STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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hormones can also go wacky and mess with our emotions as well so some things that did not bother people before cancer become upsetting sometimes and set us off. Try to take a break and think before speaking as well sometimes. DH is usually very kind but at times it can just set me off for some reason by something and he looks at me and then I have a feeling he thinks it is me that is crazy.
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My feelings are really delicate right now when it comes to my family drama. My dad is in the hospital again. Another bladder infection (and probably undiagnosed prostatitis) because he isn’t drinking enough water and he has an enlarged prostate even after radiation and hormone treatments. My sister and BIL are there and she has her usual attitude. Last night I tried for over 1.5 hours to reach mom and dad on their cell phones and eventually directly to the hospital room phone. No answer on any of them. Then on 2 calls to the room phone it was obvious that someone picked up and hung up. By this point I’m thinking my sister has their cell phones and is not letting them answer the room phone. The nurse said she would call me back in 10 minutes. Last time (2 months ago) when I was told that, the return call said I wasn’t allowed to speak with him.
So by this point I’m fuming. I called the nurse after 30 minutes had passed and she went into the room with her phone and put me on speaker….turns out the phone in that room doesn’t even work! 🤬Really?!?
Doesn’t explain why they aren’t answering their cell phones. Sister could have them in her purse “for safe keeping”, but I don’t know. Neither one of my parents are really capable of managing a smartphone anymore. I’m thinking of getting them phones for seniors.0 -
My mom has a flip phone and can't do a smart phone at all and personally for me it is hard to even answer a call on the call if it rings. We have one and usually DH carries it when he is out of the house but he needs a smart one for his diabetes monitor which goes to his doctor so she can adjust his meds when he needs it and he can also decide if he needs an insulin or not. Our son got a lot of them on his plan for the family and is paying for it so we are not paying the bill right now but not like we use it. At home we are still on real phones in the house. /that is where people usually call us.
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@bcincolorado my parents also have a traditional phone line at home. I often have to call them on that line because they don’t answer their cell phones.
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The son sometimes will text us and since we are not attached to the cell phone like the younger generation worries if no one answers him and then calls the house phone instead. He is our youngest. The daughter understands though and just calls our house always.
I have enough trouble with tv sets in the house and going from over the air channels to our satellite dish. We have some tv sets that are older and not smart tv sets as well which is different as well. It is confusing. Then all the web stuff to keep track of as well.
It was a nightmare trying to deal with my mom's computer as well who messes hers up all the time and then DH has to try to debug whatever she did to it. She just clicks on whatever she wants in there sometimes and tries to do stuff and then mess it up more of course.
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Feeling less than inspired to work on the things I should. Namely my professional job, selecting a Medicare plan, drafting a will and selecting an attorney to represent me against my sisters when the time comes.
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Finding an attorney is not always easy and one you are comfortable with and trust as well.
Doing wills is not always easy as well. i know there are online things you can do that are legal and have to get them signed by notary which banks sometimes will do for you. Mine kind of did when my dad passed and needed some stuff notarized had to sign for my brother who was there and the executor. Depends on the bank and notary though.
Also happy Mother's Day to all who are mothers.
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My parents are moving to an assisted living facility near one of my sisters and I this weekend. I don’t speak to either of my sisters so I went to visit my parents and pick up the things they wanted me to take before the big move. We ended up agreeing that I should also have furniture and things I wouldn’t be able to move right away. We discussed going to the bank to close the safety deposit boxes which would save my sister that task while overseeing the packing and moving operations and I could go ahead take the jewelry that’s promised to me and read the will. Saves me the frustration of dealing with my sister.
A few minutes later my sister calls my dad and is hysterical mad. How dare we close the boxes. Um…how does she know this? She has the house bugged and my parents didn’t know. She has hidden microphones in their house! Guess what isn’t in the safety deposit boxes? The jewelry and my parents’ copy of the will. They aren’t in the safe at the house either. And she has the nerve to be mad that she might not be trusted with his POA and all their finances?Unbelievable!!!
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A frustrated daughter here! Not my mom or stepdad's fault this time. Mad at the health care field in general over this issue!
Been helping my mom and stepdad and kid brother long distance to figure out what the meds my mom has because her old P.A. basically dropped her over wanting to get the ball rolling on getting the cataract surgery and he kept putting up stumbling blocks with wanting her to have numerous ekgs and other nonsense just so she could have the surgery! She never saw any doctor that was over the P.A. In my experience when I had a P.A., at some point I would have seen the doctor over them too.
My stepdad has a list of her meds and because mom has cataracts and is still waiting to see when surgery will happen, we have been trying to sort out the mess. Thry've been going through the med list and her meds she has on hand and we have discovered that some of the meds she has on hand were not on the list or were never explained to my brother, mom or stepdad what the fricken h-e-double toothpicks they were for. My mom is in her early 80s and doesn't need this stress! This has been frustrating and stressful for all of us who only want her to be able to finally have the procedure. She met with her new cardiologist who is totally mystified over the care and bedside manner my mom got from the old P.A. Mom also has a new doctor who told my stepdad and brother to bring the med list and all the meds she has so they can go through them together to see just what is going on and see if they can finally untangle the problem and get mom on the path to the procedure finally!Right now that former P.A. of hers better thank his lucky stars that I never had the chance to meet him or I would have given him Holy Hades for this mess! This whole issue has made us all verry ticked off and even my hubby has been shocked over the crap. He's mad that my mom has been treated this way.
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Kathryn hope your parents can get settled in without too much drama. Sure it hard on them with the drama going out with the kids as well right now. Too bug the house is odd as well. Unless one of them mentioned it to her or something for some reason but if they know you are not speaking right now it makes no sense.
It became drama between DH and his surviving sister after their dad passed since mom died first and he made DH the executor and she is the oldest sibling and lived there and we did not. He wanted him since he figured he could handle it better than she could. She could not even clean out one room of the house without breaking down. She kept having to leave and go somewhere and come back later. DH wanted to get it done and get all the paperwork done and focus on things that had to be done before he had to time to sit and grieve.
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