Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Hi Butt Fondlers!
I will go get BCButtFondlers.com. You can email me any sites that you like the look of so we can design the site together. Such as color choices, type of picture's etc. I do have some Photoshop skills that I can cut and paste you all in one dead pic, lol, with cig butts everywhere. Maybe we could all flash the perverts, that should wake them up. janetzingano@comcast.net
Lursa5, hope you are doing well after surgery. I hate that every hour vital thing, I feel for you! I hope your kids will be all right, never too late for changes. I am living proof of that! Good job on your cigs! Sounds like to are hanging in there!!
Pantufas, little slow here, tired all the time. What do you mean by logistics and college? Have a hard time with memory, have to remember to shave both legs and yes I actually left home with one hairy leg. I have a hard time keeping up with all of your shorthand's, I know DH and BC but some of them I am like huh, lol. Funny that you mentioned the old one and new ones. I have a couple of 21 year olds downstairs and they were competing to take me out. I told them it is never going to happen! Too green for my taste, lol. Let us past the time quickly with humor and support and Susan will be feeling better soon. How long is your chemo?
Fifish, glad you all like the BCButtFondler. I think we are a special group, not to put down others who are trying to quit smoking but we understand more where each other is coming from. I thought of you last night when I went to a Brazilian restaurant with my niece and tried this Brazilian passion fruit drink, it was really yummy! Will get the recipe for you as she works there!
The rest of you ladies, hoping all is going well with your BC and quit smoking program!
Well still got to unpack and work. BORING!
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I LOVE Brazillian grills! I am quite a carnivore and Brazilian grilled meat is the BEST. Whenever I go to Orlando, we must hit the Texas de' Brazil restaurant. Best food that I have ever had, hands down. Please, please get the passion fruit recipe if you can, thanks.
BAHAHAHA...you want to go out with the 21 year olds! Good Lord, they would get carded going into the bars. Oh my, that is good stuff. What the hell, maybe you should?!?!?!?!
Well, my dh just called and his is at the liquor store trying to find orange brandy for the sangria......heehee...simple things throw him sometimes. I told him we could improvise and just grab some Grand Marnier and that even confused him more!! Bless his simple soul!
Have a great weekend ladies.
Ellie
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Fifish, you are so funny! My niece works at the Texas De' Brazil here in Denver. DH can get pretty confused in the stores, lol.
I am pretty lonely sometimes, have the blahs today and don't feel like doing anything. Reminds me of my earlier BC depressions, not sure where it is coming from. But NO 21 year olds!!!!! lol. Shit.... they look like babies! Just looking forward to making new friends around my own age. I have a boyfriend that cost me $120 and he never complains or takes control of my remote, lol.
Hate the blahs, you ever get them?
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Getting drunk, think I am messed up in the head. I wish you were here with me. I just feel sad, maybe I should go to a higher strength in anti-depressants but I am afraid as I usually just rough it out. Maybe I should just deal with whatever is going on. Pantufas I am having a meltdown!
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Oh Janzin! Sorry I haven't replied sooner. Just got in from taking my BIL to Georgetown University Hospital to have a stent placed in his pancreas. We left a 11:00 this morning! She was able to place the stent but he has other problems she hasn't encountered before. May be congenital so his treatment will be ongoing. Good thing I was there though. They forgot to administer Cipro while he was under so they hung a bag while he was in recovery. Second mistake, they used his arm he previously had plebitis in even though he told them. I kept my mouth shut because I'm neither nurse nor doctor but when I noticed his arm redden and begin to swell after just a few minutes, I got the nurse. She hung a bag of saline to dilute it with but that didn't help so I squawked again. We explained about the plebitis and she pulled it and started it in his other arm. Same thing and he began itching so I squawked again and she called the doctor. She decided to leave go of the Cipro and they monitored him for about an hour and then we were able to take him home. I told DS to heat towels in the microwave to wrap both arms in when they got home after dropping me off. Hopefully, he won't get plebitis again. I have learned a few things with all of my surgeries and especially with the chemo and I keep my eyes and ears open. Unfortunately I can't spell worth a crap anymore. I meant collage. Can't place the til because this is an American pc.
