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  • mara51506
    mara51506 Posts: 7,546

    @eleanora and @cookie54 I have made a busy day on Thursday for sure but the plus side is there is somewhere to sit in both locations. I will be looking for canned lentils at no frills after Walmart as I find it highly doubtful I will find them there. They seem to be out of stock at Walmart and I do prefer the canned variety. Will still need to tell myself NOT to cancel trips. By the end of trips most end up enjoyable but in the lead up, anxiety creeps in requiring deep breaths before I leave, even the hospital ones. I have not fallen for a couple of years now, I do exercises to improve balance in bed including ankle rotations both ways and back and forth, lift knees to chest and stretch legs, basically spread them wide and finally the bridge pose. Cannot see ankles folding under with the daily exercises.

    Not sure on food right now, probably frozen mini pizza, thinking microwave 60 seconds then transfer to the air fryer. Putting lentils and cheese on top of it. Getting hungry so will likely make it up shortly. Already defrost first, in the air fryer with lentils and cheese.

    EDIT 1 Meal, I did take a frozen pizza, I did defrost over a minute to ensure inside of pizza got heated in air fryer. I did take lentils to cover top of pizza and put a generous amount of cheese on top, put in air fryer, took 7 mins and came out crispy, not burnt. Some cheese was definitely stuck to edge of air fryer pan, don't care not much. No seasonings except bit of salt put on top, it was perfect, no binders needed either. Enjoyable meal.

    Floors will be done soon, snacks can include 1/2 english muffins, garlic and cheese variety or simple butter and peanut butter. I will see what I may want to have.

    I do hope all have a good day, in pockets for appointments, scan results or side effects from drugs or surgery.

  • shanagirl
    shanagirl Posts: 685

    @mkestrel Oh!! I’m so glad to see you are doing your art again. It really is good therapy.. I myself have been mentally pushing my self to get motivated enough to get back to it also. So far not unite there yet, but I will.😉👩🏼‍🎨🎨

  • seeq
    seeq Posts: 1,288

    @shanagirl

    - it is probably actually the parathyroids they were talking about. I had the surgery shortly after I was dx'd, and it was a very easy surgery. I went to Norman Parathyroid Center in Tampa. They reviewed my records and made a determination before I traveled there, so we were just there overnight. I had two parathyroids (out of 4) and part of my thymus removed. They actually test each parathyroid's function during the surgery.

    You can check them out at Parathyroid.com

  • shanagirl
    shanagirl Posts: 685
    edited August 6

    @tanya_djamila Ooohhhh Tanya, I feel your pain as I am very familiar with the neck cervica spine issues with includeded shoulder pain. The heating pad is my friend when that starts. I’m hoping you feel better in a day or 2 and keep taking your antiinflammatories.💕In my pocket today. Dearest Amazing @mara51506 . Wishing you a good day with your planned rides. You already in my heart today🩵🌷

    And also sweet girl @seeq , I agree with @tanya_djamila 😊in saying Thank you so much for your help🩷

    So I’m off to go for my chest CT here in the next Town at Ocean University medical Center. So glad it’s only a 10 minute drive😉

  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Posts: 1,645

    @mara sorry you canceled part of your trip but you made it! The driver was kind to let you out by your door.

    Thanks everyone for neck shoulder back pain. It did subside of two days. I took everything I had and wrapped the heating pad around my neck. I am moving gingerly but glad the horrible pain is gone.

    @cookie54 im glad you feel well enough to boat with friends. It’s amazing how things like that force you to make the best of it.
    Waving hello to everyone.

    Tanya

  • irishlove
    irishlove Posts: 797

    Good early morning everyone. Sorry that I have been MIA for about a week. Just caught up on the postings that I missed. Forgive me for lack of memory to respond to everyone (my brain, she are no good) but I wanted to say I'm in each in everyone's pockets for improvements and life in general.

    This computer is acting up and it's upsetting. The posts just disappear. I believe it occurs if I rest my hand or bump the board, so back to typing with fingers only and no resting my hands.

    Today the hot and humid weather finally broke. I was able to lay some pea gravel in the garden and water the plants early. The passion flower has really taken off. It's traveled all around garden fencing and gate. I had to redirect it's efforts. No flowers or fruit yet on the vine. The gardenia plant out back is struggling as it's in direct sunlight many hours of the day. The new one out front is thriving and even has buds on it again. Very unusual to bloom after May. The Night blooming Jasmine has a few flowers and I'm training it to grow over the trellis that covers the swing set.

