Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Janzin, I love the idea of buttfondelers.com! I'm IN! Love your new place! I hope you willl be happy there. As far as you being 'self centered', after what you have been thru, I believe you are WAY entitled to some 'me' life!
Michelle, take the job. There's SO much to learn after your dx, as janzin says, you may not need chemo. Mastectomies aren't that difficult ( I say this as I sit here on the eve of mine...smoking as many cigarettes as I can b4 tomorrow.) There are laws regarding illnesses such as cancer and employment. I don't know about the full disclosure thing thio...If you don't tell them you've been dx'd before they hire you, it may make it null & void, but I wouldn't think so. Study up on your rights. Someone here on the board will know or at least know which direction to point you.
And anyway, if you don't have to do chemo, maybe just rads, you shouldn't have to miss too much work. It's really scary after you get dx'd but as you go along and learn more, you'll feel more in control. If you don't take the job, the opportunity will be gone. If you do take it and later have to quit, so be it. At least you tried.
Pantufas,
Ida got rid of my reproductive parts years ago if anyone ever offered it, but I've always been regular as clockwork, fertal as Myrtal and not too many probs. It's an intensly personal decision tho, and well, we all have to go thru meanopause at some point. I wonder if making decisions like that while going thru chemo is a good idea, tho. Sure hope you feel better soon!
I won't be leaving for Hospital til 11:30am, so I'll poke my head in in the morn.
hope you're all having sweet dreams. There'll be little or no sleep for me tonight.
xoxo
Lursa5
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Went cold turkey three weeks ago today!!! Only had to be held down once to keep me from grabbing a cigarette outta someone's hand ...lol Only went outside a few times to shriek I need a smoke! I think the worst is over .....
Stay strong ... you can do it!
All the best, Blu
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Janzin, the website is a GREAT idea. Please check if buttfondlers.com is taken. I think we should charge $10 to join. That way if we get more people, we can use that money for hosting a party for the orginial members to meet.....heehee....see, anything for a party right? I have plenty of time, so anything I can do to help you, just let me know. You can email me at efischer123@embarqmail.com if you would like (cell number is 920-609-5120). The lake is beautiful, I am sure you will enjoy the serenity there often. Congratulations.
O2bhealthy, good luck with your bc decision. You are right, limbo land is no fun. My advice on the job is I would be honest up front. That is just me. I think they would only appreciate your honesty and you would find out quickly if they are willing to work with your while going through treatment, if they don't embrace that, then you don't want to work there anyway. Just my thoughts, take them of leave them.
Off for my walk (I wish I had a lake to walk around like Janzin...sniff, sniff).
Hugs,
Ellie
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Janzin your apartment looks great and I love the bike trails CO is just beautiful anytime of years.
Love the web site idea --
o2healthy- Your don't need to tell the employer until you actually speak with your BS and know exactly what your dealing with and the treatment plan. I have not been working and somedays wish I could work. I have had BIl Mast/with immediate reconstruction than they threw in chemo after the pathology reports came back from the Mast surgery. So I thought I had a plan and weeks later it completely changed to stop everything and 18 weeks of chemo. I am continuing to get fills when my blood count is ok but Tissue Expanders are painful dooable but painful.
The job is a desk job right csr insurance agent type answering phones and forms. Get the job first, find out what your treatment plan is than let work know. AT this point you really done know what the real treatment plan will end up being until after the surgery and the cancer has a grade etc. Best of luck to you we all here.
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Hi Ladies, it is getting hot here in Denver. Hate the summers because it is too hot. Didn't sleep well last night, had the air fully cranked up but not sure if it's me and the menopause or what. I will go try that soybean supplement to help with the hot flashes as I am not allowed any other pills for menopause.
Glad you all like the website idea! I won't have time to work on it till July 1st but we can plan for it as websites require some thought. I have checked and both names are available. "BCButtFondlers.com" and "ButtFondlers.com" . Sounds sexy huh, lol. But we are a sexy bunch! There will be an area where you can update your profile, have a gallery to share pictures of you loved ones, or dead pics, lol. I can also add a blog where you can post tips about smoking and BC, etc. Well pick a name and I will grab it.
o2bhealthy. I think a desk job is very doable. Besides, if you go for the job, it might be a perfect fit for all of you and they may want to work with you. I find that finding staff that works well is not always easy, and you may both not like working with each other so who know unless you try. Looking forward to your tips for the website. I know when I first starting posting I was scared just like you , my Dr had me all freaked out, so that would be great for newbie's and also the rest of us too.
