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Good luck, Connie, I'll be praying for you! I'm sure you'll do jsut fine.
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Time to jump on that bus again! We all need to be there, to make sure all goes well for our drinkin bud! Junie, we'll let you slide, you have a great time in Tunica, send you lots good mojo vibes and hope you can grab that money that K left!
Kathy, I can't believe its time for your dad to leave already! That sure went by fast.
NM, still sending you hugs my friend.
Jaybird, glad you were able to get home and spend some Mommy time with Avery, and glad you made it safely. That darn ash has got you twice now!
I have to share an email my daughter sent me for Mothers Day. When she mentions "Jason" she is referring to my son, her brother.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!
Out of all the past mothers day's i think this one should be the most special. You have beat and conquered so much in the past 2 years. I am so proud and thankful to call you MY mom. You are always there for me and always have such great advise. (even though i may not listen). I think a lot about some of my friends, who did not have great mothers for role models. I wish so badly that i could take all their bad memories away and let them see what a life could of been like with a REAL mom. Even though you are so far away, our connection as mother and daughter will never fade.The things that makes you stand out as a great mother are the many times you made jason and i do things we didn't want to do or FORCED us to do those things, it was always for a good reason and we love you for it. It ended up being a main part of why we are such good people as grown adults. I think the best part of you that i love, besides your humor and craziness, is your heart of gold. It never seems to lose its luster and continues to provide me with love, wisdom, encouragement and grace. You are a diamond in the rough, more precious than a handful of rubies, and i am a better person for having you in my life. I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day and continue to be the hero that you are for years to come. I LOVE YOU SOOOOOO MUCHHHH P.S Don't CRY
Life is so short, make the best of itHappy Monday Lounge Lizards!
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I hope everyone here had a fantastic Mother's Day!!! And thanks for everyone that wished us all a Happy Mother's Day too! I am sorry I am so late posting that, but I was very busy enjoying my Mother's Day! Having both my daughters here, as well as my mom, and all the grandkids, was quite a blessing!!! We did take some pics of all 4 generations. (I don't look good in them so prob won't be posting any). Took my mom and DD's to a play in the afternoon, and we all had flowers. Was SUPER nice!!! My DD from TX just left, with her kids, after being here since Thurs, so now I need to do LOTS of laundry and clean up things, b4 my other g'kids come on this Thurs for a few days. I may need to borrow junie's B&B sign....LOL.
LOVE the pics of Snookie...thanks for sharing them NM, and thanks Lori for posting them! I esp love the one called "Nap Time"! What a special companion....I think we ALL miss her!
Connie, will be thinking of you tomorrow during your recon....heck we will prob show up on your hospital bed!!! Yes, please post when you can, so we will know you are doing okay.
Eeeeekkkkkk kittycat, that was SCARY! You were bold to even get in the bathtub, so soon after surgery. Took me awhile to get my strength back, and even get out of bed on my own! Hope you're feeling better and better every day. And I think you get the drain out today???
Love you all here, and I need to go back and read some msgs I may have missed. Esp those music links. I had lost the sound on my computer, so my DD checked everything and even hooked up my speakers and amp to her laptop, and it worked good with that. Then she asks me, "You DID try to reboot, didn't you"? Ummmm....no, hadn't thought of that! Did that, and all is working again! Why don't I ever think of doing that to begin with??? LOL
Happy Monday everyone! It is raining here, and unfortunately my DD and gkids may be driving thru the rain for a few hrs today..they have a 10-12 hr drive. Will only be in the 60's today I think, and mid 80's tomorrow...WTH???? But we have a big outdoor picnic to take my mom to tomorrow, so I am glad it should be sunny for that.
Ciao,
Kathy
EDIT: Somehow I missed seeing this last page! Lori, that is a SUPER SPECIAL letter from your DD...straight from the heart....can imagine how great that made you feel. Those are the BEST presents!!!! Thanks for sharing that with us!
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Good Luck Connie! Good Luck Junie! HD
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I managed to take another bath yesterday and get myself out of the tub - much thanks to my handy dandy towel. My husband was waiting this time for a cry for help, but I managed better this time!
