The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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You are so funny. But it would make listening to the bonehead talk useful. BINGO I WIN versus Not another one.
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Scuttlers, I put it in the topic box on Pinktober. Here's the link, check it out
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/102/topic/791442?page=74#post_3141557
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Scuttler I think I will put it in the Steam Room topic box too. AND I'm going to repost your comment about how you are going to play bingo. Go girl, you have hit the nerve here. To have it all in such a small space and then your comment on how to use it. Masterful. sassy
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Too funny, scuttlers!!!!
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sas-schatzi wrote:
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Last week I ran into an ex-coworker. This woman knew I had cancer and went through chemotherapy. She looked at me and said "your hair is so short!". Without thinking I looked her in the eye and said "it beats being bald". That shut her up. People can be very insensitive.
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Ugh maiden. I walked into my MO office and when my Mo saw me a year after he says " you got your haircut?" I mean really. It's short from the chemo drugs you gave me and the last time I saw you I was wearing a wig. Dumb ass MO. Lo
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I'm from Asia, and my neighbours have started to avoid me upon learning that I have cancer. Comments included "are you serious? Don't kid me.", "but you don't look sick", "you're so young!"
Oh and my favourite."Are you sure you have cancer?"
Like.. Seriously?
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sas-schatzi: Industrial Grade Stupid! Bwahahaha.
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Notdoneyet ???, Confused...am I industrial grade stupid or did I identify something industrial grade stupid? Into the Sunday afternoon wine, not as discerning as say the Friday afternoon wine
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Sas-schatzi: No!!!! I was laughing about this:
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Notdoneyet, LOL, Oh the ravages of BC (or wine), forgot that one already.........................
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sas-schatzi wrote:
Cheerleading for BCO. They are our home, our resource, we gain so much by being here. They have costs. Let's help.
They make periodic requests by email. They're is the donation link in the header. An easy way for those that do online banking is to set up a donation on a predictable basis.
We need to do this. They take care of us. Let's make sure we take care of them.
You don't have to send a check. Do it simply in your online banking. But if you are still stuck on checks.........
To donate by mail, please send your check payable to Breastcancer.org to:
120 E. Lancaster Avenue | Suite 201 | Ardmore, PA 19003link to BCO Our biggest advocate
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/110/topic/834331?page=1
Link to the mainboard donation page
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Sorry if this is a bit glum... but it happened a year ago and still upsets me to this day. A woman from this forum contacted me - she's BRCA+ and was planning on having the same surgeries I did, at the same hospital with the same surgeons, so she wanted to meet for coffee to hear about my experience. Of course I said yes - how could I refuse to share and offer whatever help I could? At one point in the conversation, it came up that my BC was ER+ and her response absolutely floored me. "Oh, you're so lucky because that's benign!" I tried to be pleasant, tried to tell myself that her situation was somehow more difficult than mine, and I just muttered, "Well, not really..." but I wish I'd kicked her in the shins.
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lahela,
Just when you think you've heard it all... really?! ER+ breast cancer is benign?!?!
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Today mother-in-law told me that I'd be fine cause I eat healthy and have a good attitude. If only it were that easy...
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You mean all this time I was er+ and didn't know that wasn't cancer.
Why the heck did I go through all the treatment.
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I hate when cancer turns into a bragging contest (a bit like your experience lahela). When I was first diagnosed 12 years ago an aunt by marriage who'd had bc rang to offer support seemed to keep implying that hers was worse (therefore she won!). Maybe it wasn't her intention but that's how it came out.
I guess I 'win' now, since my progression to stage IV. It's really not a good competition to win. I want to beat cancer, not someone else in a 'who's got it worse' contest.
Ah well.....
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Oh my goodness, this thread is still going? Shows that people never run out of stupid, doesn't it? They don't run out of insensitive or downright rude either.
Note: Yes, I'm "Shrek4", I wasn't able to recover my old account when I got back on BCO, so I'm posting on the new one.
Day
Adding one of my stupid things said to me stories (I got a bunch of them):
At a public gathering this acquaintance comes to me and says "I heard you have breast cancer, I am so sorry, but I understand EXACTLY what you're going through, I had it 10 years ago and here I am, still". Tbh I wasn't feeling too well and was hurting, but the "10 years ago and here I am" part kind of cheered me up so I asked her what kind of BC and what treatments - you know, trying to get some kind of bonding, maybe some info - she answers "Oh, I don't remember what kind it was, I just had a lumpectomy and that was it". At that, I kid you not, I could feel my blood pressure rise, and said "So you don't even remember what it was and just had a lumpectomy and that was it? Then let me tell you, lady, you did NOT have cancer, not even the non-invasive one, because you would have had some kind of treatment, and you would DEFINITELY remember every little detail. And don't you EVER dare say again that you understand exactly what I'm going through - I had bilateral mastectomy, breast reconstruction, axillary lymph node dissection, 6 surgeries in 2 1/2 years of which one that lasted 11 hours, chemotherapy and hormonal therapy. You have NO idea what I've been through. I would appreciate if you could make yourself scarce and never come near me again".
I know, I over-reacted. But I was at a point in which I just couldn't take it.
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Day lol, my memory is caput. I didn't remember that. PM the Mods and see if they won't let you get into the topic box and fix it. This thread did go inactive for awhile. That's when I went looking for you and your last post was on the 2010 chemo thread. Welcome back, and glad you are stil NED YAY!
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Seachain. You did NOT overreact. You could have run over this person with a car with chains on the tires and not overreacted. Seriously.
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Seachain--good response, to my mind!
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Great response. So tired of people minimizing our experiences!!!!
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Heh. I got an even better one for you.
A couple years ago I had to go have a contrast CT scan because the XRays on my spine showed some suspicious spots on my lungs (everything was fine in the end)
Anyway, I get there, a rather ditzy-looking female technician leads me to a room to change and put on a gown, instructing me to remove everything from the waist up and leaves.
I do all that, put the gown on, slightly open the door so she can see I'm done.
She comes in, takes a look at me and says "you need to take your bra off too". I guess my foobs looked too perky for someone my age. I reply that I don't wear a bra, that I have reconstructed breasts with an "internal bra" that is also known as "Alloderm sling". She happily states "oh how I envy you!".
I said "do you want to switch places with me? be careful what you wish for" and stared at her not moving. Took close to 5 minutes of her nervously looking at me then at the paper in her hand until she finally read what was actually written on that paper and it dawned on her what a preposterous thing she has said.
I requested another technician to do my CT scan.
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Good seachain. good job. uh-huh chew'em up and spit them out..................
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Seachain--good for you!Bet that tech reads the paperwork from then on.
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Seachain, I had that exact experience a few days ago! I was having dinner with a friend I hadn't seen in years and was describing my reconstruction to her. Mind you, I had JUST finished telling her that I have no nipples, no sensation, and scars all the way across each foob, but she heard the description of the implants being "round and firm" and said she was jealous of me! I told her I would take my real, droopy boobs back any day. I think she realized that it was a stupid thing to say...
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