Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Come on Traci, when is your big night or potentional??? I will be at Ft Hood, lots of men there and I never could resist a man in uniform. Oops, thats right I married one LOL they hold a special place in my heart. Lets see who's heart I can melt on my little trip. I got two weeks to hook a guy and hold him. Thats plenty of time in my book! LOL So Traci, are you up for the bet, who is first????? LOL
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Her chat name was hshi. She hasnt been in chat for months. But we emailed back and forth. She didnt answer my last one and her husband answered it today. She passed away November 18, 2008. She was young. A mother of 4 children, 3 girls and a boy. She had brain mets and outlived her doctors predictions several times. And she wanted to make it to her eldest daughters birthday and she did. Plus 8 days. Another friend gone. It hurts so much.
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Aww Sh*t dream------big hugs....what can anyone say to that loss?
Prayers for hshi, her family & her friends---like you!
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I've read back as far as I can until my eyes start crossing, but I can't find what SOI and IOS means! I feel so left out....sigh.
I had a sick cat once when I had 4 of them. I took it to the vet and she said she needed a stool sample from the litter box. I told her I had 4 cats, I'd bring in the whole box and she could figure it out!
I got our third cat declawed and the vet said they usually considered that a life saving surgery. I said consider it as such, because if that darn cat scratched the furniture one more time I'd kill it! When we brought her home she immediately jumped up on our white livingroom suite and left 5 blood stains spread fairly on the sofa and loveseat!
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{Dream} Sorry to hear about another lost to this d@mned disease
Prayers of course for her family left behind to mourn her. Any age is too young for one to fight and lose this battle Barbe, been there with one of our two cats also. She was destroying the woodwork around the house and it was that or gone for her too. The other never did it till she was about 4 years old (too old for declawing), but she does carpet of all thing. Any carpet but her carpet clad climbers that is
When I took #1 in for the declawing/hyster, the vet offered to put those little covers on her nails instead. Oh yeah, let's just keep paying a large bill to have tips put on the CAT! HA! NOT!}}LuAnn}} WHOOOHOoooo GIRL! Congrats on the homeoming and good luck on landing a man in uniform! Dd's beau is an ex-marine and just love to see him in full dress! I'm guessing since they live together for the last 2 years, she's loving him without any dress, but then, we don't really talk about that!
He did 2 terms over there and then they wouldn't let him return b/c of the amount of shrapnel in his leg/hip and back. Speaking of which? I know there are lot of people with pain from various things on here and also military persons....Anyone know if they allow these vets to see pain doctors? He still has times he doesnt sleep b/c of it and it's frustrating to hear the hoops they must get through to get treatment from an outside source. Any suggestions? Should he see a pain clinic?
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Oh barbe? Welcome and IOS is 'Issue Of Suckage' SOI is the opposite or 'Suckage Otherwise Inverted'
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WhaSux?
Gotta throw in my persepctive on the end of the bc journey:
I do NOT consider it "loosing the battle" so much as a "draw"--when we die of cancer it does not win--cuz it dies too! When I go I'm taking "the beast" out with me! Cancer 1 / Saint 1
When my time comes please never say I gave up! Say I accepted the conditions that sent me to the next level. We all will die of SOMETHING some day, no matter how old we are or who we leave grieving. I accept that the reality of my dx means, in all likelihood, it will be sooner than later & it will probably be from bc. That is NOT being negative, but facing facts! So don't get all squishy on me or argue how I should not be saying these things or thinking like this. I have peace with it! I've been walking this road for almost 5 years & have had a lot of lessons & a lot of practice. My attitude is a GOOD thing! I feel this is something important to share with other warrior-survivors. HUGS
BE well & stay strong
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WHOOHOOO to LuAnn! And a CANCER SUCKS for all!
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Saint I agree with you on considering it a draw. In Sept I friend who fought with everything in her for 5 yrs passed away and over the weekend another friend who had 3 different types of cancer in her lifetime (breast, bone and uterine) and fought each one until she couldn't fight anymore. I only knew the second lady for about 8 yrs and I am not sure when she started her battle but as long as I knew her she was positive. Both of these fine ladies always had a smile on their faces and did what they could to help others.
