Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Okay ladies, we really need to pray and send healing mega thoughts to Nadine. It was confirmed today that she not only has swine flu but pneumoia as well. They are letting her go home in the care of her husband with orders to get to the ER if her situation changes at all. She sounded scared but still had her sense of humor. My appointment is for 10:45 tomorrow. This virus picked on two stubborn cases and we'll be buggerd if it gets us. Need to call ZinZin again so she will get to the doc asap if any symtoms arise. Hang with us ladies, this may be the ride of our lives. Love to all!
Nancy
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Oh Nancy...NOOOOOO. That is not what you and Nadine need right now. I will send prayers both of your ways starting right NOW! Janet, watch yourself. Good grief, what next?
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Thanks fishtractor! Nadine is such a trooper. She did so well when she wasn't feeling good. We didn't sell as many shirts as we would have liked but got a pretty good amount on donations. Janet has to do the figures and can tell you more later. The thing that surprised me was, more men bought the shirts than women. They really went for " Laying down for Boobies."
This is going to be a long night but even longer for English! I am glad she has a wonderful nurse in her husband. Thank you for your prayers fish. We will ride this thing out. Will call English tomorrow and see how she is.
Nancy
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Nadine - praying for your speedy recovery...please feel better soon!!!!
Nancy - prayers and fingers crossed that your tests are negative for swine flu!
Janet - get lots of rest and drink plenty of liquids...don't want you sick too.
BIG Healing Hugs and Lots of Love to All!!!
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I am getting sick too. But will catch up with you all later, still brain dead.
I am putting together a get well card for Nadine, email me what you want to say and I will add that and if anyone wants to make a donation for her meds, make checks payable to Nadine Chance and I will add that into her card. Please email me at janetzingano@comcast.net
Hugs to all and sending you all love. Will catch up soon!!!
Janet
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Rats lost my post at the end and having to start over. I'm hoping I can remember everyone I put in the original post -- here goes.
Lottie - I have not been able to quit permanently yet. Been riding that old quit-return to smoking-quit train for many years now. I've been most successful on the patch, not so much with Chantix due to the increased feeling of nausea. That being said, many of the women here have been extremely successful with Chantix. Do you have any thoughts about why chemo triggered the return to smoking? It might help us to support you through this if you could give us an idea what happenned there.
Michelle - I'm saddened to hear about your nephew's passing. On the bright side, your thrill of "hair" sounds fab! New pic please. It'll giving me hope as I'm still in the losing hair, losing eyebrows and eyelashes phase.
Nancy - please pass on my love and support for all of you in your swine flue challenge. I'm sending you strength to overcome this. Remember, be strong, be tough, and become healthy. We're all praying and pulling for you.
I need your help quitting smoking again. New SE's have triggered anxiety that slowly has raised my smoking level back up to nearly one pack a day!!! New SE's are suspicions of a blood clot or a new tumor in my left leg. Symptoms were constant pain in my thigh that appeared to be in the area of major artery together with increased numbness and tingling in my left foot. So I'm scheduled for both a venous and an arterial ultrasound to find out if there is a clot in a vein or artery that is causing the SE or if there is a tumor blocking the flow and causing the pain. The venous ultrasound was completed on Tuesday and the preliminary report is that it was negative for a clot or tumor. The arterial ultrasound is scheduled for this Friday (1-1/2 hr procedure). Any way back to the impact of smoking. Both the cardiologist who's running the ultrasound and my oncologist warned me that I need to stop smoking soon (or at least reduce the number consumed per day as the vasoconstriction can only worsen both the leg pain thing regardless of what is causing it and also worsen the lymphedema. So while I have the logical reason pushing me to quit/reduce slowing to ready to quit, the emotional mental parts of me is not feeling ready. I know it sounds incredibly stupid on my part. Really! Yet, feels so impossible to put action to the quitting right at this moment in time. Any thoughts or suggestions? The "just do it" doesn't feel like the right approach.
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Hi everybody, I really need more support than I thought. I started chemo on Monday and I find myself thinking...just one cigarette, that can't hurt anything thing, to; this so sucks that I don't care anymore. Any miracles out there?
