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I don’t even know what to say as the tears form. We love you Patty.... your dear boys have become our boys too through your stories and your devotion. We were just playing the word game yesterday, and I was so happy you were back. I have two words for you now.
Love you.
Much love ~M~
💔😞😢😩
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Patty, I’m praying for you and your dear sons. May they inherit your strength and courage as they mature. Thank you Patty’s dear friend for keeping us informed. You are a true friend to be with Patty during this difficult time. May the Lord sustain your strength
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Updating for Patty again
Last night and early morning was much the same
Today after 10am she sits up and asks for food. She has been awake and pretty alert every since then. She still hasn’t eaten or drinking in a few days. Iv fluids keeping her hydrated.
Her oncologist came in today and said they would keep her here at least til end of week. He was surprised brain mri was negative and ammonia test was also negative. He said all her lab work is continuing to go the wrong direction every day. Especially Platelets and h&h. Over the last month or so she has gotten like 6 units of platelets and 10 units of blood and still they go lower every day. Oncologist said it would be unethical to continue treatments on her to cause more harm then good she can’t get blood and platelets every day.
Oncologist said he thought she was slipping into a coma. He said it is not unusual for them to have hours or days feeling much better before the end. All nurses know she is dnr
Bracing for the worst and praying for the best.
I know breastcancer.org has been her lifeline.
Will update more as more is known.
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Dear Patty,
Obviously, I don't know your sons. But may I suggest that your youngest son's reaction may be his way of coping. Sometimes we hide our fears and sorrows in ways that are not evident to others. Yes, sometimes even with hurtful and insensitive remarks. I know this is hurtful to you but I think it's his protective armor. Continue loving him as you do and your love will shine deep within his heart. I am so sorry that you have this additional burden on top of all that you at going through. I am sending you my prayers and love. Never doubt how much your son loves you
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Patty~You're on my mind, I feel numb with concern. I want you to think of the most beautiful place you can. You are walking with your closest and most loved. Feel the breeze on your faces. That's where you are. You and your boys!
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Patty—been trying to figure out what to say...I’m so so glad you had precious time with your dss. I know you have been holding on for this life to be there for them, even though you have suffered so much and had no quality of life. I agree that ds2 is not able to process what is really going on. He loves you. They both do. When they are older they will understand the decisions you made and why. They will know your love for them will never fade. I hope you get to have more time with them.
Sweet Patty. My girl. You can let go when you are ready. You know where you are going. You will be healed. You will be at the feet of Jesus with no pain, and in good company with all of our sisters. Save us a seat...we’ll be along later.
Dear Patty’s friend. Thank you. It must be heartbreaking, but I know she feels your love, and that is the most amazing, selfless gift you are giving her. We all hang on to every word you type. It’s gut wrenching. You are a gift to us as well.
Sending love and many, many prayers to y’all and the boys.
Kristin
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I too have been thinking what to say to you my dear Sister.
Kristin must have read my mind.
Dear Patty’s Friend, thank you for being our hands and feet.
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Hi Patty (and friend)
Here's a relaxing moment I caught.
I hope you can enjoy it. I also hope you are in no pain, and that your heart knows how much your boys love you. You've always been a great mom to them.
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Now Patty! Here I been waitin' and hopin' you were getting better again! WTH???? We should be out on your front porch sittin' there with some sort of imbibement or whiskey just drinkin' and hollerin' at all the guys in their hard-hats walking by!
Remember when we used to do that? This just must be a phase you are going through.... You gotta get back on your feet, and come help me get this yard all cleaned and straightened up for Spring? I can't do it all myself ya know!
So I'll just sit here, waitin' to hear that the Doc's have kicked you out of there, wherever it is you ARE.... And you are on your way to my house... I'll be sittin there on the porch, drink in hand, and I'll holler & yell silly things at you when I see you!
Love you little sister.... xoxoxoxooxoxoxoxo
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Yeah, I don't like whiskey either.... Cammi does......
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Patty, I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Your boys will love you till the end of time, and you know that. They know that you are a great mom. We on these boards also know that you are a great source of inspiration and support. We are there with you.
To Patt's friend, Thank you - for everything
Hugs and prayers from, Lynne
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Sending goodness and peace to Patty. You are loved!
Friend-Thank you for being a good friend to Patty right now and for keeping us posted. It means the world to her that you are there.
