Sep 2, 2017 04:35PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Last night I woke up the pup to go upstairs to bed. She made it to the third step and decided she'd had enough. I easily picked her 28 lbs and carried her all the way to bed.
Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.
Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by SerenitySTAT
I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).
I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.
Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."
Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.
Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a reward—the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.
A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.
Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!
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Sep 2, 2017 04:35PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Last night I woke up the pup to go upstairs to bed. She made it to the third step and decided she'd had enough. I easily picked her 28 lbs and carried her all the way to bed.
Sep 2, 2017 08:42PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Hey, my brain is OK!
Why Do We Forget What We're Doing the Minute We Enter a Room?
Left your keys on the kitchen counter again? No problem. Just go and get them. Walk through the house, into the kitchen, and—what was it you needed to do again? Why are you in here? In less than 30 seconds, you've managed to forget the entire purpose of your errand. But don't worry. It's not just you, and you're not losing your marbles. It's called the Doorway Effect, and it's actually a sign that your brain is in fine working order.
Scientists used to believe that memory was like a filing cabinet. You have an experience, and it gets its own little file in your brain. Then, later, you can go back and open the file, which is unchanged and where it should be. It's a nice, tidy image—but it's wrong. Your brain is much more complicated and sophisticated than that. It's more like a super-high-powered computer, with dozens of tasks and applications running at once.
A 2011 study found that the Doorway Effect is the result of several of these brain programs running simultaneously. Researchers taught 55 college students to play a computer game in which they moved through a virtual building, collecting and carrying objects from room to room. Every so often as the participants traversed the space, a picture of an object popped up on the screen. If the object shown was the one they were carrying or the one they had just put down, the participants clicked "Yes." Sometimes these pictures appeared after the participant had walked into a room; other times they appeared while the participant was still in the middle of a room. The researchers then built a real-world version of the environment and ran the experiment again, using a box to hide the objects people were carrying so they couldn't double-check.
The results of both trials were the same: The simple act of walking through a doorway made people forget what they were doing. And it wasn't a matter of distance, either. The researchers asked the question ("Is this what you're carrying?") after people had walked a certain distance within a room, and a certain distance between rooms. Within a room, their memories remained mostly intact. But crossing a threshold was like shaking a mental Etch-a-Sketch.
The researchers concluded that their subjects' brains perceived doorways as a kind of cut-off point. The memories and movement that carried the students through one context literally hit a wall. On the other side of that wall was new context, and a fresh landscape for memory. The participants' mental computers were combining the tasks of spatial awareness, movement, and memory. But each task requires attention, and you can't pay attention to everything at once.
Is there a way to avoid the Doorway Effect? Probably, although science hasn't found it yet. If you've got a trick that works, let us know in the comments.
Sep 2, 2017 08:47PM - edited Sep 2, 2017 08:48PM by SerenitySTAT
Last night I fell asleep thinking of a nice, creamy mushroom risotto.
Sep 2, 2017 08:53PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
So, that's where it went!
When You Lose Weight, Where Does the Fat Go?
Into thin air! While ads for diets, pills, and exercise equipment promise to "burn fat away," the truth is that our bodies don't convert fat into energy. That would break the Law of Conservation of Mass. When you lose weight, you're really just losing atoms—you can't turn those atoms into energy. Scientists have known this for a long time, but in 2013, Australian physicist Ruben Meerman was waging his own battle of the bulge and wanted to know how much fat we exhale. Meerman did the math and found that for every 10 pounds of fat you lose, 8.4 pounds are exhaled as CO2, while the remaining 1.6 pounds are converted to water, which the body excretes as tears, sweat, urine, or...other stuff.
Sep 2, 2017 09:46PM glennie19 wrote:
I've been AWOL for the summer. I moved house, and have been spending a lot of time, painting, fixing up, hiring people to do the things I can't. My yard flooded! Heavy rains, but still, that was a shocker. Still working on that issue before we get socked with a hurricane. (hopefully not!)
Anyway,, I've finally caught up on all the posts! I have missed this thread,, did not realize how much until I came back. So Happy to be back. Need to try out some of the new stretches that you have posted lately.
My slices of joy: My dog LOVING her yard, running and chasing the squirrels. Me loving the privacy of the fenced in back yard, pulling weeds, and deciding what to plant when I get all the invasive plants out!
