Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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mammalou - i am with you on that - i appear to be anything but private but when it comes to helping me, i am very private - don't want meals or visits immediately after the surgery - cards are good - email fine... but i am not really into letting even close friends see me at my worst - i did not even let my husband see my zombie boob until it got a bit better... this forum is my place to let loose... thank heavens for this site.
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Hey, I had to go to Atlanta because my fav. aunt passed away. She was 89 and donated her body to science. Kinda weird, the family won't receive any remains back for 12-18 months, so we had a memorial service and it was very nice. Of course, now I am exhausted, All those people!!!! SO many people, from all the generations came with food or plants or flowers. Even my brother was there and he was nice to me. We didn't really spend any time together but he wasn't mean.
Lodine is an anti-inflammatory. I've been on it for 3 years. Nice. Get the 400 ER. It's generic too.
Barbe, see PMs.
Ruth - Honey, I'm so sorry for your pain. I know it SUX, I do. YAY that you have enough hair to go get it cut!!!!!!!! AND A MASSAGE!!! HOORAY for that. And I'll try not to curse just for you. I got scolded on another thread for language and have been trying to clean it up. Even if it wasn't me, I appreciate the reminder. We can voice our anger and concerns without the f-bomb or other offensive printed language. Have you tried any PT? swim therapy? Yoga? massage is so wonderful, it's like the chocolate covered strawberry of therapies. Wish I could afford it. I think theres a Chiro with a massage room that will take my ins. I need to call them.
I did join Curves cause my ins pays for it under Wellness, which is cool. But hard to keep up.
Kathleen, if you wanna email regarding what you can or can't do on medicare, send me a pm.. I've been on it since Feb. and sometimes its confusing, especially if you aren't 68 years old. Must be horribly confusing for the feeble minded or those that are mind-melded from pain.
Welcome to all the returning and new ladies to this, the most awesomest of places to vent. yeah, I know that's not a real word, but it's not cussin'.
~Connie
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I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but I thought THIS was the thread to BITCH, MOAN & GROAN. When I do those things I CUSS. If I didn't cuss, I wouldn't be bitching. If this is no longer the place to do that, please let me know and I'll go somewhere else. I do try to watch my language in normal conversation, but when I need to bitch, I need to BITCH.
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Barbe - BWAHAHAHAHA!!! I'll be using that one
Connie - I'm sorry about your Aunt, but I'm glad you're home safe and sound!
Wish - how very nice to see you post here, I"m sorry to hear you had surgery - I hope it wasn't too serious and I hope you're mending quickly!
Ruth - any better? Hugs to you...I hope you've got a bit of progress.
Leisaparis - I have no idea if you offended anyone else...but I'm pretty sure most of the regulars believe the bitch thread is where you bitch...so I can't imagine any of us were offended. I don't consider it a cuss word, I consider it a verb
We have beautiful weather today so I'm going to go get my weeding and some planting done today, because I hear it's supposed to be hot and muggy for the holiday weekend - so I'll have to spend it by the pool
(((hugs))) girls...
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Leisaparis ... as usual, I missed the whole thing! I tried going back but couldn't find any "bad" language - of course, like Navy, I consider it a verb. I've tried cleaning up my language when talking but for heavens sake I worked 6 years in a newsroom where the "f" word is an adjective, a verb, a noun and an exclamation of your mood that day
navy ... it is pretty today in the Washington area. I should be out enjoying it but I went to the doctor and then grocery shopping so now I can only fall in bed
The doc prescribed some codine, neuroton and a muscle relaxer and told me I needed physical therapy and to exercise. She told me my joints were horrible and I needed to build up the muscles surrounding them to help support them. Gosh, I just wanted a "magic" pill to alleviate all my pain!
Connie ... so sorry to hear about your aunt.
Barbe ... hahahahaha.
Complaining doesn't do any good but I sure feel better after!
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If I can't say 'bitch' here, then I guess I'm not allowed to say 'fuck'???? What the hell????
The only real cursing to me is when you use someone's name, or God's name...
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Hey, Didn't mean to stir things up regarding cuss words. I think I took a gripe out of context. shit, if we can't curse in f*"#ckn here, where can we. We HAVE to sometimes, just to get the frustration out. No offense intended. Only freedom to say what you feel the need to say.
I have been trying to clean it up for granddaughter. OH.. guess what?? There's another on the way!! and it's a BIG YAY. There's nothing like a baby. Seems like one loss, one gain. And the world keeps turning.
