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  • bettysgirl
    bettysgirl Member Posts: 645
    edited March 2009

    it has been wearing thin on me all year and while she has been inderstanding about me being out she is still who she is and cannt help her moments. She has a less than happy home life with a hubby that degrades her and I think she is the kind of person who tries to make herself feel better by degrading other people and i don't understand it cause if she knows how bad it feels why do it to others??? She rides high on her work accolades and brags at how well her office runs....but the general public does not know at what cost to her workers!!

  • SingaporeChris
    SingaporeChris Member Posts: 460
    edited March 2009

    Hi Girls,

    Bettysgirls, sounds like work is not a very nice place for you at the moment. Your boss needs a lifecoach! It is such a sham that people like that don't know what they are missing.  She could be having such a nice life, but you cannot change her, the only thing you can do is change how you behave towards her. You need to find a way to destress when you have been near her, like Genia said we really don't need any extra stress in our lives. Get some ping pong balls and throw them around like a mad women (if you have your own office!).

    Genia, good luck with your appointment on Monday, just do what you feel is right. Keep us posted.

    I fell over again in the street yesterday!, didn't really hurt myself though, just twisted my ankle a tiny bit, but it is alright today.  I am not feeling dizzy or anything, but it was wet and I had the same shoes on as last time I fell, so they are now going in the bin!!

    Met up with some of my local friends yesterday for lunch, I got the time wrong and arrived late and then one lady, who is really nice, asked me if I had put on any weight! Not what I wanted to hear as I have lost 8 pounds. Generally had a bad day and burst into tears in the evening. I swear that if I had periods, it would be now.

    I have stayed home today and done some flower arranging to relax.  I suppose every day can't be a good one or there wouldn't be a contrast.

    "My life continues to get easier, all the time.  My life is good!

    Take care girls, and keep us laughing Spring. Singapore Chris x

  • bar62
    bar62 Member Posts: 221
    edited March 2009

    I lost my post 3 times.. I think you should . wack your boss.ASAP!..I  love yu all...I  wrote that 3 times,,, good nite my sweet friends,I 'm stil walking likw a lil ole drunk whcih would be  fine with me if I  had a toot:):)

    love

    Mina 

  • Springtime
    Springtime Member Posts: 3,372
    edited March 2009

    Julie gets the "booby" prize, lolz Jane! Good one!

    Lisa, pooh, toxic work environment...!!! I think we need serenity to live a cancer free life. (a worthy goal, but oh so hard in practice!!!)

    Genia, good to hear you will have the computer, and Jane, good to hear you have the numbers!!! Genia, you suppose they'll tell you if it's one or two before the surgery? Or will you wake up and peek down and have a surprise?? lol. Sort of like giving birth? Boy or Girl? One or two tatas??? I am crazy. Ignore me! but this is so nutty that these docs are arguing over your boobs!!! 

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    Well what more could ya ask for Spring.....two men arguing over ANYTHING on my body......lolol

    Been years since two men have argued over me.....kinda makes me feel downright special!  Cool

  • Springtime
    Springtime Member Posts: 3,372
    edited March 2009

    Genia, you are such a trip!!! LOL!!! Yes, two learned men arguing over your tatas. What a riot!

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    I should just tell them they can each have one and to stop fighting over them......funny thing is.....one of them is GAY.  Maybe he's wanting one for his partner......shhhh.....I shouldn't be talkin like this.  I am NOT homophobic.......just to clarify the previous statement!  lol

  • Springtime
    Springtime Member Posts: 3,372
    edited March 2009

    Well, I was thinking each take one as well!!!, but thought I better not write that, ...but it WOULD give you the outcome you want!! LOL, Genia, we have been on this board together so long we are now having symbiotic thought!!!! 

    How are you feeling physically? You "sound" good....   :)

  • Tanzie
    Tanzie Member Posts: 115
    edited March 2009

    Hey girls!