Sep 3, 2017 08:07PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Welcome back, glennie! Love to hear how happy your dog is! Hope you get your yard sorted out before a hurricane hits. Hope the stretches help you.
I forgot to write about a new simple stretch from my kinesiologist. Get into a deep squat with your back against the wall. Curl head down and back up repeatedly. It's supposed to stretch the fascia along the calf. It makes me happy to just be able to get in this position. I don't worry about losing my balance since I'm against the wall.
I haven't been sleeping enough for the past few forevers. Last night I slept over 8 hours, and I still took a 3-hour nap. I don't recall the last time I napped. I feel better.
Tomorrow is a holiday! Gives me time to do some prep work for my trip later this week. Going to Boston. Wish I could do some sight seeing, but I won't be there long.
Sep 4, 2017 12:45PM magiclight wrote:
Serenity - Enjoy a labor free day and watch your pup enjoy the freedom of a fenced yard.
Sep 4, 2017 01:11PM glennie19 wrote:
Serenity, I have been working with a Feldenkrais practitioner and it is helping me. Wondered if you had ever tried it?
This is a face video that my friend found last night:
Sep 4, 2017 01:13PM glennie19 wrote:
And these are ones that my practitioner has prescribed for me. http://openatm.org/olena.html
Scroll down toOlena Nitefor's Interpretation of the Mia/Gabby San Fransisco Evening Lessons
and tryTitleSourceTimeTilting legs in and out on backp.7759:60DownloadDiscussOn back lift hip to lengthen opposite armp.5455:52DownloadDiscussTilting knee on back connecting to arms above
I do #1 and #3 a lot. I only do #1 until about the 38 min mark after that there is some head raising that my neck is not up to yet.
Sep 4, 2017 05:42PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
magiclight - Thank you! I hope you've had a relaxing day, too! Instead of work-work, I've been cleaning out our basement. Feels good to get rid of things. Next weekend, I want to reorganize the laundry room.
glennie - I've never heard of Feldenkrais. I'll have to try it. Thanks! My main exercise this weekend has been climbing stairs. Some things in the basement could be moved elsewhere. According to FitBit, I've climbed 27 floors today so far. Whew!
Sep 4, 2017 07:46PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Will be hard to top her what-I-did-over-the-summer story!
Schoolgirl has legendary holiday after pulling 4ft sword from Cornish lake 'where Arthur's Excalibur was thrown' (good job she's named after a famous English queen)
By Alex Matthews For Mailonline 15:17 03 Sep 2017, updated 15:26 03 Sep 2017
A seven-year-old school girl had a legendary holiday after pulling a giant four-foot sword from the Cornish Lake where Arthur threw Excalibur.
Matilda Jones was wading through water waist-deep at Dozmary Pool when she stumbled across the blade underwater.
According to local folklore, Dozmary Pool is the spot where King Arthur returned Excalibur after being fatally wounded in the Battle of Camlann.
Matilda Jones holding a 4ft sword she found at Dozmary Pool in CornwallPaul and Matilda Jones holding a 4ft sword she found at Dozmary Pool in Cornwall
It is said to have been accepted by the Lady of the Lake, whose arm mysteriously rose from the water to received the fabled blade.
Ironically, her father Paul Jones, 51, had recounted the story of King Arthur to Matilda and her sister Lois, four, moments before the discovery.
Mr Jones, from Doncaster in south Yorkshire, said: 'It was a blistering hot day and Matilda asked if we could go for a paddle.
'She was only waist deep when she said she could see a sword.
'I told her not to be silly and it was probably a bit of fencing, but when I looked down I realised it was a sword. It was just there laying flat on the bottom of the lake.
'The sword is 4ft long - exactly Matilda's height.'
Matilda Jones, from Norton, Doncaster, with the sword she found in Dozmary PoolMatilda Jones, from Norton, Doncaster, with the sword she found in Dozmary Pool
Legend has it that King Arthur first received Excalibur from the Lady of Lake in Dozmary Pool after rowing out to receive it.
After being mortally wounded he asked to be taken there so he could return the sword to her.
After three attempts, his loyal follower Bedivere cast it into the water and the Lady of the Lake's arm rose to receive it.
