what a bond there has been between us all.

    I understand your description of the sense of euphoria you felt after this surgery. I had that too, after my Mx. It was incredible, I felt like I was bullet proof, and it lasted such a long time. I know you have a ways to go yet, and any surgery is a scary proposition, but we are all here for you and Sailman and your lovely Son are there. I believe you will go in strong and there is no reason why you won't feel the same euphoric feeling, when this next part of the journey is in the rear view mirror too! 

    Colin and I have quite the sarcastic and silly humor about this too. I was sitting outside just days after my Mx with Colin and my lovely Bec, she was playing old songs that we used to love when she was small. She put Hotel California on her phone and I said "Oh wow, this is the first time I have heard this song with only one boob!" and quick as a flash Colin comes back with "Well, it's lucky she's playing it in mono!" We all fell about laughing. Another day, I left my new Prosthesis on the dining table while I went to have a shower. I came out and into the living room and here is Colin, pretending to be asleep, with his head resting on the Prosthesis. "Just like the old days!" was his response and I picked up the Boob and hit him across the back of the head with it! I know it is a serious business, but sometimes being really silly, works. 

    I am sorry you have to prepare for your Son to leave the nest, at this time. It really isn't fair to have so much going on at the same time. I love to hear what a wonderful son he is. You've done a great job raising him! I totally get how fast the time flies, my baby girl is 36 years old, and I have trouble computing that!

    Wow, your photo shows how that dust is affecting your landscape. Is your house covered in dust too?

    Thank you for thinking of me and for keeping all of us, in your prayers, we are all lucky to have you in our little group. Take care M x

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Just realised the time, and have to run to get to Sale over an hour away with Coin for a Doctor appointment.....Will be back later to post! M x

  • spookiesmom
    spookiesmom Member Posts: 8,178
    edited March 2014

    Oh my. When DD left for college, I thought I was going to die. She was all excited about being out from under the parental thumb. I slunk around the house in a funk. 

    But then, a strange thing happened! I decided I couldn't worry about what I didn't know about. That it was nice to be able to sleep all nite without the dog barking as she tried to get past him. I got used to her gone. 

    Then she came home. And all our female hormones butted heads again. And the laundry, comings and goings, phone, racket.  I couldn't wait for break to be over!

    You do adjust, it just takes time. 

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Hey Zillls, I see your point about working and having your independence  and your own $$$. But if it looks like you can return to work at the end of the year, that will be here before you know it. Once you have organized this trip to Ireland, and then you go there, it could be mid to end of August before you get back. What a wonderful experience to look forward to.

    F! the housework, I don't know anyone who actually likes it, is a thankless job, but just think, no housework while you are away, maybe a few dishes:), but how could your wear out your welcome? I bet they are all counting down the days till they can see you and the children!  

    You will be fine, my lovely! It is normal to be a bit nervous, but it will be just fine and you'll have a ball. M x

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    Spookiesmom, the silence, after Daughters leave home, is deafening! I love my Bec to bits, but we couldn't possibly live together permanently, without some serious butting of heads either! LOL

  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 4,027
    edited March 2014

    We had a good drive to Sale for Colin's appointment, all went well and then we had lunch at my fave little cafe. I did a little bit of shopping and then we were back in time to pick up Dex before Colin went down to the club for the Tuesday night racing.

    I was sitting down to answer the posts here, when 2 strangers carrying buckets, came through the gate. Colin had me them at the club and somehow the talk had turned to Fig Jam and he sent them off up the road to pick the last of our Figs. They came in and we watched the race from the couch drinking tea!

    It turns out they live on their big Catamaran, have done fro 12 years. They have  a house near here, which they just rent out and they follow the sun. What a life! They said it was almost time to leave again because they have needed to get out a sweater, so that's their indication that the  seasons turn is near. They are off to the Whitsundays for the Winter, and will be back here later in the year. Wow! M x 

  • jsjherman
    jsjherman Member Posts: 142
    edited March 2014

    Ariom~ how exciting to live on a catamaran year round. That would make Sailman feel like he was in heaven! How neat that you made two new friends :). I am glad that all went well for Colin. The stories about him laying on your foobie and  the others made me smile and laugh so hard. My mom was famous in our family for pulling hers out and throwing it at whoever was irritating her. The funniest was when she threw it at Sailman when we were just 19 and he didn't know she had a foob. He just held it in shock and didn't really know what to do...I bet autumn in your part of the world is beautiful and would love to see it someday. Today is one of those rare days with little to no wind (under 10 mph!!!) so I am definitely going to get out and enjoy my lunch hour! Tomorrow...it will be back and will be back to the normal 20-30 for this time of year. Well, better get back to work... just taking a bit of a mental break and checking in to see what was up with my lovely sisters! Huggz to all!