    Minnie Mouse, our beloved 12 yr. old terrier mix (and Pigeon's Mom), is not doing well at all. The volunteer with the Humane Society that took such good care of Buddy, mentioned that she would be in danger of passing shortly after Pigeon. She is grieving. She no longer chases her tennis ball, or goes for walks. She has put on weight, even though we monitor her food intake. DH and I make it a point of giving her all the love we can.

    Wishing for better days and less doctor visits for all my sweet friends here. I might want to mention, less requests for follow up surveys or interviews after medical contact of any kind. It's become overwhelming and ridiculous.

    Irishlove

  • mara51506
    mara51506 Posts: 7,546

    @irishlove I am sorry to hear that your dog is not doing well after the loss of another furry family member, in your pocket sending love your way. Glad you are able to get some gardening done, that is the best.

    Also @irishlove and anyone having trouble losing posts, if doing a post on a device that gives you sticky notes, type it out on the sticky whether on a tablet, phone or computer. Not so easy to lose, copy note once done, paste it here and hit post. Should make life easier.

    Slept OK, not hot but we are definitely muggy but that is not unusual for this time of year. I've been posting a lot on frugal this, one of the questions was can a family of five live on 50 bucks a week groceries. I offered what I thought which was yes. If there are picky eaters chop stuff small. Rice, lentils or beans are a complete protein, lots of different seasonings to make food flavourful. Diced potatoes really fill out a meal. Fresh veggies could be an option for a couple of meals and did recommend youtubes' Julia Pacheco and Southern Frugal Momma to give good ideas. Also recommended Manwich sauce, taco seasoning with bit of water while cooking to give anything a mexican type flavour and self rising flour and put water in to make tortillas or bread. It can be done for sure. I will let Facebook respond or not to the comment, I just think people need to know they can eat well but less expensive.

    I have nothing on the agenda, Tigger is getting his sensitive stomach meal, they are eating small amounts almost every half hour. I give the tiniest bit of water in each meal and give proper water a half hour post food, they do not eat again til half hour after water. Gives tummies a chance to digest more of the foods. Now furballs and such are expected but do not happen often. I want food to stay in the belly. Not hard to clean it up but they need it.

    I am washing stuff currently, stuff I forgot to finish so starting over, shorter cycles, I spin everything twice, seems to make stuff dry faster in the regular dryer. I have also decided to change what is going in the O Cedar mop, I had thought to use the regular cleaner I love the smell of but think will keep it for sinks, toilets and whatever, just use water mostly and a squirt of dish soap, be the most natural cleaner to use. I will decide, if need a nice smell, perhaps using an enzyme smell would be better. Just trying to make stuff less toxic on cats. I will see. Don't need a decision right now. I still have 3 failed spray mop 2 swiffers and one vileda, all spray nozzles broke but they are usable to dry the floor and have reusable mop heads to us

    I have a lot of food to choose from so meals will feature hashbrowns, rice or part of a Kraft Dinner pack of noodles, keep cheese as additional seasoning, I do not not need whole box and can use the popcorn seasonings to makeup different seasonings. I do like how the Kraft noodle pasta thickens up a bit, 1/4 or 1/2 would be plenty. I have also considered using vienna sausages in combo meals, cheap and could be chopped up to pair with chopped beans and cheese for a good meal. I will post later on meals.

    Hope all have a good day and in pockets for all SE, pain they are dealing with, pets getting older which does scare me as well.

  • shanagirl
    shanagirl Posts: 685
    edited August 8

    @irishlove Good morning Sweet Girl. You don’t have to say “Im sorry for being MIA. You’ve had a lot to deal with over the last few months and everyone here I know, totally gets it….I just hit Select-All and Copy after the first few sentences. And if your post suddenly disappears, like happens to me all the time, Just go to the top of the comment space and hit Paste, the your post will come back exactly where you left off😉.