The pool, in the civil parish of Altarnun on Bodmin Moor, was said to be bottomless until droughts in 1859 and 1976 dried it out completely and revealed it is, in fact, and shallow pond.
Matilda shares her name with Empress Matilda, the daughter of King Henry I and heir to the English throne in the 12th century.
While it may be exciting to believe a young with such a regal name has written her own chapter in the Arthurian legend - her father thinks the sword's origins are more recent.
Mr Jones said: 'I don't think it's particularly old. It's probably an old film prop.'Queen Matilda: Heir to the throne
Empress Matilda was the daughter of Henry I, King of England
Empress Matilda was the daughter of Henry I, King of England.
She moved to Germany as a child and later married Holy Roman Emperor Henry V in 1114, when she was just 12 years old.
The union produced no children and the Emperor died in 1125.
But the death of her brother in 1120, made her the heir to the throne of England.
In 1127 she married Geoffrey of Anjou, who would later become Duke of Normandy, and had three sons.
However, female rulers were unpopular at the time and her cousin Stephen of Blois had himself crowned king of England.
Matilda's claim to the throne was supported by her half brother, Robert of Gloucester and uncle, David I of Scotland.
Matilda and Robert landed at Arundel, West Sussex, in September 1139 and England was thrown into civil war.
After two years of fighting, Stephen was captured at Lincoln and Matilda took control of England.
But she was not a popular ruler and was never awarded a coronation.
Stephen was later released in exchange for Robert of Gloucester and the civil war waged on.
But Robert died in 1147, leaving a grief-stricken Matilda to return to France.
Her son Henry took up the fighting, but was also forced to flee across the Channel.
He was crowned King Henry II of England after the death of Stephen's son Eustace in 1154.
Sep 4, 2017 11:06PM glennie19 wrote:
Love it !
Sep 8, 2017 10:42PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I'm home! I had a good trip, but I wish I had more time in Boston. I was hoping to get there early, but Air Canada had other plans.
I got to my hotel after 11 pm on Wednesday. My afternoon flight had been cancelled, and my actual flight was delayed. I didn't make a great effort to stay with the Whole 30. I had a great sushi lunch on both days, but yesterday there were people giving out free Ben and Jerry's ice cream. I cannot turn down free Ben and Jerry's. I mean, really! They even had Stephen Colbert's Americone Dream. Yesterday I went to happy hour. I drank unsweetened iced tea and ate the appetizers that were way off of Whole 30, but it was for work! I did drink my coffee black.
I had many joyful moments on my trip, but the absolute best part is that I didn't need any pain meds on my trip! I haven't taken Lyrica since Tuesday, and I haven't taken other pain meds for months. I sat at the airports, on the planes, and for work with no sciatic pain! I didn't have any problems with the soft bed or carrying my backpack with laptop all over the place.
The only luggage I had was a backpack and a small messenger bag. I've been working on packing lighter. This is the best I've done. Loved passing by the lines of people waiting on their luggage.
Happy to be home with my family and pup. Apparently my pup really missed me.
Sep 9, 2017 08:19AM coachvicky wrote:
so happy your trip went well, serenity!
Sep 11, 2017 08:07AM KB870 wrote:
Hope you enjoy these pics I took on our Staycation. We are lucky enough to have lots of canoeing locally.
DH took a week off and we went canoeing. Hope you like the pics, I was thrilled to see something so special!
We noticed this Doe swimming across and exiting
Then she stopped, looked back and called
Then these twin fawns swam across to her!
Very special experience!
Sep 11, 2017 01:07PM - edited Sep 11, 2017 01:08PM by magiclight
KB...thanks for sharing - now that was a most spectacular experience and a big slice of joy!!
Sep 11, 2017 04:26PM ScotBird wrote:
Ah what a GREAT trip Serenity, that's brilliant news that your sciatica is cured. Well done. And KB, what a wonderful thing to see, how amazing. Thanks for the lovely pictures.
Sep 11, 2017 07:15PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Vicky - Thank you!
KB - I love staycations! Beautiful pictures! Thank you for sharing.
ScotBird - Thanks! I will always need to keep it at bay by exercise/nerve flossing, but I'm thrilled to be off the pain meds.
I slept so much this weekend after returning from Boston. Now that my sciatica is under control, I will focus on improving my sleep. I've had sleep problems since I was a teenager. Tamoxifen probably doesn't help.