Lursa5, I have to tell you that your avatar is freaking me out, lol. I keep trying to picture you but I see you as an alien with big boobs, lol. Who is that in your avatar? I love Sci-Fi but I can't remember that figure. How long is this menopause suppose to last? The hot flashes are driving me nuts!! Good luck with your surgery, will be sending you positive thoughts and hope you feel good soon. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Blulze, welcome!!! 3 weeks is awesome! And cold turkey, wow! We could use someone like you. Thanks for the post! If you have an urge, don't forget to call on us for support.
Fifish, glad you like the website idea. A party would be awesome! Thanks for the help, I could use it. You have any website or Photoshop skills? I want to make this about all of us, we can decide on the look and feel, what we want to add to our profiles such as hobbies, diag, etc. We could make this really peaceful looking site and then surprise them with our wackiness. Or we could start off with Welcome to the Butt Fondlers and use Pantufas dead pic since she has her butt up on the stairs, lol. I can also add a search feature depending on the fields we want to search by.
Malleme, sooooooo happy to hear from you. Been a while! CO is beautiful year round, looking forward to snow shoeing around that lake. How are you doing and where are you in your recovery?
The rest of you I am looking forward to hearing your ideas and wit or even your jokes. Time to go sweat, ugghh!
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My Avitar is Lursa of the House of Duras...Klingon. It's a Star Trek Next Generation thang. I took on the 'persona' during my divorce...it was HORRID! I'd been a victom for 9 years and the divorce was as bad as the 9 years of marriage! Decided I didn't want to be a victom anymore, so Lursa I became...lol
5 cigarettes left!
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Hello: I have been lurking on this thread for a while and have not stopped smoking ---- yet. My question for today, what do you use to get the smoky smell out of the house? I have cut down and can smell the lingering odor when I come back after being out for a while. Any suggestions on an air cleaner, cleaning products to use or anything else. I put a couple of fabric softener sheets under my 10 year old car's front seat and that helped.
Good luck to everyone and hugs and blessings, Nancy
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Wow Lursa, sorry you had to go through that. I admire your strength! I thought it was Star Trek, haven't watch the new generation yet. That is so awesome that you choose that avatar, now it has meaning to me too. So let out Lursa with your 5 cigs!
Good luck,
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Thanks Janet ...... nict to meetchya!
Nancy... first thing to do is stop smoking in the house and in the car! Make it a little more difficult to indulge. Try Fabreeze in the car, and on draperies, upholstry etc. Oxy Vim on washable surfaces, or if you don't like chemicals, plain old fashioned vinegar and water.
Lursa, I'm a Trekkie from waaaaayyy back...lol Good for you, I'm so glad you're taking back your power!
Blu
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Thanks Blu. I had forgotten about vinegar to wash with. Yes, stop smoking in the car and apartment -- doing good on that part, but it is still smoking...
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HI Janzin and everyone else. A lot of newbies welcome.
@. Expecting to jump back in dinner and my regualr routine. He didn't want me to go thru chemo in the 1st place. I have 2 more Jun 2 and 23rd. I asked the Onoco when I would have test to see if I clear of cancer. My insurance won't pay for a Pet scan unless I have symptoms ????
They will do an ectochgram to check to the heart for herceptin. but I keep thinking what if I don't fully quit is the herceptin less effective too. Please I am really going on a huge guilt trip.
I need to be able to control something in my life.
malle
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Wow! So much has been going on since I last got on this thread. Good to see some new faces....Welcome everyone!
Nancy, I wiped down the walls in my house with pinesol. I sprayed my curtains, carpet and cloth furniture with citrus febreeze. I also ended up using Arm & Hammer Odor Eliminater powder in a box for smoke smell....I sprinkled it on all carpet, let it sit on carpet for a couple of hours then vacuumed. I opened all windows, turned on all fans to air out house. It really works! I need to do it again because I've been smoking in the house. Damn!
Blu - Congrats on 3 whole weeks! Cold turkey? Awesome!
I haven't been around much lately...have had a lot of crap going on about my boobs that has had me feeling down. Bottom line, I used to be an "A", now I'm a 32D and these things have been killing me. They're way too big and too heavy for my frame, I'm 5'4 and weight 105lbs. Saw my PS yesterday, he has FINALLY agreed to make me smaller so I'm hoping insurance approves the surgery. Keeping my fingers crossed!
