Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Why do you have to wait a couple of weeks? I won't be able to stand the stress, so how the heck will YOU do?
A lumpectomy is not too bad. They'll give you ice to put in your bra for the way home. Depending on the location of the incision, you may want to wear your bra 24/7 for support so you don't get gravity tugging. I've had four lumpectomies! That's why when I finally got the diagnosis I just said to take them off. I wasn't going through that evey couple of years! Why can't they just do a biopsy? Or is THIS the biopsy????
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Aug 11 is first available time w surgeon. theres no biopsy..we know this is mutated oginal mass that has responded so well to femara and had basically disappeared. Scans in Jan show nothing, Scans last week showed the growing mass, surgeon said it was significant growth/rate of growth. Femara is workng on everything else but there. Could do wait and watch, but then I may lose option of lumpectomy and go straight to mast. They are hoping that by removing the mass I can stay on Femara longer and perhaps stop or at least really slow down any regrowth. Does that make sense? Had Scans last Monday, saw onc with results on Thursday, a mammo/ultra sound last Friday, saw surgeon this Wednesday and today had breast MRI (to get better idea whats there). I hope to hear about that tomorrow.
so is sports bra best? how about mobility? button shirts v tee shirts?
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A sports bra is what I was told when a lumpectomy of a 1.4 cm mass was in my future. Had started with the U/S biospy for that, and a week later an MRI showed another tumor, so an MRI Bx that basically removed the entire 1 cm tumor happened a week later. That one was 11 needles worth and caused quite a bit of bleeding and pain later. I have a high tolerance of pain, but the tugging and pulling with raising my arm and or twisting or such of putting on and off shirts would cause stabbing pains. Be/c of that, I'd suggest button down for a least a couple of weeks.
All just mho. Will keep you in prayers and hope this does what you are all hoping for....removing the mass in full and keeping it in check. Hang in there...You're in many thoughts and prayers in this hon...{{{hugs}}}}
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Elaine, that makes me feel better. I was afraid you'd already 'broken' the mass with a needle biospy which can cause seeding as well as provide oxygen to the tumour. If you haven't done that, then the tumour isn't pissed off......yet. Any bra that is comfortable and has support. I was larger and the tugging from gravity caused discomfort for a couple of days. It doens't take long to heal, but you don't want overly hard arm movements like wishiwere said.
Let us know the results of the MRI and when the surgery is. You're in my prayers, bumped up a couple of people...
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thank you that means a lot. Today has been a crummy day, I think its hitting me. Feel really alone on this one, even thu I have my Mom and family supporting me ( and once the kids know their support) but I won't have and don't have (un)dh. I'm sure he would be right there with whatever I needed or asked for but I don't really want him around - I miss having someone to hold me, tell me its ok, to lean on, esp at night.
I mean, everyone has their own lives and issues and families...I feel terrible imposing, asking for help and all. Always thought regardless of what happened in life I would have my husband to lean on, as my spouse, not sharing him w his mistress/girlfriend.
Life sure is not going the way I thought it would.
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(((EWB)))
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Hugs to you EWB ~ You're in my thoughts.
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Elaine, your last line blew me away!! That's exactly what I've been bitching about for the last couple of days!!!
I had pictured being retired with my DH spending the winters in Mexico golfing and the summers with grandchildren at a grassy Victorian mansion somewhere......sigh.
What a lunch-bag let down!!!!!! Holy shit, did I ever miss the line up for the good life!!!
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Not a lunch-bag let down for me (very funny alliteration!), but I did get kicked out of the line. Harrumph! And F U to whoever took my place!
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tribcRuth and barbe................wasn't me either..........my dream was to be married 50 years. Retire to my home down in Cape May Beach NJ, swim in my pool all summer, and live the winter with my kids back in Pa............................well my husband died at 57, from cancer.............hardly get down the shore home (everyone has a life too), live alone, and got breast cancer, with a side order of LE............................Shit, you know what I say about the Golden Years.......................F--CK THE GOLDEN YEARS...............................Like I say................wanna see God laugh........................Make a plan.......................
