Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Welcome Deanie! You just beat me for the longest post, lol. Or we are pretty close with Janice who we haven't seen in a long time, hope she is okay. Great getting to know you! I really feel for you to have to go through all of that and lose your husband too. I live with fear too, not just about BC but I lost my security through my divorce and I sometimes become scared of my future. Working on a business in a tight market, medical bills piling up, etc. Trying to quit smoking with fear is a very hard thing to do. Ride your bike, go for a walk are all great ideas, and when you are sitting in a bad spot, remember that it will go way soon. Maybe a hour or a day, sounds like your higher power is God and that would be a good time to pray. Or write your feelings here. Some say to help others is a great way to get out of your own head for a while, and it does work and you feel better too. So to offering your support here is one great way to reach out and help others. And it will help you quit! Sending you warm thoughts!
Malleme, I hope your chemo goes well. Cutting down is awesome! How much chemo you have left?
Fifish, did you just drunk post, heehee. I hope the Everglades will be okay, you must be close enough to deal with the ashes. Does this happen all the time? We get fires every year because of the lightening storms.
I had a bit of depression yesterday, wasn't sure where it came from but I took a day off of work and watch TV all day. I felt anger and sadness, maybe feelings I didn't allow myself to feel because I was so busy with work. Or maybe just totally burnt. In my head I was bitching at everyone, being a total grump. I know that all the crap I have been through the last year and a half will take time to process and you have your good days and bad days, but yesterday I just wanted to be left alone. Feel better today so maybe I just needed some rest.
Sending all you ladies a positive day!
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2Newboobs, you could eat a lot of donuts, a 36D might be easier to shop for, lol.
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HAPPY MONDAY MORNING
THIS IS DAY ONE W/NO CIGG. I DON'T THINK MY BRAIN WORKS W/O A CIGG BUT HERE GOES. I KNOW MY CAR WON'T RUN. LOL
YES MALLEME I smoked during treatment. rolled my little i.v. outside and puffed away. Not very bright huh.
PANTUFAS I think after being told we have b/c we all have a new personality join us. Add quitting smoking and a whole new gang shows up.
I got a note only 5 post allowed per day. Wow I must have used up all of mine on one post. I am not usually so talky. Have a great day all
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Good luck today, Deanie! You CAN do this!! When you THINK of needing a cig do something you wouldn't usually do. It helped for me to wash things that were covered with smoke (shelves, light fixture). Didn't clean the whole thing at one time, just until the urge would pass. It also helps if you make a list of the POSITIVE things that will happen when you don't smoke: save money, breathe better, smell better, etc. I have little notes I wrote on 2"x2" paper that say "I am a healthy non-smoker" and I stuck them in places around the house, my wallet and my checkbook. It's reinforcement when you come across one. Then again, my best recommendation when it gets tough today is TAKE A VALIUM. If you don't have any, a couple of Benadryl. Then take a nap. Sleeping through the first day or two of withdrawals really is helpful.
You CAN do this, girl, and with the help of all these really GREAT gals on this board, you'll make it!
GIANT (non-smoking) HUG
Jill
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You Can do it Deanie!!! Nervousknitter has some great advice, she is our longest nonsmoker Butt Fondler member. In fact, she named us, lol. You can post as long as you need, let it all out, we are here for you!
Nervousknitter, I love the idea of Benadryl! I am going to use that!!!