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Suzy1979 Don't do it. Take a deep breath, the guilt of smoking is more of a pain in the a@@. I know how depressing chemo is. Ask for some meds like valium or xanax or try chantix. Otherwise you just keep the cycle of smoking not smoking going and that is torture in itself. It sucks and there is no two ways around that. Your just wanting to control something at this point because chemo really kinda lets a person know they have no control over what their own body is going thru. I think the miracle we are all hoping for it simply right inside our minds. I have been on this cycle of quitting and starting since my dx jan 09. I know logically that I want to control something in my life because in reality I have lost that. But you can't let cancer win or chemo. Figure it this way your sick with chemo so just get over ther urges right now and be done with it. Hang in there Suzy- the others here will help and support you. so sorry you had to join this group.
To all the new ladies welcome and to those who are sick yuck I will be praying for ya.
Malle
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Hi malle! So glad to see you posting again! Thank you so much for the good wishes! I do have the swine flu and the doctor put me on Tamiflu this morning. It is free in the State of Virginia to help control the outbreak. It hasn't affected my lungs so I think we have caught it early enough. I talked to ZinZin a little while ago. It looks as though I am going to be her new room mate as my sister is throwing me out again because I haven't stopped smoking. I don't think we will reconcile because of her screaming at me and saying things she can never take back. I just feel sorry for my BIL because she won't have anyone else to take her hate out on.
I sure hope you have good news with the blood clot situation in your leg. Chemo destroys more than the cancer cells but what choice is there. I feel so guilty about smoking. All of my other choices have been taken from me and I guess at least I'm choosing the way I am going to go. The hell with cancer! My sister says I don't have a clue. I think she needs to walk in my shoes. She has never had a husband who beat her, no children, never had to work. She was the Princess growing up. I was the invisible child except when my mother needed to take her hate out on someone. It is a good thing this happened because I was tired of living on eggshells. She has even alienated her SIL because she always has to be right. My BIL cheated on her once and she has never let him forget it. I was just a new source for her to take her vengeance out on because it got old taking it out on my BIL. I just need away from it. Can you believe someone could be jealous of a chemo patient because their hair is coming in thicker than hers? Oh well, sorry for carrying on.
I told Janet she needed to go to the doctor because she is showing all of the symptoms and it will be hard on her if she gets bad on the weekend with them out of the office. Hopefully she can catch hers early too. Please continue your prayers, especially for Nadine. I'm pretty sure she belongs in the hospital but she has no insurance. God help her!
Maybe Janet and I can support each other in quiting smoking. I think we will be good for each other. I didn't have any problem with my lungs in that altitude, in fact the dryness helped my asthma. She said it was snowing, but the sun came out and melted it. I will love being back in the Rockies again. I have always been a mountain girl. Maybe I can get rid of this Southern accent. I will just have to make sure to drink plenty of water. I guess I have blathered on enough with my soap opera. Welcome to the newbies!
Love to all!
Nancy
PS Thanks for your support fishwoman and Irene. It means the world to me. Also, thanks for everyone's good thoughts and prayers!
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Ok did I miss something pantufas your moving .....to CO. wow. and where are those pics ladies. I bet you had a great time.
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Yep malle, my sister went postal when she found out I was still smoking so she is throwing me out. I am going to room with Janet. Nadine has the pics on her phone and she is too sick right now to email them to Janet.
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Janet--How much room do you have??????
Please let Nadine know we are praying for her speedy recovery.
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Dear Pantufas, I read your post and I sort of know how you feel, but maybe through different circumstances. I get so tired sometimes and I don't know if it is because of the chemo or my whole life. I am really trying not to go down that path as I don't want to get stuck there. But it can be hard. I just wanted to wish you the best and hope things work out well for you.
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Hi Malleme, thanks for your response. Are you still smoking? Or did the things you suggested work for you? If you have quit did you go through any depression? And if so, do you feel your depression was worse because of having to quit? I feel like I am starting to go down that path. Thank you.
