I WANT MY MOJO BACK!
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Thanks Allison. I just signed on to Tumblr but I have no idea how to use it. What would I search for? Any recommendations?
A cleaning service sounds like a dream. I might just break down and do that. I can't stand to see everything that needs to be done
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I have no experience with Tumblr so I can't advise you there.
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I haven't been on this site in ages, forgot how great it is. So I finally broke down and got a prescription for Estrace today. My MO told me I should wait until after my 5 years of Anastrozole trmt was finished. That happened October 1st. I was silently hoping the dryness would get better but not such luck. I've been using Replens with little effect. So I'll try the Estrace and see what happens. But also interested in the Coconut Oil. Also thought about a dildo. I'm not sexually involved right now (separated for 3 years). But I can't really start dating and then drop the bomb "oh BTW, my vagina doesn't work". wish me luck
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Bekah, I sent you a PM. Are we allowed to post links here? http://crazykissing.tumblr.com/archive is a good possible starting point with mostly wholesome images, and an occasional image that is more graphic. Links to other blogs are below each of the pics.
Just a heads up, there is kissing, nudity and some depictions of sex at this link.
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Thank you amylsp
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Good luck, Marilyn!
Personally, I think it's more than just a dryness issue. I think the skin on the vagina (at least in my case) feels different. I feel like all the lube in the world won't help that.
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rleepac I'm not one to get stimulated by watching other's have sex. That's just me. But you may need to consider a vibrator to gradually get things going again. You know "If you don't use it you lose it" so gradually increase your activity.
Housecleaning. Don't worry about it. The dust and dirt will still be there when you finally feel up to cleaning. This isn't important. Don't try to clean the entire home. Do a small project at a time. Clean house is overrated.
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I have a problem of staying um lubricated during sex it dried up twice with in minutes of inserting coconut oil.
not very great when u have to stop cause your hurting and dried up.
Any info on what to do please let me know I am not on tamox or any other Al at all should be but I quiet 2 1/2 years into taking tamox.I am triple positive so is there anything else I can take or do. ? The doctor gave me Estring cream BUT that is when I was taking tamox
with no blocker I don't think I can use that .
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Ang, I have found that a silicone lubricant like Astroglide X stays slippery longer than other kinds. (There are different Astroglide products, so make sure it is the X one.)
Still use a moisturizer regularly, then use the silicone during sex.
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I too like Astroglide.
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Thank you Ladies, I will look into that
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I like Platinum Wet
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An alternative to images is erotic/sexual stories. Literotica (www.literotica.com) is a good, free source of stories with a broad range of topics and focuses. The stories wary widely in quality, tone, respectfulness, etc., but that means there's a better chance of finding something you like. Also yes to a vibrator. I think every woman, cancer or no, should have a vibrator or three!
I think coconut oil works best as a moisturizer (maintenance) rather than a lubricant (for during sex).
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Can I join in on the "sex does nothing for me" band wagon? Literotica is a great site, and it helps me achieve orgasm using a vibrator, but somehow it doesn't translate over to partner sex. Can anyone recommend a good paraben free lube? I am already using coconut oil. Thanks!!!
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Sliquid Organics is a paraben free lube. Works very well.
My story: while I don't have much of a libido any more, and am plagued vaginal dryness, I do have sex almost every day. My husband is really into it, and I mostly go along and it is ok. I think that I get enough use down there it keeps the tissues functioning. My problem however is that I no longer want my breasts touched, at all, ever. My poor husband is really really into boobs and it is very hard for him that I constantly deny him access to them :-(
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Hi All,
We've gone through a lot (not all) of the pages on this topic, and tried to compile your suggestions.
Do you feel that this is a complete list of what has been discussed here? Please help us make a comprehensive list of your ideas!
Member suggestions for helping the libido:
Watch romantic movie or soft-porn on Netflix
Romantic music
Watch porn or visit short videos on Tumblr, YouTube, or other internet site
A little wine, or other substance to help relax (e.g. medical marijuana)
Sexual photos
Massage and massage oils
Literotica: Erotic/sexual stories as an alternative to images
Super sexy lingerie or fun clothing
Have partner practice foreplay and/or oral sex
Practice masturbation on a regular basis
Mindfulness, i.e. focus on what your five senses are experiencing in the moment --To keep your thoughts from dwelling on cancer and scars
Member suggestions to improve vaginal moisture:
Coconut oil works best as a moisturizer (freeze small balls to make suppositories)
Vitamin E suppositories
Almond oil
Replens long-lasting moisturizer
Luvena vaginal moisturizer
Shea butter melted into olive oil at a 2:1 ratio
Cocoa butter
Olive oil
Gynatrof gel
DHEA vaginal suppositories
Tip to use an applicator to insert moisturizers and apply a few times a week.
