Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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First let me say I'm sorry for all your IOS and I'm sorry I'm not posting to each of you! Three babies aren't allowing it! Ok a 9 and 6 year old and a 1 year old!
My sister has been living with us for about 18 months now and as of Sept 5 she will be moving out! Not just moving out but moving to California - I live in Minnesota. I've whined about this before, but I'm really seeing how much I'll miss her. We use to talk everyday when she lived 45 minutes from me. Now that she lives here . . . . .. . ! She my grocery shopping partner! She is the one that runs errands with me. We text each other in the house for goodness sakes! We have inside jokes only sisters get! She's home earlier than Erik so I have another adult to be with. And Erik might get a new job further away so he'd be home even later! It's just gonna be soooooo hard to not have another adult around to talk to when Erik is gone. How am I gonna handle when Erik has business trips?!?!?!
I'm just gonna miss her loads and it's making me sad today. As the 5th gets closer I realize more and more how different it's gonna be not having her near by.
So that's my major IOS!!!!!!!!!!!
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OK girls- A big THAT SUCKS to everyone in need....
i almost never forward jokes of things I get via e-mail, but my sister sent me this last night and I could NOT quit laughing....It got me thinking about how we could play all of our folks that give us a pain in the neither regions.....start pitting them against each other....the possibilities are endless!
When you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know, take it out on someone you don't know.
I was sitting at my desk when I remembered a phone call I'd forgotten to make.
I found the number and dialed it.
A man answered, saying 'Hello.'
I politely said, 'This is Chris.
Could I please speak with Robyn Carter?'
Suddenly a manic voice yelled out in my ear 'Get the right f*** ing number!'and the phone was slammed down on me.
I couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude. When I tracked down Robyn's correct number to call her, I found that I had accidentally transposed the last two digits.
After hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again.
When the same guy answered the phone, I yelled 'You're an asshole !' and hung up. I wrote his number down with the word 'asshole' next to it, and put it in my desk drawer. Every couple of weeks, when I was paying bills or had a really bad day, I'd call him up and yell, 'You're an asshole!'
It always cheered me up.
When Caller ID was introduced, I thought my therapeutic asshole calling would have to stop.
So, I called his number and said, 'Hi, this is John Smith from the telephone company I'm calling to see if you're familiar with our Caller ID Program?'
He yelled 'NO!' and slammed down the phone.
I quickly called him back and said, 'That's because you're an asshole!' and hung up.
One day I was at the store, getting ready to pull into a parking spot. Some guy in a black BMW cut me off and pulled into the spot I had patiently waited for. I hit the horn and yelled that I'd been waiting for that spot, but The idiot ignored me. I noticed a 'For Sale ' sign in his back window, so I wrote down his number.
A couple of days later, right after calling the first asshole (I had his number on speed dial), I thought that I'd better,Call the BMW asshole, too.
I said, 'Is this the man with the black BMW for sale?'
He said, 'Yes, it is..'
I asked, 'Can you tell me where I can see it?'
He said, 'Yes, I live at 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax. It's a yellow rambler, and the car's parked right out in front.'
I asked, 'What's your name?' He said, 'My name is Don Hansen.'
I asked, 'When's a good time to catch you, Don?'
He said, 'I'm home every evening after five.'
I said, 'Listen, Don, can I tell you something?'
He said, 'Yes?'
I said, 'Don, you're an asshole!'
Then I hung up, and added his number to my speed dial, too. Now, when I had a problem, I had two assholes to call.
Then I came up with an idea.
I called Asshole #1.
He said, 'Hello.'
I said, 'You're an asshole!'
(But I didn't hang up.)
He asked, 'Are you still there?'
I said, 'Yeah.'
He screamed, ' Stop calling me!'
I said, 'Make me.'
He asked, 'Who are you?'
I said, 'My name is Don Hansen.'
He said, 'Yeah? Where do you live?'
I said, 'Asshole, I live at 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax, a yellow rambler,
I have a black Beamer parked in front.'
He said, 'I'm coming over right now, Don.
And you had better start saying your prayers.'
I said, 'Yeah, like I'm really scared, asshole,' and hung up.
Then I called Asshole No. 2.
He said, 'Hello?'
I said, 'Hello, asshole .'
He yelled, 'If I ever find out who you are...'
I said, 'You'll what?'
He exclaimed, 'I'll kick your ass,'
I answered, 'Well, asshole, here's your chance.
I'm coming over right now.'
Then I hung up and immediately called the police, saying that I lived at 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax, and that my gay lover was on his way over to kill me.
Then I called Channel 9 News about the gang war going down in Oaktree Blvd. In Fairfax.