Thanks,
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Okay my left leg will not stop jiggeling and I think I am going BLIND. I really want a cigarette NOW!!! I really hate cancer. I don't like that I have to give up something I have enjoyed for so many years so I dont increase my chances of recur or new cancer. I gave up sex and two boobs wasn't that enough? I probably should be on the b__ch and moan thread instead of this one. I actually had a funeral for my ciggs last night as I flushed them down the toilet. Then I cried and felt sorry for myself because of my loss. Wonder if the resentment goes away. Not talking about b/c resentment (handled that well) but lost of cigg resentment
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Hi Deanie, I was resentful for a long time. A full on bitch that my ex would sometimes walk in and walk right back out. It's okay, scream if you need to but try to find things that brings peace in your life. Even mediation is good exercise and mediate on love such as wishing good will to your enemies or for good things for the people in your life. I find that when I do that, I start practicing love in my mind instead of anger and resentments. Ask your God to help you and take deep breaths. I am agnostic on some days or an atheist on other days. Probably shouldn't mentioned that but then some of you mention your beliefs with a God bless, etc. But I do believe in the power of love and support of this group and preserving everyone's self concept!
Hang in there, you can do it!!!
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Deanie--heehee----when you said "I already gave up sex and two boobs, wasn't that enough?" I laughed out loud. Isn't that the truth? I will add that I also gave up my waistline, my auburn hair (which is showing more and more gray....and I am only 41...too young to be THAT gray), my pride (laying boobs out on the radiation table every day for 7 weeks). But now we have to give up our smokes too? Just not right.
Nervousknitter, the Benedryl is a GREAT idea. I am going to buy some tomorrow to prepare for quitting this weekend......ugh.......I will knock myself out for the first week or two.
Hang in there ladies!
Ellie
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Janzin,
Please do not take this wrong.....You are so caring and loving to everyone. I find it hard to believe you could be an athiest. You have too much love and without God there is no love. God is LOVE. Sure we all have doubts (I certainly do and I have been a Christian for over 50 years) and wonder about it all. I just try to have faith. Faith is believing when we cannot see or understand. I keep trying. I think you are wonderful and I so appreciate hearing from you. Actually I get a bang out of hearing from everyone on this site. This has become my second addiction. I do have an addictive personality
so it is no wonder I got hooked on this site. Confession time. I drug some butts out of my car and yep you guessed it. I am still wanting to quit. Later all0 -
deanie, welcome and I wish you well with quitting and I don't want to ruffle any feathers but Pat is about to speak! Kindly lay off Janzin and her beliefs in which as a human being, she is entitled to, as are you. I am a believer and she has graciously put up with me God blessing her and praying for her (and others). She, nor any other of these great ladies have ever called me on it. I don't care if Janzin worships her big toe. All she has ever done was offer the most selfless love and support to me, these other ladies and now you. Take that for the pure gold that it is. Accept it without conditions in the spirit that it was intended. Janzin knows what love is because she is the epitomy of it. I believe I've said enough on that subject.
REKoz, I have been having a great time with Flarbio. She has insisted I take the time to post while she is here because she knows what a tremendous support you ladies have been to me. I have been uneventfully pondering your hell raising suggestion and Flarbio has hit upon a brilliant suggestion. Those inclined meet up at a selected Wally World (preferably with some walking canes, of which I have a surplus from my stroke days) and commandeer their electric shopping carts. We then proceed to run amok, tear a$$ing around the store, barrelling into displays, grabbing things off of the shelves whilst using our canes to to deposit them in our baskets, leaving tire tracks on selected clothing, especially the bargain packs of thongs being careful not to open the packaging! Then we bugger off!!!!!!!!!! Janzin and flfish can ride in the baskets of designated drivers in case they are hung over but in no way incapacitated to spread their own brand if cheer to the thronging hordes. REKoz, you will be our fearless leader! Maybe NervousKnitter and webwriter will bail us out of jail. candie, I'm sure the judge will show lenience because of your injured hand and it's a given 2NewBoobs will win full aquittal because of the pain in her a$$. Of course this is all open to suggestion. Hawaii would be lovely but because I have chemo coming up, I'm afraid I'll burn my head.
2NewBoobs and flfish, I have the opposite problem. I have always looked as though my bottom half belonged to someone else and wish they would come and find it! I have a cunning plan! Why don't I become a doner (I have enough to do a two for one) and you can be recipients of the first ever a$$ transplant! Afterwards we can only marvel at our own splendiforousness!! How exciting!