PLEASE VENT HERE. There are so many irritants that attack us, its so useful to vent. rant. release.
Connie
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I need a carrot like that Connie!!! Otherwise, why wake up today...or tomorrow...sigh. Oh wait! Tomorrow I'm going to see everyone at my brother's house for a Canadian July 1st holiday!! Woo hoot
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Thanks gals, I was having a really bad day and thought I wasn't going to be able to vent here anymore. Guess it just hit me wrong. Like I said before I can be a bitch in 1.5 seconds so I need a place I can go and vent. Otherwise I may end up divorced.
Congrats Connie on the upcoming new grand baby.
Going camping & golfing this weekend. Gonna spend time with the grand kids myself. I love those little burgers. All you ladies have a great 4th of July.
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Well, we're celebrating Canada Day today, so we'll be rocking too!
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I just don't get it ...4 more months until I get on Medicare and I'm falling apart! Check this out - my right hand, right shoulder and right knee are in terrible pain - my left leg and left arm are in pain too! I don't have a good arm or a good leg to stand on!!!!!!!!
I just took some prednisone which I will stay on at 40 mg. until this pain is gone - I don't care, I can't live like this. The only thing the Codine does is make me loopy - it doesn't seem to help the pain at all. I don't think I want to be addicted to a painkiller that is not killing the pain!
Anyway, Happy Canada Day to Barbe and all our Canadian sisters and Happy 4th to my fellow (sister?) Americans!
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ Kathleen }}}}}}}}}}}}}} you are not alone, sweetie!
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Hugs, Kathleen. I am on Medicare since January and found that some specialists will not take a new patient who is on Medicare. You have had to have been a patient before you went on Medicare - thanks to Health Insurance reform ........ Lucky for me, I had a top notch endocrinologist before.
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Well, it's 2:30 am and I'm awake again. Ok, maybe a little writing therapy (otherwise known as bitchin') will help. In February I starting thinking (I know, first problem) it was time for a change of pace. I'm currently in a mid-size town and thought I wanted the urban environment again. About 6 months ago I broke a bone in my foot that is still very painful. The neuropathy from chemo and I being diabetic didn't help the situtation. At the end of the day I am in a lot of pain. So between the neuropathy pain in the hands and feet (which the doctor stated will probably get worse as I continue to age (thank you doc)), the lymphadema, excessive sweating and other ills, I started thinking life is too short, maybe early retirement is warranted. However, I don't want to do it in this town. Just to be clear, I don't do a whole bunch, but if I wanted to, there's not much to do here.
What was I thinking!!! I started reading how to financially prepare for retirement and it appears that the two most important things are: make sure your house is paid for and factor in the cost of medical insurance coverage until you are 65 and eligible for Medicare. Well, if I stayed here I owe very little on my house (I think 2 years to go). Unfortunately, I made the move announcement BEFORE I had investigated the cost of living in the "big city". I knew I would have to pay more for a home (I'm basically pretty cheap and fear future cancer treatment could wipe me out, so we're not talking about a mansion), but I didn't understand the impact of property taxes on the monthly mortgage amount. So I wasted time initially looking at houses costing more than I was comfortable with on a future reduced retirement income.
I can't stand the idea of paying $1,000+ per month to rent an apartment that I will never own (and that was a sticker shock in itself considering my mortgage on my 4 bedroom home is only $400!). However, I have been unable to find a suitable home (the retirement forums recommend move close to medical facilities, transportation (for when you can no longer drive), 1 story, no HOA) and within my budget. (Note: My brother says I'm being ridiculus thinking about these things since I'm only 51 and get off the internet. But being single, this might end up being my last home.) Uggh.
Well, too late to back out now. The move is on to a temporary apartment. I am determined to get rid of most of the stuff I've accumulated over the years so have been sorting, throwing away and making numerous trips to the Goodwill. (BTW, can you believe I have check stubs from back in the '80s when I was working a temp job!!!) But time is creeping up on me. I've got 3 weeks to accomplish the following: pack my house up for move, get a broker's price opinion on my house (I think a relative is going to buy it), get carpets cleaned, get management company for rental properties, get rental properties tenants on a lease, clean out my late sister's house and prepare it for lease, locate new apartment in new town, go to podiatris (chemo ruined my feet), get fitted for a new sleeve (lymphodema is bad right now), decide what to do with hair (bald spot), refill Arimidex (dammit), pack up business, get medical records transferred, sell sister's car, get new tires on my car, do something with sister's cats, call plumber, finish taxes, clean out warehouse and prepare for lease, get a will written, call attorney re seller financing land, and the list goes on and on and on. It would be different if I could be called an "organized" person.
