Stop Smoking Support Thread
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VJ, that has always been a favorite of mine. I had to memorize that one as well.
Minus and Bosum, feel better, both of you!
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I thought the single ladies on here would appreciate this---I got brave enough to put an ad onto a dating sight. Just thought I'd get my feet wet, wasn't sure if I really wanted to meet anyone yet. Well, someone hacked and hijacked my ad---all of my information but changed the picture. I can't get into it because she has changed the email and password. I have reported it to the service but just got a form email back that due to the volume of emails, it may take them a while. It's like OMG, a sign that I shouldn't be out there yet.
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Wow VJ, unbelievable. It must be a sign that you gotta stay out of there. People are unreal! Bosum, I know what you people about people and your smoking. I remember being on a main street in an area town and there was a parade earlier in the day. I lit up a cigarette as I was walking by a mom/friends and their kids. One woman started screaming at me because there was kids nearby. That was maybe 7-8 years ago. Wonder what those kids are smoking today?
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VJ - what a riot. I imagine the hacker's info must be horrible. Somedays I believe in signs and other days I don't. I know Bosum tried a dating site and actually met a couple of people in person. Maybe she'll chime in and let us know which one she used if she thought it was good.
Judi - LOL. We took my junior high son, along with one of his friends & her parents to see John Denver in the early 1980s at what was the Summit (think HUGE round venue that was used for pro BB Ball then). There was so much grass smoke in the air no one could smell my plain tobacco. Most people didn't recognize the smell. Funny looking back.
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I feel so happy that there is good stuff floating all around us ... Minus I can feel you getting better .. Bosom , I was soooo sooo happy to hear from you , and VJ thank so much for finding the poem .. April you are always an inspiration .. and can make me laugh .. Judi I am glad that you are able to think on a posotive note .. but it very well may be scar tissue .. remember last year maybe not even that far ago i found that lump next to my implant .. and after ultrasound they said scar tissue .. whew what a relief .. I stil pray for each and evey one of you .. I had to try to hop on here this morning for a quick moment .. Today is test day .. and I am freaking out .. I dont know why , I have been a cna since im 18 and now im 47 .. but once you get used to your ways its hard to go back .. and I hear the nurse that does the skills is mean and if you miss one step in any skill she fails you .. and the skills are pot luck , you get 5 .. and dont know what ones .. UGH .. I feel sick to my stomach .. I wish for once in my life I can be confident .. but I prayed about it this morning ... I love you all so much.. will drop a note when I get back this afternoon to let you know the results xoxoxoxoxoxxo
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie, fingers crossed in good luck for you. Remember, you are a strong, confident woman and once you put your mind to it, you accomplish all!
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LisaMarie - you're probably already in the test but we'll be sending positive vibes all day.
Bosum - I missed a small step. It was next to impossible to see in the dim light and because of the neuropathy in my feet, of course I didn't feel anything. Ah well. The pains getting better except when I do the exercise I'm supposed to do several times a day. (not) Managing once every other day so far.
VJ - got to thinking last night, could this info snatch be considered identity theft?
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MinusTwo--I hadn't thought of it in that way, but I guess it is identity theft, only I can't see how I could get hurt from it--only the poor guys she is hoping to scam. At least she has changed the city.
Ex is finally coming over today to swap "stuff". With the way I have been treated these past couple of months, I still love the man I thought I knew but I certainly don't like him very much right now.
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BosumBlues--You have a lot to offer someone, you are a live, loving human being, not an ATM machine. The man who will be attracted to you won't care about that--in fact he will want to take care of you.
And yes--being on line is just a nice distraction, I need to get my head around "dating" again. So i'm taking baby steps. Yet 10 years ago when a relationship ended (and not on a good note), I met someone within 2 weeks who was a really good guy just not a long-term guy for me - we dated about a year). So I remain hopefully optimistic that the law of attraction will bring me a man with all of J's good qualities plus the ones he lacked.
I think they hijack someone elses account because it sounds "real" instead of "fake"--who knows, it could be a man on the other end of that scam. At least she moved to Omaha, NE instead of staying in my back yard.
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VJ - You'll be in my thoughts today while your EX is up there swapping. Hope it's not unduly painful, although I know it won't be easy.
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BosumBlues--No we don't talk, he "ghosted" me 2 months ago. Today was the first time I have talked to him since he sent an email breaking up with me. He finally came by to return some of my things and pick up his. He didn't want to talk, he said we had a great two years but with his business tanking at the end of last year, he needs to put all his time into that. He said that he noticed he was withholding what was going on from me and it wasn't fair to put me through his stress. So he disappeared instead. So he was the perfect guy until he wasn't.
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Wow, my head is spinning with all of the talk about online dating, etc. BJ, I wonder if he was the one if he "emailed you" about breaking up. Kinda looks like the coward way of doing things or is that the new norm? Girl, you are fantastic like the other ladies on this site and you'll find Mr. Perfect. It will be when you least expect it. I met my dh was I was 43 at a school reunion. He was in my grade 11 Social Economics class and I hadn't seen him since 1973. Met again and now we are going on 19 years together. But I have to say that I got a new washing machine today and was very excited. He said that he hasn't seen me this excited over anything, even when we got engaged. You just can't beat a washing machine in my eyes!