Nobelanna and malleme, so glad to see you posting along with Illinoislady. You haven't been forgotten. My brain is just taxed at the moment and you deserve something extra special! ( Spare me, they say! )
I do hope all of you have a wonderful night
Nancy, Pat, Susan
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sorry I surely did not mean to criticize. I will leave you all with the best wishes ever. Take care of all of you.
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Pantufas, I will be unable to bail you out of jail as I will be sitting there beside you. I learned to drive one of those lovely carts this weekend. I've had practice. Catch me if you can.
Deanie, I'm sorry I haven't answered your PM yet. I hope you will stay. If there is one thing I have learned about this group, it's that all are welcome regardless. I don't know what was deleted, but I can assure you that we have all had days where we just wanted to bitch, have all said things we wanted to take back, have all had trouble getting the right words out. I haven't seen any grudges here so far, and don't expect to start now.
Everybody, I'm thinking of you and wishing you well. *swallow* Tomorrow is my last butt fondling day! (Along with my first rads appointment, my first dental cleaning since chemo, packing for the GYN trip to B'ham...grrrr!) BUTT! Chantix seems to be working. I'm already down to 1/2 pack a day. Yes. The pun was intended!
Happy thoughts, ya'll! I'm off to bizarre dreamland. But hey, they're kind of interesting! (Can I have the naked people now?)
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deanie, please don't leave us!! My intention was never to hurt you and I'm sorry because I have. You need just as much love and support as the rest of us. I was so happy to see you join in and you are so funny! I am just very protective and we just need to love and support each other because we all have a common enemy and that is bc. Please forgive me for coming on too strong. I should have tried a more gentle approach. I don't rule the roost here so don't leave because of me. No matter who we are or what we believe we have all become sisters because of what we share in common and are bonded in a way that over rides so much. Plus we are trying to quit smoking and we need all the help we can get. We need each other and that means you too!
Sincerely,
Nancy
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And THAT, deanie, is why I love this group so much!
pantufas, you're beautiful. Period.
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I didn't really want to leave, but I surely didn't want to offend anyone either.
None of us need that with everything else we endure. I just need a smoke. Hugs to all and good night. Hope your dreams are interesting webwriter!
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Pantufas, you are a rock star in my book. And I love your idea....the fact that Janzin and I get to ride in the carts because we would be too hung over to drive made me giggle so hard I think I scared my dog!
Webbie--I am with you. This is my last week of smoking. I keep telling myself that I am a "smoking NON smoker" right now and soon to be just a non smoker! Come on ladies, we can do this.
Janzin--I get a Native American, naturalist vibe from you. (I think you were a shaman healer in a previous life...
) You may be agnostic or atheist, but you are more spiritual in your own way than most people I know. The love you show is amazing and your sense of humor and caring has been so helpful to all of us! We all love you and owe you a great deal of gratitude.That being said, please don't leave Deanie. This site is all about support and that we have in abundance!
Get ready ladies, our time to quit is either here or approaching rapidly. Time for my walk. It is suppose to be 90 today and I want to walk before the smokes sets in. Over 25,000 acres burning now
, but that is the beauty of nature, it will all return even more vibrant than before!Best,
Ellie
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Deanie - Welcome to the group...we have such wonderful ladies here!
Pantufus - A full aquittal because of the pain in my a$$....sounds good to me! I am much better now and can actually sit straight instead of leaning to the side....yeah!
Nervousknitter - Thanks for the tips---I'll use those when I do quit smoking!
flfish - Hilton Head was great, does miniature golf count?
Webwriter - I'm glad Chantix is working for you.
Gotta go, my Mom just called and needs help with her computer.
Hope all of you are having a good day.
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Hello Ladies, sorry to stir up all this trouble. I know beliefs are a sticky area and with myself being part of the small 30%, I get this from time to time and I probably shouldn't of said anything. Denver is a huge Christian town along with Evangelical. We do have a couple of Atheist church, never been to one but reserach it online, they practice what I practice, how we could make this a better world now and for the future.