I got my drain out today. My BS said I could take it out, but the area might swell a bit or I could leave it in and come back in a few days. I said TAKE IT OUT!!! Then, he tells me my path report isn't back yet. I told him my onco called and spoke to the pathologist. The path called him back and said the nodes and margins were clear and I was triple negative. I think my BS was a little miffed that the onco got the news before him. So he tells me that he doesn't trust verbal results. He likes to review the written report and look at the info in detail himself. He's been burned before where a patient was told no cancer and it ended up being cancer.
WHAT????? I am so done with doctors!!! My husband said "What a d*ck" (I talked to my DH over the phone). MY BS could have just said we don't have the path report completed yet. I'm sure everything is okay. I'll let you know if I find out more info! My sister said the same thing (well, she didn't call him a name, but thought about it). I need compassionate care!!! Luckily, my mom was able to go with me and I took a half of a percoset, so I was kind of numb to it all!
So keep praying for CLEAR MARGINS AND CLEAR NODES!!! In the meantime, I can now take a shower and you all don't have to worry about me in the bathtub anymore!
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Good luck Connie and June!!!
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Heather -- what an awful thing to say to you! This is one for the "dumbest thing anyone said to you" thread! You must be really happy to have the drains out... I hated the drains but dreaded getting them out so I waited a few extra days and then it wasn't even that bad.
Good luck to Connie & Junie!
Lori -- very sweet letter from your DD. It sounds like everyone had a good Mother's Day. It used to be hard for me since I lost my mom, but then my SIL passed away and now I just try to be a good "adopted daughter" to my MIL and she "mothers" me.
Just loaded up the bus with extra provision... everyone jump on!
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It's raining here so I'm sipping a little cognac on the bus.
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Gail - very true!!! That was one of the dumbest things ever said!!!
Love the cognac!
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Cognac for everyone on the bus....pulling out to go be with Connie!
Junie, I hope you are getting some of Kathy's money and I also hope your home and Donna's missed those terrible tornadoes that went through there. I don't the area that was hit in Kansas and I think in OK it was more towards Ok City, which would not be near Donna (I hope) as she is in Tulsa.
Kitty, sure glad you were able to master your bath, but with hubby near by.....that is funny. And shame on your doc! I compassionate care is a must. I had that at the cancer center I went to X's 10!
Gail, I am sorry for your losses, but I am sure you have many many good memories and those are to be cherished forever.
Kathy, sounds like you are having a grande time with all your family, I am so jealous! All of mine are so far away. When I finally get to see my daughter, hoping in the fall, it will have been 2 years since seeing her.
Very windy here today. 30-45 mph winds with gusts up 50-65 mph and a low tonight of 34! And before ya know it, it will be in the 90's!
Raising my glass to Connie to today.
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Hoppin' on the bus - I'm off all week and rain here so why not? Hugs to Connie and KittyCat!
Great poem, Lori! You obviously did a great job of raising your children!
Took Avery into the Big City today to pick-up my passport. She just loves saying "The Big City!" I took a pic of her with the Picasso behind her and if I can figure out how to download it (it's on my phone) I'll post it - here or on Facebook. My Mother's Day was quite boring compared to everyone else's but being home and just hanging out and hugging, hugging, hugging Avery was special enough for me.
Cheers!
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I got the written path results today. Same results... nodes and margins are clear! Thank GOD!!! I was shaking really hard when they called me.
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Connie, Hope you are recovering well, and can join us soon!
Jaybird, That is what Mother's Day is all about....you were able to hug your child...I think that makes it a very special day!!! Where are you off to?
Kittycat, YAY, YAY, DOUBLE and TRIPLE YAY!!!! Thank God you have clear margins, and nodes!
All my drinking buds doing good today? Junie, hope you hit it BIG....can't wait to hear about your trip. Did you see Hunk? On another note, did someone here mention about once you have bc (or any cancer) that you need a colonoscopy sooner than every 5 yrs? Not sure if I read it from someone on our thread, or somewhere else, but I called my dr....my 5 yrs would be in Nov from my last procedure. They DID say that once you've had cancer, the new guidelines are every 2 yrs if polyps are found, otherwise every 3 yrs. So, (yuck), I will have that done on the 26th. Just wanted to make sure you all stay healthy!!! Not a fun procedure, but VERY important that we all get checked.