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Good Morning Patty~ You have been in my thoughts and I am just letting you know we are all in your corner. Always, take some of our strength, pull from our love anything you need to come back from this! We love you ~M~
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Hello dear Patti and Patti’s friend, no matter how the conversations went with the boys, they have a lifetime of knowing you love them. Praying for you to be free of any discomfort. You are so loved here
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Dear Patty, I don't post very often but I have been heartened and inspired by how you have handled all the challenges that have come your way. I admire your strong faith and I pray that it sustains you and gives you the peace. Dear Patty's friend, thank you for keeping us updated. Thank you for the love you give to Patty, her sons and family.
Kimberly
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Dear Patty's friend thank you immensely for being the ride or die friend that you are.
We love you Patty. I feel your courage and strength. The best to your sons.
Tanya
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Sending love and prayers for peace for Patti and her family To Patti’s friend. Thank you for keeping us updated. What a blessing you are to dear Patti.
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Here's a floating bar, where you can sip Mai Thais and jump off for a refreshing swim, sweet Patty!
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3PanieCi4IEAnother nice spot.
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Dear patty’s friend
Thank you for being such a wonderful friend to Patty and to us now
I pray for Patty to turn it around like she’s done so many times before. I hope she’s not in any pain
Sending soothing hugs
Babs
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Prayers for healing for Patty. We love you
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Dearest Patty's friend, as you read these responses to Patty, please let her know another voice is lifting her up in prayer. It is twilight for us, but believe Patty is in full sunlight to see her path forward. Hootie hoo, mama bear.
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hello friends. It is patty. My friend Shannon has been posting updates for me to y’all. Even though I can’t make sense now trying to read the texts and pms. Shannon read me all your responsss and i would just lay back and smile. Feeling : loved When I die Shannon knows to post the info here as well.
Anyway mo came in today but I can’t remember for the life of me what he said. Just so happened Shannon had went to my house for more clothes etc. so she didn’t hear either. I asked nurse and she said per dr notes they are just waiting on me to make the decision to go home on hospice or not. Scary !!!! I know just the day before Shannon’s and nurse said that dr said would be unethical to continue to try tx which at this point would be more harmful then a well. Not exactly sure why he is keeping me til end of week. If hospice is the next next step. weird !?
For a long time now I have just been too exhausted and sick to want to continue tx to live. I have only went this far so I can spend as many years , months and days with my boys. They still are learning from me. So much to teach them still. But now it looks like that is my only option. I am kicking myself in the ass for not trying the taxol over 3 years ago when they recommend it. All because I didn’t want dss be embarrassed of being with me bald or to have that pic of me burned in their brain for ever. Well no changing my past can choices. i JUst need to get ahold of myself , put on my big boy underwear , and soldier thru the hospice setup. No time to be wasted crying or feeling sorry for my self. I always feel more settled when i have everything done and in my “don’t open til death bag “.
Love y’all and your support is awesome. Shannon will update y’all when things change. Much love hootie hoo
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always thinking and praying for you. ❤
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Missy, pleasedon’t blame yourself.
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You are a brave woman, Patty. No need to second-guess your treatment decisions. There's no guarantee how things would have worked out if you'd gone another path. You are living the path you're on with courage and integrity. The love you have for your boys will carry them through. I recently lost my father, and I can guarantee you that teaching does not end with death. They will continue to learn from you for years to come.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Snowfall
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Snowfall said it. Your decision was based on your deep love for your boys. SelflessLove is never wrong. Much love to you sweet Sweet Sister.
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Wishing you peace with your decisions, Patty. Sending you much love.
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Oh Patty~ I am so glad it's you! Although your friend Shannon is quite amazing, we needed to hear you. To feel it was you. You sound so strong and honestly pretty aware to me. That's pretty awesome . I keep hearing the words Hootie Hoo in my mind. I could not bring myself to play the 2 word game today without you. Just weird how I felt that way. It shows me a connection you made that You may have never realized was even important to me. That you touched my life and didn't know it. Well you did. I have another two words for you now.. my friend.. please rest and know we love you. You know inside you cannot blame anything on yourself ever. Please know you're on our minds. We will wait to hear how the staff kicked you out for leaving your room again. I hope all hopes you choose what is right for you! Much love always~M~
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Dearest Patty, I went on Taxol and it failed. Don't blame yourself at all.
Sending love and courage. We will all face what you are facing.
L
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