I quickly got into my car and headed over to Fairfax. I got there just in time to watch two assholes beating the crap out of each other in front of six cop cars, an overhead news helicopter and surrounded by a news crew.
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Oh {{{JILL}}} I'm so sorry you dealing with both downers so close together! Big that SUCKS to you! But you know? You CAN still text her from where you are, and still call her! It won't be the same, but you'll be a phone call away!
SOrry...not helping huh? Hanna, you are too funny! Man, I'd never hear the end of it, if I got rid of HIS pan, SHE gave him! Lordy knows, I dishwash the knife she gave that isn't supposed to safe in there! Tough titties said the kitty! Nothing in my house that isn't d/w safe anymore! I've melted a few things and threw them out! Perhaps I should do that to the pan. MELT IT!
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ROFLMAOPIMP! DEB, that's hysterical! I have to admit! I'm one of those that has done something similar to the beginning of this! I had a telemarketeer call from her home phone one time and hang up on me b/c I didn't want her service she was selling. Those little cards with freebies you buy for $40 and get $ off and so on? So I see the # on the CID... I use it. At 3 am, when a flash hit.... 4 am anothe morning when my hips were aching. 6 am another morning when dh was leaving for work. It didn't help relieve my aches, pains and groans, but it did keep dh from getting the brunt of my moods!
Thanks for sharing a hysterical laugh!Keep laughing girl! You're never far from my thoughts or heart!
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A big "THAT SUCKS!" going out to all who need one. I stay away for a few days and come back to find we have new posters (sorry you all have suckiness to report!) and soooooo many crappy situations. ICK. SO glad to know that DebC is home, although I wish you didn't have to wait so long to get an answer! My prayers are with you.
Ok, now my crap:
You know, since my dx with mets right from the start, I have only cried a handful of times. The first time was when I met with the BS for the first time (and before I knew about the mets). He gave us the run-down and told me that I was not a candidate for lumpectomy, then told us to wait while they set up my surgery date and left the room. I was shocked and disappointed....and angry, too...because no one told me there was more than one lump in my breast and this guy was just rambling off things about ME that I didn't even know about. The second time was when my husband helped me take the mast bandages off and I saw my mutilated chest for the first time. Believe it or not, I didn't cry when I heard about the mets--probably because my onc didn't explain what that meant.
Well, today I have been wallowing in a puddle of tears because of IDIOT insurance "specialists" who LIE to us about our covereage. My insurance situation changed and the new stuff went into effect Aug 1. Prior to the changes, my husband had a CONFERENCE CALL with the rep who handles his company's plan to find out what to be prepared for.He SPECIFICALLY asked about coverage for XELODA because I had heard about Medicare making changes in coverages and knew that insurance companies usually follow suit. I had not yet started the XELODA and was weighing the choice between XELODA and TAXOTERE. The insurance rep assured my husband--several times and with several witnesses listening in--that the XELODA would be covered at "100%". I had a hard time believing this, but we did because the rep was so adamant about it. So, armed with the assurance that I could actually afford the treatment that I felt was better for me, my onc started me on XELODA. I have done 4 cycles so far with no problem because the insurance hadn't changed yet. Then...
I went to the pharmacy to pick up my prescription and the pharmacist told me they couldn't fill the prescription for me because my insurance requires the use of a specialty pharmacy. UGH. I had already started the 5th cycle by taking the "leftovers" from a previous cycle at a previous dose. I NEEDED the script filled FAST! The pharmacist was really nice about it (thankfully, we managed to get the one guy there that has always been helpful instead of the weasel-faced SOB that screws everything up and then yells at YOU like it's YOUR fault). The pharmacist said he'd do the paperwork to get the script transferred and would have them put a rush on it because it had to be mailed. The specialty pharmacy was supposed to call back yesterday.
Well, they finally called back today and I missed the call. I called back and I jump through all the required hoops (press "7" if you think automated phone systems are a pain in the ass) and talk with the nurse-rep who is to be my contact. She hems and haws for several minutes before telling me she's not sure how my dosing schedule (the STANDARD with XELODA of 2 weeks on, one week off) will work with their system; she can't tell me when I need to ask for a refill in order to get the next cycle here on time. I decide to drop it and just work on getting this cycle here in time before I run out of leftovers.
I get transferred to the shipping department where I am promptly asked for my credit card to charge the $300 "copay" before they will send out the pills. WHAT?!?!?!?! Well, I'd have given her a credit card if the stinking cancer hadn't caused my husband to lose his business and default on our bills. If I had KNOWN about a F#*%^W(@ "copay" (WTF??? "100% covered" means a $300 copay every 3 weeks?!?!?!) We would have PLANNED for the expense by---oh, I don't know....forgoing food and hot water maybe--so I could have the damned meds that I need.