So.....lets see....on that note...maybe a "Mississippi Mud Slide" or something similar would be appropriate??? I know, I know, sick humor....couldn't help myself...LOL. Anyway, hope everyone is having a FANTASTIC day! We went to a super "older american" picnic yesterday with entertainment, KFC lunch, sooooo much other food, games, prizes....by a lake....was so much fun, I am glad I am officially a senior now (well, in Sept anyway!). Can't wait to go again next yr...even had an elvis impersonator. Kids left Monday, but will babysit today, then get my youngest 2 g'kids tomorrow, for 2-3 nights. Busy, busy.........
Bottoms Up (oops!),
Kathy
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So glad you got that news finally Heather. Will you be going to NY?
Connie posted on FB, she is doing ok. Was a bit loopy and sore, but did good. I also told her to take it easy and not over do it....as she has a tendency to do that!
Jaybird, enjoy week home and time with Avery. We hope you can figure out how to post that pic. At least on FB, then I can put it here for you, if you like.
NM, don't know what to say. I know you are still sad about Snookie, so just sending hugs your way.
Gail, I am so glad you brought the Bus to us. It has really come in handy!
Dee.....whats up girl? We miss you.
Kathy, you are such a busy lady! Sounds like you had a blast and more to come. You go girl! And I'll have one of your Mississippi Mud Slides!
I too hope Junie is hitting it big and gets to see Hunk. Does anyone know when she is due home?
Well we had terrible winds, even blew 3 semis over on the interstate, before they finally shut it down and woke up to 26 degrees this morning! They said only 34, so I hope it didn't kill my tomato plants. Good thing we only have 2 outside in the ground.
Hugs to all my drinkin buds.
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I am going to call the onco this morning. He normally gets in at 9 am. I want to see if he's reached anyone at Sloan. If not, I am going to start making phone calls. My sister was going to get a name of someone else there, as well.
Lori - 26 degrees! What's with the crazy weather? It is still beautiful here - in the 70's today. So strange because normally it's 90 in May in Vegas. I'm not complaining though!
I had a friend come into town this week from college. I visited with her yesterday. We talked about the whole bc thing. She started crying. She's had a ton of friends and her mom had bc. She was kind of shocked at how matter of fact I am about the whole thing. Isn't it strange how we just become a little numb to it all???
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Heather -- I know what you mean about the 'matter of fact' attitude that we get. Most of the time I am totally calm and just walking through the paces. But there are those times when I realize the enormity of it all and I think maybe it is just a bad dream. The numbness has helped me get through it but it also gives people around me, especially DH, the impression that everything is okay.
Maybe someday we will get to the point where we really are okay. Until then, I'm drinkin!
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Glad to hear Connie is doing well. I want my drink-o-the-day gal back Dee?. Kind of hard for me to start the day without that post. NM, hope you are doing OK. Won't be long till we will be boarding the bus for you. Jaybird....oooh ya....pics of you and Avery in the "big city" Would love that! Lori, your weather is as wierd as ours. Cover em' if you want to keep em' That is what I hear on our local news every night. They are referring to tomatoes of course...Kathy, sounds like you are really doing the Junie impersonation of miss bed and breakfast. Sounds like you are having great fun other than scheduling mud slide surgery. Speaking of twisters....where is Donnna? Kitty, glad you got some news that jived between your onc and BS for hell sakes! Hope you can connect with someone that you are comfortable with. AStorm, I love sleep and dreaming. That is the only time I am not just "walking through the paces." Well, I have to go, my maid has not shown up for two years and I really need to give her the pink slip. I will have to let her go. Love to ya all.....HunkyD
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39 days 10 hours until reconstruction time. I'm looking forward to getting this done so I can get home and get back on my feet and get another dog. I really hate coming home to an empty house. It's different when Snookie was just somewhere else. I got a really nice card with a hand written note of condolence from the vet that took care of Snookie last Friday. It's odd, the vet that I've met exactly once has paid more attention to my feelings than any of the docs I've seen during the last 3 years.