    Genia-- you do sound good!  I will be out of town and totally out of computer reach too. :/  We are heading to Ark with some friends.  We'll be staying in a cabin in the mountains.  Hopefully, weather permitting, we'll be canoe'n the Upper Buffalo River.  Maybe we won't capsize and freeze!  By the time I get back, your surgery will be over and you'll be back home.  I won't be online, but you'll be in my prayers and thoughts while I'm gone.  Good luck!

    Brandonmom-- My 15 yr old son was a help to me too.  He was so much more nurturing than my DD, who is 13 and in her 'all about me' phase. :p  I know she'll grow out of it, but oy! until she does! lol Hubby wasn't all that shabby as a caretaker either.  It also helped that mom came and stayed with us for the first 3 days after my surgery.

    bettys-- It sounds as if you are working with some certifiable EGRs! (extra grace required)

    Mina-- Isn't it funny how even a year ago things have gone from "Ugh! I'm old..." to "Ha! I'm old!" lol

    Chris-- Falling over again?  You didn't injure yourself did you?  Those shoes definitely needed to go in the bin!  

    Spring--I read on the hair thread that you're going out BallCapCommando today for lunch.  Yay for you!  Don't sweat it, chica.  You'll do great!  And your gf's will love your hair. :)   I've never had so many hair compliments in my life as I'm getting now. lol  

    Donna-- where are you??!

    Juli--Get well soon!

    Much love,

    Lei

  • BrandonMom
    BrandonMom Member Posts: 209
    edited March 2009

    Genia,

     Thought of something else.  I've spoken with some women that had a double, but lymph nodes only removed on one side, and they have said that the one with the lymph nodes was definitely the sore one.  So, my thought being, my single mast with lymph nodes, wouldn't necessarily be "double" for you.  If you are only get lymph nodes on one side, you may still have a somewhat "good arm" even with a double.  Again, your mileage may vary, but I asked almost anyone that had a mast that I met their experience.  After my single, I couldn't imagine how a double would work, because you wouldn't have a "good side".  That's when I discovered, that a lot of women that get a double sleep in a recliner the first few days (getting up without pain is difficult, after you are rolling you are good), and that both sides are not equal in regards to loss of function and pain.  Lymph dissection is apparently what gave me the most pain.  Not that I'm sad.  Glad to have those out of there!  (mine were positive).

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    Bev....thinkin alike can be a dangerous thing....especially when it involves me!!!   lolol

    I'm not as nervous.....cause I know lots of prayers are being thrown up for me.  God's will.....will be done.  Not mine.  He guides the surgeons hands.....so I should be just fine.

    Colleen.....only lymph nodes on one side as far as I know.  I guess he is taking all of them....from what he said.  

    This time next week it will all be over......and I will be sore......but happy!!!

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    Thanks Lei......have lots of fun sweetie.  You deserve it.  Think of me....and how much I would love to be right there with ya.  Sounds like my kind of trip......lol

  • Springtime
    Springtime Member Posts: 3,372
    edited March 2009

    Lei, take us with you! lol  My ball cap commando (no wig) lunch with gf's went just fine. The waitress started talking to me about the G on my cap (that is apparently for green bay!) What do I know here in Raleigh?

    I have a 16 year old DD who is still in the "all about me" phase. I can't wait until we're over that. ugh.

    Genia, I had my nodes done earlier, during the initial "staging" so had just bilateral mast with no armpit thing at same time. I was doing "arms up the wall" within the first week, very gentle ( an exercise to regain your flexibility and range of motion).

    BFN. Spring.

  • SingaporeChris
    SingaporeChris Member Posts: 460
    edited March 2009

    Hi Girls,

    Here is a thought for you all, especially Genia,

    Dear God: 
     
    The lady reading this is beautiful, classy and strong, and I love her. 
     
    Help her live her life to the fullest... 
     
    Please promote her and cause her to excel above her expectations. 
     
    Help her shine in the darkest places where it is impossible to love. 
     