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Malle---heehee....how much room do you have??? That is funny. We should ALL move to Denver. That way we can at least be with other woman who support us. My dh is driving me crazy just by breathing. I guess since I have been "all clear" for over a year, this is suppose to be behind me. I am SO tired of him bitching about money. What more can I do? I went back to work, it is not a good job, but TRY finding a good job in this economy. At least I am there every day and helping with the bills, along with doing ALL the errands and housework. Then the kids keep calling for more money (college students) and apparently my dh thinks that is my fault too. I wish I were in Denver for the weekend, just to get away! I think he is resentful that I quit my old, well paying job to go through treatment......well....SO SORRY!
Ok, enough venting. Good luck Suzy and all the new combers! We are here for you....and we are meeting in Denver for drinks at 4:00 on Saturday....heehee.....
Love to all!
Ellie
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Love you fishbucket! I am praying for life to ease up on you. Why do things boil down to being our fault in a marriage? It's my fault I had to come back to the States so I could survive. I wasn't there for him during his heart attack. The truth be known, he dumped me because I quit sending him money. And he has a house and gets disability! I just get disabilty, but I'm not complaining. It paid for my care. It was for richer, healthier, and better and I failed on all three. Men!
Thanks for the good wishes Suzy. I have to believe everything happens for a reason. It will just take time for me to find out. I feel like a bird that is being allowed to fly for the first time in a year. I have to thank ZinZin for it. I hope things to better for you too. I had to get my depression med upped and it is helping.
I'm really worried about Nadine. I just tried to call and I didn't get a message on her phone. It sounded like she picked up but didn't say anything. Maybe she just needed rest and wanted the phone to shut up. I hope so.
Well, I guess I better rummage for something to eat. I made the mistake of drinking Pepsi on and empty stomach.
Love to all, and everybody get their a@@es to denver!
Nancy
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Nadine did answer the phone, I just couldn't hear her. She is feeling sooo bad and I am helpless to do anything for her. The pain is terrible. Please continue your prayers and good wishes. I believe in the power of prayer and the force of postive thinking. Will keep you updated.
I am leaving for Denver at 5:00pm on the 2nd of Nov. It will be a new adventure for me and one that I am ready for. I think ZinZin and I will have so much fun. It has been a long time since I looked so forward to something. My dear bc buddy xspectmiracles is an hour away and is driving me to the airport. I do not know what I would do without such wonderful friends. I owe knowing you to my BIL because he gave me this pc. I have to laugh because that is another thing that was a bug up my sister's a@@. She didn't think I should spend so much time on the computer. I knew that was the next thing to go. I have lived a year without a TV or a car. What am I supposed to do, sit and stare at my bellybutton? No more Nancy Hermit!
Thinking of all of you,
Nancy
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Not sure what if going on, been real busy.
Nancy is coming to live with me, I can't wait.
All new comers welcome! Will talk to you all soon,
Hugs,
Janet
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Hi Ladies, my event story is long so will put that on another day. It has worn me out and I had no idea how much work doing a charity event and a regular event was going to be. Add the BC bull_hit, like fatigue and memory loss, it has been a crazy month. I am feeling better but will see the Dr on Monday.
Welcome Lottie! We are a great bunch of gals but the thread goes up and down at times. But I am more free now since my event is over so I can be here for you daily. Some of us have quit and some of us haven't. It's a different journey for all. I used Chantix and the patch but failed over 6 times. Still trying though. I am going to try the gum next as O2BHealthy seemed to do well on that. Nervousknitter had once said it took her around 3 years so never give up. So don't disappear and give up!!! Keep in touch and hugs to you!
Welcome Suzy, yes miracles happen all the time. Meds do help. I am on antidepressants because I could not get myself out of bed. Even sleeping pills to go to bed early has helped some of those quitting to get through the day early.
Krissy, thanks for your support, it means a lot to all of us and we all can use it. Sharing is awesome.
Denise, I hope you are doing okay with you chemo. I have to work on not having an appetite, lol. How much longer do you have. Sounds like you should be home in bed all the time! I am glad you have people who care about you there helping you. You must be going stir crazy at times!!! I will try to help in anyway that I can with your quit smoking. Hang in there. Good luck with your study!