And if that is not enough, I'm expecting out of town company for a week prior to the move. If I can keep what little mind I have left until August 5, I just might make it.
Ok, I feel better. Thanks for listening.
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Wow. Taking control make ya feel better? I mean it is an overwhelming set of tasks, but you are not being passive! I hope it feels right. Status quo not good enough here either. Let's get best options in place! You see Folsom getting too old to prepare for inevitable needs and changes. I want to be in the best circumstances while still in control. Let us hear more of your ideas.....k
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I went back and read some previous posts and decided I didn't have it so bad. I was just about to delete mine, but looks like somebody else is awake. Actually, I will admit to being excited about the move. I'm like alot of others on here. There seems to be a different part of my body in pain every day that has to be addressed. It takes alot of effort some days to go to work and actually focus on work. I just don't have the drive anymore. I'm really hoping that once I finish Arimidex I'll be better. No way in hell i'm doing 8 years of this! Only 1 1/2 years to go.
I starting reading this site called city-data.com and people were talking about moving to different locations for retirement and the reasons why. Some were moving because they could no longer afford the taxes on their home and others due to medical reason (i.e. too hot, too cold, no medical facility near, etc.) Reading the posts was a real eyeopener.
It got me to thinking "enough whining about your lot in life, change it!" So onward!
I hate to ask a stupid question but I don't get the "Folsom" reference. Chemo brain. Help me out.
You are right when you say "I want to be in the best circumstances while still in control". One of the pieces of advice some retirees give is to do what you want to now because as we age we might not be able to.
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Hey, at least you've got a list. That's the best way to start anything. I keep a notebook with a little calendar in it, sometimes i note how I feel, other things I keep in there are appts., birthdays, tests and most everything. Makes it SO much easier to find my resources and records. Used to buy the fancy day-timer but not anymore. just a notebook with a calendar.
I've got another mammogram sched. for tomorrow and I do NOT want to go. The last time didn't hurt until the swelling started and lasted for about 10 days. Plus, I don't think my ins. will pay for a second one this year. It's at 11:30 and I don't want to go.
Hope everyone enjoyed the holiday! Happy Independence Day to ALL.
Connie
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So....did you go Connie??? Silly to pay for something you don't even want, isn't it?
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Went in to get my chemotherapy today; my daughter brought my laptop computer and guess what no wifi! It took a long time for my labs to get back before they could start the chemo! I sit there calmly, but I was pissed! All cancer centers should have wifi! That's my rant for today! *&^%$!
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Nope. I completely chickened out and postponed it until the end of the month, so I can make sure I know what I will have to pay for a second one in a year. Ins. said if it is "medically necessary" they pay. Huh? If the docs didn't think it necessary, would they have ordered it?
I'm so UP TO HERE with frustration about insurance. went to pick up my diabetes meds and the price had gone up from $40 a month to $133. OMG That it's a name brand med, First, I'm shocked, then I cry, then I get mad. I found the diabetes med on a mail order website for $45. it's a site from Canada and I'm tempted, but concerned. Need to do more research and call the manufacturer then my doc for help. work, work and more work.
Also, I'm not sleeping right. hummmm... too many things going on in my head? grinding my teeth. wake up more tired than when I laid down. Jeeeeze, getting old SUX.
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Connie, I would order the drugs from Canada...gotta just do it sometimes!
I have to bitch about my neighborhood. I bought my condo 6 yrs ago, lived here 3 yrs, moved out and rented it 2 yrs. I came back when I got the cancer dx to have more support. In the time that I was gone, the HOA board has done nothing to enforce the hoa rules. A number of new people moved in and they were allowed to do as they pleased, so no one is following rules (i.e. dogs playing and pooping in the enclosed pool area). Our rules were written 30 yrs ago when people kinda did as they were supposed to and no consequences were ever outlined, so they've been wringing their hands, saying, 'there's nothing we can do'. An dog that is always unleased and p/p wherever it wants, was in my yard yet again. She always spooks my rescue dogs and I've had blood drawn due to the aggressiveness. She's never out long enough to call animal control and have them arrive to see her out. When I moved back in, I noticed this and went to their home with their stray dog and said your dog was out, being helpful. They yelled at me for being so stupid I couldn't make their dog go home. ??? wtf? Several incindences later, I'm letting the police handle it. They're going to 'talk' to them. Yeah. The screaming match this morning ended with the neighbor yelling, 'I hope you die from Cancer'. oh woo hoo, you really hurt me with that one! As if her 'hopes' have anything to do with it. Made me super nervous to have police here and go thru events. Still rattled! I hope the neighbor doesn't come by my place again to 'let me have it as he did last week. Fortunately the gate is always locked. I hate Orlando. !!!