Anyway, today has been a very frustrating day of meetings that go no where and made no sense, followed by a frustrating phone call from my mom (is it really so hard to write down appointment info the first dozen times I give it to her?) and I am alternating between screaming at the TV and crying. I'm going to take a xanax and go to bed. While I'm waiting for the xanax to kick in I'm going to imagine myself reclining indolently in the hot tub with Jocks feeding me chocolate dipped truffles and Pants holds the straw for me to sip rasperry martinis, both in large quantities.
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Lori -- glad you are enjoying the bus. One day I was driving around with my DDs in the back seat going off at each other and I spotted a shiny, rock-star tourbus and I thought... I want to be a rock star.... no, I just want the bus. I had been thinking about how small our house seems lately and how much every women needs a Room of Her Own. This is even better cuz it's on wheels. And then I thought, I need to fill it up with my drinkin buds and have a party! so I made sure to get one with enough space for dancing. And of course, a full bar.
NM -- I know what you mean about the empty house. I had the best dog when I was single. She was an Australian cattledog; really smart and sooo sweet. I'd stay home and snuggle with her anytime over a mediocre date. I lost her the same week the plumber pulled a beloved tree out of our yard because it was killing our pipes and I mourned them both even though there were 2 little girls and DH in my house. It took me a year to get another dog because I didn't want to lose another pet - ever. Now I have 2 dogs and 2 cats. Thanks for the chocolate.
Hunky -- I think we have the same maid. She disappeared right when I got the dx.
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NM - that is sad that a vet can be more compassionate than your doctors. Of course, the vet chose to deal with animals which have unconditional love! I hope everything goes well with your surgery. And I hope you get a new dog? Are you getting a German Sheppard again?
Hunky and Gail - yes I feel the same numb feeling and I do enjoy sleeping. My boss asked me if I had a hard time sleeping and I had to admit - NO! Normally when I'm stressed I can't sleep. Now all of a sudden it's my escape! Here's to xanax, drinks, sleep or whatever keeps us going!
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Kittycat, I had to read back to see what "numbness" you were referring to....LOL. Yes, I too just say it very "matter-of-factly"...no emotion. But I do love showing off my new "girls"...never had enough clevage to wear low-cut tops b4 bc. BUT they still are numb...so that was my 1st thought when you mentioned the numb feeling! I don't think Earleen will need to numb them when she does the 3D tatts for me, so I guess thats a bonus(?).
NM, It is SO hard to lose a beloved pet, but I am glad you are already considering another one, as soon as you are recovered enough. Didn't want to mention that, but it always helps me. Not that you "replace" your pet that is gone, as she will always have a special place in your heart. But just another companion to love.....there is plenty of love in our hearts for a loving pet! My DH didn't believe me after we lost our beloved "Max" (short for "Max-Worth-A-Million" as he filled the emptiness from another pet I lost)...and I looked in EVERY dog pound and humane society in N. AL and S.TN...I would search for animal shelters during our trips. I think he was concerned I would just get "any" dog. FInally. on "Pet Finders" online, I saw a pic of Maverick (he was called Rabbit)...just so precious looking, and almost a dead ringer for Max. Didn't know he had a sister there...she was very shy. Of course we got them both....named her Molly (she was called Sally). They were about 2 yrs old, and SO sweet, and have brought us so much love and happiness (and of course frustrating times when Molly decides to dig out!). My DH cannot imagine life without them, and I found them less than a month after losing Max (they were at our local dog pound,and it was their last day). Have had them 6 yrs now!
Dee, H-E-L-P..... S-O-S...... we are desperate not only to hear from you and know that you are doing okay, but for our DRINK of the DAY also!!! I miss your humor! Please come back here and post!!! You are so special, and the HTL just isn't the same without you. Hellooooooooooo...
Junie, Are you home yet? Have you had time to count all your $$$ winnings??? I still need to borrow your B&B sign....picking up the g'kids this afternoon for 2-3 nights. Babysat them yesterday too. Don't know how you keep up.....I am SO not caught up!
HunkyD, Lori, Jaybird, Connie (glad you are ok!), AStorm, and everyone else....hope you will have a wonderful day today!!!!
