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Yes my bff did rent get condo beside my. Yea. !!
Zil. Yes those are some good ideas. We no longer have a Y in our city. Thinking of volunteering with nursing home or daycare when boys get in school. Prefer babies but afraid of their runny noses always catching something while they build an immune system which mine is low enough.
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Yes my bff did rent get condo beside my. Yea. !!
Zil. Yes those are some good ideas. We no longer have a Y in our city. Thinking of volunteering with nursing home or daycare when boys get in school. Prefer babies but afraid of their runny noses always catching something while they build an immune system which mine is low enough.
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Yea! If you just read books at a daycare you might not get many germs. Hand sanitizer is my best friend! Could you rock babies at the hospital? Maybe less germs?
I was surprised that my library had so many diverse activities and they're free! Local churches have a clothing room, a food bank, free meals once or twice a month, craft circles. Your school district might have a back pack program where kids are given a backpack of food every weekend.
Of course you could always be a cancer mentor. You could drive to appts or just talk on phone or volunteer at the infusion center to make lunches or give snacks or just chat.
I think it's great you want to give back. I think anyone will be lucky to have you. Just remember to take time for yourself.
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My prayers you have, Patty. Not so much "you are in my thoughts" but "I bring you and my BC sisters forward in my life; I do what I do because of what you all have done."
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Oh Patty the red flag on the window is a gr8 idea. Why not? Go for it. If she doesn't drag you down, (you have your OWN probs) then a good friend is a good friend. Sorry you gotta go through this whole craziness with GF, it is what it is. Hate to tell you, but it's a fact the World over, i don't know the statistics officially but guarantee you men get GF's, wives, whatever 10 times sooner than a woman. The most important thing is your DSS feel comfortable with her, really.
I know on this site, things just disappear, sometimes what I do is write in Word and then cut and paste, had too many frustrating moments.
So glad to see ya around!
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great idea on word momatt. How's dani
Great ideas zills. Tganjs
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She is on this trial - I'm not too optimistic because the numbers had gotten worse not better, but hope and hope, that's all we've got, three weeks till the next scan, that's how her life goes now. She went shopping for school supplies too, 2 sets like you, the receipt was almost as tall as the little one. So it goes...Cheering for you sweetie.
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Momatt. Wow school supply receipt so long here also. Glad it only comes once a year.
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Hi Patty- hope your boys are back to school and you are feeling well. So glad to hear your friend will be near by you too. Hope DH finds someone new in his life to be his buddy so you can move on with yours and have some peace after all that has been. You are one strong woman on every level.
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hi ladies.
Had a great day yesterday and am paying for it with a horrible night and hard day. Ds2 class drove about 3 hours and seen like 90% eclipse coverage. DS1 class was given excused absences. We watched the hoopla all morning and decided our viewing devices was going to be a colander and we made the cereal box thing. We didn't see anything 😞 However we hadn't great one on one time. It's usually hard to get. When we are busy s doing something together and not focusing on making memories that he opens up alot more. He is a freshman this year so Alot of exciting stuff going on this year. Super glad he still feels comfortable enough to ask me anything.
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Patty- sorry to hear you are paying for having a nice day out yesterday. Eclipse here was a non event, even with 73% occlusion. But your time with DS1 sounded good and think you created memories together. Hoping you feel better again soon!
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Patty, wonderful to hear you and your close friend will now be close neighbours. That is fantastic for both of you.
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Re. friend moving across from me. So so happy to have company but hoping it doesn't come to hiding out
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Patty- well, very good point. I find with any neighbors, boundaries are important, but perhaps even more so in this situation. Because your friend has gone through a divorce recently, she may have her own needs right now and well, you need to take care of you.
Perhaps you can just be sure she understands you need plenty of rest and that she should text you, etc. if she is wanting to connecting (vs. calling, ringing the door bell, etc.) ? Good to have the conversation early on.
I hope the residual from Hurricane Harvey is missing you in AR, and think I heard it is east to TN and KY now.
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hey girl! Glad you had some good one on one time with the ds's. You are never far from my thoughts. Prayers and love to you friend
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Thanks kjones. Yes the one on one time with each dss is great.
Ds2 has started not wanting me to go inside wherever I take him. He just wants dropped off ex : Church , school, etc. Wondering if this is just normal 12 year old behavior or a cancer thing looking exhausted , port showing etc. I always make myself up before going out with them. Ds1 never went thru this stage. I a.m hesitant to ask cause I am not sure I want to hear the truth. Don't know about girls but raising boys while trying to keep a relationship where they can ask or tell me anything is interesting at least. The things they talk to me about are things I would have NEVER discussed with my parents. Hopefully improving family ties one generation at a time.
