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Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.

Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by SerenitySTAT

SerenitySTAT wrote:

I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).

I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.

http://qz.com/818998/googles-former-happiness-guru...

Google's former happiness guru developed a three-second brain exercise for finding joy

Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."

Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.

Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a reward—the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.

A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.

Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 11, 2017 08:15PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

I make Parker House rolls for holiday dinners. A friend loves them, so as a birthday gift, I made the dough until the second rising and gave him frozen rolls to bake as needed.He loved them them so much that he didn't share any with his family.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 12, 2017 10:05PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

KB - Yum! In December, I love to make lemon curd and marshmallows. I give out lemon curd, but the marshmallows all get eaten by the family. Sometimes I make candied ginger, but I broke my glass thermometer in the pan last winter. No joy there! My husband loves to make ginger ale with the syrup.

I edited my original post to add an update on my sciatica. One week without Lyrica!

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 13, 2017 08:15AM glennie19 wrote:

The deer pics were beautiful!!


I'm OK!! Yard flooded as usual, tree branches down, but we weathered the storm OK.

Family in Miami has power back at brother's house, but not at Mom's. Hers is always the first to go, and the last to come on. No major damage for them either. My family has been very lucky.

Off to continue yard clean up!

Fibromyalgia and Truncal Lymphedema,,, some of the fun things I live with. Total hysterecomy 9/29/14 Prophy MX Righty 11/30/17 Dx 6/27/2013, Paget's, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/6 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 8/8/2013 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Dx DCIS
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Sep 13, 2017 04:06PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Great news! My family with a house in Naples just had a tree fall down and no power expected until the end of next week. They are staying in Indiana for now. My family in Tampa said they're on the same power grid as the hospital, so they're in good shape.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 14, 2017 10:16AM magiclight wrote:

Serenity... I have family in Florida without power. UGH!! They better load up on deodorant. Difficult to find a thin slice of joy.

Life is available only in the present...the here and the now. Thich Nhat Hanh Surgery 4/26/2015 Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 4/27/2015, IDC, Both breasts, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (FISH)
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Sep 14, 2017 11:19PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

magiclight - I can't imagine being in Florida without power. I know there's a massive effort to get power back up, but it won't be fast enough. Then there are people who have lost even more. It is sad.

Since I'm back to working full time, I have less time to post here. I'll try to do more because I do like to share what I find. I'm actually working long hours because I can't stop sometimes. It was just a few months ago when I couldn't think about work, so that's a big difference (no longer addled by pain, pain meds, or chemo hangover?). Today was a really good day. I've got an idea that should really work for a new project. It just needs fine tuning.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 14, 2017 11:30PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

My flight from Montreal to Boston last week was late, but the plane was nice. The head rest in front of me had a USB port to charge my phone and a monitor to watch a movie. I sat right behind first class and had more leg room than they did. I couldn't even reach the foot rest! Good thing there was a little ledge along the side where I could put my feet up. Yes, my legs are that short, but they're not that short!


"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 14, 2017 11:50PM Faith-840 wrote:

Serenity, it's a thin slice of joy reading your post about feeling good and getting back to work with great ideas too. It gives us all hope for better days ahead.

Faith Dx 1/1991, Left, Stage IIIB, 8/26 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/5/1991 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 2/4/1991 Mastectomy: Left Dx 1/2016, ILC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 1/23/2016 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 1/23/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Reconstruction (left): Nipple reconstruction, Nipple tattoo, Silicone implant, Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy CAF Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Sep 15, 2017 07:30AM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Faith - I'm glad it gives you hope. Remember to celebrate any progress or just good moments, no matter how small. Setbacks happen. Do what you can.

My morning joy:



"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 17, 2017 10:07AM SerenitySTAT wrote:

It's actually5 minutes of beauty.


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Sep 17, 2017 02:05PM magiclight wrote:

Thanks Serenity and National Geographic Society. National Geographic Magazine was first published in 1888, the same year the society was established.

Life is available only in the present...the here and the now. Thich Nhat Hanh Surgery 4/26/2015 Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 4/27/2015, IDC, Both breasts, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (FISH)
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Sep 17, 2017 10:15PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Their pictures and videos are amazing!