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I thought I would have something like what I grew up w. Parents happy, kids happy and dopey, scraped knees, hugs every night.. never rolling w money but never in need of things (WANT, maybe). Meals together, trips to the library, on rainy days we'd have picnics in the living room (had a green rug there - aka grass). list goes on and on. I suppose I am most thankful to have had such a great childhood and such a supportive family (esp now!)
Maybe we should all retire together and live in a big ole farmhouse or such and create our own happy golden years
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I thought I would have something like what I grew up w. Parents happy, kids happy and dopey, scraped knees, hugs every night.. never rolling w money but never in need of things (WANT, maybe). Meals together, trips to the library, on rainy days we'd have picnics in the living room (had a green rug there - aka grass). list goes on and on. I suppose I am most thankful to have had such a great childhood and such a supportive family (esp now!)
Maybe we should all retire together and live in a big ole farmhouse or such and create our own happy golden years
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EWB...................sounds like a great childhood to look back on...........Those were the days my friend...............................I am 76 now, and had 6 children...................I can relate to the "never rolling in dough", but never in need of things..................always managed to make it to the end of the week with what I had..............
I told my daughter just the other day..........she is 42, youngest of the 6, with 2 children of her own...................I said "thank heavens none of you ever had to root down the sofa cushions on Friday to buy a lb of cheese for grilled cheese (catholic), and a loaf of bread.................she smiled, and said...................."Mom, I never knew the difference", "you always made us feel like we were rich"............................She could not have said anything nicer......................and that is what really matters...............family............I know that so well, after this journey down a path I never wanted to walk..............whatever the Golden Years has brought to my health..............it has not touched my family..................You I'm sure can say the same.........hugs
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Hugs Ducky! you sound much like my Mom, I expect things were tighter than we knew, but it was always fun, never knew that we did things that did not cost much because of $ concerns. We just had fun, something my (un)dh never understood.
I hope things are ok for you,
Elaine
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I remember one Easter gettting a HUGE orange - the size of a grapefruit and a Dixie cup of Smarties. That's it. That was a great Easter....sigh. There were 4 of us so the Smartie box had to fill us all evenly.
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I feel for you all. I also had a wonderful childhood. Parents were not rich by any means. Just scrapping by. My dad worked for the railroad. When we were young (there were 4 of us) he would take on extra jobs for the railroad. We went with him & helped. Learned we had to work for a living at a young age. I think I was 8 when we started walking beans. In the summer (when we were a little older) we would build fence along the railroad tracks. Gave us a little pocket money & spent some good times together. We also learned to drive when we were building fence. Dad had a 4 speed pick-up truck. We would build so much fence then he'd say okay someone go get the truck. We would run down to the truck, he would shout instructions to us & we would drive it down to him. Must have killed that thing a dozen times before we got it down there. That is one of my happiest memories. My dad died when I was @ 13. He was killed by a drunk in a bar. Life kinda started to suck after that. Got a little better when I had the kids, had them young. Thought I would be able to really enjoy life after 40 (kid free), then WHAMMY, freaking CANCER at 44/45. Life SUCKS again. Was dx @ a month before my 45th birthday. (((HUGS))) to ya all. Leisa
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Your input on July 8 re GENTLE LEADER vs muzzle, PatMom, encourages me to share re anxious dogs (yapping, jumping, hiding under the furniture in fear, etc.). Though I do not have any animals (animals really had me :-) anymore, I love animals. In my advance directives I explicitly state when it's my time to go, I definitely welcome pet therapy as a sign of the oneness of everything!
HOWEVER, I truly wish I had stumbled on something called a THUNDERSHIRT before the dear Chihuahua of a friend of mine died this summer. That dog yapped and yapped and yapped before and after I (anyone) entered the house and if anyone walked by outside.
