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Peace and all good to everyone here.
I've been "out" in more ways than one this week. Our computer got zapped from a lightning storm and we're still trying to fix it. Plus I haven't been feeling well. Just punk. Saw my onc on Friday and complained about the achy legs and feet. I thought it was tamoxifen, and she says it's still taxotere... over a year later!! I increased the Lexapro to see if that will help.
Sheila - God bless you during this time of mourning and doubt or questioning. Yes, life and death were handled much differently 40+ years ago. Our nuclear families have created a community vacuum, where 40+ years ago, the community celebrated and mourned together. I remember deaths as being sad and joyful, probably from my Catholic/Eastern European upbringing. My grandmother and her family were Catholic Bohemians, and we gathered for funerals, prayed together, hugged each other, then went to a relative's home for rest and enjoyment. We celebrated each other. We celebrated the live of the loved one who died. And after everyone went home, the mourners were not left alone because there was always family there. Hospice *is* a good thing, as my brother and step-father were allowed to pass away at home. My mother was in the hospital with hospice... her passing was so quick. But there was never talk of not sleeping in the bed where my brother died. My stepfather passed away in his green Lazy Boy, which I have now. My daughter once said, "How can you sit there, Grandpa died in that chair." There aren't bad memories associated with his dying. Like Gina said, I remember more of the wonderful memories, of him sitting in the sunroom watching TV or reading or telling us about his boyhood. I think we place too much emphasis on the morbidity of death b/c of our culture of death. Because so many people have left faith, and faith isn't lived by the majority of the community as it was many years ago, it's more difficult to "see" the beauty in death. Yes, we no longer have that loved one physically there to comfort us or for us to comfort them, but our time here on earth is SO SHORT (like the time in the womb), that once we get to heaven with them, it will all be forgotten. But God knows, everyone handles death differently and no one can say this way is right or that way is wrong. We take away what we can and try not to hold onto things that hurt us, give them to God. It's easier said than done! You are in my prayers.
Lee - welcome!! What a wonderful experience you had!! My son in law is considering joining the church also. My husband converted many years ago. If you can get passed the media and social hype about how bad the Catholic church is, and really participate in the fullness of the faith, you will come to love it!
Michelle - great news regarding your scans! I'm sorry your husband is still trying to find work. What a stressful time for our country! It makes no sense.
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Sisters
If you could keep a dear friend of mine Wendy in yourprayers. She just had her scan and her BC has shown up in her bones.. pleasepray for Wendy
Thank you
Namaste
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Please say a prayer for my dear friend and co-worker Cathy who reached the end of her cancer journey earlier today. It's a very sad story. She was diagnosed with liver cancer in Fall of 2010. She had been having chemo and was doing well until about a month ago when she stopped responding to the treatments. She leaves behind a husband and 7 year old son. May you rest in peace, Cathy!
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Michelle... i am so sorry to hear about Cathy! i will defitnely keep her and her family in my prayers!
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Michelle....I'm so sorry to hear about Cathy. May her soul, and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God rest in peace. May our dear Lord comfort her family...
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Michelle praying for Cathy and her family and friends...please keep Jeniifer in your prayers and her family. Her rare brain cancer has not responded to any treatment. She is going home today...19 years old and she decided it's time to go.....what courage to die....
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I will pray for Jennifer too....our 9 year old nephew died of brain cancer 5 years ago. We know how sad that is...
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Oh sagina, that is so sad. I will keep Jennifer in my prayers. It so sad to see such a young person in that situation.
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thank you for your prayers. I can only pray for God's will now, she is suffering so....her four year old has many confusing years ahead of him....
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Theresa----You so hit the nail on the head--------I grew up in a huge family 66 first cousins---88 with aunts and uncles and that didn't include their spouses. Then there was a several grandparent families of untold number that kept in touch. There were always great family gatherings. The connectedness with old church family was also there. I ended up in a state in a location where it's just me. I have made a small family of friends here, but when I have such memories as you also have, of the connectedness. I made up a saying when I was young. "Friends may come and go, but family's always there". I was so young when I said that. Now, my. I think of my parents at my age and the richness of family about them. My Dad had a tavern and it was where the family met b/c it would be bursting at the seams with so many. Poor DH always took his station at the draft beer. He came from a family of 15 nuclear and extended. He was always overwhelmed at our gatherings. Why the draft station? He knew they would talk for a couple of minutes and ------go away LOL. In a do over, I would have pushed more when the time was right to go back to my state after following him for each job change. I never even thought to say okay we have gone in your direction, you now need a new job. look in my old home state. Why I didn't think of that------no clue. I always put his job change in first. If I were to advice a younger now, I would say it much differently. Family and community are important threads to our being. Jobs are jobs. Those that have the ability to stay close to their roots----within a reasonable distance do it. I have read words of people that made a home /community wherever they went. We did here too. What I left was so massive. Here b/c it is such a transient society --Florida. what was once larger is now small again. I can work to change that. But as a widow in Florida, my sister warned me , I would be seen differently. I was glad for the warning b/c otherwise I might have thought, I was a leper. Some may think that and odd commentary, but it's like BC, it can't be understood until your on this side of it. It's not just Florida. I used to include single women my whole married life. My twin always told me how unusual this was. I didn't believe her. Now I get it. It's like when we understood this side of cancer.