Hugs to all,
Kathy
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Thanks for the support, all! Yesterday was just a bad day all the way around, but I've had a good night's sleep (with chemical assistance) and have a seminar today that I'm looking forward to going to. I'm not sure what kind of dog I'll get next. I'm partial to GSDs, but God has always arranged for the right dog to come into my life at the right time. I get all my dogs from shelters, and usually the dog chooses me, or I hear about a specific dog in some roundabout way that can only mean we're meant for each other. I have been looking at petfinders, and the websites of the local shelters and have seen several pups and young adults that I wouldn't mind having. I have to keep reminding myself that it wouldn't be fair to a puppy or young dog to come into my home right now with all the time I'm spending at work and with a week of hospitalization coming up in just a little more than a month (38 days, 23 hours). And, no, I'm not trying to replace Snookie. I love dogs and I love having one in the house, so I will be bringing in a new furbaby to love and take care of and give structure to my life.
Another thing that occurred to me in the middle of the night the other night, as these things usually do, is that this may be God's way of telling me He wants me to stop looking back and start looking forward. Snookie helped me get through diagnosis, surgery, rads, rads complications, more surgery, hyperbaric treatments, and more surgery over the last 3 years. Now I'm looking forward to planned surgery, that I am in control of, am thinking about starting work on a doctoral degrees next fall, have been thinking about how to make my teaching position more secure and maybe even get into the tenure process. For most of the last 3 years I've been afraid to plan any further ahead than the next doctor's appointment. Taking Snookie is kind of a hard way to tell me to let go of the past, but I really feel like that is the message behind her illness. I mourn her loss as I've mourned the loss of all my pets, but at the same time I feel like losing her signals a "sea change" as the fishermen used to say where I grew up.
OK, gang, sorry for the rambling on, and thanks for letting me get this out in writing and solidifying it in my own mind.
Dee--hope you are doing well. Hope you don't mind if I fill in for you a little
Drink of the day "Comfortably Numb"
2 oz Southern Comfort
8 oz Mountain Dew
edited becuase my spelling is less than stellar before my second dup of coffee
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NM, Sounds like you are on the right track, as thinking of your new pet as a way of going forward. Very good analysis! I hope I didn't give the impression that you were "replacing" Snookie....as I didn't mean it that way at all. Nice to know you get all your pets from shelters also! I have done that for years too, and it seems to me they sorta "know" you are rescuing them, as they seem to be so loyal and appreciative. Wow...planning on your doctoral degree....way to go!!!! I like your "Comfortably Numb" drink....very appropriate.
Lori, Did your tomato plants survive all the cold temps? The HEAT hit us here, and now we have days at 90.....yucko. Was cool and windy for our picnic Tues though,which made it real pleasant. Now to get used to being outside in these hot, humid temps. Hope your business has picked up for the season!!!
Ciao again,
Kathy
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We are such a gabby group of girls!
NM, you can ramble here all you want. We have all done our share of that. I think you are doing everything just right. Well thought out. (Is a dup of coffee bigger or larger than a cup?) LOL....just teasing, which I love to do. Junie usually has the best typos!
K, I forgot to respond about the colonoscopy. Every 2-3 years? WTH...having just 1 is more than enough! I will be thinking of you on May 25 ! ! ! May 26 will be the easy day. My doc told me every 5 and he knows I has cancer. But I only had a couple of teeny tiny polyps removed. Its only been a year since mine, still too fresh in my mind to think of doing another! Most of the tomatoes are still in the green house. Only had 2 outside in the ground and I haven't gone out to look at them closely. But just glancing over, they looked ok. I will look today. I mean, how can they be alive, it was below freezing...not just cold?
Kitty, I hope you are able to get things rolling soon. I know you must be anxious.
HD, I forgot to reply on your maid too, until I saw Gail's response. That is something I say to Darrell all the time. I also have a chef that doesn't show up and a gardener! I don't fire them tho, hoping that one of these days they will come to work! LOL.... yeah right!
ChEARS to chemical assistance!