Sheila
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Saint, I so agree about being realistic. My heart got damaged from either Adriamycin or Herceptin and that is actually more of a threat to me than the BC at the moment. I think embracing the facts and making the best of things is much better than pretending like nothing is happening.
Of course, I have always been a realist, so it is part of my personality. I have always known what my kids would do wrong (I was never one of those parents who thought her kids were perfect). I know if I'm fat and my friends say I'm not... that I'm still fat. LOL Anyway.... I'm also a very positive person and very happy, too!
I'm guilty of using the term 'loosing the battle', but it's probably because it's hard to say someone died. I should probably just start saying it. I have a hard time dealing with death and how horrible it feels when that person you loved is not here anymore.
Sheila and Dream, so sorry to hear about your friends. *big hug*
LuAnn, I am so thrilled your son is coming home safe and sound. What joy!
I have been enjoying all the cat stories and so sorry about all the cat issues! I may be getting a cat from a friend soon. I've been kind of lonely since my doggie died. The cat is three years old, spayed, and declawed. Do I want to take on a new companion? :-) Trying to decide.
Love to all,
Miss S
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Woo Hoo LuAnn. Gentle hugs (((dream & sheila))). My husband died almost 6 years ago. Yes, he "lost" the battle with cancer, but he also "gave" me 33 years of love, companionship, and support and a wonderful son. We give and we take during our lifetimes. I hope to give some comfort, love, support and a shoulder to cry on while I am here. If that makes much sense.
THAT SUCKS and HUGS, Nancy
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Nancy, since the day we met - or at least the day we found out who each other were, you've given me love, support, comfort and a shoulder. I hope I do the same for you...that's why we get up and go out into the world every day! I'm sorry for those of you who have lost friends and loved ones to the beast...I totally get where you are coming from saint - and I agree. I am a DNR, which my friends don't get but, I believe when it's time, it's time and there is another step from here. I'll no more "lose" or "give up" the fight for bc than for anything else. When it's my time, it's my time...and considering how many loved ones I have lost in the past 5 years - I'll have a pretty good reception when I get where I'm going!
Shout out to my friend Felicia...I hope you have recovered and your blood pressure has come back down my girl. I could have told you that was a bad, bad idea. You have too good a heart to get trapped in a no-win situation like that...next time, call your sponsor (me) instead of going on that thread!
I hope you all have a GREAT Friday! I have a 4 day weekend coming so I'm sure I'll be back!
Love you guys!!!
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Saint, I look at it this way: When I die, cancer dies........but my soul will go on to heaven and eternal life. So, it's cancer: 0 badboob67: 10000000000000000000000000000000000000000
)"THAT SUCKS" to all who need it. I sure hope there are some major SOIs brewing out there for all of us!
(((HUGS)))
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When my father was dying of lung cancer 4 years ago, I was almost envious. He was going to the next level.
A pastor gave me a card when my best friend died from cancer 6 years ago. It started, "Her journey's just begun..." I carried it in my purse for almost a year.
I feel sorry for my sister who thinks this is it. Boy will I be pissed!
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LOL, Bonnie. What time are the Eagles playing Sunday? I really wish them well. Seriously! If the Giants can't be there at least someone from the division is - and I'm so glad it wasn't Dallas (sorry Traci). BTW, I may be in Philly in a few weeks for a surprise b'day party (shhhh!). I can mail you a cheesteak if you want...
Saint and Diane, I totally agree with you about the end where cancer is concerned. That it dies with me will be a very big bright spot...
Hugs to you, Nancy. My mom died of BC almost 17 years ago (can't believe it has been that long) and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss her. Not the same as losing your spouse, but I feel you...
Luann, if you are reading, I hope you are having fun preparing for your trip to see your son. And about the NCO clubs: crotchless jeans are more practical than sexy Victoria's Secret stuff as the latter just ends up in a pile on the floor anyway
.Traci - all of us who live our lives vicariously through you need an update on the OAOA. When's he coming? How's the wardrobe looking? I say ditch the jeans and the sweater and just wear the Ugg boots...
May the suckage be kept at bay for at least the weekend...