    Protect her at all times, lift her up when she needs you the most, 
     
    and let her know when she walks with you, She will always be safe. 
     
    Love you Girl!!!! 
     
     
    Singapore Chris x

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    Thank you Chris.....I love it!

    Love you too....

  • bar62
    bar62 Member Posts: 221
    edited March 2009

    Evening peeps,

    Please excuse my jumping from subject to subject...But BERNIE MADOFF WENT TO JAILTHIS MORNING...Now the silly part..they're trying to get him out cause he's not a flight risk...hahahahahahahaha...he's not a flight risk like I know I'll have a total Mastectomy with reconstruction, if this tricky old Triple Negative Cancer returns..

    I've been watching the movie "Harvey Milk" crying my heart out. And by the way President Obama, please help us...please listen to us... please make Medical Marijuana legal. I know this movie "Milk" will take my mind off this Cancer nonsense for a while. Sean Penn I love you. I lived through this time until the awful end  of Harvey and Moscone;the movie brought it all back; thank GOD.

    One night when I was at the beginning of my Rheumatoid Arthritis, I went to a movie with one of my dearesr friends, and like an idiot I forgot my pain pills. By the end of the movie, I could barely make it to the truck; I was in agony. My friend offered me some M*r^juana and in 10 seconds my pain was gone. I thought my pain was gone in 30 seconds...but he was watching me...and says it was 10 seconds. My God...the pain left my body immediately. I pray each day that President Obama remembers his dearest mom.

    Another subject jump...please forgive me.

    Treatment of the Rich vs Treatment of the Not so Rich/poor.

    I was asleep on an exam table today...not to receive Taxol just to  chat up my doctor. All of a sudden, someone, I was asleep...came over to me, told me to get up PDQ. Since I was still asleep, I tried and promptly nearly fell to the floor. OH the craziness...the havoc.

    "Don't let her fall, hold onto her, get her a seat NOW!" My doc told me they were over booked and since I was just resting, I had to give my table to the patient receiving chemo. WOW MAN! MY medical assistant whispered to me that the patient taking my room was v.v.v.v. rich. He never acknowledge or looked at me. His wife, by God's good grace. did give me a guilty smile but I was too sleepy to appreciate it, though I smiled back.

    I absolutely know I don't need to be at this office (PARK AVE) but I do love my adorable pregnant doctor.

    Please have a the best weekend possible and know I love you all very much.

    Different strokes, for different folks, but we've got to live together.

    love forever....

    Mina

  • Juli50
    Juli50 Member Posts: 652
    edited March 2009

    I'mmmmmm backkkkkkkk!!!!!! Wow! so many pages to read! It's way past my bedtime, but I'm so happy to be home and catch up with you all!

    Will write more in the morning. Hugs and love to all! Juli Kiss

  • SingaporeChris
    SingaporeChris Member Posts: 460
    edited March 2009

    Hi Juli, so glad to see you are home, what a long time you were gone! we have all been thinking and wishing you well. No doubt you will tell us all about it when you have had some sleep.

    Take care, Singapore Chris x

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    Yaay Juli......good to see you hun!  I've worried so much about you......take care and let  us know how you are feeling.

    love ya

    Genia

  • trudecox
    trudecox Member Posts: 143
    edited March 2009

    Jul, my california girl.....so happy you're home.  The sun has been shining, hope you have a nice weekend to sit outside and just soke up the rays ( so good for the spirit )  Get well fast, but please take it easy, we don't want you to have to leave again.  Missed you so

    Trude

  • theprettiestmess
    theprettiestmess Member Posts: 198
    edited March 2009

    JULI!!!! Hurrah!! It's so GOOD to see you're beautiful face here! You were definitely missed, and definitely prayed for!   DON'T DO THAT AGAIN!! :)

    Mina? Are you feeling ok?

