Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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reader425,
Wish you a pain free weekend.
1946taco,
Also, wish you a pain free weekend.
If only I could look as good in a hat. 🤠
carlehalston,
H & I am watching golf and softball this weekend.
justforher,
Hopefully, doing your own posting and slowly on the mend.
thenewme26,
May 2nd chemo session be an easier week.
petite1,
Mountain Laurels……lovely.
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Taco, Justforher and thenewme26 - keeping each of you in my thoughts and prayers for a good recovery. ((hugs)))
Taco - hope your daughter is doing well. Love your NYE hat.
Betrayal - sounds like a fabulous trip. If I recall correctly you should now be in Dublin starting the 2nd tour. I hope your tour mates are as easy going as the first group. Enjoy!
Carole - safe travels north.
petite - I hope pest control can rid the cabin of your intruders.
Cindy - good luck with cleaning out the pool. We used to have frogs slip under our cover and go for a swim until they got caught in the skimmer and then it was lights out.
Waving hello to everyone..
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I am so surprised you say this. My husband is going through the same thoughts as he mourns the possibility of losing me. He’s been researching different cultures and moralities, and even visiting churches and mosques despite never believing in anything before. He’s even started wondering whether this world was created by AI. He also says that, for me, death is easy, because I won’t have to suffer my own disappearance afterward the way others will. It’s the loss of someone that is truly painful.
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The newme26 and justforher, I wish you relief from your pain and issues. ((Hugs)).
Taco, I understand your pain. Please take pain meds as ordered, move around, do exercises as ordered and elevate leg. Use ice for no more than 20 minutes at a time, I slept in a recliner to keep knee straight and prevent flexion contractures. Get to PT ASAP. The first few weeks are the hardest.
We went to the Irish National Stud, Strokestown house and the National Famine museum yesterday. Stud fees can be as high as $300,000 euros for proven winners versus $7,500 euros for new stallion winners. Saw newborn foals and wow are some of the mother's highly protective. They huff at you. House was owned by an English man who made his money off the backs of the impoverished he later shipped to Canada when they outlived their worth and most did not survive the coffin ships. Marched them from western Ireland to Dublin to save fares and many died during the walk. Beautiful home, but tinged by how it was maintained. This diminished house to me. People starving to death outside their doors, but a sample menu showed food to excess within their walls. Adage of only the rich survive held true. Famine museum is ironically on their grounds. Showed sad plight of thise shipped overseas.
Here are some photos from yesterday:
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Famine museum and Irish Stud:
Mud hut of the Irish poor.
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Irish Stud and their Japanese garden:
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Some of the horses at the stud had been bred there, were gelding used as jumpers or steeplechase steeds and earned retirement for their contributions to the history of the stud.
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I'm now using breathing tubes. I want to die, is that weird to say? The thing is I never thought such things ever in my life. I traveled a lot, retired and bought a house by the beach to swim every day. I worked too much and had just retired to enjoy life and was so excited. I can not believe I am crying 24/7 now and thinking I want to die.
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Dear justforher,
My day started with tears as my brother-in-law went into surgery last Tuesday and is now not able to breathe and appears to have his body shutting down.
I hope that you can try to think about the beautiful place you will be when you leave this earth. The descriptions from the NDE are all the same. With all my heart, I trust that God is there waiting to welcome all believers and nonbelievers back with open arms. Your husband is right… it's those you leave behind that suffer more. It took two years for me to even function when I lost my husband.
This morning I saw two beautiful deer walking through the back of my yard. I felt God was sending me a sign because of my brother-in-laws situation. Perhaps was the second one was meant for you.
Take each minute in, but try to think of the beauty that comes… I cannot explain things, including why my cancer went undiagnosed for many years, but I accept it as God's path for me. I have already learned that if I survive, there are things that I will advocate for women in the future. My prayers continue to come your way.
Taco, hang in there. My knee replacement was a year ago. I am still getting used to it. It takes 18 months to fully recover and I am not even there yet! My other knee needs to get done but I can't think about that now. Ice is definitely your new friend. Hang in there….
Sending positive energy out to all as I try to come to terms with having to say goodbye to those we love…
justforher, maybe God put me on this site to let you know He's there for you.love the photos betrayal… my husband played polo in high school, was an equestrian, and had horses growing up… brought back memories…
thenewme26
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betrayal,
I like the 1st garden sculpture!
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Dear justforher,
I just returned home from a pharmacy run and thought I'd share one little story about how strange life can be and how there has to be a more powerful source.