By logistics (Air Force Brat) I mean we are all spread out. It doesn't help that I sometimes slip into American and Norfolk (England) vernacular with a sprinkling of " Deliverance " Southern and sometimes even the King's English. I am just a well rounded individual. (In a pig's eye!) I try really hard not to speed write but sometimes I forget.
Screw this I'm going to call you.
Nancy, Pat, Susan
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Janzin - My heart goes out to you! Feeling lonely and sad on top of everything you've been through can definitely make you feel depressed. It Sucks! Do you have anyone you can talk to? Have you thought of changing your anti-depressant? I know what you mean by roughing it out, it doesn't always work for me----but sometimes it does.
I'm sorry your feeling so down. Know that I'm thinking of you and hoping today will be better.
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Janzin - sending you some big hugs!
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Wish we could be with you to hug you in person! Hope your feeling better!
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Hey Janzin, hope you are feeling better this morning. We are here for you!
Love you bunches!
Nancy, Pat, Susan
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Janzin - lots of hugs and postive thoughts heading your way.... hope you are feeling better this morning
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Oh man, I sure wish I was in Colorado this week. A gal as cool as you should not be able to get the "blues". I hate when I get those. I asked my oncologist about it and he just blames it on the Tamoxifen and then nothing more is said.
You MUST be down in the dumps if getting hit on by 21 year olds didn't lift your spirits. Hell, I am happy when a 60 year old man calls me sweetie and winks.....small things.....
I hope you are feeling better. You have had so much on your plate with work and moving. I hope the weather is nice and you can take a nice walk or bike ride around that beautiful lake. If that doesn't work, order 2 pizzas and some beer and watch stupid movies. That helps me sometimes.
Love you!
Ellie
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It's a dreary day. Went shopping yesterday for HOURS and didn't find anything! I'm having a hard time finding a size 1 in a slack outfit that dressy. Sucks! Need something for my nieces wedding on Saturday, but I don't wear dresses (my legs look like toothpicks). Today I'm tired and think I'll take it easy.....maybe watch a movie or two and eat junk food!
Hoping everyones having a good weekend!
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Hey 2NewBoobs, Sorry you day is dreary. A size 1!!!!!! How do you keep the wind from blowing you away?
Just jealous! Junk food sounds good. I just noticed you are in SC. My son lives in Greenville. Grandpa was from Sparkle City. Hope you find a smashing outfit and have a better day tomorrow. Better go water my plants. I thought it would rain today but it didn't.Take care,
Nancy
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Hey Nancy -
It's after 9pm and I did like I said.....watched movies and ate junk food. I even ordered Dominos Pizza for dinner! What a day....I feel lazy, bloated and happy!
Greenville isn't too far from me, probably a couple of hours. I have a brother that lives in Spartanburg and another one lives in Laurens. Hope you got your plants watered. It rained here most of the day. I'm hoping the sun comes out a little tomorrow!
Hope everyone is having a good day. Hugs to all!
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Hey back, 2NewBoobs!
It looks like it's just you and me kid. Well, Dominos would have been a good idea. I stuffed myself on junk and look like I'm 10 months pregnant! I lost 84lbs last year and it is creeping back. CREEPING CRAP! I'm piling it on. My hands and ankles are swollen and I'm garfing like a vacumn cleaner with teeth. And here I thought I would lose weight on chemo! It must be the steroids. That and the fact that I'm stuffing my face when the food tastes better. I wish I could say I am happy too but this depression is getting me down. I'm having fleeting notions of offing myself but the thought of ds having to clean up the mess is stopping me. Maybe I'll go and throw myself in front of a parked car. I think the chemo is having a lot to do with this so I'll ask the onc about upping my meds on Tuesday.
I hope you find something to wear to your nieces' wedding before Satuday. My ds used to shop at 0 to 9 but I don't think they have them anymore. When she was younger she used to have to buy her jeans in the girl's department. Anyway, I wish you luck and my congratulations to your niece.