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If it is any help to consider this possibility my DD (11, will be 12 in Nov) loves to be dropped, it makes her feel independent. She loves me to even drop her around the corner from our house on the way home from school so she can walk the last bit.
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Patty,I think it's a 12 year old age thing. I have 3 sons and they all went through this. They don't want their friends to see them with their parents, I don't know why I guess just part of growing up. My boys tell me all kind of things too, they are grown now but still need their mom to talk to. I'm glad that they feel like they can trust me with their hopes and fears. I always told them that they can tell me anything and it wouldn't change the love I have for them. Thankfully nothing majo has come out.
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Patty, I agree with the others, it's the age. My son was like that also at that age. And whatever you do, don't tell them you love them in front of their friends. I learned that the hard way! It's wonderful that they can talk openly to you! My son was like that, still is to some extent, but he is 36 now. Boys are great! They love their moms!
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Claudia
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Patty, it sounds to me like you have a perfectly normal 12yo son. They really want to be independent and it's embarrassing for them to be seen with their parents, lol. But boys are awesome, they do love their moms. It's awesome that y'all have a good line of communication with each other. I am still amazed at what my kids will discuss with me. I didn't have that kind of relationship with my parents. I'm proud of the fact that they are so comfortable that they know they can talk to me. As far as your new neighbor, I do think that it might be wise to have a conversation about visiting each other and establish guidelines early. Who knows, she may be wondering/ worrying about the same thing. I think it's important for both of you to be respectful to the others time. Hope you are feeling well. Wishing you the best and praying every day for you.
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Totally normal. Mine would walk behind us if forced to be seen in public together!
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Patty- I don't have kids but do remember not wanting to be seen with parents around that age. Hopefully he will ease out of that with time. Hopefully your children will have an excellent school year.
How are things going with your BFF being nearby? Or has she not moved next door yet?
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Patty i can't believe he's just starting to push you away now! You got a bonus all this time. Oh the dread with being seen with your parents....besides in his mind he's a MAN already!! Good for you that he's behaving like this. (that's just a lay person's opinion) D's 8yr old girl does NOT let her get to the gate of the school, and so it goes....
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Ms. Patty Cake, awww DS2 is just trying to be independent.....nothing against you, I am 100% sure. It is normal behavior. I would be more worried if it was the other way around. Ha! He is such a sweet kid from what I gathered. So wonderful that he can talk to you about things that you wouldn't discuss with your parents. If he is a six grader, he is the top of the chain now. Just as Momallthetime (love the name btw) said, in DS2's mind he is a MAN now
Please try not to be like this father when DSs are college :
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Loverly. Oh my now that would be embarrassing.
Whew thanks for responding so quickly . Glad to hear it's normal for a 12yr old boy
Yes my bff moved in couple weeks ago I think. We def will have this private talk tomorrow. She is going thru a divorce and soso much pain. I think probably depressed. I need to be around encouraging things not crying sad everyday. But she is my bestie and has been here to do ANYTHING for me. I hate not being available for her anytime. Some conversations are hard to have.
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Hi Patty- your friend may need more help than you can give her on the divorce front. It sounds like you are already sensing that. She may assume that you are in the same place, given your split from DH not too long ago, but your situation is different.
One thing I have learned going through things in life is that there are times a trained professional is what is in order to help a person through a major loss or change in life. I have had to do that myself in the past, but also told friends and family that need too much from me after their own losses that they should consider professional support. You might want to suggest that your friend in a loving way that she find a divorce support group or therapist, especially if there is depression at play.
Keep taking good care of yourself and drawing the boundaries early will help. I hope you continue to enjoy a wonderful close friendship for many years to come!
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Thanks jazzy. Good advice
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Patty....and then at 14 they can get weird when the hormones are raging around. Sounds very normal to me
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Patty, so nice to see you up and posting.
I've been off the boards for several weeks, but I'm catching up.
Your DS2 is probably trying to be independent. I saw that with my DD1. It was her personality to make her own way. my DD2 is shyer and doesn't mind having me around, most of the time. Still, there are times she wants to be dropped off as well.
I hope the talk went well with your bff. It's nice that you two can be together, but you can't be her therapist.
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Mominator. Glad to see you. I missed you
Hello all. I've been sick for awhile on antibiotics feeling rough. Woke up Tonite around midnight and I feel like a new person. Yea. Hooray for modern meds. lol cooking blt at 3am a good sign indeed.
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