Deanie, I think you are a beautiful person, and I am so happy to have you here with us. We have joined a common cause with dealing with BC and quitting smoking and it doesn't matter what religion we practice, as AA used to say, whatever your higher power is will guide you and we are here together connecting in a beautiful way. With all of our differences, we have also expanded our capacity of love and tolerance too. I once used to practice being a Christian and one day I had this eventful day and I saw the most beautiful sunset, I was so full of myself that I thought it was for me. Now I realize that sunset was for everyone, as we are all special. But please stay, we can continue this journey together, become good friends and we will help support each other and spread love through this thread along with our humor to smile through the tough times. Sending you much love and looking forward to hearing from you!
Fifish, your not the first to say shaman healer, lol. Thanks for your kind words, I care about you too. I find that the things I do for myself is actually really pointless except to me of course but the things I do for others and practicing being a good person lives on as we slowly work on our evolution of human ethics, and we have a looooong way to go. I hope that in the future that everyone can reach self actualization in the Charles Maslow pyramid.
Pantufas, wow, that Pat can really go. But you are right that we need to appreciate each other as humans and not our differences. I look for good intentions in people even though they can be hurtful, as I have been hurtful too, but I always have had good intentions. I am just learning just like everyone else. Love your cart idea, perhaps REKoz could have one of those annoying megaphone and announce clean up on aisle 2 as we destroy it. Fifish and I would be the drunk gun slingers from the movie Cat Ballou. I think if we had to go to jail, it's one for all and all for one. So Nervousknitter and Webbie can push Candie and 2newboobs butt first of course, maybe she can bring up the rear, lol, and then we could continue to go crazy in Jail, they will let us out just to get rid of us. Nobleanne, Malleme and MB will be in there somewhere of course, depending on how they are feeling. Amazing that you picked a job for everyone, how smart you are. Love you wit!
Webbie, happy to hear from you and never knew you hell raiser too. I am down to 1/2 pack or less, on my last pack but scared. Good luck with your rad appointment, can't afford dental till I pay off my hip and BC. You are amazing to keep working it! I wish you luck.
Well Chantix has got me in a weird mood, maybe because I started taking the strong dose right away. I find myself taking a valium before bed time to give my head a break. Crazy week coming up and I don't want to pick a quit day until I know I can give it my all, but don't want to buy anymore cigs.
Sending you all much luck with your BC, quit Smoking, happiness and peace during this crazy time. Well this was a long post!
Hugs,
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I'm still here. Thank you Janzin for your warm words. I am a little bummed today. My marker was up a little and so a cat scan is scheduled for tomorrow. I hate these things. How do I quit smoking when every time I turn around the shoe falls again. My oc seems to think nothing is wrong and this is just to put my mind at ease. What mind I lost it with the first diagnosis and it has been a merrygo round every since. Oh well nothing to do but pray and hope for the best. Sorry about yesterday. The thing with writing is not being able to express a true feeling the way it is meant. I already care about everyone on this thread and look forward to hearing from all of you.You will have to teach me what all the abreviations are though as I am not up on everything. Wish me luck with the scan. Will be at 4:00 Tuesday Afternoon. Yea!!!!!
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Hi Deanie, sorry that you are bummed. I hope all goes well with your scan tomorrow. We will all get there and I have watched some of us struggle and make it! No big deal about yesterday, you are so right that things get lost in transition through writing as we don't have the human contact to emphasis our meanings. I have been a party of that that too.
I have also been bummed, think it is the Chantix. My roommates are getting on my nerves but I keep it to myself as I think it is me and the meds, etc. Let us know what happens with your scan!!
Well got to put in a good work day.
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Janzin - Like you, I believe in the power of love and support of this group. We have such loving, understanding and supportive ladies here....not to mention funny! I love this group! I'm so glad to see new ladies joining in. I hope Chantix works for you....I personally didn't do well on it because of how it made me feel. It's different for everyone.