Gramp's family was from Spartanburg. I still have a cousin who has a peach orchard there. Do you know where Parris mountain is as your coming up 26 to the mountains of Hendersonville? That was named after my great uncle Fester. Just kidding!
It's after 10:00 and we still haven't gotten any rain. Yes, I did haul water to my plants. The outside spigot is broken and it's a pain in the bottom. Well, I guess I better hoik myself up to bed. I hope Janzin is doing okay. Maybe she will post tomorrow. I hope the rest of you are okay too! Maybe you will post tomorrow. Hope you aren't getting hit by any hurricanes down there flfish! The weather sure did bugger up the Space Shuttle landing.
Good night to all,
Nancy
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Hello All! I hope everyone is having a nice Memorial Day Weekend.
I have been in hibernation mood today. Lurking around the forum, listening in but not feeling up to chatting much. I am starting to get a little nervous about meeting BS and PS next Tuesday. I also have an appointment at the Cancer Treatment Center of America for a complete evaluation next week and I am nervous about that too. I think I have come to terms with the fact that I have BC - I just don't think I could handle it if they find anything else (Bone & PET Scans)...Anyway, I am trying to get all my questions put together in some kind of coherent form for all the doc's...
Pantafus: I am glad you got your plants watered - all mine are silk so I don't have to worry about that. I am sorry you are having a chemo downer...I wish I had some thing fun and up lifting to say, but I haven't been there and don't have a clue...
2newboobs: Oh to be size 1
... I have a cousin who is 38 and still has to shop in the tween's section for clothes that fit, her daughters love it but she does get frustrated. I hope you find something to fabulous to wear for the wedding. Lursa and Janiz: I hope your doing ok...missed hearing from you guys today.
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Nancy,
I'm so sorry your feeling down. Yes, definitely talk to your Onc on Tuesday....depression sucks! I recently got over a funk and am just hoping I don't fall back into it. It's hard sometimes!
Always know that we're here for you! Sending lots of BIG HUGS your way!
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Goodnight all
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o2bhealthy -
Just wanted you to know that I'll be thinking of you. Please let us know how your appointments go. I'm glad to see that you're making a list of questions to take with you....I always took a list to my doctors.
Yeah, I'm so tired of having to shop in the Juniors/tweens section. It's truly frustrating. I'm going shopping again in a couple of days and hope to find something.
Lursa, Janzin - Hope ya'll are doing okay.
Nite Ladies!
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Hello ladies. Sorry for my meltdown. I ended up drinking a lot and then felt pretty bad the next day and then felt bad because I wasn't working and it just goes on. Moving into my own place made me fell more lonely and my divorce blues hit me again. But I did realize something, that drinking with a melt down doesn't help and maybe I need to face whatever I am going through straight and not running away with drinks. So I am quitting drinking as I need to deal with whatever I am going through. NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS!!!!
Thanks Pantufas, 02behealthy, Fifish, 2newboobs for your support. You brought tears into my eyes. It's good to know that you are there!
FIfish, thanks for the tips. I am flattered that the 21 year olds are hitting on me, just need to make friends my own age. Hard to meet people because I work at home.
2newBoobs, I wish I was that small! I gain most of my weight in my legs so I have the opposite problem. Good luck with your clothing, have a small friend who does the same thing.
o2behealthy, good luck with you BS and PS. Smart that you are making a list. Sometimes they give you the worst case scenarios, don't let that bother you and think on the positive side. It will work out.
Pantufas, sorry you are going through the blues. Hope the pizza trick helped. I too am gaining weight too. I do know the blues will pass, we just have to ride it out and I took the coward way out by drinking too much. The only meds I am on right now is the anti depression so I can't blame it on chemo. I hope it goes fast for you and maybe the next hour or day will be better. But you have friends here who care about you!
I think we are all brave to try to do incredible feat as quitting smoking through the the ups and downs of BC and life. You are all my angels! I wish you all well and thanks for being here.
Big (((((hugs))))) to all.