REKoz, still sending you warm thoughts. Hope you are feeling up with love everyday! The new year is coming and I am hope a break for all of us! Let me know how you are doing.
o2Bhealthy New Big Boobs, finally done with Chemo. Pretty soon you will be putting in 80 hours a day like a typical American, lol. I hope you find time for yourself. Really sad news on Bailey! Breaks my heart. Sending you and your family much love. I wish I could be there with you but know that you are in my heart along with Bailey. Big hugs to you and kisses xoxoxoxox.
Fifish, hope you have time for fun. Haven't been in touch for a while and I miss you!! You are such a great person. Miss your BAHAHAHAHA's.
Butterfly, get to the Dr soon!!!!!! Otherwise I will go up to where you live and drive you there. We worry about our beautiful Butterfly> Please let us know how you are doing.
Pantufas, you help me so much with you loving ways. Can't wait wait for you to move here, and I am slowly making room everyday in my tiny apartment. I so understand the walk in my shoes. Everyone can be so judgmental and I have been guilty of that too. The great thing is I do understand where you are coming from with the smoking, and we will help each other to quit!!! Take it easy so you don't get sicker, been counting the days!!
Nadine, I am really really worried about you. I feel guilty that both you and Nancy got sick coming here to Denver as the flu is everywhere. Or even traveling on the plane!!! You are so beautiful and it was great seeing Nancy and Nadine talk and laugh. I hope we can all meet in person soon. It was great hugging you and I want to hug you in the future again soon. Much love and positive vibes coming out to you.
Malleme, so happy to hear from you!!!! I have a lease for 14 months but hey after that, maybe we all could rent a large home and be the wackiest neighbor on the block. Screaming, crying laughing and laying down all over the place, lol. Can't wait for Pantufas to come live with me, I think we will be good for each other.
Candie, Cleo and Nobleanna, drop in a line as we worry about you. Will try to hit you up in Facebook sometime.
Still working on the results of my event and catching up with the after event stuff. Crazy event means more work, etc. Anyways, I have been slowly working on the BCBK site. I had a programmer work on the membership stuff and I will add it to the main site later and work on adjusting the membership too. But meanwhile, you can register and get your profile going. I can help you from the admin panel such as upload your pictures, etc. Will be adding more membership stuff when I get the time. I have done a quickie on my profile but you can update it any time by selecting edit profile.
Membership Register
http://www.bcancerbk.com/members/cgi/pm.cgi?action=show&temp=regView other members
http://www.bcancerbk.com/members/cgi/pm.cgi?action=browse&Love you all!!!!
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Okay, I am sorry for writing a book, lol.
My first charity event did not go well, in fact is was a mess. But the great thing is that not everyone will notice that. We collected around 125 in our donate can and I am still working on the profit of the tournament to figure out how much goes there. I haven't given up but I sure learned a lot, and I learned that I can't do almost everything by myself. Everything went wrong from staff, medals, t-shirts, and to top it off, our venue was under construction when we arrives so we had to reinvent the layout with a short staff. I ended up crying that day with Jack Nicholson. What a mess.
But feelinn better and ready to move forward. Wishing well to all. Talk to me!!!!
Best,
Janet
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Hey Janet, glad to see you are back. I know you were busy, but we missed you. I am SO jealous of you and Nancy being roomies. Oh, if I could only move (just for a couple months) and live and learn with other bc sisters who know what it is like. The fun we would have!! I really do want to come visit when things settle down. REKoz said she would come with me. Too much fun! Maybe in spring so I can go skiing as well, I haven't done that in years, but I have skied since I was 5 years old, I would love to be out west again.
My weekend was better. I think my dh got my hint and he was a completely different person over the weekend. Very loving, supportive and doting. Maybe he just has bad days too, I mean, let's face it, living with me isn't always easy.
Wishing you all a great week. Good luck not smoking. I still am smoking (but not during the day during the week). How can I go 9 hours so easily, but I just can't give them up at night? Who knows?!
Love you all!
Ellie
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Ok, I need help. I just realized that Saturday is Halloween, and we always have our block party for it, but I have no costume yet for me and my dh. Any EASY suggestions?
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Hi Fifish,
Nice to hear from you. Yup, we may not be the easiest to live with. That's love for you, understanding and making amends and more towards growth. I am always growing up still, I sometimes think I ma an idiot, lol.
