Stop Smoking Support Thread
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LisaMarie - of course we're not disappointed. You're doing the very best you can under extremely challenging circumstances. Best of luck with this transition. Is it too much to hope that your cousin doesn't smoke? Will you be in NYC? Hope you can avoid seeing the ex. Good luck with the job interview. Please let us know when you are settled.
Bosum - I'm so sorry you "snapped" your back out. Yes, it is frightening to be sick and alone. I barreled my way through the cancer both times, but this arm is an education in patience & endurance. Long distance isn't very useful, but we're here for you. Do you have pain meds for your back? Is there anyone you can call to at least help with the dog?
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LisaMarie, you have consistently made the right decisions for yourself the entire time we have known you. You ALWAYS know what is best for you at any given moment in time. I know things will eventually get on a more even keel for you. We love and respect you immensely and know that you are always trying to make your life better. I am rooting for you at all times and keep you in my thoughts each and every day. xoxo
Bosum, I am so sorry about your back and it is always when you are down that things seem to fall apart. I just know that you will eventually see the light of day because that almost always is the way it is. But, right now, it sure is a shitty time for you lady. Huge hugs and also agree with Minus. Get a friend to help with the dog for now. xo
Happy Sunday to the rest of you. xo
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LisaMarie, we are never disappointed with you. As April says, you always make the right decision for you. Keep you head up high, don't look back, and don't call the ex. You are strong and doing what is right and good for you! I'm rooting for you too along with April and Minus. Bosum, ouch! I've done that before and it's no fun. Hope you make it to chrio tomorrow and you feel better soon. We are rooting for you too!
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Bosom , I am glad that your dog is okay . My CNA licence will transfer to NY thank god and I already have a job interview for a private duty case .. I just must keep my head up . I am on my flight tonight back to NY . My daughter and her husband that sold me the car are totally rediculus .. as in keeping the baby away from me and ignoring me .. the only text message I got this( " you are going to pay us the rest of the money you owe us for the car aren't you ? ) that was her husband .. unreal ... i paid 100 and a few days later the car broke .. do u honestly think I should pay 900 more for something I cannot drive or take home with me ... it's so sad how drugs and greed and have ruined the lives of so many of the children in the world today .. so I have lost another child .. maybe not to heavens above but to this cruel world controlled by drugs ... I just need to focus on me now .. I honestly cannot keep letting these things stress me .. as long as I know his parents are caring for the baby and she is safe that is all i can ask for .. and as for her never knowing me as her Grandma is very sad .. because my other 3 grandchildren love me so much ... I feel a great sadness for her .
I was chosen a couple weeks ago to speak at an AA meeting , I did it Sunday night .. Myn heart was pounding and I was so afraid . I ahve 18 months alcohol and cigarette free .. just had to tell my story of ewhat it was like what it is like now .. I did so from the heart and I had so many come to me after the meeting and tell me what a powerful message I had .. and i could not have felt so good as I did then ... and the ladies were all so sad to see me go they want to plan a trip to NYC and spend a weekend with me riding trains and subways ... those silly southern bells .. but how greatful I am to be a part of the lives of so many ... and grateful for the time they invested in helping me stay sober adn sane when i felt like there was nowhere to go ... anyway I ramble so much .. I can only wish and pray for brighter days as I continue on my quest to find happiness and some sort of normal .. at least I will have my health insurance back ...
xoxoxoxxxo
Talk to you all again when I arrive in NY
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie, I live in neighboring CT and see an in-person meeting between you and I sometime in the future. You are awesome and I am betting that your story resonated with a lot of people at that AA meeting. I have been to several when I was growing up due to my Dad (open meetings only of course) and some of those speakers words are with me all these years later! My dad had 40 years of sobriety when he passed away last June. One day at a time. That is the only way it works.
Hugs and know that you are going to be able to see that grandbaby again when your daughter wakes up from her drug induced stupidity. She will realize that her child needs you in her life and things will change. Your future is bright! I just know it!!!
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Yay, LisaMarie .... maybe this is a NOW time for you. Yes, it is sad to see what your daughter is doing but you have already "identified" the problem. Remember, it is not you. As for your daughter's husband and his text re car and money ..... tell him to get a life and start first and foremost by taking care of his wife and daughter. You don't need this shit in your life and you can see that. If you are so powerful and resonate with AA people, maybe one day your daughter and hubby will see this. Yes, it is sad that your granddaughter will not know you right now but she will one day. Be strong for you!
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LisaMarie - your story about speaking at the AA meeting left me in tears. YOU GO GIRL!!! Tell that silly SIL to go pick up his car if he want's something back. Good luck on the journey We'll look forward to hearing from you once you've unpacked and had your interview.
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Quiet week??? Hope everyone is OK. Beckers...we miss you.
I'm behaving and doing the exercises for my arm. I thought they looked like nursery school tasks, but I can't do any of them very well. The third one is familiar from my mastectomy surgery. Stand in front of a wall & walk your fingers up. Can't get the left arm much above the top of my head. I'm hoping if I keep doing these for the two more weeks until I see the ortho again, I can avoid prolonged PT.