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Thanks for the hugs 2NewBoobs! I really needed them and I was able to have a peaceful sleep.
o2bhealthy, good girl! Let us know how everything goes. Just the fact that you remembered me lifted my spirits.
Wishing all of you a good morning and a great day!
oodles!
Nancy
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Hi Everyone,
I have a smoking hangover today. Even with that I woke up and started chain smoking again. I have an excisional coming up to make sure nothing else is lurking besides ALH found during core biopsy. I know smoking is not helping with my anxiety, but I can't seem to get myself to slow it down the last few days.
Cleo
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Hi cleomoon! Welcome to the Butt Fondlers! There will be many more posting to give you support. However, I'm not doing so swell myself. I've been smoking more since I've started chemo and I hope when I finish, I can have a funeral for these nails. Good luck on your surgery and know that we will be here for you.
Big hugs!
Nancy
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Hi Nancy,
Thanks for the welcome and support. I hope tomorrow goes as well as it can for you. I think it is your second chemo treatment? I am sorry to hear that you are feeling down. Totally understandable!! I honestly don't know if I could do chemo. But we never know how strong we are until we get there. Hats off to your courage and determination and hats off to embracing your bold baldness!!
My head is throbbing. I am a big complainer. I need a place to whine and complain. Let me know if I get to annoying.
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Janzin!!!!!!!!!! I can't see the forest for looking at the trees! I went right over your post! Oh, the agonies of losing this fantastically acute, intellectual mind! (heh..heh) Can't lose what you never had but it can get worse! So glad to see you posting again and thinking positive thoughts. You are the life and soul of this thread since webwriter is AWOL. She must be doing Wally capers to practice for our big one. Speaking of AWOL, flfish, did the hurricanes get you or are you busy concocting new drink recipes? Miss you! Glad to see the rest of you ladies. Lursa, how are you doing since your surgery? Healing well and resting, I hope. Miss you too! REKoz, hope work is going well and you are doing well also. Need some of your caustic wit! Well, I must go and check on my plants. Might need to get some grow lights. Just kidding!
Thanks again for the hugs and support while I was down.
oodles!
Nancy
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Cleomoon - I remember that I started smoking alot more while going through surgeries, etc.....I was such a nervous wreck all the time. Like Nancy, I'm still smoking. Sometimes I want to quit, others I don't.
Please let us know how your surgery goes and keep posting!
Nancy - hope your having a much better day!
Janzin - Don't apologize for your meltdown....it happens to the best of us! You've been going through alot girl! I'm just glad to see you posting again...I was getting worried.
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Hi Dear Ladies-
I have not been on the site for over a week. Have been thinking of each of you, though. I just did a quick scan, so do not know everyone's story but did see that Janzin wasn't in an up mood several days ago. Janzin- I too go through periods when I am down. I don't know if it is age, diagnosis, tamoxifin, hormones, life....the list goes on. I do know that when I try to get with people that have high spirits it sometimes helps me. Agreed on the drinking- for me, at least, it never really solved any of my problems, but I drank excessively.
Now, I do not drink, but have really fallen off of my attempt to cut down my smokes. I am lighting up without any thought- and that is not good. Can definitely feel it in my lungs and am getting winded when I shouldn't.
I do hope each of you can have a nice day today. Try to leave the crap from the past, in the past and try to not worry about what is going on tomorrow- for me, I will try to stay in the day today, clean up this filthy house, and have a little gratitude for the good things I do have in my life.
Love to each of you,
Mary Beth
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Hello Ladies. Still got the blues, stress about work and feeling a bit lonely. Never really made too many friends here as I work alone at home so I guess I need to get out and meet people. I don't mind when I have a few cocktails for fun but at this point I have drank a lot over emotional reasons and that is no good. I have been down this road before so I do know that when I cut myself off of drinks and cigs, the things that I ran from will hit me. But I am ready to move forward and deal with it because I know it's better on the other side as I have been there too.