Member suggestion for lubrication during sexual activity:
Astroglide Natural (free from glycerin, fragrance, flavorings, and hormones)
Slippery Stuff (free from glycerin and parabens)
K-Y warming Jelly
K-Y Sensual Silk Liquid (paraben-free)
K-Y Ultragel (paraben-free)
Astroglide, X (silicone-based)
Platinum Wet (silicone-based)
Replens silky smooth lubricant (silicone-based)
Sliquid natural lubricants (free from DEA, gluten, glycerine, glycerol, parabens, PEG, propylene glycol, sorbitol & sulphates)
Additional member suggestion to reduce pain:
Topical Lidocaine solution for use at the entrance of the vagina
Member suggestion for sex toys:
Vibrators (e.g. Hitachi Magic Wand, Pink Dot Vibe, Pocket Rocket, the Rabbit)
Dildos for pleasure, to stretch the entrance, prevent vaginal atrophy and strengthen muscles
Member suggestion for estrogen or hormone-based treatments
(MUST discuss first with oncologists as not typically recommended for women who have had breast cancer)
Vagifem® (estradiol vaginal tablets) inserts
Testosterone patch or gel
ESTRING® (estradiol vaginal ring)
ESTRACE® CREAM (estradiol vaginal cream)
Scream Cream - contains a combination of prescription and non-prescription components described as blood flow enhancers and vasodiolators to apply to your clitoris (adding here, as it contains a bit of Testosterone- 0.25mg per dose)
Other member suggestions:
Kegel exercises to strengthen pelvic muscles
Pelvic physical therapy
Dilators to stretch the skin in your vaginal area and re-train the pelvic floor muscles to relax
Observe which antidepressant you take, and make necessary changes
MonaLisa Touch: A minimally invasive laser treatment for vaginal rejuvenation.
Easier if she "goes first".
Regular activity is important to not lose the progress you've made.
Read the book, COUPLES CONFRONTING CANCER: KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONG, by Fincammon & Bruss, published by the American Cancer Society.
Share this thread with your husband/lover to create a new bond of intimacy, normalize what others are going through and open communication.
Take a look at this resource: https://sexualityresources.com
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Thanks, Mods! You are awesome!
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Thanks, Trvler!!!
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Peeeeeerfect Mods.
Thank u!
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Mods a few additions from this and other threads.
(Moisturizer)
Olive oil
Gynatrof gel
(Lube)
KY jelly is the worst ~ not recommended.
Slippery Stuff (glycerin free paraben free)
(Other strategies)
Pelvic physical therapy
Dilators do not just stretch the skin they retrain the pelvic floor muscles to relax.
PS Scream cream is not a hormonal intervention but does require a prescription.
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Thanks so much, kareenie!
Because Scream cream contains a bit of Testosterone (Testosterone 0.25mg), among many other ingredients, we added it under hormonal, however, we could move it! Thanks for the other additions and changes. We will add them now to the list!
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True.
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we've seen K-Y warming jelly a number of times. Would you recommend we keep that ?
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Never tried it myself.
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What a great compilation of everyone's ideas and suggestions. Thanks so much!
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Wow! Nice list, Big Thank You!
I wish there was a way to bookmark it for future reference.
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Added the list to Mena's original post!
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Wow - this is a gift and just in time for Valentine's Day! Seriously, this is great. Thank you, Linda
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Great idea to compile these ideas, Mods! Here are a few possible additions.
To add under Lubricants: KY Ultragel has no parabens and works pretty well. (Some other KY lubricants do have parabens or don't work as well.)
To add under Libido or Other Suggestions : Romantic music OR Mindfulness, i.e. focus on what your five senses are experiencing in the moment --To keep your thoughts from dwelling on cancer and scars, which is a turn-off.
To add under Other Suggestions: Easier if she "goes first"
To add under Other Suggestions: Regular activity is important to not lose the progress you've made. Sort of "Use it or lose it".
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Oh! I forgot...
Add under lubricants:
KY Liquibeads
Mods what about starting a new sticky thread with your list and linking to the old thread?
Oops I just saw you added to top of this one...that's fine too.
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