I'm still smoking like crazy, but hey, I still haven't smoked in my car!
Hope everyones having a good day!
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Hello everyone!!!
Janzin love your new pad!!! I live on the water too and it its really peaceful. Unlees the damn seagulls are fighting over something! LOL!!!!! I also love your idea for a website!!! But as you can see I have NO computer skills cause I am still a blank picture, I am working on it. But if their is anything I can do I will definatly help!!!! Good-Luck with hotflashes!!!!!
Malleme- Don't feel bad although my hubby had sympathy I still had to do everything in the house!!! I love him dearly but between him and my 2 kids I thought I would loose it. I just was to sick to yell! LOL!! I am getting after them now let me tell ya!!! Hang in there with the good old TE it will get better!!! I promise!!!!!
Flfish- I am on Tomixfen also and I went to the Onc. and told her what my thoughts are about my overies and if I was 100% I want them OUT!!! And I was she also gave me a nice shot in the A$$ that was huge called Lupron which has shut me down. I really have had no SE yet its been since April, I sweat more when drinking coffee or something stiffer or if I am moving around alot. I am going to have a full Hysterectomy in the winter. I have to have a Diep first.
That is my next news I have scheduled my Diep surgery for Nov. And now I am committed to quit!! I would be so embarassed to cancel cause I am still smoking. Here we go!!!!!
To all the other question's- I smoked through chemo,rads,herceptin,surgeries. I am really bad!!! I think if your only smoking one cigg. Thats awsome!!!
2NewBoobs- I don't blame you for wanting smaller ones, you can always fight with its going to trash my back1 Which it will if they are to heavy for you!!!!
Otobehealthy- I am with Flfish on this one. Be upfrount and tell them you are not sure yet of what treatment plan you will have cause it can really differ!!!!
Blu-3 weeks are AWSOME!!!!
Lursa- Wishing you the best today!!!!! Write when you can to let us know your doing okay.
Lefty- I smoke in my car and boy I can smell it when I get in it. I will have to stop and follow everyones tips to get the smell out. Maybe I will just get a new car! I wish!
And to all else old and new and I am sorry if I missed anyone but know that the supports there!!
HUGS-Bridget
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o2b healthy, I also worked for health ins company as a case manager. The job is not taxing, physically. I want to caution you about your dilemma.
I had a friend who was a nurse and she got very ill during the 3 month probation period. They let her go. I suggest you google "breast cancer laws" (or something similar) to see if there is any "protection" job wise IF you need treatment. I don't think you have to disclose your diagnosis at all, but am wondering how you will make out if you are absent during a probationary period. I don't mean to be a downer, this is quite a dilemma for you I am sure. Wonder if your doctor can help out with advise.
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Wow! I lock myself out of the house and two new fondler's are here. Welcome!
I owe everyone an apology for ranting about the word "doable." I guess I'm just too sensitive about that. I had one dear friend who survived numerous bc surgeries, and rads only to die from chemo. Another dear friend who was my singing partner at our son's little league games (we sang the National Anthem) fought such a heroic fight with bc but sadly lost. She had two young sons. I told you of my dear friend Linda who beat ovarian cancer only to be taken by a massive heart attack. Two other dear friends from my legal days both lost their battles with cancer. And I lost my precious MIL to cancer 5 years ago. My beloved nana died from vaginal cancer when I was 24.
I hate cancer in any way shape or form. The thought of it makes my heart ache for the one's I've lost to it. Bless those for whom the treatment for cancer was doable. I don't by any means take anything away from you. But I can scarcely bear the loss of my loved ones for whom the treatment was not. Forgive me if I have upset anyone. I'll have to go for a little bit to pull myself together. I love you all and absolutely refuse to lose any of you.
Nancy
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Okay, I am finally chilling with a glass of wine ( or two
) getting ready for another move day tomorrow and I know what to expect out of my cancer boob. I am stress, bored and lonely. But I have the fondlers
Welcome LeftAknan! Great bunch here, I just love them! Use all the tips here and the smell should oxide eventually. It took me 2- 3 months to get rid of my mom smoky smell, but I wasn't smoking then so my sense of smell was stronger. I wash the the walls, carpet, etc. Maybe I should of used some of the tips here, lol.
Blulze, nice to meet ya too! We will do this together, the more the merrier as everyone has great support whether you haven't smoke for a year or just starting to quit!