    I hope that everyone here has a blissful Saturday, and if the sun is shining, I hope that you can get out into it or at least sit in a sunny window to enjoy it!

    love you so much, ladies!

    Robin 

  • Tanzie
    Tanzie Member Posts: 115
    edited March 2009

    Welcome back, Juli!! Whoot!  Rest up, girly and take care of yourself!

    Hope the weekend is wonderful for ya all!

    Much love,

    Lei

  • bettysgirl
    bettysgirl Member Posts: 645
    edited March 2009

    WELCOME back juli- I hope you get some good rest in your own bed and that you are soon feeling wonderful again!

    HUGS

    Lisa

  • Juli50
    Juli50 Member Posts: 652
    edited March 2009

    There's no place like home... and my own bed! As for the "booby prize", I think we should bury it - no one here deserves it!

    Genia - surgery on Tuesday! Good luck sweetie, I will send you all the wonderful prayers I got while I was in the hospital.

    Mina, Trude - you have had a rough time too. Where are the cabana boys??

    Jane, Beverly, Donna, Chris, Lei, Lisa, Robin, Colleen - so good to hear from you all! I really wished I had a phone number when I was in the hospital! I laughed when I heard you almost called my neighbor - We have never said more than Hi. LOL. Good thing I remembered my son could access Facebook! I programmed your phone numbers into my cell phone this morning!

    I was really scared when I couldn't breathe the night before I went into ICU. I couldn't even adjust my body in bed without using every ounce of breathe in me. Good thing my mom was with me every day. Laughing

    Remember my fast heartrate? I would set off the alarm when I moved because it would go over 140. I'm on Digoxin to get that under control. Then it was actually so slow (under 60), when I slept that I set off the alarm every time I fell asleep. My blood pressure was too low in my arm so they used my leg instead. They gave me Lasix to try to get rid of fluid, but then I would feel faint (from dehydration?). I'm on prednisone and Levaquin (antibiotic) and potassium. I even had a blood tranfusion while in ICU. I had my oncologist, a pulmonologist, a cardiologist and an infectious disease specialist all trying to fix me... which can be a problem when they disagreed on what tests to run. Final guess... congestive heart failure from Herceptin, pneumonia, and pleural effusion. My effusion factor had dropped from 50 to 35. So I get a month off from Herceptin to see if my heart recovers. In a week I will reschedule my radiation simulation. Plus all the follow-ups with all those doctors.

    I am still having neuropathy in my feet, but haven't had any meds for it in almost 2 weeks. Was kinda wishing since I was off my feet for so long, they would miraculously get better. LOL

    And then there is the diarrhea for the last 10 days from the antiobiotics... "there's no place like home!"

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    WOW Julie girl.....you've been through the wringer!  I kinda felt like it was congestive heart failure with all that fluid you had.  The main thing is.....you are back with us.....and that's one less worry I have now.  Remember.....I am the worrie wart.....always have been....always will be. 

    You rest Juli.....don't try to do too much.  

    love ya girl.......

  • Jane_M
    Jane_M Member Posts: 932
    edited March 2009

    Juli - please tell me you are not going to do any more work for a while?

  • SingaporeChris
    SingaporeChris Member Posts: 460
    edited March 2009

    Wow Juli, you need some rest now, just take it easy and don't think about work, you need all your energy to recover and get your strength back.

    Genia, I am thinking about you and wishing you all the best for surgery.

    Singapore Chris

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    Thanks Chris......sure do appreciate it!

    Hey Jane!

  • Juli50
    Juli50 Member Posts: 652
    edited March 2009

    Jane & Chris - work, what's that? Surprised

    you should see me go up the stairs in my townhouse... you would think it was Mt Everest!

    I need a rubbing alcohol bath to get the sticky stuff off from all the heart monitor pads. Where's my cabana boy? LOL

    Genia - how far away is the hospital where your surgery will be?

  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,055
    edited March 2009

    It's only about 15 mins away Juli. 

    You feelin any better tonight sweetie?

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