MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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I have always wanted my own posse! All I needed to do to become a member of this club was be 55 years old and get breast cancer!
It is nice to see the humor, support and information on here. What a helpful group! So glad I found this site. I was diagnosed 2 days ago and have been reading the newly diagnosed forums non-stop. I have to pace myself - -I get infomation overload0 -
090815, I hate to say welcome to the club, not so much the club of BC but the club of wonderful woman. I read anything and everything about BC when I was first diagnosed last year, I'm on my last treatment of radiation today, so excited, 11 months of treatment finally done! These forums are so helpful and keep you going, even when you feel like you going to go over the edge. You will get a lot of information coming your way in the next few weeks, so please make sure that you take someone with you to your appointments and start a notebook, it helps so much. Sending you a big hug!
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Thanks for the support! I really appreciate it!
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hello, 090815, and welcome to the middie party group. We are sorry that you have to join us,, but since you are here, hope you will have some fun with us.
6doggies!! Last treatment!! It is party time!! Sending you virtual ice cream and cake.
HnS: damn your PCP! 4 or 5 a month is nothing!! Jerk-face. Let him live with pain and see what he does. Hope the Emory back clinic can help you. How much Vit D are you on? Maybe you need to switch brands? Some are better,,, better absorbed than others. Or you might need to raise your dose. Can you do 20 mins a day in the sunshine? (when you have some,,, raining a lot here)
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090815, How well I remember those first horrific weeks where I had to read my eyes to bloody sockets every day to learn about my disease. BC robs a lot of our time. Boy, do I hate that. Try to squeeze in some normal daily activities--that you like--just for your mental health. Before long, you will have a treatment plan, a timetable to take care of business and as far as that goes...as one of our Mid-Age sages once said, "You don't have to be brave, you just have to show up." As you read thru' the virtual ocean of BC info., let us know if we can help demystify anything. BTW, having BC and embracing your middle age gets you into this group, but you get a membership upgrade if you have a well developed love of Cheetos (or can convincingly fake it.)
5doggies, congrats on finishing up with Rads today!!! Wait, let me express that in "dog."
HnS, That chocolatey delicious hottie? I don't know. I just call him "baby." (No doubt I am old enough to be his mom. Eeeek!)
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Do Nacho Doritos count instead of Cheetos? *just wondering*
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HeartNSoul - why don't you push for a referral to a pain management specialist? The heck with the PCP. I agree - let him eat pain (or something like that).
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Glennie, I'm thinking that nacho doritos do count! They turn your fingers orange, don't they?? I used to spend my babysitting money on them when i was a teen. And then, not for years and years, hardly ever. Then, somehow, during chemo, I craved them! But not the regular kind, the spicy hot kind! I ate them every day for months, my fingers were perma-orange!
Heart, Jax is Charlie Hunnam, He played in that series, sons of anarchy. I was pretty sure I didn't want to watch a series about bikers, boy was I wrong! Jax kept me coming back.
And all the awfulness of the characters, but great acting!
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glennie19, Those were my first snackin' love, ever since Junior High when (as I mentioned not too long ago) a daring lunch consisted of leaving the J.H.S. grounds to go get Doritos & a Frozen Coke at the newly opened 7-11 Store. They contain msg to the high heavens, but I still have to go down memory lane with them once in a while. So--yes--we can apply those to your Cheetos requirement in a pinch.
T-boy, I watched that series, mostly on Netflix, with my DH. My fave outlaw biker was "Chibs" (with his thick Scottish brogue) and it was a running joke for every episode that after he had some dialog, I had to ask DH, "Whadda he say?" Yes, I ask it for seven seasons straight, and my husband never once told me to give it a rest...and THAT, my dear Middies, is why my hubster is a keeper!
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Well, it's been about 2 weeks since I went to the MO and I don't have my CMP or CEA results yet. Did get CBC results right at the appt., and it was perfection. I'm thinking that no news is great news, since if something looked wonky they would have phoned. If I don't get the hard copies in the mail this week (for my massive collection,) I'll ring them up. Guess what, I forgot about it completely all last week. Now that's progress!!!
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That is progress, Elimar,, and THAT is a HOT PINK phone! Wow.
Glad everyone agrees that nacho Doritos count,, now, if I only had some,,,, **craving**
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I am such at such a weird age for this Cancer Land stuff. At age 40, I am considered Very Young in many studies, but I am too old to be 'young' for this board, yet my kids are too young (9 and 4) for me to be 'middle-aged.' Oh well, good thing I'm used to being a misfit! Perhaps I need to start an 'Old with Young Kids' group.
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39andhip, Like I said above in the OP..."it's fine if you have some variation." Many days this thread may is more about attitude than age. In reading your Dx lines, it sure looks like your Lefty has been put thru' the wringer. So, what happened after you had the second lumpectomy? Were the docs worried about the margins? Did you then choose Mx because you wanted the best chance to be done with the BC forever? And it sounds like the DCIS was pretty extensive...what was the thinking to even attempt the second lumpectomy? What now...do you have some Tamoxifen looming on the horizon or a different option? Also, many "younger" gals have HER2+, so you were lucky in that respect.
p.s. WELCOME!
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39andHip - I agree, this thread is about attitude. I love reading these posts and have been unable to move along even though I'm technically too old now. Sounds like you're just barely recovering from DIEP. Sorry you have to be here but welcome and good wishes for easy recovery.