Malleme, sorry to hear that you been having a rough time. I have missed you but understand sometimes you can only read. Sounds like you have had a rough time with your TE. I know that it is painful, and a big pain in the A$$! Your DH has no idea what you are going through, most people treat this like it's a broken arm but we all know better. Hang in there in fight for your right!!! I know I sound a bit rebellious, guess it's just some of the bullshit coming out.
2NewBooobs, so glad to hear from you! Was wondering how you were doing! D's are a bit heavier to deal with. I used to use two sports bras just to go jogging and horse back riding, Ouchy. I am 5' 7" so D's aren't too bad on me but they take their toll. I went for a smaller D this time around. If I want to wow them I just used a padded bra. But since I only have one raisen, guess I am not much of a wow. Don't know how to turn off my left headlight, lol.
Oh my God Nobleanna, a blast from the past. Love to hear from you!!!! You are awesome and I would love any suggestion to our ButtFondler website. I feel great about this as most days I spend my time thinking about myself and trying to keep my head above water. My hot flashes are horrible! I thought my place was too hot, had a neighbor tell me it is fine. And I just told the mangers at the apartment to check into it. Well no worries there, it doesn't hurt to ask. Good luck with your surgery for November.!!!
Sue-61 Welcome back again!! O2behealthy has a lot to think about! Great that you step up to aid in her decision! So much to consider between what is right and wrong. I have been a great employee so I have had companies who have tried to work with me. It's a tough decision to decide your fate as you don't know the turn outs. Thanks for posting your opinions as it may help Laursa decide what to do. I have found some of the companies that collect money for health insurance to have great advice.
Laursa5, good luck with your decision! I know it must be hard so I am sending you positive vibes!!
Pantufas, you did not need to delete your posting! We are all on the same page in some form or another. We are all stress out, medicated, etc. I took no offense to your posting and I hope that no one takes offense to my postings! I think your are beautiful inside and out, all of you! And I mean the best to all of you. Not only are your beautiful, but beautiful inside. I just adore you! Just want to squeeze to you to death!
Will I may not be able to post tomorrow so this is a long one. Got to move some of the rest of my things and not looking forward to the clutter and down sizing.
Best to all!
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Hi Ladies,
Sorry for the meltdown. After looking in the mirror these past few days and seeing Susan,it finally hit me that I've got bc. I can cover up the scars but it's hard to look in the mirror and see someone you don't recognize. Ive got bald patches and blue patches and now I'm picking follicles out of my head. I've tried to be strong for my family because I don't want them to know how I am really suffering. Some how I don't think I'm fooling Flarbio though. There were three calls from her on the machine after my ds came to let me back in (I locked myself out). I've been crying for everyone else and not for myself. I needed to do that and boy, did I!
Thank you Janzin for lifting my spirits. I can't tell you how your words have given me strength when I really needed it. I'll hold you to that hug if we ever get a chance to meet. Flarbio wants to help with your idea. She got her first pc when she was three and there's not a whole lot that she doesn't know. Just let me know when you're ready and I'll patch you in to her.
I like flfish's idea about $10.00 dues. I'll gladly pay it but I don't think I'm one of the originals. You guys can just drink some Bacardi in my honor. Heck, if I got to go I'd drink it myself and damn the torpedoes.
Welcome to the newbies. I'm too frazzled right now to remember names but I'll do you justice in another post. Great to hear from you veterans too. After thinking on it,o2bhealthy, I think flfish is right about honesty being the best policy (worked for crooked lawyers too long. lol) I just didn't want you to be discriminated against. Things have come a long way since I was in that field, however, give some credence to what the other gals have said as you don't exactly know what you are looking at in terms of treatment yet. I'm sorry your dx is worse than I knew.
malleme, I'm really sorry your dh is an acting like an a@@. I was married to a few (few!!) myself. In fact, I named them. Fathead, Shi#head, Di%khead, and Towelhead. I hope yours decides to wake up and live! I will be thinking of you.
May tomorrow bring a better day for all of us. Now back to my follicles!
Love, and I mean it!