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 18, 2017 10:57PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Long day working. Time for some Mental Floss. I visited this at the Art Institute a few years ago.

http://mentalfloss.com/article/63510/15-things-you...


"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 19, 2017 08:27PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Got the new Wonder Woman DVD! Think I'm more excited about it than my kids.

I know it's big, but I can't edit the image size on my iPad.

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Sep 19, 2017 09:03PM tessu wrote:

Thank you Serenity for that beautiful Antarctica video. Needed something like that right now. Almost 4AM here, woke with back (old) and tooth (new) pain, glad for the possibility to book dentist times on the internet --- got a time for today :)

I was surprised to spot this oak tree in a park I don't usually walk through. Oaks don't usually survive this far north (middle Finland). Yay fall colors



Be gentle with yourself. Dx 7/29/2015, IDC, Right, Grade 3, 0/9 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ Hormonal Therapy 12/20/2016 Femara (letrozole) Chemotherapy CEF Surgery Mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Sep 19, 2017 10:16PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

tessu - Beautiful leaves! Glad you can see a dentist so soon. Hope your back feels better.

This video is very short, but loaded with cute!



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Sep 21, 2017 09:55PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Hello, hello, hello!

I've been working long days for weeks, but today I took the afternoon off to go the the museum! I went with a friend, and we both loved it. I really enjoy having music playing throughout the exhibit. I'll post some pics later this week, but the museum has some details. It's about more than the Beatles.

https://www.mbam.qc.ca/en/exhibitions/on-view/revo...


"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 22, 2017 09:37PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

I didn't take many pictures. It was a big exhibit and viewing it wearing a headset that played the soundtrack was an immersive experience. I wish I could have shared more.

The first thing you see is this, but it was more dramatic from below. Those outfits were worn by the Fab Four.


"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 22, 2017 09:45PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

There were many photos, posters, fashion, video clips, art, and music from the late 60s. There was a video of the bed in by John and Yoko here in Montreal. This big room was set up like one in the Chagall exhibit with floor cushions. They played clips of Woodstock. Here is Jimi Hendrix playing at 8 am due to delays.



"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 22, 2017 09:46PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Pants on display at the gift shop, but not for sale.


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Sep 22, 2017 10:03PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 22, 2017 11:17PM Faith-840 wrote:

That looks like a terrific exhibition. I wonder if it will move to other cities. I'd like to see that one.

Thanks for sharing!

Faith Dx 1/1991, Left, Stage IIIB, 8/26 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/5/1991 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 2/4/1991 Mastectomy: Left Dx 1/2016, ILC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 1/23/2016 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 1/23/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Reconstruction (left): Nipple reconstruction, Nipple tattoo, Silicone implant, Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy CAF Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Sep 23, 2017 01:22PM magiclight wrote:

Serenity...thanks for taking and sharing the photos. Love the bright green lounge pillows to view that part of exhibit.

Life is available only in the present...the here and the now. Thich Nhat Hanh Surgery 4/26/2015 Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 4/27/2015, IDC, Both breasts, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (FISH)
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Sep 24, 2017 09:38AM - edited Sep 24, 2017 09:39AM by badger

hi, this video is amazing! Old-time movie stars dance to Uptown Funk.


7,401.5 miles walked ~ Find your calm. Move forward from this place. Dx 12/22/2009, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 1, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Sep 24, 2017 05:36PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Faith - I didn't see anywhere that the exhibit would be on tour. It should.

magiclight - The cushions were always occupied!

badger - That was great! I've always loved old musicals. That freshened them up.

Earlier today the pup was running between waiting for my husband to get his shoes on for a walk and watching my daughter eat leftover steak. It's a rough life.
"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 24, 2017 05:57PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

I was holding out! After the Revolution exhibit, we stopped at another exhibit on haute coutour wedding designs.

https://www.mbam.qc.ca/en/exhibitions/on-view/love...


"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 24, 2017 05:58PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 24, 2017 05:59PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

They projected faces on some of the mannequins, and they spoke to each other. Kinda creepy.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 24, 2017 06:00PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox
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Sep 24, 2017 06:00PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Longest train ever!

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC Left IIIC 10/11 nodes ER+PR+HER2-, 12/2015 Left Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox

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