So, I have spent the day contacting drug manufacturers, insurance companies, and assistance programs and bawling my eyes out in frustration. So far, the best I can do is that Roche Pharma "might" be able to help me "in a few weeks" after I have to shore up the energy to drive here, there, and yon picking up paperwork and signing releases Good grief--I can hardly walk across a parking lot because of the mets pain and spend 90% of the time in bed. I'll be burning gas that I can't afford to drive to neighboring counties because I live in Podunk, Egypt will be a snap....NOT! My favorite one is that I have to go to an employment office to get someone to provide me with "proof" that I didn't work last year because tax returns are not enough?!? Suh-weet. I can't wait to see the response to that request. DH talked to the insurance rep again who is seeing if they'll make an "exception" for me....yeah, right. So, I'll take the leftoevers as long as they last and pray that something works out. If it doesn't, then I'll be stuck trying to figure out a way to get to and from weekly TAXOL infusions that may or may not be covered and may or may not work. That is, if the cancer center will still treat me with $100k in outstanding "100% covered" charges that the insurance company is still "undecided" about covering. HOLY CRAP.
How motivated is an insurance company going to be to keep me alive when it would be so much more convenient for them if they put me in the ground? I am just so angry. We're not "rich" enough to afford the payments, but not "poor" enough to qualify for assistance. I feel like a non-entity. WTF is wrong with the world? Oh, if I was a horny old bastard in need of an erection, the insurance company has prominently placed wording in our policy that GUARANTEES covereage of 30 "little blue pills" a month. Sweet. Maybe the dh can use him with his next wife after the F*#%^@ insurance bullQ#$*# puts me in the ground.
(((HUGS)))
Diane
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Diane hon that so sucks it's not even close to being ok. Insurance sucks!!!!!
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{{{{DIANE}}}}} I don't have any more time than to just give you a big old THAT SUCKS THE BIG ONE! and a huge and everlasting {{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry!
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Diane,
That sucks. Really, really sucks. Insurance companies are evil. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I wish I could make it better.
Jill, sorry for your suckinesss. Whenever I am grieving or missing one of my sisters I try to be grateful for the relationship we have...seems to help me a lot since it hasn't always been that way...
Not too much suckiness here today except for the stinking-ass bone pain of which I am becoming very tired.
Rock, way to go on the cereal bowls. You are my new role model.
Wish, it sucks that your dh was that inconsiderate about the pan. I wouldn't wash it either. Can you throw it away? It might be worth it!!!
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Diane - I don't have words for how much that sucks! I wish I could help
BIG hugs
Deb C
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Diane, that sucks so bad. Gawd.
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Deb - your post had me giggling so much it brought tears to my eyes.
Diane - your post did make me cry. The injustice of being the victim of corporate duplicity when you are fighting for your life is just beyond description. It seems intentional, doesn't it - making it as difficult as they possibly can?!?
And you are at their mercy.
Lord, hon - I wish I were your Congresswoman or at least your insurance commissioner. Someone who could make this ridiculousness STOP. Major suckage of the first degree.Lisa
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Yeah, what you all said, double times! Big OL THAT SUCKS to the IOS's today ladies! Give yourselves a treat of some sort tonight and say good-bye to suckiness!
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OMG Diane, that's pretty much the mother of all suckage!! I wish so much I could help...but will do what I can and pray for immediate resolution!
Debbie: I live in the middle of nowhere, south of Knoxville--not quite halfway between Knoxville and Chattanooga
Wish: I must have a really mean streak, cause I would just leave it and he'd have to clean it if he wanted to use it again. My dh and dk's used to drive me crazy. They'd be nice enough to soak their pan/bowl/glass etc, but for some reason they thought that filling the pan/bowl/glass halfway was actually helpful (eg: the bottom half of the pan/bowl/glass would be easily cleaned but the top half would have stuck-on food). Leaving the pan/bowl/glass for the culprit to wash pretty well cured them.......
A blessed and suck-free evening to all!
Sherri
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Diane, that really sucks. Insurance agents can lie and are not held liable for any lies. You have to get something in writing or ask to see a drug formulary. What really gets me is that an 18 year old girl can get on all kinds of aid if she has a baby without a father. I have a friend who has 2 children and has all her bills and college tuition paid by taxpayers. I am glad she is looking forward to a career but when summer came and she was not in school, I asked if she would take a summer job. "No, I don't need to", she replied. She always has new toys, cell phone, digital camera, laptop, etc. She also has 3 cars and they all run. It kind of burns me up when there are those of us who just need a little help when we are hit with a financially devastating disease and we can't get it.