Nancy
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My God Nancy- you make me laugh till I cry! You are TOO funny! Me thinkst Depends would be in order if we ever got together! If nothing else, your sense of humor will get you through this as I imagine it has in the past. Not many of us can claim all those ****Heads as ex's! GIRL...Did you not learn? It only took the end of a twenty five year marriage for me to know that matrimony is OUT for me. I have my kids and am very, very happy with my DSO but I refuse to stand at the alter again! The only way I don't feel married is the knowledge that my future is not legally (aka FINANCIALLY) bound to screw me once more if God forbid something goes wrong! I'll take my ex's SS thank you very much! It's bound to be more then mine when that time comes! Of course, he became FILTHY rich when we divorced and he moved to China. And of course, we settled everything before he left on his much less earnings. And of course he now has a young Chinese bride one year older then our oldest getting the benefit of all that $$$ I HATE getting screwed!!
Anyway, I have an appointment with my Onc. to get the dreaded anti hormones today. I am so praying I am not one to get the nasty side effects of taking all my estrogen. Had JUST gone into menopause when diagnosed and wasn't enjoying it too much. Effexor has done a great job with the hot flashes...nothing helping the lack of libido and those female se's that chemo has caused. Apparently these AL's will insure that all goes into the toilet forever! And then there's my surgery on the 27th. Don't ask if I quit smoking or I will have to blame you all for not encouraging me enough! It surely can't be my fault!! Shit, I deserve what I get at this point!
Janzin- love your new pad. How far are you from Durango?
Loving you all!
Ellen
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Hey REKoz, nah I never learn anything. When Flarbio was 11 she asked why I married so many times and I told her I had to kiss a few frogs before I could find a prince. She answered that she thought all I had been doing was kissing their a@@es! The kid's smarter than I am. I have to tell you this story. When I got wind her and my second son's dad (sh#thead) was romancing a stone on Saturday nights at the now defunct Nashville Club, I decided to pay a visit to catch him in the act. Flarb was only 2 and IZ 16 so I got him to watch the kids that night. I corralled my middle son's best friend's mother to be my partner in crime. I decided we had to disguise ourselves and I knew sh#thead wouldn't be wearing his glasses while trying to smarm the women. My natural hair is nearly black so I bleached it platinum. I was only a size 8 back then but I spray on my tightest jean and put on this cream satin blouse and looked sleezy as hell. I put on enough make up to drown a fish and teased my hair to where it looked like I had a gazing ball on top of my head. I looked like Dolly Parton sans mega boobs. Oh, I forgot my trashy jewelry and stilettos! My friend could have passed for a boy so she wears jeans, clodhoppers, and a flannel shirt. She ties her hair back, puts on a ball cap and her husband's nerdy black rimmed glasses, but they don't have any lenses. So we drive 30 miles to Asheville and get nervous so we decide we need a stiffener and go to T.K. Tripps which was just across from the law office where I work. So here's all these shirts and skirts and I'm thankful no one recognizes me. We order doubles and slowly get our nerve up. We then drive another 10 miles to the dive. This place was half the size of a football field. The bouncer was a big redhead whom I would have put her up against any drunken man. She eyeballs us sceptically and lets us in. We go to the back to get a better view and order a Bartle and James that we sip on for 2 hours. We finally decide he's not going to show. As we are going out the front door, it suddenly opens and I blunder smack dab into sh#thead's chest. The fool doesn't have his glasses on and tries to pick me up until he hears my distinctive laughter. Then he rears back to look at me and says. "What the hell damn color is that?" (looking at my hair) Df and I are laughing so hard we can't talk and make our way to the car because the jig is up. I pull out of the parking lot still howling and try to light a cigarette which causes me to weave a little bit and sure enough, here comes a blue light. I pull over and the blooper snooper and gives me a sobriety test. I am mortified because I can't walk a straight line in normal circumstances much less wearing stilettos. Df gets out to help and he orders her back into the car. She's wondering if he'll take a check and all I can think about is THE BABY! By now he has me in the patrol car and asks for my license. Of course I look nothing like my staid photo! He calls in back up to bring an instant Breathalyzer. So now we have two blue lights and the other trooper passes it through the window. My trooper says. "Now Mz Wells, take a nice long hard blow." I look at him aghast and say. "Officer, I'm not that kind of girl!" Needless to say he gets PO'd and tells me to JUST BLOW. Which I did. He's twiddling the buttons over and over because it's been 5 hours since my first drink and I didn't even finish the Bartles and James so I'm no where near over the limit. He has to let me go. I had df light my cigs all of the way home. The moral of this story is. Don't smoke and drive!