Would love to have and of my BC sisters with me. If any of you get time, fill out your profile with the BCBK site at this link here.
http://www.bcancerbk.com/members/cgi/pm.cgi?action=show&temp=reg
If you need help, just let me know and I will get it going for you.
Best,
Janet
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How about a giant glass of mango punch and people can drink you when you come by. That sounded weird, nevermind, lol
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How about how some of the teenager dress these days with their pants hangin off and their undies showing and you could pick up on some their lingo. "Take it easy bjeasy!" or something like that. As you can see I don't have that down, lol. I could say, "Let's bounce."
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Your hubby could be the left boob and you could be the right boob as women are always right, and together you would make a pair. Don't forget the franken stiches......BAHAHAHAHAHA!
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BAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! His could have a dent in it like my REAL left boob. Oh my Janet, that gave me my laugh for the day. Too bad all the neighborhood kiddies are going to be around, or I would pull that off. Too funny!
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Hey Janet. I was unable to make a profile because it said that my "captcha" was wrong. I think it was that security thing on the bottom. Also, there was one empty space on the bottom, with no question next to it, so I don't know if that was part of my problem I will try again later.
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Hi dear fiends,
I am a little spent today. I walked 10 miles yesterday (to and back from Wal-Mart) to get my meds filled before I leave. It was a nice day but cold when the sun started going down. It would have been okay if the going had of been flat but I live in the Blue Ridge Mts and if it ain't mountains, it's hills! Every bone, muscle and sinue was aching but I made it. If a pack of dogs had come after me they would have had a nice fat meal. Still I am proud of myself. Haven't done anything like that since I was young.
Now hoot is, when I came back, my sister or BIL had left the keys to the truck on my desk. I was too tired to laugh. Then I went upstairs to put my bank card in my purse and I find 3 pieces of chocolate rolled up in a baggie in the bottom of it. Strange! And I am still smoking! But I feel free. This has been a bad year for me like a lot of you. I just went over the edge when I lost my husband (he's still alive). I thought I would be married to him until I died. Oh well, they say life begins at 40, maybe it can begin again at 55.
Fishbucket, I heard you need a Haloween costume. I wish I was there to make one for you. Eons ago, when I worked at the law office, we had a clerk who was in a wheelchair. We were all gabbing one day about our costumes (yeah, a lot of work went out of that office) and he asked what he could go as. He didn't want to be left out and we didn't want to leave him out. We were nonplussed as to what he could go as. So I was on a mission. I found two big flat pieces of styrafoam that a computer monitor had come in that had a perfect semi-circle cut out of the center of each. They fit perfectly around his neck. I duct taped them into place and cut a hole in a white table cloth. I put this over his head and it completely covered his wheelchair. Then I fashioned a "platter" out of tin foil and put artificial grapes on the "platter". He had long hair and a beard already so he went as John the Babtist. We all had a great time! I hope you do too fishbucket. I can just see you and Irene coming to Denver. Maybe our Wal-Mart caper will materialize after all! We've got to get English better so she will be there and everyone else that can come and do a massive rampage laydown! We just need to pick out a bail bondsman before we do.
English still feels like crap but is farming again so she must feel a little better. Her dh is taking good care of her.
Welcome to all of the newbies, I will forget your names and mix your stories up for a while but eventually I will know who you are. Just know that you can come here anytime. We are such a loving bunch of fiends and we will support you while you go through the trials of life and that wretched smoking habit. STOP THE INSANITY!! Haven't said that in a long time so I thought I better add it.
Can't wait to see ZinZin! I'M ALIVE!! Just thought I'd say that too. Love going out to all of you!
Nancy
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Good for you Nancy! Ten miles is crazy! That costume sounds great, I will have to come up with something. Ugh, just not in the mood this year, what else is new right? I am ready for the Great Denver Wally World Lay Down for Boobies! Yes, Nadine get better so you can join me and REKoz on our adventure. heehee....we need a bail bondsman first...not bad thinking there Ms. Pat....BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA (I just assumed it was Pat who knew about bail bondsmen and not Nancy) Amen to you Nancy Pat Susan...STOP THE INSANITY!
Love you all!
Ellie
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