Deanie - Sorry your bummed. Let us know how your scan goes tomorrow. Thinking of you!
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Ooops, forgot to add Deanie to the cart. So Sorry Deanie, you could lead the front telling people to get their fat ass out of the way, lol.
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Candie - Is it day 11? WOW!!!! That's great! How's your wrist?
Well ladies, I'm in that mode of I want to quit, but I don't.....I love my cigs (damn, I'm sick)! Why do I love something that's bad for my health, makes my teeth yellow, makes me and my house stink and makes people avoid me? I'm the only smoker in my family so I never get asked to babysit...hey, that could be a good thing!
I'm going to cut back on May 4, that will be 2 weeks before my revision.
Thanks for being here!
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Good morning, ladies! Glad to see that everyone is supporting each other and soothing any ruffled feathers. We're doing a good job of getting more people into the group, no matter how many cigs they have or their feelings of higher powers. And that is what Butt Fondlers are all about!!! So I think this calls for a cyber group hug. Now, that said--remember the Mary Tyler Moore show where everyone in the news room hugged, then had to shuffle the group over to a box of Kleenex? I have that picture in my head, but the collective group is shuffling over to a pack of cigs. Candie and I are dragging our butts and trying to hold you all back, of course.
Hope you can get the visual of this yourself. Smile and have a great day!
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Nervousknitter - thanks for the visual and for making me smile!
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BAHAHAHAHA! I LOVED the Mary Tyler Moore show....I wanted to BE her when I grew up!
Deanie--sorry you are bummed. Wishing you the best of luck with your scans.
2newboobs..don't feel bad....I LOVE my cigs too....much more than I really should.
Janzin--what yourself with the Chantix. I really hope it works for you, but I did find depression and terrible headaches to be a problem. Just be sure you keep an eye on it. I know your schedule is busy, but be sure you keep it in check.
Get ready Webbie---we are next!
Ellie
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Just spent an hour posting and lost the dang thing. Hope all of you have a good night with or without your butts.
Nancy
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Hi
Yes, day 11. Wrist is fine..can't wait to get bandages,splint and stitches out. Havent been posting much cause hard to type,tho I seem to be doing better tonight. I have to say I feel I am doing pretty good. A few times a day I get the smoking urge and it seems to pass quickly. 2newboobs says it all in her post 5 hours ago!!
I have to admit this: I was beginning to get out of breath sometimes when going upstairs..not anymore. And sometimes when I walked a long way...not anymore. Wow..can it be getting better so quickly. I have to go see my PCP next week..I sure hope what she heard in my back she doenst hear anymore! I had lost 19 lbs a couple of months ago and now I have gained 2 already..now that I can't do....gotta figure something else out.
Wel, thanks for your support and always being here for me. Couldn't be doing this without you.
Deanie, good luck with your scans. I will try to post more regularly.
hugs and prayers
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ps....I am here for all of you as you begin your journey of quitting smoking!! It isn't easy but you CAN do it!!
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Fearless leader of the Walleyworld caper here. BTW, is there a real place called by that name?
Anyway Nancy- Pat recreated a scenerio I know well from my JR. High days! Not that exact one mind you but my friends and I pulled many of our scenes in the stores. One day it was fake fist fighting in front of the A & P and another pretending we were dead on the bathroom floor at B. Altmans! I am the right person for the fearless leader position. I accept.
Now, I don't have time to "chat right now" but thought I'd check in and tell y'all that the shower Sunday was GREAT! I can honestly say I felt as close to "normal" as I had before chemo. Weirdly enough, my hemoglobin is at an all time low of 8.3 and I hadn't suffered from it. Am now since I had chemo yesterday. Next Monday, my last one!! Keep your fingers crossed and the cigarettes away!
I'll be back
Love to all,
Ellen
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