Why do these a@@holesget filthy rich after we divorce them? I did get my revenge the other night when IZ told me sh#thead got a DUI while driving his new Mercedes sports car. REKoz, I hope your ex learns the secret of firecrackers in China and blows his a@@ off. You would get his SS sooner! I pray you don't get any nasty se's. Given my history, a lack of libido was the best thing that ever happened to me. I stand chastised. No, I did not encourage you enough. But you certainly are not getting what you deserve. You deserve health, peace and happiness. If you see any men that have unusual heads, RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!!!!
Gotta luv ya!
Nancy
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Hello Ladies!!
Lursa5: Loved Next Gen...my girlfriend named her twin daughters Kira and Jadzia (she was a true blue treky fan). You picked a great persona cause Lursa kicked a@@! You are in my prayers this morning for a smooth procedure and easy/speedy recovery.
BluIze: Wow! Congrats on going cold turkey. I am not sure I could do this without the gum...welcome...
flfish: I totally agree - it keep thinking how can I ask for respect and consideration when I am dealing with tx's if I don't show them the same by letting them know what I could be facing. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
malleme: I can't even imagine what difficulties you are going through right now with the chemo and TE's but please don't be disappointed in yourself - 1 cig a day is a TERRIFIC accomplishment!
Janzin: Thanks for the feedback on the job. I'll start putting together tips from my stop smoking group to send to you for the site. Here's one I got at last nights meeting:
One of the women in my group bought those little bottles of bubbles you get at weddings and anytime she craves a cig, she takes out her bottle of bubbles and blows. She says she gets the same inhale/exhale sensation as smoking and while she focuses watching/counting/catching the bubbles it takes her mind off wanting a cig.
I wish I had a tip to help with hot flashes too...
2NewBoobs - nice to meet you - wow A to D - that would be an adjustment. I am glad your PS has agreed to the decrease and I am sending positive thoughts out there that the insurance will cover everything.
nobleanna00... I am so glad to hear you are not having SE with the tomixfen. Diep surgery in Nov - that's terrific motivation to kick the habit.
Sue-61: I am so sorry to hear about your friends' situation during the probationary period. It is a bit of a quagmire isn't it. Everyone has offered such great advice and input and I am so grateful. So much depends on the big ‘IF' - IF I need adjuvant tx, if so what kind of tx for how long. I am definitely going to ask my BS for her input at my consult next week.
pantufas - I agree with Janzin and REKoz- I have only been on this site a few days but your inner beauty and sense of humor shines through with every post your write...EVEN when you are feeling down. It's ok to be strong for your family - AND it is also ok to just let it all go and have a pity party too. I am so glad you took time for yourself and had a big cry! I just loved your story about getting pulled over while lighting your cig...it's happened to me as well but the prelude for my incident was no where near as funny as yours.
Hugs to Everyone!!!
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OH MY GOD PANTUFAS YOU NEED TO STOP WRITING THESE STORIES OR I AM GOING TO HAVE TO INVEST IN DEPENDS!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You made my night and now will go to bed chuckling about you!!!!
HUGS-Bridget
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Nancy, I want to party with you, you crack me up.
O2bhealthy, I love the idea of blowing bubbles. A great joy from childhood that I just might have to try. My neighbors are going to think I went from cigarettes to doing drugs when I start blowing bubbles and spinning around in the backyard! I love it, I can't wait to try it!
Ladies, any big plans for Memorial Day? Not too much here. We are having a big bbq on Sunday and I got a GREAT recipes for Sangria. So, I will make a quadruple batch in a big old cooler and serve it all weekend long. I hope the sun comes back out. It has been cloudy and rainy since Monday.....UGH.....I feel like I am back living up north in the Midwest (no offense to anyone living there, but it is so "grey" all the time).
Since you guys like my drink ideas, here is my sangria recipe!
1.5 liter of Livingston cellars red rose ( I'm sure any rose will do )
1/3 to 1/2 bottle of Triple sec
1/2 bottle of 100% cranberry juice
1/2 to 1 cup orange flavored brandy
Splash or two of peach schnapps
2 or 3 cinnamon sticks
Orange, lime and lemon slices thrown in, it tastes better if it refrigerates for a night or two before serving
Trust me, you will like this recipe. I just keep the asprin handy as the wine tends to give me a headache.
Have fun ladies and don't forget to smile!