When I had cancer when I was in my 20's. I lost my job. Then I lost my COBRA after 18 months. Because I lived with my parents, I was not eligible for Medicaid. But no one would insure me. I was told if I had a child or was pregnant, I would qualify. Hello......I am on chemo and told not to get pregnant.....hmmmm. I did get the medicaid but it was more than a song and dance for the government and I refused to leave the office and sat there in a chair and cried that I was going to die and no one would help me.
Loved your joke Deb. Wish I could figure out how to get some a**hole to attack some of the telemarketers we get who call on a Sunday night at 10:05 PM! I am so glad you have your sense of humor. It is priceless.
WishIwere, thanks for the warning. I am well aware of the dangers of narcotics. My doctors know about my alcoholism and my husband and sponsor know how much I am taking. I just don't like taking drugs but I hate being in pain more. I had several oldtimers (20 or more years of sobriety) tell me that pain can lead one back to drinking faster than narcotics. I have never been a drug user. I am still very careful though. Hopefully this will all be over in 6 weeks.
WTF???? They just said on the news something about recurrence in BC survivors? Not sure if I want to watch it. My husband and I rarely watch the news. We believe that ignorance is bliss.
Have a good night. Got to cook dinner.
Debbie
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There should be some sort of news coverage for your situation, Diane. I, too, am sending you a PM.
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Thanks you guys! Debbie, I found the same thing here. The county/state won't help ME, but if one of my sons were to impregnate someone and we had her move in (God forbid!), not only would the state bankroll everything for her, but we would get assistance too. Alas, the oldest son's girlfriend broke up with him yesterday. JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have talked to the people at the Xeloda Reimbursement Program at Roche and was told I should hear something by the end of the week. Let's hope it's good news. If not, there are 3 other places I can try--4, once it's September. (coPay assistance has already allocated all available funds for August).
(((HUGS)))
Diane
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Diane, when I read your post I was stunned. Your post brought me to tears! This is so unfair. Hell, that's not a strong enough adjective. IT'S F*UC@ING (and I don't use that word unless I'm really mad) unfair!
It scares me to know that my insurance has changed and I don't know what to expect when I have to have an APPROVAL for so many things that I didn't with my other wonderful insurance.
I broke the law. But I don't care if they come carry me off to jail. I don't even remember who...but someone on the mets board needed Xeloda. She couldn't afford it..I can't remember all the details. I had some left that I DIDN'T NEED. I had completed all my "rounds." I mailed it to her and COME ON...PUT ME IN JAIL! That damed stuff, according to the pharmacy at Duke, cost over $4,000. I only had to pay $5 because I had the GOOD insurance at the time. I had spent X amount of $$$$ on scripts so then then made us only pay $5 no matter WHAT script we had.
Diane, if I had the Xeloda I'd send it to you. C'MON..get me and put my ass in jail. I'm so pissed for you right now I can't see straight. And, I'm pissed enough to cry. Damn, damn, damn!
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One more thing....people suffering with cancer or ANY life altering disease should NOT have to go through this.
Yes, they'll pay for the care of a woman/girl who gets pregnant. I'm not against that. However, when it comes to a life threatening disease one has to jump through hoops to try to find help. Hell, it takes energy to jump through hoops! I've seen to many people use the system, and it makes me ANGRY to say the least.
Diane, I'm hoping that the news will be good when you hear from Roche. I'll be praying for you (if God will hear my prayers after acting ugly..LOL).
Shirley
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{{Diane}} I'm so glad you have a great support system to help you through and watch your back lady!
There is SERIOUSLY something wrong with a health care system that would allow one person to go without when another has something they can share and the other needs it to live! OMG!!!!!!!!!!! They have protection against shutting off electric for people with O2 tanks...Isn't there something for those who needs meds to live? OMGOSH!!!!!!!!!!!
Shirley IF you go to jail, I hereby PROMISE to raise funds for you defense lady! FREE too! What a ridiculous world we live in. I have to tell you that I too know someone who mailed a certain person her left over arimidex when she was switched. The person had nearly a full months worth and at over $300/ a month, what would anyone else have her do? It's just nutty!Geepers! Let them go after the people that buy smokes over seas and have them mailed to them for crying out loud! Actually they do, but not enough! and I'm a smoker, in a state that taxes them out of this world, so I can say that!
Shoot.....Let us know what you hear Diane, I'm interested too! Do you mind if I ask what type of insurance you have that is causing all this stupid stuff!?
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Two words: Shirley Rocks!!!!!