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Holy crap Ruth!! And I guess you can't sell because 'there went the neighbourhood' when THEY moved in!!!!!!!!!
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Ruth, so sorry. The best thing would be to find out if they are tenants and let the real owner know that police have been called multiple times to handle these people and their "pets". Obviously, they shouldn't have pets, but I;ll bet they have children they shouldn't have as well. We have some unruly neighbors and found out the house is rented. The owner didn't know about the behavior and apparently didn't care until police got involved as well as the neighborhood association. One mess of mexicans was removed, but another less desirable group moved in and I've watched drug deals take place right across the street. At least this one is trying, she's a surgical nurse and has to work but she tries to keep her kids and their friends in line. Sometimes it's a nightmare. I lock my door, turn on the security alarm, and make sure I know where the gun and the bullets are. Would not hesitate to shoot if someone entered my home.
AS IF I'm some vigilante, I'm not, but I know enough to shoot first and ask questions later, if a stranger was inside. Thats what happened to my son, in Colorado. Three armed, masked men broke in to rob and got into a gunfight. those colorado men had no clue they were dealing with GA boys. They are in jail now, and son is working here, but nightmare is putting it mildly. DO NOT let your guard down. And get a securiy system in place BEFORE you get robbed. or worse. OK? Yes, they are in the wrong, but screaming obceneties and hoping you die is bad form and a lousy neighbor who is probably renting and could care less.
That SUCKS. Bet there are other Good neighbors who could gather strength in numbers. You may have to be the one to get it going thru your city counselman-person. Find out. I would.
Connie
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They own! Groan! And I don't know how to curse them out in Spanish!
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I am in an apartment complex with NO Pets in the elevator signs and in the lease. However, since the building is 4 floors tall, many use the elevator with their dogs. I asked one lady to take the next elevator if she felt she could not walk the stairs and she lit into me -- I pay extra to have my dog and I am not going to walk up and down 4 flights of stairs every time my dog wants out.
Well, excuse me, but I did not make her take a 4th floor apartment, or did I? Speaking with the manager is useless because they want the person's name and that is not going to happen. One of the offenders even has a muzzle on the dog, which is a BIG thing and it scares me half to death.
They also have a no smoking sign in the elevator - maybe I should get a stinky cigar and light up when someone with a dog gets on....
I am sorry you have to deal with these rude neighbors. One reason I decided not to buy again after selling my house. At least I am only "stuck" here for the length of the lease. And believe me, there is no perfect place to live, own or rent.
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The big dog may not have a muzzle. It may be a gentle leader or something similar which goes around the snoot rather than around the neck and can look like a muzzle at first glance. It lets someone with less upper body strength maintain good control of a large dog. I used one on our then lab puppy while I recovered after my bmx, and a neighbor who injured her shoulder uses one for her golden retriever.
Lousy neighbors are horrible, and good ones are a blessing. Over the years, we have had both. Right now, we have wonderful neighbors. They can make a real difference in your quality of life.
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"Hey, at least you've got a list." HAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA!!!!
(((((hugs everybody!)))))
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Pat, I'm glad you mentioned that kind of leash. I just saw what I thought was a muzzle on a golden. I was almost in tears!!! Now I feel better thinking it was just a gentle leader. Thank you for mentioning that! Who would have thought an innocuous post like that would make me feel so good about what I saw the other day.....
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Ladies.............I feel so bad for you with all your problems............family, housing, no hot water, and cancer to boot............................I vow today to never complain again............sometimes I feel like I have it bad except for the "no gas" (although last place I had a shower that would go from hot to cold in a nano second in February), but I have a great family, always there for me..................a completely renovated "ranch home" from top to bottom, walls and all (because I downsized from a 4 BR.....2 1/2 bath house.
I guess I find it hard to understand how families can do this to each other......hey my kids fight, talk about each other, and all 6 are not there at the drop of a hat (4 usually are), but its sad to see people being treated so badly.
Isn't cancer bad enough, let alone more trauma to a cancer patient.................I wish you all the best, and promise I will write 1,000 times...................I will complain less, I will complain less....................hugs.
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