Ellie
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Hello Ladies. Did another move yesterday. Grab some 21 years olds from down stairs and I actually out did them. 3 flights of stairs I was huffing and puffing and we all smoke, felt like I climb one of the 14ners hikes here in Denver. Boobs are fine this time.
Pantufas, we have to hook up! In fact all of us should hook up one day as we are one great group! Your story cracked me up! And I love your stories, keep them coming. I think we all have meltdowns. When I took my before and after pic I cried. I miss my old saggy boobs. My melt downs are BC, divorce, and business stress. I am a bit lonely sometimes and have a hard time sitting in my head so I tend to work a lot or watch TV if I am tired but yesterday after the move, I was exhausted but too much energy to watch TV and that when things may hit me. I think you are beautiful and I heard your hair will grow back in thicker and nicer. You have spirit that inspires us and helps us during our meltdowns too.
o2behealthy, love your idea. We should have an area of tips as when we post tips, it gets lost in the past postings. You can email me those tips at janetzingano@comcast.net. I will start saving all of your ideas to start on this project in July. Glad to have you aboard!
REKoz, I am with you on the marriage thing. Not sure if I want to even live with another man, lol. It's great that you have wonderful kids out of your marriage, I have my cat, lol. Sorry to hear that you got screwed in the money department. I did too in a way and a bit scared for the future. Good luck with you anti hormones and your side effects. I sleep with a fan on me now to deal with the hot flashes. I bought a boyfriend for $120 but have no libido either, lol. Your quit day will come to you, just stick around and we will all get there! Durango is about 6 hours south from me. You coming into town? Got to hook up!!
Fifish, thanks for your recipe. I love Sangria. A BC Butt Fondler BBQ party is definitely in the future, we would have a blast! I thought Florida was sunny most of the time, you can move to Denver, over 300 and something days of sunshine. We got to save your recipes for our website! No big plans for memorial except for work and unpacking boxes. Might get out tomorrow night for Up The Creek Friday Happy hour, a good place to meet new people.
Nobleanna, so happy that Pantufas put a smile on your face. Great seeing you around! Hope you doing well.
The rest of you, you are in my thought, I am a bit brain dead even without chemo with all that is on my plate. Hard to keep up with everything. Wishing you all well and looking forward to hearing from you.
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Janzin, I am glad you are all moved in. Yup, we need to start saving some of this stuff for our BC buttfondlers web page. I too thought that domain name might be taken by some perv. People are going to think WE are the perverts....even better!
Try the sangria, it is one of the better recipes that I have come across. Yes, I miss my sunshine. It IS usually sunny, that is why I am so antsy. We are called the "sunshine state" for a reason, but some dumb tropical front came over us this week. The sun just came out again this morning....aaaaaaaahhhhhh, back to normal. The up the creek happy hour sounds like fun, enjoy!
Don't rule out all men ladies, although I can understand why you might want to. I thought I would NEVER get married again, and I made my dh wait 8 years before I agreed. On our 2nd wedding anniversary, I found out I had cancer. My goodness, I am so blessed that I had him as a hubby. Never say never, it just may happen again. (But screw the losers that we had in our past, right?)
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Lol, I thought the pervs would have that name too. But both are available, BCButtFondlers or ButtFondlers. I kinda like BCButtFondlers myself for woemn with cancer who are trying to quit.
He's got to be pretty special before I share my remote control again, lol.
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Godd Morning Ladies!
BCButtfondelers is the best name, I think.
I'm home! Got home @ 2pm yesterday afty.
I judt woke up a few minuets ago.
I didn't sleep a WINK the night before surgery and the kept at me in the hospital every HOUR for vitals the next night (B/P was being stubborn about coming down). I was huting pretty bad by the time I got home. It took awhile to get ahead of the pain. I dozed for a bit, DH made me dinner and I was OUT! Just barely remember DD coming in to say goodnight.
I had no troubles with smoking til I got home. I did fine til this morning. Wound uop having 1 with my firdt cup of coffee. WHEW! What a buzz! It's been 23 years since I've gone (nearly) 48 hours w/o a cigarette! One was MORE than enough. DH got miffed with me but couldn't say much as he smoked last night...lol. I'm not going to smoke again today...or at least not for the next hour. Those patches are to blasted expensive to take off every time I get the urge to light up!
Pantfus, you did it again. Made me laugh so hard it woke up DH and I had to take a pain pill cause I laughed so hard it made my booblessness hurt! (hugs)
I want to type more but am worn out. I will post again after a nap.