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MT, I feel your pain. I remember doing that exercise and how painful it was. Remember the one you had to lie down on the floor with your elbows to the floor and your arms in at your hand. Then move your elbows back and forth to the floor to your head. I could do maybe six in the beginning. Today, I'm using an 8 lb. weight during my exercise and sometimes that is too much. Keep at it and it will come. Your doing a fabulous job and that arm will be history soon!
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Hugs MT! Hoping it gets easier for you xoxoxo
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Hoping Lisamarie's job interview Wednesday was positive and that she's settled in her new digs.
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Hi everyone , I had a good flight . I am all unpacked and okay . I had the interview . I think it went well but I wont know until I get a call back . we made copy of NC nurse aid certification and copy of NY application and the 50 money order and sent it away to get reciprocity from NY .
Minus I hope the excersizes get better . I remember doing some after my mastectomy but doctor really did not give me any. I will send you healing hugs .. xoxoxoxox
I hope you all know how much you mean to me and my life , sometimes if it werent for you all I dont know where id be.. xoxoxo
Bosom, yes in the program there are so many lovig and caring folks.. still out there especially in recovery ..
xoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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Evening ladies!
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Judi - oh oh, you were going to spill the beans about all your secrets? Hope you're OK.
Bosum - you are in my thoughts every day. Sorry about the damn cloud. I'm sure you wish it would just finish raining & move on. Try to take care of yourself first for a change.
LisaMarie - looking forward to hear that you are settled - more or less.
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MT, I wish! I was trying to "copy & paste" and was successful until I submit then it just shows nothing! I'll keep trying ... it was good!
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Bosom , I feel really bad that you are thinking that way, I DO know how you feel . I honestly do not know how I continue to stay sober and smoke free . I do know it's not by my own power . I can and do easily get down and feel like there is no hope . I am also learning just like you that there are thing in life that are totally out of my control. You know that you can private message me anytime . I am here for all its worth . I don't have much , but i have an ear to listen. I love you , admire you , and am sending you big HUGS .... xoxoxox
Minus , I did mention above that I am settled for the most part . I have not heard back from the interview . I am getting used to interviewing and not hearing back , That is another task I am learning to overcome and not .let it get me down . My daughter picked me up on Friday and we spent the day together .. we surprised my Granddaughter who was so happy too see me .. and Saturday she turned 29 .. wow time flies .. she is a good one .. she is a great mom and wife and daughter ..Hope the arm is coming along .Hugs to you
Judi .. I hope you are posting one of your inspirational posts .. hugs
xoxoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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I've cut back on the BCO threads I follow, but even so... I save this one for last so I can savor the connection. Thank you ladies.
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Minus and all of you. xoxox0 -
Morning ladies. This came up again on my Facebook page and I had to share it. I just love this!
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Here you go!
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These posts are from a lady who helps those in "abusive relationships".
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Judi!
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For all of you who have watched the news about our Houston floods, I'm OK. No water in my house and even though there are alternate rain showers & sunshine bursts today, I have no intention of going out. Several of the macho men in our neighborhood just HAD to run right out Monday to see. At least one lost his car to a flooded road and was lucky to get out. Many of the creeks, bayous & rivers are just starting to overflow their banks today as the excess water runs SE down towards the bay. 20" in 8 hours is one huge bunch of rain & I'm very fortunate. We lost power for several hours today, but it's already been restored.
Judi - I love the one about women taking to their broomsticks if their wings get broken.
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MT, so glad to hear you are o.k. Was your "macho neighbour" the one on the news whose car sunk and he had to swim to shore at the urging of the reporter? Like really, I'm with you .... no going out. Glad to hear that you had no water in your house!
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Judi - no, just some of the retired men who really didn't have to go anywhere but couldn't stand to sit in their chairs - like the mayor requested - when something might be happening. Texas has lots of 'macho dudes' who drive huge pick 'em up trucks and think they are exempt from sensible behavior or rules that surely apply to 'those other folks'. That said, there are also some very generous guys & gals with trucks who have been helping neighbors evacuate their belongings to the shelters.
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Bosum - nope. Then I'd have to worry about earthquakes instead of hurricanes - LOL. How are you doing girl? Are the meds helping with the depression yet?
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Bosum - sending good thoughts. By all means, PM anytime you want to vent. I too hate drugs, but I sure loved the pain meds when I broke my arm - at least for the first two weeks.
This rain has brought back memories of previous hurricanes. We were all younger so when everyone's power went out (sometimes for as long as 3 weeks), the guys hauled their BBQ's to the middle of the street and the entire block cooked all the stuff in their freezers. It was cook it or throw it away. We had some feasts. Not to mention the singing & dancing. And of course most everyone smoked. Gas pumps didn't work w/o power, or cash registers & I was worried I wouldn't be able to buy any cigarettes. So glad I don't have to worry about "running short" anymore.
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Glad you are ok Minus. Saw the flooding on television and it looked pretty bad!
Hi to everyone!
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Hi April and everyone else! Have a great day!
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