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But while we're at it Eli - I never got a pink princess phone when most of my friends had them. Sigh. Just as well since now I'm really adverse to PINK. Enough with the awareness. Everyone's aware now. Let's get on with prevention.
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From the Get Out Your Barf Bibs Dept: Today, I was at the chiropractor's and a People Magazine was on the table and one of the articles was about Joan Lunden, something like "One Year Out...How She Beat Her Breast Cancer." I was agast. My mind was thinking, "really, after just one year can anyone even remotely consider that they beat it?" Then inside, a statement from Joan said something like how her doctor got a good feeling that she was going to be one that was cured. What a-brain doctor would say anything like that when all anyone has is NED, seeing as there is no CURE!!! If that even was actually said, that is, and I have my doubts.
But hold on...I did not have the time to read the whole article; and, hold on, because it was not even Joan talking so crazy, at least. The direct quote I read from Joan's mouth (allegedly, and I have to paraphrase here) was that she still has that pit of fear inside, that she is taking it one day at a time, and if she recurs she will step up and deal with it. O.K., so Joan does sound normal enough there. It's those stupid magazines that make those stupid headlines, to pass on stupid info. to the ignorant masses. You thought I would say "stupid masses," didn't you? No! They just do not know any better when this is the type of shiny magazine headline that stares up at them in some waiting room time and time again.
So, MinusTwo, I don't know if I agree with you, because there often seems to be a distinct LACK of awareness out there, judging by the utter garbage that we find circulating monthly and weekly in various "Women's" periodical publications. The average woman is not reading journal articles. The average woman is reading People. So now they know that Joan Lunden's cancer was cured. Sheeeesh!!!!!!
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yeah, SHEEEEESH!!!
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Eli - in that case, I agree w/you. Hmmm, cured? And for whoever buys that magazine story, there are nice little green men in my guest room who pronounce blessing on my head when I'm asleep. Oops - or maybe they gave me the neuropathy? I guess I know too many people who are either way too aware, or who just don't want to know anything & want to hide their heads in the sand.
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Hi,
Being 50 (and just over one half), I was hoping to join you since I'm right smack dab in the middle. I do love Cheetos Crunchits. sometimes even with jalapenos.
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Thanks, guys.
Elimar - So after the first lumpectomy, it was discovered that I actually had very extensive DCIS that had not shown up on any of the imaging. I had one margin that was very close, and my surgeon wasn't comfortable with such a close margin given that I'm only 40 (and actually, a second pathology said the margin was actually positive). Based on this, we were pretty certain taking a bit more out would be sufficient, but after the second lumpectomy I had three positive margins. (WTF??) Mastectomy was the only logical choice at that point, given that the DCIS was obviously very extensive and I don't have large breasts to begin with (B cup). I do have some sort of dreaded anti-hormone therapy looming - probably ovarian suppression + AI vs. tamoxifen, though I'm still debating this and will discuss it with my MO next week. Ugh. 0 -
Hey molliefish, jump right in! the water here in Middieland is fine!
Hey, Joan Lunden's cancer was cured because she's a celebrity! There is awareness out there but "they" are aware of so many non-truths. But again, until I was diagnosed, I was "aware" but not aware, if you get my drift!
Working 4-10s, at age 61, is not a logical step for most folks, but I am so enjoying using my brain!!!! Just hoping I can continue the pace.
My daughter turns 21 on the 21st! Egad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Where did the time go????
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Hi Molliefish,, welcome to the gang!
39andhip: Not a fun decision. Is having a oophorectomy (removal of the ovaries) a possibility instead of ovarian suppression? Not sure if you want to go that route or not,, but just throwing that out there in case your MO hasn't mentioned it. Be aware of all the possibles is my opinion.
Eph: so if you are a celebrity, they can cure your cancer? Well, they dropped the ball on Linda McCartney and look what happened to poor Paul. Found nasty wives after Linda. And what about Kathy Bates,, why did they let her get LE? So maybe they only want to cure certain celebrities,,,, hmmmm,,, Wow, DD turning 21,, where did the time go? 4 10's is not easy, but hang in there, sounds like you are enjoying the job.
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Hello, molliefish! You are up in Canada, but your Cheetos style is definitely more South of the border.
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Glennie - Yeah, an oophorectomy is a possibility, but I want to see if I can even tolerate the AIs first. If I can, then I'd definitely go for oophorectomy rather than have monthly shots. But for the moment I am sooooo over having surgery. UGH!!
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I bet you are over having surgery,,,, That's a lot of surg for one year.
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yea Glennie, you are right about all the celebs that didn't get cured. I was being facetious, I get so ticked when stupid info gets published (which seems to be gaining steam).
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And I was being sarcastic! People magazine just wants eye-catching headlines so that people will buy it. I just read it at my hairdresser's and in the grocery store line! I'm ticked with stupid info too,, and Oct is coming,,,, way too quickly. Putting away all pink shirts for the month. Should get dog a non-pink collar too.
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I don't own any pink, but one shirt and I think it's due to go to the thrift store soon as I haven't worn it in almost a year!
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My Birthday is in October, Pink used to be my favourite color now I hate/dread them both when they are used together.
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I usually resort to this statement. " if I knew then, what I know now ". I was and am the kind of silent type donator. I support anonymously, and most of the fund raising swag I have is for the Ontario version of the widows and orphans fund.
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I agree not only was my surgery in October so is my birthday, so every October in my face is PINK, and it's also my birthstone. I actually like the colors of fall in October, orange, brown and green!
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And all the awfulness of the characters, but great acting!