So, I'm on to create a new life. But as in the past, if I were to marry again, I will still keep the single women in my life. I would ask each of you reading this, consider including those that are alone to include them at your gatherings.
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This is the first night in the last year that no one came for prayers. I could have been here and again forgot. Our Dear Theresa is dealing with hurricane Irene. Theresa is a our stalwart.
May all those that experience difficulty b/c of this storm, be guided in how to protect themselves. May none be harmed. We know the fury of the wind, let it dissolve . Let each take care of each other as needed. Bless all that come here b/c they seek union in Spirit.
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Storytime----------June 24th 1972-------Hurricane Edith, the day we got married. It was in Detroit , but just like Irene, it had an affect. Our plan(my) plan was to be married in front of the Blessed Mary's center of the University of Detroit. It is a Jesuit University. I made arrangements for the University Chapel. But was intense about being married at Mother Mary's Center. I walked everyday by her. She meant so much. I had this thing about be married in front of her chapel..
Hurricane Edith rained the whole day------------i cryed much of it I had made arrangements for the chapel and never went to look at it. The only place I wanted to be married was in front of her --------we got in the cars to go and the rain stopped. We had the wedding ----------everything oddly came into place. When we took our vows , the sun was brilliant through the old oak trees. When we left the rain started again.
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Sorry for missing prayers. I must have fallen asleep. Doing well recovering from surgery. My dh is bringing my DD home from camp tonight. I pray for a safe trip for them with the hurricane and safety for everyone in it. Also prayers for all your intentions. So sorry about Jennifer. She is in my prayers as well.
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so sorry missed prayers.. getting ready for Irene and recov from the earthquake we had in Va this week what a week. I pray each of you is doing well is safe and ok!
Kay so glad to hear you are recovering well from surgery my prayers have been with you as well!
Namaste sisters
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Oh I pray for any of you dealing with the hurricane... I am sorry..
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Sending up daily prayers for everyone here. Namaste!
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Ladies...... how are you? Lets chat about our Fall plans......
As for me and my family..... I watch my grandkids again... on Mon-Tuesday.....( moms a teacher so off in the summer)I went back to work FULL TIME for the first time since I was 21...lol... My youngest son is turning 21 in a few weeks..... and my DH and I are planning a trip for our 25th wedding anniversary.... St. Barts we think??
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Ladies.... and our 1 gentleman....:)
As the starter of this thread, I ask you not to respond. Please ignore this last post in our open forum. If you feel the need to respond, please only do so in a PM to this poster.
I have never had a problem on BCO, and I wish that to continue.
God Bless you!
Laura
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I have reported this as spam. The moderators of BCO are always good about responding fast.
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Hi Laura
We are good in va survived an earthquake and a tropical storm we are so very lucky!
How great tha you get to spend time with your grandkids!
Hope all my sisters are doing well. My DD started back to school today son is taking some college course first day home alone... and i think i may like it a bit lol!!
HAVE A GREAT DAY ALL
Namaste!
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"It is a good and wholesome thought to pray for the dead, that they may be loosed from their sins." ~ 2 Maccabees 12:45
Dear members of this thread,
Just want to let you know that I send up prayers "daily" for ALL the members at BCO, my family, friends, and the beloved departed ones too. (please note: I pray FOR the people and FOR the dead not "To").
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Thank you Diamnond Girl!
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Tink, you are welcome dear
My kids went back to school yesterday. Now back to worrying about their academics, LOL.
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I understand that. I keep asking my son did you do your homework and he says " mom im in college now" so i said to him yes your right....so did you????? lol
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Thank you, Moderators
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BCO shines again! Thank you Mods!!!!
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New grandson--Francis David--all are healthy as is big brother Sebastian!! Thank you Jesus!! xo
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LMFSM, congrats on your new grandson!!!
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
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HURRAY FOR THE NEW GRAND !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They are so wonderful !!! I am very happy for you !!!!
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a big hello to my Catholic friends.. I've been busy.
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