    @irishlove I feel your sadness for Minnie Mouse seeming to grieve over Pigeon.. I know how a dog dies of a broken heart over loss of a sibling. I went through it once with my 3 pugs. My 17 yr girl who was always stong like a puppy suddenly stopped eating and couln’ t walk with outnumber wimpering in pain. We brought her to the vet and she just kept crying and wimpering, I think she was so scared. then the Vet gave her a sedative to calm her and she just continued to wimpwe andd cry softly. it broke my heart as she continued when they gave her the drug to put her to sleep. my heart still hurts over it. we had 2 other pugs one 13, and one 10, who passed a year later. the 10 year old was such a loss because we did not expect it. the Vet on his well visit said his organs were shutting down which is why he stopped eating. I never expected lit black pug Mikki to die so young. it was soon after 13 yr old Raliegh passed the same way……. So a month later we came home with little Black Samuel and Fawn colored Ollie 8 weeks old pugs. they were such a joy and it was so healing to have them after The loss we went thru. Now as always they are still inseperable. They are inseperable and love each other. I always tell DH they would grieve hard with any loss of one of them….then I just put it out of my mind because it’s too painful to think of them suffering in that way for each other… My Oliver grieved when I went down to Florida for a week with the Great Grand Kids in May. for a week, and then when I came home and suddenly got so sick with the hemorrhagic pneumonia and was in the hospital for another week, he’s become so clinging to now that I’m home. He does not leave my side, it’s Been a tough summer for Oliver because with m constantly going for appointments and treatments and being obviously weakened and tired, and still coughing,; and also the constant fireworksgoing off down here, he is just not a confident dog lately..So our fur babies do feel loss, and our hearts break for them.💔So @irishlove , Have a day with your Minnie Mouse andI know you both need that right now, so don’t worry about MIA. take good care of you and your Minnie. We are all here for you, when you post again🩵🌷

  • threetree
    threetree Posts: 2,755

    @irishlove - I too am very sorry to hear that Minnie is not doing real well right now. I haven't had a pet in a long time now, and part of the reason is just what you and @shanagirl have been describing. I just don't know if I could go through that kind of stuff anymore. Also, I don't know of course, just how long I'll be here, and I simply cannot leave an animal with no one. I hope Minnie can pull through this and find some comfort and happiness in life without Pigeon. She does have you and your family, and that should help her a lot.

    I also understand about getting behind with these posts and then not being able to respond back to people personally in the way we would really like to. I've been finding myself in that situation more often these days. I think it's the Xeloda, and I am weighing the idea of taking the dose recduction my onc has offered. I'm just scared that if I take the reduction, I will progress and blame myself terribly.

    Re losing posts: After they changed to this new format, I kept losing posts all the time - almost to the point that I considered not bothering to post anymore. Somebody else on here (wish I could remember who) told me about a year or so ago, to try "save draft" as I typed. I did, and it has been working like a charm ever since. I don't think I've lost a post since I started doing that. Just every few sentences or every paragraph I hit "save draft", and then if anything does happen, everything I had written to that point will show up in my draft folder, but even that rarely happens now. I really encourage you to try the "save draft" option.

    Irish, I am still amazed at all the different flora and fauna you have there in Florida. So different from mine. I'm also amazed at what a trooper you are, and how much you get done and are able to enjoy life, in spite of all the challenges you have. You really are an inspiration to us all! Gald that you posted, as I was beginning to wonder a little. Have a great week-end!

  • intolight
    intolight Posts: 3,130

    @irishlove I will join the others in the sadness over seeing pets struggle, and I will keep your sweet Minnie Mouse in my thoughts today. They are such a huge part of our lives and give so much. And all of us here understand about times when we don't respond as often as we would like, or as specific. When I first started on this website I tried to keep notes about everyone so I could respond well, but I don't have the energy for that anymore. I know we all understand this. It is not that we don't care, it is just another piece of the load we all carry.

    @shanagirl Yes, and thank you for responding about copy and paste. Sometimes control Z (undo) reverses whatever happened for notes to disappear and it all comes back. I have used both with success. I pray you will feel better today with less cough and pain. You are in my daily prayers.

    I pray we all have a better day today. When I woke at 7:00 this morning it was already 80° which is hot for us. Our high may be a record today. I know some of you are used to this, but I complain because it is too hot to sit out on our deck. I need to be thankful I can even get around. I am amazed my leg seems to be healing well with just a boot or a brace. It was a clear, obvious break. My bone dexa this week also showed in the normal range so again I am thankful. I must have really fallen hard but I don't know because I was unconscious. Anyway, we may venture out late this afternoon for an early dinner since my DD is off work tonight. We can celebrate the first week of school for my DGD. We want her middle school years to be a good experience so we are trying to do extra things. She is a social butterfly and takes friendships very seriously.

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