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Yes same one, he disappeared, wouldn't call nor return my calls and finally I got a break-up email and took 2 months to return my stuff. He was a really good guy, just really lousy at breaking up. I also think that the failure of his business and subsequent depression along with health and dental problems was just too much for him.
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Oh yes, a new washing machine is often much more reliable. Just not as warm & cuddly and hell to take on trips. Maybe I'll go for an electric throw. Thanks for the laugh Judi.
VJ - you have such amazing presence. What a rat.
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Happy Sunday Ladies .. all this talk about dating .. I am so afraid to date .. I dont know if and when , if ever I will be able to find someone and date ... I am just not ready . I also feel ya Bosom , whenever I was dating and stuff , I felt like if I did not have money then they ran , seems crazy but thats what makes the world go round these days and we are not so lucky ..lol .. I am am making $7 bucks an hour and i get paid approx $330 every 2 weeks and no health insurance .. that is not enough $$ to do anything .. I think CNA gets 10-12 here and hour still not much .. Maybe I can work both jobs , although i'd like to stop pushing the mop .. the housekeeping job is so hard on the body and I appreciate and respect all that do it ..
Soooo can anyone tell me why I have such BAD LUCK !!!! I mean I got up early yesterday as my test was scheduled for 8 am and had to be there at 7:30am .. I sent a quick message to all of you .. and I left out the door feeling sick to my stomach , I got into the car drove past one house and heard a big bang and smelled somethig burning .. low and behold the car dont move it wont go forward or backwards ... just my luck right .. and my daughter is making me pay 1000 for it .. so now I no longer have a car once again ... Im telling you if there is a GOD ... and I am fighting with my spirituality at the moment .. then why oh why is he testing me all the damm time ... I just felt as if i could breathe a little bit .. Then Bammm ......
Soooo on a happier note my son's mother in law drove me to my test and waited for me , I was the first done with the written exam and the first to go for the Skills .. ( the proctor for the test ... was an amazing woman and RN ) ..Ok Ok ... soooo I PASSED !!!!!
Judi congrats on the new washing machine .. I feel getting things like that in my life are a joy ...
Minus I am so sorry you have so much stuff going on medically ... I love you so much .. I hope you feel better ..
VJ, I hope all goes well with thte swap...of thte things .. thats always hard ..
Bosom , I am so glad that you are talking ... I love love seeing you here ....
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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Many congrats LisaMarie on the passing of your exam. I tried to say something else but damm auto spell won't let me. Now stand tall and tell your daughter you won't be paying for the car - no car, no money. Your moving on up!
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The hell with the car. In fact if you gave them an initial $100, demand your money back. CONGRATS!!! We knew you could do it. Fantastic job lady. Onward & upward.
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Maybe the car breaking down was a blessing in disguise. After all, you only gave them $100, not the whole $1000. I would give the car back citing "lemon law" but not ask for the $100 back---they probably don't have it and trying to get it would just cause more problems. Instead I would just consider it a "rental fee" for the use of the car for the few days that you did have it.
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We are all so smart with sound advice. Bosum, not only do you not do business with family, you don't do business with friends. When things go wrong, it is always hard. VJ, sound advice ... consider it a rental fee. It is always so hard to do but you are absolutely right. We always try to do right by those we love but sometimes it bites us in the butt!
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LisaMarie, congrats on passing the exam! As for the car, no more comments needed as I agree with the above advice.
VJ, I met my husband online. I was blessed and it worked well for me. I met him 12 years ago when online dating was in its infancy so to speak. I was divorced about a year and thought I might want to date and maybe enjoy dinner, movies etc. Was not looking for a serious relationship AT ALL and yet, here I am. We will be married 9 years this October! So it can work well.
Bosum. you will be fine without your letrozole for a few days. It protects for up to 5 years after stopping it!
Hugs to all...have to run and finish laundry
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Good advice VJ. Consider the $100 a rental fee. Avoid more family drama
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Bosum, if you need some Letrozole, I have a almost a month's supply. Happy to send to you. Also, I'm interested in the jojoba oil. I have some bottled and use it on my body! Fountain of youth, please share!
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Bosum - I think the catharsis with the therapist is good. Glad you're going again. RE the flowers: did you try to call the florist? Maybe they could give you a clue.
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Bosom, I think that although you feel as if you are not moving forward with therapy , it is helping .. Dumping all that crap must feel better ... I have not been to a meeting in almost a week and I can see a dramatic difference in my sleep. my attitude, my well being as I am very down in dumps again ... So I feel any place that I can go to dump my shit so to speak and listen to others I feel better when I leave .. I also like to know I have somewhere to go .. The feeling of being stuck gets me so down. I hope you find out who sent the flowers ... Hmm id be freaked out a bit .. I am glad that you got your meds worked out .. glad that you are also not in danger until you get it .. YES this is the most wonderful place to be as far as everyone helping each other .. I am so grateful to all the ladies here .. I do find that this is the only thread that I can come to now that anyone really bothers ... all the ladies from my mastectomy month no longer bother .. and on other ones i place questions and dont get as much feedback as if i asked here .. so im content with the wonderful amazing women here ...And on another note .. Id love to know the anti aging serum lol... I took a picture of my face the other day .. oh lord the wrinkles around my eyes and lips .. im 47 and look 60 at least .. I also have hooded eyes so thtey are so droopy and tired .. I just felt like I never want to look in mirror again ..