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Heather and Hunky- you can SLEEP!? I am so jealous. Well, actually I do sleep but not until about 3AM and then I want to sleep until 10 and can't. I've caught myself nodding off while trying to study but then I am studying Business/Accounting so...
NM - I'm willing to bet that you will walk into a shelter and lock eyes with the soul who will keep you company for many years to come. When my DD (14) chose her mini dachshund puppy she told me she wanted a female black-and-tan and we left with a red male because the little guy just loved her at first sight. He still gets so excited when she comes home he can hardly control himself (ok, he doesn't really try to control himself). Sometimes I wonder if our pets are avatars for our dearly departed coming back to us and that is why they choose us.
Thanks for the drink -- perfect choice!
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BTW, Whatever happened to our "Thrilling Thursdays" parties??? I think I will prob be ready for a partay after I get the g'kids in bed tonight! If anyone sees the TT's or Wenches, maybe we can find out if they have enough time to get the party going......
DEE, Where in heck are you, gal? IF you don't show up soon, we'll have to send the posse out looking for ya! Hmmmmm......unless you already knew about the party tonight and are in hiding because you're going to be jumping out of the cake???? J/K, but we would like to have you back here!!!
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waheni--no, you didn't imply that I would replace Snookie, that came out of my own mind and I was just processing that part 'out loud' as it were. Shelter dogs do seem to "know" they've been rescued, don't they?
goldie--yes, a dup is bigger than a cup of coffee--it's shorthand for d@#n big mug of coffee! Actually, I didn't even notice that misspelling. Goes to show how much coffee I need before I can spell correctly!
AStorm--I bet that's exactly what will happen. I've been looking at dogs and puppies on petfinder, and giving God a running commentary on what I like and don't like the look of, and what I want this next one to do with me, etc, etc, but I know I'm NOT the one who will be in control of what I get! Now if I can just keep myself out of the shelters until AFTER surgery. . . . I really hate coming home to an empty house. Not sure how much longer I can take coming home to a lonely house. . .
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OK, remember those where's Waldo image puzzles. This one is where's Dee!
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That picture is a crack up. I found DEE!!! And I almost gave up!!!
I love the Comfortably Numb. I think I need that drink after today. I had a meltdown today at the most inappropriate time. I was talking to my boss on the phone (who is a man). We were doing my review, which was good. Then, he started telling me that our VP wants management to grade us lower on some scores because we cannot be at a meets expectation in all areas! What??? So I was debating this whole issue with him (he's a nice guy really - but is also by the book). He gives me some examples on how I could be an exceed expectations, like writing an ariticle for a trade publication, putting together processes that would be more team focused, yada yada yada.
At this point, I should have opened up a BOTTLE of wine . LOL! Instead, my mind started to wander..... If I am busting my rear at normal physical capacity and I have to fight for this crap, how am I going to manage while going through chemo, radiation, etc. I thought I could hide my descent into meltdown land, but he asked me "I sense you're frustrated, tell me what's going on." Big moment of silence and then that was it, I started crying and I couldn't stop! I explained to him that if the company expects me to be superwoman, that will be nearly impossible when I'm going through chemo. And if that's the case, will I get scored negatively and will my job be at risk? Now I know that probably won't happen - BUT YOU CAN'T EVEN OPEN THE DOOR SLIGHTLY TO THE DARK SIDE TO A CANCER PATIENT!!!!!!! He felt really bad and said he hoped I trusted him enough that would never happen. He can't begin to imagine what I'm going through and he's putting together ways to support me while I'm going through all this bad stuff. That might have been a good way to start the conversation because by then I was still crying!
I talked to my sister about it afterward. She said that sometimes we process our emotions and try to control what we can control (like this terrible cancer thing). But our feelings come out in other areas, mine just happened to be at work! And, work is going to have to understand and be accommodating. I'm so glad I have my family, friends and all of you gals here!!!
Ok, so now I need a TALL DRINK!!! Bring them on!!!
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Oh, I forgot to mention that after I had my conversation, I felt really bad. I sent a note to my boss later (I didn't want him to think I was a mess all the time). I never heard back from him. You would think that HE would have sent me a note. I guess that's just men for you!!!
Luckily, I have a very caring husband that tears up almost as often as I do!!!
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