Things I'm trying (though I need to be more consistent):
2) wear blue light-blocking glasses (not a good look!)
3) magnesium powder
4) f.lux/night mode on devices to reduce blue light
5) sleep mask
6) relaxing sounds during sleep (I like river/waterfall sounds)
I'm sleeping better than just a few months ago, but there's room for improvement. I really need to increase the intensity of my exercise. Work in progress.
Sep 11, 2017 07:34PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Just heard from a family member that they've returned home to Tampa. Their house is fine. I'm glad they're safe at home. I have another family member with a house in Naples. They went to Missouri, so they haven't returned home yet.
glennie - Hope you're safe.
Sep 11, 2017 08:09PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
So, I should bake and give it all away?
Creative Activities Like Baking and Knitting Boost Mental Well-Being
Research has already shown us that making art is a good stress reliever, even if your skill level is more kindergartener than Picasso. Now a new study from the University of Otago in New Zealand suggests that these mood-boosting effects can be gained from even the most straightforward crafts. As the Independent reports, knitting, baking, crocheting, and jam-making were all found to produce an "upward spiral" effect that carried over to the following day.
For the study, published last month in The Journal of Positive Psychology, researchers from the university's department of psychology asked 658 students to record their daily experiences and emotional states in a diary for 13 days. Following the days when subjects took part in something creative, they reported feelings of positive personal growth that psychology defines as "flourishing." In addition to crafts and cooking, researchers also cited painting, sketching, writing, musical performance, and digital design as some common creative activities students completed.
These results shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone who's experienced the zen-like effects of knitting a scarf or crocheting a blanket. According to the Craft Yarn Council, stress relief and creative fulfillment are the top two reasons knitters and crocheters give for partaking in the hobbies. Baking has also been touted as a form of therapy, with some mental health clinics using time in the kitchen as a treatment for depression. Another benefit of improving your mood through creativity is that the results of your labors can be shared with others—so if you're still in need of gifts for the holidays, we suggest heading to the craft store and reaping some of the benefits yourself.
Sep 11, 2017 08:15PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I make Parker House rolls for holiday dinners. A friend loves them, so as a birthday gift, I made the dough until the second rising and gave him frozen rolls to bake as needed.He loved them them so much that he didn't share any with his family.
Sep 12, 2017 06:11AM KB870 wrote:
I love Parker House rolls too, I usually make them for Thanksgiving to mop up gravy!
I do Xstitch in winter and love to bake and make jam etc. I don't have to eat much of it myself it's just rewarding especially when the jars are in the pantry in mid winter.
Sep 12, 2017 10:05PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
KB - Yum! In December, I love to make lemon curd and marshmallows. I give out lemon curd, but the marshmallows all get eaten by the family. Sometimes I make candied ginger, but I broke my glass thermometer in the pan last winter. No joy there! My husband loves to make ginger ale with the syrup.
I edited my original post to add an update on my sciatica. One week without Lyrica!
Sep 13, 2017 08:15AM glennie19 wrote:
The deer pics were beautiful!!
I'm OK!! Yard flooded as usual, tree branches down, but we weathered the storm OK.
Family in Miami has power back at brother's house, but not at Mom's. Hers is always the first to go, and the last to come on. No major damage for them either. My family has been very lucky.
Off to continue yard clean up!
Sep 13, 2017 04:06PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Great news! My family with a house in Naples just had a tree fall down and no power expected until the end of next week. They are staying in Indiana for now. My family in Tampa said they're on the same power grid as the hospital, so they're in good shape.
Sep 14, 2017 10:16AM magiclight wrote:
Serenity... I have family in Florida without power. UGH!! They better load up on deodorant. Difficult to find a thin slice of joy.
Sep 14, 2017 11:19PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
magiclight - I can't imagine being in Florida without power. I know there's a massive effort to get power back up, but it won't be fast enough. Then there are people who have lost even more. It is sad.
Since I'm back to working full time, I have less time to post here. I'll try to do more because I do like to share what I find. I'm actually working long hours because I can't stop sometimes. It was just a few months ago when I couldn't think about work, so that's a big difference (no longer addled by pain, pain meds, or chemo hangover?). Today was a really good day. I've got an idea that should really work for a new project. It just needs fine tuning.