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Jeez-Louise, girls!!! First of all, massive cyber hugs to you all {{{{{{{{{{ EVERYONE }}}}}}}}}}}
I've missed you all. Been trying to catch up here & my eyes are crossing from everything that's been going on. Been really busy at work plus went to a seminar on neuromuscular disorders -- there's a really lovely group of illness, things like MS, Parkinson's -- OY! Anyway, I think I've driven through more bad weather so far this winter to see my patients than I have in the last 5 years!
Also, Chloe had her ultrasound today & she's basically fine. The conclusion is she probably had a stroke. She's pretty much finally back to her old self again.
Wish, whassup with Lucy? Have you heard yet?
Dream, aw, honey, what a sucky time you've been having lately.
Nancy, I do very much know what it's like to be without a life partner through this ordeal. I am so lucky that I have had such great gf's & colleagues, but sometimes I just "want my mommy." My actual mommy would probably not have been very helpful, but I just wish someone would do the adult-hood thing for me sometimes, ya know?
Jane, shoot, you have just had every darn annoying thing happen. It seems like you just start healing from one thing, then something else happens. Hugs, honey.
Blue D, I LMAO on giving pills to cats!! I gave up trying to give mine pills years ago. Now I insist that I get baby medicine or flavored liquid medicine which I can squirt through a med syringe between their tightly-clenched teeth!!
Traci & Nicki, you both made me LOL!!
Harley, what a lovely photo! You're quite the beauty! How's the job search going?
Webwriter, how's it going? I sniffed when I was reading about your little girl.
LuAnn!!!! Your son is okay???? That's the best SOI we've had here in a long while.
Pam, Sue, Colleen, Saint, Bonnie, Felicia, Miss S, PK, Sheila & Everyone else I'm forgetting to mention, a Big That Sux, in case you need it.
Diane!! Dahling!! Any updates on the financial situation?
BTW, my new blog is rolling along (www.accidentalamazon.com) . I Photoshopped a painting I found of an Amazon Warrior & posted it the other day. I'll post it here. It's a little scary (!!) but appropriate for one of the founding members of the B*TCH Squad here. And the scar is on the appropriate side! I'm gonna have to take up archery now...
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KAK~ welcome HOME! We missed you...I hope everyone had an IOS free day!
Felicia - thanks for the Eagles Cheer...you're such a good sport. I'm really excited about this weekend...my dp and I aren't in any position to go to the superbowl if they win, but we will cheer them from the couch.
Here's an interesting question...short of the long of it...me, 2 gf's and a guy friend were all outside outside freezing our t*ts off and boy made a joke about how he could tell they were cold but not me...well, I never told him that when I had my mastectomy and got my infection -they had to take my nipples off so all I have is 6 inch scars there. It's not exactly the kind of detail you give to anyone not really, really close -or involved in your breastcancer support (like you guys). So, he points out that "technically" I can go topless now because I don't have nipples. The law only requires women to not show the nipple, not the rest of the breast.
True?
I have WAY to much time on my hands tonight huh?
I'm ripping cd's and trying to load them on my blackberry - anyone who knows me knows what a challenge this will be because while I might be smarter than the average bear - I am technologically challenged!!!!
A BIG THAT SUX to anyone who needs it....Ladysuz and djd, check in so we know you are not banned!
Speaking of banned ...HIGH NIKKI....I think you were the subject of a conversation over on the little shop of horrors thread...nothing bad, in fact it was a good comment from a supporter! Love Ya!
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Oh MAN! This so SUX!! I read thru & just as I got all caught up I was called to dinner (I cooked but the family got it out & served it)
Now I can't remember what I was gonna write!!!!! LOLol---big chemobrain THAT SUX to everyone!
Be well, stay strong & keep warm!!!!!!!!!
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Bonnie,
Yep, that is me! Thanks!
Wish, I'll pm you...
Hugs
Harley
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Kathi,
I just saw your message... Thanks!
No, I think I'll wait til I get back from my cruise to start really looking for a job. Plus I am hoping that in March, things will pick up and I will have a better chance of finding a job.
Thanks!!
Harley
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OMG Flyrz! Your post reminded me of a story:
Shortly after I returned to choir after my sx I was trying to convince our director to add one of my favorite songs for Easter, but he wasn't budging...I teased him saying that I was gonna lobby the whole church to back me on it. He responded, "You can pace the parking lot & "beat your breast" ...and then he stopped & said, "Oh no, YOU can't do that anymore!"
