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Yes thanks!
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Thanks, Loverly.
Hope you and the boys are busy making summer fun, Patty. I see all the school supplies are out in the stores, so fall can't be far behind!
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Thanks Lover.
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thanks loveroflife. Glad she ok!
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Hey. Another person glad you are doing well.
>Z<
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Patty, may you have more good days than bad. Enjoy your wonderful boys.
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Thanks Loverly. I was hoping Patty checked in with someone recently.
I also sent another text today.
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Sending you love Patty and to all of our sisters who are facing difficult challenges. Holding you in my prayers.
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Sending love Patty and just hope you are enjoying the last weeks of summer.....
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Patty
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Any word on how she's doing?
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Hi Patty, just checking in. Hope everything is okay.
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We are getting worried Dear Patty?
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I agree, been way too long since she has checked in. I hope you are well Patty.
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Hello bc sistas . I've been out awhile but happy to say now back in the land of the living. Was touch and go for awhile. Icu stays always scare me but all hydrated now. So much has happened since my last post and although I am doing better arranging my thoughts it's just more than i want to figure out today. Can say exdh has had 2 serious girlfriends ( his words to ds1 is she might be the 1 ). the less then 3 moths we've been divorced and living separately. Although I don't want him back it still hurts like hell and even more so for him to introduce my dss to them. Thankfully I was smart enough to have divorce papers say no one of tea opposite sex who isn't a family member can spend the night when the boys are in their custody. I've been incredibly sick but on the upswing. Oh yeah my bff is getting a divorce not of her choosing. She has spent s few nights here and pretty certain she is going to rent the duplex just across the drive from me. We can see each other's from windows from ours. She suggested I put a red poster board in my window when I need help. Lol it's back to school time. It's costly for new shoes, clothes , school supplies , football equipment , haircuts etc. Thank God I have the money to half these expenses with exdh. I have found a new respect for single moms with small children. No idea how they do it physically, emotionally and financially. And some of you ladies doing all that plus taking treatments and all the side effects. Wow hats off to you.
Good news is I am still alive. I am living my small duplex. Very quiet neighborhood. Not alot to clean or cool. Ds1 got his driving permit and it has been a help to let him drive sometimes and even better are the memories and pics he will have of me teaching him how to drive. Ds2 has found a church he loves and has found his place helping out in the children's church. We've been searching and haven't found one me and dss can agree on. I am goin in the morning to check it out. Really want to support ds2.
Anyway off to catch up on y'all. Thanks for the continued support. Love the pic of zills and feline . Y'all look so happy.
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Wahoo! She's baaaack!
Hope your gf gets the duplex across from you.
Glad you were forward thinking about no gfs staying over with DH. I wouldn't want to be the "one" just three months from the divorce.
Hope you find a church.
Learning to drive? Yep lots of memories.
Don't get me started on school supplies. Ouch! Mine start back in 10 days. Kindergarten and third grade.
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Glad to hear from you, Patty! Sounds like you have a clear eyed view of DH and his antics. It would be great for both of you if your friend could become your neighbor. How fun (and scary) to have a new driver in the family. I wasn't very good it...... I kept clutching the door handle and trying to grab the wheel until DS finally pointed out that his driver's ed. instructor said that, "Nervous parents make for a nervous student driver." I tried to be more calm after that!
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School supplies huh. One year we bought our daughter nice school supplies, pretty crayons, etc. Teacher dumped them all into a pile and let the kids grab what they wanted. Socialism 101 I guess.
Hi Patty, doing well on Xeloda I hope? Wife (her estrogen based BC turned triple neg.) is on Xeloda and recent PET scan showed a number of the small mets to spine completely gone and the rest reduced SUV, some by half. It's working!
Say, put a couple flowering plants on the patio and watch for various colorful hummingbirds.
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So happy you are back. I have to admit, my mouth fell wide open reading about your DH. What a snake in the grass, it seems to me that you are much better off without him. Grrrr, makes me angry just thinking about it. Happy to hear your DS's are doing well. Can't believe it's already back to school time. Even tho my kids are older and I don't have to deal with that anymore, I still look at those commercials as the reminder that summer, my favorite time of the year, is coming to an end. I hope you continue to do well, and we both can stay out of the hospital. You take care of yourself. Try to enjoy the moment
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Hi Patty - so good to hear from you but sorry to hear that you've been in ICU and that your exdh is being such a jerk. Glad you are feeling better now. You sound strong and in good spirits. It would be great for you to have a friend living so close by. I hope that works out. Keep us posted on how you and your dear sons are doing. We love hearing about them!
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Great To see you post again Patty! Sorry to hear you were in the hospital and of your ex acting like a fool. I'm glad you are happy in your new place and will soon have a friend nearby. Please keep us posted on how you are doing. Wish we could help in some way.
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Patty- good to see you here and to know some of the things going on. ICU is not a fun place, but where one needs to be sometimes to get the best care. Glad you are hydrated and home resting comfortably now.
What your DH is doing is no surprise to me. Men don't like to be alone, and you already saw some of that after you split, and he wanted to be at the condo too much. I think you have created some excellent boundaries legally and otherwise, and hopefully he will be able to participate in the parts he is responsible for (the remainder of kids raising, school supplies, etc.) and keep the rest of his drama away from you. You are taking care of YOU girlfriend.
I am sorry to hear about your BFF also having to go through divorce too. That being said, you have a compatriot in that whole process now and someone who may be near to you and to help you. My experience in life is that it is our female friends and family who show up for us during the toughest of times. Sisters are doing it for themselves.....
I like the idea of putting up something in the window to signal when you need help. Just something with a color or the like so as to not set off any indicators to the outside world you don't want. Your friend sounds like she wants to be there for you so take that help.
Thanks for letting us know how you are doing friend. Sending you much love and healing energy and wishing for better days!
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Great to see you back and on the upswing! xo
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Patty, sad to hear about your BFF's divorce, but glad that she will be nearby to support you. Xox
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darn had a long post and lost it. I hate that. Not up to reposting all. Only saying mon is back to school. They will be on a more rigid custody schedule since I don't live in their school dist and not know when i am going to be able to be well enough to drive. In July dss spent 21 days out of the month with me. Nt leave much time for exdh however. School Schedule is me having them i Thur night to Sunday night plus I can swing by after school any day and bring them here for a couple hours and ex can picj them up on his way home from work.
Requesting prayer for health and comfort. It gets so lonely all alone.
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patty!!!! So good to hear from you! Gosh you scare us all when you go mia! And we know it's probably a hospital stay which is just plain sucky! Exdh is such a piece of work...nothing really surprises me anymore concerning men...but that doesn't make it hurt any less. Overall, it sounds like your summer with the boys has been a good one! 😊 Ds1 driving will be such a big help! If you can drive to the school, he can drive y'all home so y'all can hang out! Yay! Sorry about your bff getting a divorce...but kind of excited that you will have her so close by! Make sure exdh pays for things! That has been my biggest struggle with my ds's dad. Men suck! Much love to you!!!!
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kandy. Amen indeed
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Awwwe Patty. I get the loneliness. It's a stinky SE of cancer that no one talks about.
I'm hoping once school starts and we get a schedule ironed out, I can either join the Y during school hours for silver sneakers. Not my age but my exercise level. Also my library has all kinds of fun things. Walking club, Wii bowling for adults, book clubs, etc...
If you do have a Y, ask about the Livestrong program. It's a great way to connect to othercancer survivors. I'm still friends with a couple and we usually have dinner once a month.
I hope your gf moves near. I know divorce sucks.
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