On another note its Opening Day fro my Yankees !!!!! we got canceled yesterday .. Hoping to get some games here in NC .. I love my baseball... I put my application in for CNA .. we shall see what happens ...
I just want to say thank you to all of you and to let you know how very very much you mean to me ... I am very grateful to have each and everyone of you in my life .. and most of all thank you fro beliving in me when I cannot believe in myself .....
Just for today I will not smoke ...
you know smoking is pretty much o back burner .. when i have so much chaos going on seems i dont think too much about the smokes at all .. but I am still get so upset with everyone here smoking around me all the time like they really dont care and mostly I am upset with my son for smoking like they do around my granddaughter .. but I cannot say anything .. I know all I got to do is work and save work and save then I will be able to have a car and a place of my own ..
xoxoxoxoxoxxo
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie, we love you too ... that's what we are all here for .... to listen and advise. April, my oncologist was very generous with me as she told me that after 5 years of the meds, the residual lasts in the body anywhere from 8 to 15 years. This put my mind at ease as I was stopping the meds and the old adage "what if". But I know what Bosum means. When I missed a dose which wasn't too often (maybe twice), I freaked out. So it's nice to know where to come to get the burning question in your mind answered. Yes, LisaMarie, the ladies on this thread are the most caring women I know.
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Love all of you!
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Bosum - great to hear things are on a more even keel. I'm learning to compensate. A neighbor took me to the grocery store of Tuesday and a friend hauled me to the post office & the bank yesterday. I finally remembered to just start my car to make sure the battery stayed charged. Can't believe it's been almost a month. I didn't appreciate what my son told me in the beginning, but it's really true. Just pretend you're on a boat under full sail in rough waters - so one hand always has to hold on while the other works. Yesterday I even figured out how to cut a cantaloupe.
Beckers - would love to hear how you're doing if you ever check the thread.
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Yeah I know, but I HATE asking & I hate depending on other people. Sigh. One of my failings.
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Don't know how many of you take a newspaper anymore, or read Dear Abby - but today's column is close to our hearts. Of course we all have different methods, but throwing away all the props & setting a specific date are good even if you're using an Rx or other aid. And acknowledging that we are addicts. And note, even Abby admits it took her three tries, so if you're still smoking - don't give up. Thought I'd share.
DEAR ABBY: I need some advice about quitting smoking. I am the father of an only child and husband to a wonderful wife. But for some reason, I have not been able to find the motivation to quit. I know smoking is bad for my health, and I don't want to endanger my child's health any longer.
I have tried the gum, the patch and even prescription meds. My willpower just isn't strong and I can't quit, no matter what I try. I need the right inspiration. Can you help me stop this nasty habit? — SICK OF IT IN MISSOURI
DEAR SICK OF IT: I'll try. As a former smoker, I'll share what worked for me. Cold turkey.
First, clean house. Get rid of all the cigarettes you have stashed at home, in your car and at your workplace. Yes, even the pack you "forgot" in your jacket pocket.
Realize that your body is saturated with nicotine and it must be flushed out. Drinking LOTS of water for the first month will help you accomplish that.
Then, choose one day when you will go entirely smoke-free. Understand going in that you will crave your "fix." When that craving hits, if you must put something in your mouth, chew (non-nicotine) gum, go brush your teeth or eat a crunchy vegetable (carrot sticks, celery).
If you can manage to do this for just ONE DAY, you can do it for another one. And then another, etc.
Accept that you are an addict and that your "sobriety" is something you will have to cling to with determination. Eventually the impulse to grab a cigarette will fade, but every now and then you may have an urge to smoke that comes out of left field. When that happens, get up and walk out of the room. By the time you return, the urge will have subsided. Mine did.
And one more thing — if you fall off the wagon (and you may), think about watching your child graduate from high school or college, getting married and playing with your grandchildren. Your chances of doing those things will be better if you're not a smoker. Then get back on that wagon and start over again.
That's how I quit, and the third time I did it, it worked. (Clearly, I do not have willpower of cast iron.) If I can do it, believe me, so can you. Please write again in six months and let me know you're tobacco-free, too. I'm rooting for you.
Edited: Just to give proper credit, I copied this syndicated column from Yahoo news and the daily Houston Chronicle.
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Happy Sunday everyone ... I finally broke down ... I cannot be here in NC without a car . I feel as though I have no life at all . I have been trying to smile through my heartache and just live one day at a time one moment at a time and i cannot . I am so depressed and alone .. I am going back to NY .. Mom got me a plane ticket .. so I will go to my cousins and see what i can do , at least there i have public transportation close to me .. stores and meetings i can walk to .. and a job interview scheduled for wednesday already ... so we shall see .. please pray for me .. I love and miss you all .. and zi hope everyone is not dissapointed ...
xoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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