As a child and during my adolescence I screamed at my parents and siblings that I did not belong to this family. I had to be adopted! (My parents said they were thinking of giving me up! Ha!Ha!) I never understood why I was so sure that I was not a part of this family and it went on for years.
I also loved horses but was scared to death to be near one. Loved old cars or sports cars but despite my father's attempt to teach me to drive a stick shift…it never happened.
In college I was having difficulty trying to pass Biology (the most boring professor of my life who simply read from the book). My friends gave me notes from this guy who was brilliant in biology. Though I never met him, I was grateful.
There was also this guy that just kept checking me out when I was out with my friends on campus or at the local fast food eatery. Just never thought much about that.
Then I met my husband at the factory where I wove fiber seating chairs for my dad who was the superintendent. Lo and behold… he was adopted, an equestrian and had old sports car. He was also the brilliant biologist! It took a few dates before I realized he was the guy across the booth at the fast food place. Creepy, but cute!
When I shared this with a Native American colleague years later when I was teaching, she said, " You were looking for each other. You were probably together in a past life." Needless to say, I went home and told my husband that he had me for two lives… don't go hunting for the third time. We laughed. But after reading about life after death, I do believe these things are possible. As a matter of fact, a week before my husband died I moved across the king size bed to snuggle and hold him. I told him that it was okay to come looking for me again should we both come back for another swing at life on earth. This is what inspired me to explore more about life after death.
Some believers say that you can choose to look like you want, have the kind of house you want, and exist in peace and tranquility. So don't think about not enjoying the beach house (I won't get mine until I get up there!). Try to imagine what you would like your spot to look like. I am praying really hard for your peace and I am so glad I had this opportunity to connect with you.
The tears are okay because you want more time and did not get to enjoy what you have, but try to think of what will come.
thenewme26
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Here's some photos of Kylemore Abbey:
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Kylemore Gardens:
Connemara pony.
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I post on the dinner thread but lurk here and enjoy hearing about the travels and travails of this group.
@thenewme26, I live in the big town 18 miles to the west of you. My breast cancer also went undiagnosed for two and a half years (found by an oral surgeon) so I travel to the big hospital in Boston where I already had a gastroenterologist thanks to an upper GI bleed at Logan airport. There is an excellent acupuncturist in your town with experience treating those undergoing cancer therapy. My problems stemmed from radiation but she also treats for chemo SEs. PM me if you would like the contact info.
@justforher, I am so sorry that you find yourself not knowing whether you will make it. Four years ago I was in the same situation due to late radiation SEs. These toxic treatments kill the cancer but in rare instances cause your immune system to go haywire. For me the hardest thing was accepting I had absolutely no control over what might happen and my good lungs (I was a swimmer) could betray me. Prayers for comfort and peace.
Hello to those I know from other threads and my appreciation to the rest of you for posting about all you do. I live like it's still covid lockdown so I value that.
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Dear thenewme,
I am reading, and my heart is with you.
I am also deeply sorry for the loss of your loved ones.
I’m unfortunately not able to write much right now because my fever keeps rising, and the cardiologist is currently visiting me as I had some heart issues today.
Life is beautiful, complex, devastating.
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Justforher, here's hoping they were able to break your fever and you are feeling somewhat better.
Went to Spiddal today for a favorite shop of ours from 1975. Then it was in an old garage, but on our 1984 visit we were wandering around the newer large showroom when I heard a very distinctive voice I recognized. It was my brother-in-law's mother traveling with her sister. They were on their way out of Ireland while we were at the beginning of ours. Between us we bought so much, they offered us free lunch in their Cafe.
I was able to find hand knit Aran sweaters here, not the machine knit ones sold elsewhere. The price was also better than the prices we had seen in other shops selling hand knits. So DH and I each got new cardigans. The color I initially chose wasn't available, so I had to take my second choice and I am glad I did. When we got to the shops on Inishmore, the prices were outrageous for both the hand knit and the machine knits.
The weather was awful. It was clear until we got to the port when it started to rain and was bitterly cold. I had a long sleeved shirt, a hooded sweatshirt over that, and a fleece lined raincoat on and was comfortable though my feet felt like ice cubes. We did not walk up to the old ring fort due to any rocky surface being slippery. We had lunch at Jie Watty's pub and had a local singer for entertainment. Then we had a bus tour of the island after some brave souls went to the fort. It was foggy so Connemara was not visible. Enjoyable day in spite of the weather.
Here are some photos:
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Hope everyone had a wonderful day andcwaving "hi" to everyone. Tomorrow is Cliffs of Moher and travel to Limerick. We are doing the medieval banquet at Knappogue castle tomorrow evening.
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justforher - holding you close.
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