Wife wont exercise or eat better. What can I do?
Hi everyone! My wife was diagnosed with triple negative stage 2A breast cancer in February. She completed chemo followed by a bilateral mastectomy without any major side effects or decrease in quality of life. After surgery, which confirmed the cancer was not in her lymph nodes, she was done with treatment and cleared to return to daily life.
I feel like she (and I) have been given a second chance to clean up our less-than-ideal habits and do everything we can--while enjoying our lives--to decrease the chance of a recurrence (and to decrease our chances of any other cancer diagnoses). I have taken steps to eat better and to exercise more while still making room for an occasional indulgence. But she will not exercise at all or stop eating fast food almost daily.
I adore my wife. She is my ideal complement, my better half. I cannot imagine life without her. I fear that she is not doing enough to decrease her chances of a recurrence. We often argue about this. She tells me she wants to do better, but in the end she doesn't. And, she has no excuses: We are financially stable and can afford nutritious meals and exercise equipment. We have no work, child care, or elder care responsibilities that would keep her from having the time to exercise. And, I do all meal planning and prepping (she refuses to participate in these), so all she has to do is eat the meals prepared for her.I am at a loss as to how to motivate her to follow her doctors' admonishments that she lead a healthier lifestyle. And, I would love input from those of you who might have faced a similar dilemma, especially from the perspective of the patient/survivor. What can I do to encourage my wife to do more to prevent a recurrence?