He was beet red when he realized what he said while I howled & tried not to fall out of my seat....maybe it's a "you had to be there" moment--but it still makes me LOL.
As to the letter of the law re: nipples-I have no idea, but I bet it varies from state to state! Technically I don't have breasts (but reconstructed mounds) & no nipples--so would that make ME legal?? Doubt it..........
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saint, there was a discussion on the "Breast Prostheses and Reconstruction Alternatives" forum awhile back about laws regulating "toplessness", and whether someone who'd had a bilateral mast without recon could legally go topless. The thread was called, "Can I go topless?".
I think the final ruling was that it does depend on the local definition of "topless". Some places define "topless" as any situation where the nips are showing (or something like that). So, we decided that if we don't have nips, well, then ...
Definitely SOI.
otter
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Dream, Sheila--- I'm so sorry about y'alls friends. I'm sorry about Slonedeb and Kbug and Lisa and so many others...
My bitch today is huge.
Why are all three of my sisters unhappy in their relationships. WTF?? Deep sigh.....
Why have we become a world of having to have 'instant gratification'? Why can't people who want babies have them? And, worse yet, why do people who don't want babies have them????
What's wrong with our world? Why is there so much hateful talk...even on a discussion board such as this, where a person is supposed to find support; there is hate, harmful words, lies, deceit, grudges, deliberate gossip and spite?
What is wrong with us? Why can't we all just get along? Why does temptation make us throw away what is so right? Why do some feel that another's pain is worth their gain? Why are we so sick? Why are we at war? What are we doing; to ourselves and to each other? Why do some people thrive while others starve? Why do "only the good die young"? God, please......
And we wonder why God is so busy.
On a lighter note....I love you girls. My OAOA is coming to visit on Jan 30th. I can't wait to see him. I'm lonely and need a happy-go-lucky person, with a smiling face; which he is, and has.
Love, Traci
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Traci ~ I (and probably many others) get it. Some days it's hard to comprehend how there can be so much good, and so much evil in the world all at the same time. All each of us can do is live every day trying to be better people, trying to make a difference - even with one person, in one moment on that one day - in someone's life.
I hope you have the best weekend ever on the 30th ~ you deserve it!
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Come to Ontario if you want to bare all. Several years ago a law was passed that women could go topless. I think it's still in effect but don't intend to put it to the test.
Edit to say; you may want to wait until the temps are a little warmer!
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LOL Sharon...don't you guys only have 5 days a year when the temps are warmer? I live just outside DC and I can't take the "winter" here...I'm such a puss when it comes to cold!
WHAT is up with the insomnia? I didn't go to sleep until after 2am...and I'm wide awake again at 7am...could it be my sleep cycle is slowly returning to normal????? I used to only sleep 4-6 hours a night for YEARS...since my treatment began and up until the past week or so, I've needed 9-11 hours just to get through the day...with naps on weekends! Except for the joint/bone pain I am starting to finally feel like my old self again.
A big that sux to anyone who needs it today!
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I saw a pic on another thread (somewhere) of one of us who was on a beach topless with a double mx. She said the lifeguards kind of circled her trying to figure it all out and finally left her alone! Her thought was the no nipple thing. Her idea was to heal her wound and soul.
I've been on nude beaches and bared all, but I think (right now, so new) my scars are private. I don't want anyone to see the "horror" right now, it's not fair to them (kind of like when men wear their wife-beater tees and we have to see their arm-pit hair). When I get my tattoo, well then!
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LOL...arm pit hair! I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks it's disgusting..on a man or a woman. I just looks like a nasty rat's nest breeding ground for germs to me!
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Yes, armpit hair should be banned in public. 0
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Good morning girls, or late morning I guess!
Totally with you on the armpit hair - yuck! Although I have a REALLY weird confession, I had this weird thing about smelling my rat bastard ex fiance's armpits, they smelled like taylor ham to me for some reason (you'll know what taylor ham is if you're from NJ, otherwise, just think of a cross between baloney and pan fried bacon-y pork goodness, with about 16 grams of fat per slice!)
And that's GROSS I know! LOL
Off to clean my disaster area of a house.
A big that sucks to all!
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