Welcome Clemoon! Great bunch of ladies here and we have been or we are on the same page. I am actually going to talk to my Dr about upping my anti-depressants. We are in a rough time in our lives and I know that BC is scary but so is letting go of our little friends at this time. My sister who is a Dr believes that stress does not help cancer or it breaks down your immune system and she blames my ex for my cancer for the stress he has put me through, but who knows. Stress doesn't help so talk to your Dr is it becomes too much about meds. We all need to rant and rave so go for it!
Pantufas, how is your chemo going. Is Susan doing Okay? I am doing what you suggested and talking to my Dr this week. Hard to work with the blues and stress. I hope all of you are doing well. We will get through this, maybe time for some more funny stories! Sending you hugs!!!
o2behealthy, any news with your Dr's? I hope it went well. Keep in touch, we are thinking about you.
2NewBoobs, find any clothes? Maybe the Forever 21 stores or stores for the younger adults. Hope you are doing well, sending out best wishes. Thanks for your support, it makes me feel not alone in this!
MB, so nice to hear from you again, missed you. I think my past divorce is creeping up on me again. Got a new place far from where I live and now really feeling the cut off. Another process to go through I guess. I will try your suggestion and find people with high spirits. I too am lighting up without any thought, just trying to make it day by day. I remember going to meetings and it was the old timers who stuck around to show us the light at the end of the tunnel as it is rough on the newbie's. And I am a newbie again since I haven't quit for over 24 hours yet.
Lursa5, I hope your surgery went well, let us know how you are doing! Sending you positive thoughts.
Fifish, it's been raining here in Denver, I think I brought it on, lol. How's that for ego. I hope you don't get the blues too often, it's a bitch to get the blues and try quitting at the same time.
REKoz, Nobleanna, Nervousknitter, Bluze, Malleme, LeftAKAnan, Candie, Deanie and Webbie, miss you all, drop in a line and let us know how you are doing.
Big hugs and sending peace and love in your life!
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YAY!!! I finally found something to wear to the wedding!! I went to JC Penney and they had a size 0 in some black slacks that fit...I also found a nice top! My Mom is hemming my slacks today so I'll be ready to go! Oh, what a relief!
I'm so glad the hunt for wedding clothes is over.....the mental anguish over this was really getting to me. Now maybe my headaches will go away and my neck will stop hurting!
Hope everyones having a good day. <HUGS>
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Ok 2newboobs, the fact that you are wearing a size ZERO is crazy. I haven't been in a size zero since I bought ugly pea green gauchos for my sixth grade dance! Hey, it was the 70's so give me a break. The gauchos were all the rage!! Well, if your pants don't work out, I could probably let you borrow the gauchos!! heeheehee......funny......"That 70's wedding".....
So, our rain stopped....YIPPEE...we got over 2 inches over the weekend. It was pouring while we are having a cookout on Sunday.....I had over 10 wet children in swimsuits running in my house because they couldn't swim in the pool due to the lightning. Good Lord. My kids are grown, so my house is not what we would call "child proof". Playing with dull knives would have been safer...heehee....But we did all have a great time, so that is all that matters.
Anyway, Janzin I hope you start to feel better. My spirits are lifted this week, so I hope that vibe passes your way.
Hello to all my fellow buttfondlers!!!!!!! Love you all!
Ellie
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Hi Everyone,
UGH! still chain smoking in an attempt to escape the worry, and other stresses. I just now decided to let myself go at it for the moment. Only had 4 hours of sleep and was awakened by a nightmare. My Mom was in it. She battled her BC for years,but the side effects of years of treatment finally caught up to her. I lost her in 04.
I took something to get me back to sleep in the afternoon and now have a hangover from that. I woke to another PTSD nightmare about my Mom. Oh what fun this journey is. NOT! Have to call the Hospital tomorrow to schedule my pre-op tests.
More in a bit,
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Hi...read all the posts. wow, I'm behind!!!
Congrats to those keeping up with the non-smoking. It is not easy!! I am on day 39 and I can't believe I have made it this far. I get the urge still but so far have been able to stay away. I have to try to hop in here everyday. I hope I can keep this up.
hugs and prayers
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