Thank you for all your well wishes. The folks in Hospital were great to me and I know your energy and prayer help LOTS!
xoxo!
Lursa5
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edited to add...bet you all can't tell from the typo's I caught a buzz off that smoke! lol. Too tired to fix them now.
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NO, NO flfish! You don't screw the old ones, you screw the new ones. Ah, these young wenches, gonna have to teach them a thing or two. Nobleanna, I'm so happy you got a good laugh! Keep us posted about your upcoming surgery. We will all be here for you. Do they make depends for fat a@@ed women? I don't know if they come big enough to cover my acreage. I will have to ask REKoz. Not that she has a fat s@@ but she may be knowledgeable about the depends. Hey REKoz! how are you? Your surgery is the day after my second chemo. We will be with you too! I wish I could visit you and Nobleanna in the hospital but they would probably throw me out!
Lursa5, just remembered your surgery. How are you doing? Love Star Trek too. I kept wondering why your name sounded familiar. What is it with these stinking men! I am with flfish, you and Janzin should never say never. After my fourth I decided that I never wanted anything to do with those creatures with dangling appendages. I was perfectly happy to be on my own. Then I met my sweet dh. Now I know what marriage is supposed to be. (Are you listening REKoz?)
o2bhealty, you are such a sweety. Keep us informed on how things are going with you as well. You are giving us wonderful tips! Even if Janzin's neighbors will think she's on crack. Thanks for the cleaning tips Lefty, Sue, and Blu. I like to use lemon juice in water and for those who have the smell in their car problems, leave a bowl of ammonia in it overnight. It absorbs the smell. That is, after you wash everything down with the lemon juice and water.
I'm sorry you are in so much pain nobleanna. Hope you downsize works and you heal really fast. Glad I was able to put a smile on your face.
malleme, keep hanging in there! I am so proud of you for only smoking one cig a day. Susan is smoking like a freight train. I think Pat's going to have to kick her a@@! I have so much respect for you ladies who have done and are doing TE's. I can't imagine the pain! Good luck on your future chemo's. How are you doing there?
flfish,would love to pary with you and REKoz, and Janzin! You could supervise while Janzin and I wrap some trees and call it art. Your sangria recipe sounds yummy!
Janzin, I am so glad you finished moving without hurting yourself. Thank you so much for your words of kindness. I have to admit Susan is a whole new experience for Nancy and Pat. She has meltdowns and cries all of the time and hates looking in the mirror. We are doing our best to keep her up. Might have to put her on some Zyprexa to see her through it. We are all excited about the new website though. Well, must go and do my morning ablutions and take care of the cats before my ds comes so we can walk the dog.
Best wishes to all!
Nancy
P.S. Just read you are home Lursa! Take care of yourself and heal well. Sorry I made you laugh. Oops! I got you confused with someone else. I see you do have a DH. Blame it on the chemo!
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My vote goes for BCButtFondlers too. For women with cancer who are trying to quit (quit smoking AND quit cancer). Anyone else care to place a voice on what our name should be???
Wow, so many surgeries and chemo treatments coming up it is hard to keep track of them all. Let me just extend out love and warm wishes to everyone.
Ellie
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Sorry this is so short. Gotta try and find something to wear to BS this afty but I wanted you t know Pantufas that the divorce I spoke of was my 1st marriage. Les & I have been married for 16 years & have a beautiful ( and REALLY SMART) 12 year old daughter. My other 3 kids are from arse head. (sorry to offend but I am sure you all know what Imean) They're great kids too, but the abusive marriage & awful divorce really did some damadge to them. I think that was the hardest part.
No more cigaretts yet today...YAY!
Gotta go! xoxo
Lursa
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Just wanted to pop in and say hello to everyone before I haul water to my tomato and squash plants. Lursa, hope your bs apptmt went well today. Sounds as though you got lucky the second time around. Sorry you and your children had to go through so much. You certainly didn't offend me and I am so happy you went another day without smoking!
I also vote yea on THE BC BUTTFONDLER site. I don't think I got that right but you know what I mean. Pervs will get a nasty shock when they tap in and discover we are all "dead"! We so need to do a group "dead" pic. That will kick the grim reaper in the bottom. Since logistics is a problem, maybe Janzin could do some type of collage on the site. Better go, I'm babbling.
Love to all,
Nancy, Pat, Susan " YES I CAN !!!!! "
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