I encourage anyone who is experiencing or wants to alert their friends to a potential solution to help an anxious animal to do a GOOGLE search for thundershirt. Videos at the site and elsewhere show actual on-the-scene benefits of this device which looks similar to one of those winter coats that fasten underneath with Velcroix.
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I dropped by to catch up...but now realize I don't have time because I'm so far behind! I got as far as the dealership and Tripod (so glad she got home in that heat!) ...and saw our friend Elaine stopped by...but alas, now I must skedattle. That's a word right? My grandmother used it all the time so it must be a word!
Hugs ladies...I'll be back to read some more,maybe at lunch time
in the mean time, be cool out there....
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Man, it's hot! And Bitchy!
wishiwere, so glad to see you post after these many moon changes, me too. Sorry for all the suckiness here. Am struggling with recent ct/bone scans, weird results, too small/inaccessible to biopsy, scheduled for pet scan tomorrow. (((ewb))) <-----hugs love sue
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Aw {{{{Sue}}}} dangit all girl...........I hate that I've not kept up with everyone for this reason...support is the one thing we all could count on way back....and I've neglected my very support team b/c of life yet again....so sorry...
Will have you in prayers and good thoughts tomorrow with the PET tomorrow...please know you are all thought of often, even though I don't often get on here or post, I do get updates and most weeks read a great many of them via email
Let us know how it goes tomorrow....thankfully I've never had one and/or had to deal with the stress of the wait for those either...good to hear your wait on it is nearly over, but then....for the next step...waiting for results hey?{{hugs}} hon!
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No apology necessary, "life getting in the way" is a GOOD thing! Thanks for the hugs, glad you're okay.
Did I mention it's hot? Forecast for the rest of the week highs like 108? No rain since forever! I think so far it's 31 days of 100 or higher, 11 more days to go til we break the record. Hope next summer I am living in Georgia!
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Oh, no! Did I kill the bitch thread??
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Did you "kill the bitch"? LOL!!! Crazy!
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No, I meant did I kill the thread! Nobody has posted (well, until you did).
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No, still here also....just more suckage with another realm of life....
How did the PET go? You can't kill a bitch thread hon....to many of us to take down...it's got a life it's own most days
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I still don't have hot water, so this thread is still active until I do, at least!!!
Sue, nice to know you haven't abandoned that old farm house yet.....
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I haven't posted on here in a long time and it took me two days to catch up on all the suckiness. My parents asked me and my son (since we are not working) to paint their garage, they are paying us for doing it with cash (doesn't affect my unemployment
), The only thing is the weather is so hot we have only been able to work anywhere from one to two hours each morning before the temps get so hot we can't stand it. We are usually starting between 8-8:30 and finishing up about 10-10:30. This morning we finished up the priming on the garage, it only took 3 weeks but part of that was cleaning the brush out from the sides of the garage and we will be working on the finish coat next week!to Elaine, I had 2 lumpectomies for pre-cancer (ADH) in the two years prior to my DCIS diagnosis and subsquent bilat mast. I wore a lot of button up tops because it was hard to pull tops on over my head. I woke up after each procedure with a surgical bra on that opened in the front and was instructed to wear good support bras 24/7 for several weeks. I found that front opening sports bras were the easiest thing to wear.
Good news from me, I went to my plastic surgeon's office this week for my annual checkup and he said all is looking good!
Sheila
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I've had a lot of suckiness for the last few weeks. Finally starting to get a little better. My dad (step) passed away on the 20th of July. He's been my dad for @ 30 years. Loved him, sorry he's gone, he's gonna be missed. He had Lung Cancer. Was dx @ 3 months before me. So we were cancer buddies. We thought he was doing better, but took a turn for the worse, and he went fast. Thank God for that. Hope you all have a better day. Leisa
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Sorry for your loss leisaparis. Cancer sucks!
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leisaparis: I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. Fathers are such an important part of our lives and your father sounded wonderful. Please take good care of yourself.
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