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Wish,
My surgery is at 8:30am but I have to be there at 6:30am!! OUCH!! WAY TOO EARLY FOR ME!
This dr. 'thinks' I have a polyp, and that is the reason, along with my t/v u/s showed my endometrial stripe is TEN MM!!! So, he is doing a D & C to scrape the lining, and see if he can find any polyps and take them out, but I still think this is stupid, because if he can't take out the fibroids too, they WTH?? I don't want ANYTHING growing there that doesn't belong!! BTW, I think the fibroid is INSIDE the uterus.
Thanks, ROCK! I told this idiot that I don't want to have to do this again! I have just been having some spotting on and off, mostly after exercising. SO now I don't exercise. I had some bleeding after sex, so I stopped having sex... eventually, I will just sit here at the computer all day, and do NOTHING else...
Sorry I can't mention everyone's IOS's individually, but I will say a HUGE THAT SUCKS to ALL!!Harley
PS I have heard from some that this procedure won't hurt too bad, but a couple of others say that it REALLY HURTS, so I am STILL pretty nervous about this. Maybe I should just call it off and forget about it. I could just hide under the bed with my cat Spike.
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Shirley, that CRACKED ME UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHHAAAAAA!
Diane, I feel you pain on the insurance woes. I pay almost $700 per month for my insurance and they give me crap about every single little thing. It sucks. And, my insurance agent, well let's just say, I've become too much for him to handle obviously because he no longer returns my calls. Jerk.
Everybody else..... ((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))
Traci
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Traci - love the new avatar although I miss your smiling face...
DebC, I nearly wet my pants reading your joke. Read it to h2B and he didn't even crack a smile. Go figure...
Diane, I'm so angry for you and all you are having to deal with because of insurance crap. The shovel brigade is here for you, girl! Just say the word...
Shirlley, you are such a sweetie! I'd help bail you out, too. Or at least help dig the tunnel to help you escape. Pity there aren't more people on the planet like you...
My IOS is deadline. Ugh - I hate it! Always wish there were more hours in a day, but somehow it all gets done. Pray that I don't get burried in a pile of editorial pages tomorrow...
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Jill -- Missing sisters sucks. I'm sorry.
Diane -- It also sucks that you or any of us has to waste even ten minutes of our lives dealing with this bullsh*t. It's shameful.
And lets be clear. To the extent that the state covers pregnant women and moms of little children (and often in pretty paltry ways) it is only because it cares to some degree about fetuses and children . . . not women. If we truly gave a damn about women as human beings in this country, we WOULDN'T BE HAVING TO DEAL WITH THIS INSURANCE AND BANKRUPTCY BULLSH*T AND NOT BEING TAKEN SERIOUSLY BY DOCTORS. **Clunk** Sorry, I had to knock myself off my own soapbox.
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Hanna -- Originally, I am from the Sunflower State. I think the tallest sunflower we ever grew was about 8 or 9 feet tall. We tethered it to the machine shop. My Mom banned sunflower seeds from the house because of the mess me and my little sister would make with the shells. My Dad banned jacks from the house after we left them on the bathroom floor. He stepped out of the shower and landed on one jack, lept to the other foot and landed on another. Actually, I think Dad's experience could serve as a metaphor for having breast cancer and dealings with insurance companies.
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{{Harley}} sweetie, I didn't mean to scare you about it hurting, but it does, K? I'm just saying it hurt worse than the GB surgery or the ovary 3 inch incision and there's no incision with the D&C. It's a lot of cramping, but do what they say (which I can't remember and didn't do!) AND GET some pain meds for goodness sakes and take them right away!
As for that fibroid? Have they said if it's internal, or within the lining or outside or where? The can be almost anywhere., danged things! Gosh it used to be if you had one, they'd rip you innards without batting an eye! Now you have to BEG to have them cut it out! GEepers, creepers, things have gotten OUT of whack!
Please, if you can, let us know that you are home and okay? Can you call shirley and she can post? OR call me! If you want my number, let me know, K?
Many {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} and prayers for a quick surgery and that the fibroid was accessible and is removed and the surgeon has an ALL clear for you afterwards! Rest well tonight and dream of no more pain and uckys', K?
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Harley: Good luck to you tomorrow. I've had a D&C...they put me out...woke up, a little cramping...not bad at all. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow morning and know that you will do fine! Look forward to your next update!
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Harley, I'm praying for you, too! Hopefully, it won't be too bad. You're tough!!
DIane, I hope you get the med situation taken care of without too much further suckage. I hate it when the insurance companies lie to us and we think we've jumped through all their hoops and have our situations covered, only to have the rug pulled out from under us. Big southern hugs!
Waves to all.
Miss S
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