The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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you know, I was on the other side once.... my neighbor had a BMX and flap surgery nine years ago. Seven years before I joined the club. I remember asking her if she liked her new boobs. Her reaction, very tactful, made me realize immediately that I had said the wrong thing. However, I didn't really know how wrong until I was in her shoes.. (now, of course, a tech should know better, waaay better, but your average Jane? Not so much).
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Bump
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My SIL said, after uni mx, when I was crying and miserable, "Buck up and get a frilly shirt". She's Irish. My Irish cousin said to me when I told her about all the reconstruction surgeries, "I didn't know you were so vain." I am going on a family trip to Ireland again this summer, and I am SO, SO happy neither of the above people will be there this time.
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YAY!
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Frilly shirt? So you could throttle her with it? wtf? sheesh....
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I'm in the middle of weekly Taxol/Carbo, I've been exhausted. My ever so "wonderful" boyfriend decided to inform me this weekend that it's probably "mental" and I should should pretty much just get over it. I could fill a page with his dumb comments 😡
Edited because I can't spell.
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LifeAloft. Next time he wants to get 'frisky' tell him it's probably all in his mind, i.e. 'mental'.
Got a good laugh out of that one blondedoris.
GP
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Nice one GP, I'll have to remember that!! 😆
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hi all
So my fav is someone told me that I got breast cancer becuase I have no children. Really?! Thanks MOM
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My husband is the KING of stupid comments. Too many to enumerate, watching a movie can get your mind off the cancer, really?
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HA!! or a stand up comedian, I'm told by a friend
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I was telling a friend about the chemo, the low red cells and that I needed blood transfusion. She started talking about her job issues and concluded: at least I don't have your problems. Yes, she's still alive, I didn't throttle her.
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MoreShoes, Oh man the glare you must have given her
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When I was dx, I was dating an amazing man - he really was, however emotionally, he was not good at sharing feelings/emotions. When I cut my hair to prepare for chemo (then donated it because I had planned to do that prior to my own dx), he said "I liked your hair longer." My response "Give it a few months and this will be the 'longer.' He was mortified once he realized what he had said, so he build a fence around my yard for my dogs since I couldn't walk them once I started all of my treatments. The guilt really got to him.
My other "favorite" comment was from my mom, who is my BFF and I love her dearly. "Hey, since all of your hair is going to fall out from chemo, I want to tell you that your esthetician is doing your eyebrows way too thin."
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I have Paget's disease and small amount of dcis (I hope it's small) only recently diagnoised, I'm having a wle on Thursday to remove my nipple, I'm devastated my "friend"text me saying "all set for Thursday" as if I was going off to a wedding I text back no, she said I'll call for talk if you want I said ok, she spent the whole time saying you'll be grand, I'd told her I'm treading seeing my nipple gone spoke about getting nipple tattoo as soon as I could, so she knew I was upset about this. When she was leaving she said "next time I see you you'll be nipple less or you'll have one nipple" I was in shock I really couldn't believe she could be so nasty.
My Dr had given me zanex last week which I didn't take but I had to take one after she left.
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I worked after my mastectomy, and I've been on leave since the middle of chemo. My boss called asking if I'm still going to radiation therapy. Told him yes and that the effects continue 1-2 weeks after the last day. His response: "So you'll be back to normal after 2 weeks?"
Tempted to make my leave permanent. 0 -
Define normal......
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A state that I will not achieve anytime soon
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I am now a long term survivor, and I heard most of the dumb things others have posted; but I believe my favorite was from a neighbor, not a particularly pleasant neighbor. She was known for making inappropriate comments to everyone. I don't think this neighbor had ever actually been to my house - she lived just around the corner across the street from a good friend neighbor. When I came home from surgery, she came to the bottom of the steps leading to a back porch. I had just come in from the back porch but heard her and walked back out. She never came up the steps. She just stared at me and told me she could never come over again [as I said she never had before] because every time she looked at me she would be reminded of what could happen to her. I just turned around and went back into the house.
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Amazing. How self centered can a person be??????
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I was diagnosed in 2011 and decided to have a bilateral mast with reconstruction so I had the extenders in, partially filled. My general surgeon, (the butcher) took a look at my chest and said "that's nice, at least you get to go home with a little something." WTH.. I went from a triple D to an A within a few hours and was just getting used to the idea. I felt like punching him..
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I wonder how general surgeon would have felt going home with a quarter of his penis? At least he'd have a little something, so he should be good with it, right??
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From the boyfriend: "When my mom went through chemo she played tennis every day." Yes, please add one more way I'll never measure up to your mother.
A coworker: "You look fine to me. Why are you not back at work?"
A friend: "I thought cancer made you lose weight? You must be eating well."
An acquaintance I don't know well, just YESTERDAY: "I just read that eating beets cures cancer but doctors don't want people to know or they'll be out of jobs. If I had cancer, I'd eat beets." When I gently suggested she should check her sources and expressed my doubt that eating beets would cure me, AND that thousands of doctors all over the world were keeping this secret cure from us, she replied in a huff, "Well I know if I really had cancer, I'd eat beets." Okayyyyy
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OMG. People are insane.
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Let me set the stage: I'm hospitalized with sepsis 3 days after 1st chemo, sick as I could be. When the bone pain showed up and settled into my sacrum I was utterly miserable and crying. My husband had the nerve to ask me if I was reeeally in that much pain or was I just carrying on! Let it be said right here: I am NOT a cry-baby. I have a very high pain tolerance. Honestly, if I hadn't been almost rigid with pain I would have taken a swing at him. To his credit he did call the nurse to bring me something for pain but I was pretty put out with him.
When he had his prostate out last summer for cancer I thought about retaliating--briefly--but then decided instead to take the high road.
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See, whenever I had that kind of stupidity thrown at me, I'd reply "well, then, feel free to eat beets when you'll get cancer. "
I had the "oh so and so did so great on chemo" thrown at me. I'd usually ask first what kind of chemo. Of course they wouldn't know. Then I'd get into "so what surgeries they had before chemo? Any associated chronic conditions? What were their medications?" Of course I'd get a lot of babbling and stuttering. Then I'd tell them "hmmm, looks like there's a lot you don't seem to know about the whole cancer treatment thing huh"
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Route67 and mustlovepoodles
Do you girls not want to get better????
You are not trying at all. Really!
Simply eat crushed unicorn hooves, mixed with fallen stardust, add a pinch of end of the rainbow colour with some fairy sparkles............
and wallaaaaaaaa!!!!
But maybe you girls don't really care if you get better, you just want to keep on with the medication and specialist medical advice route????
Well, which is it?
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LOL, goodie. I had my share of "try yoga, tai chi, spinach smoothie,, a bazillion supplements, oils, vegan, more soy, less soy, acupuncture, meditation, etc". Yep, pretty sure those don't cure breast cancer.
Many people were against chemo because "you know they're just making money off you." My own mother has tried to convince me not to have reconstruction because her sister and a friend "died from it". Her sister was 76, about 30 yrs post BC. Her friend was in her 30s, so I'd guess she had a more aggressive BC.
I'm having my recon in April, but I'm not telling my mother, that's for sure!
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Mustlovepoodles
Not telling your mom sounds a good idea. Sometimes they worry too much and after the event might be the best time to tell her.
Best of luck with the reconstruction in April.
GP ((((())))
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goodprogress - thanks for the laugh!! I am now 5 years out and every once in awhile some of those ridiculous statements that were made still pop into my head! One that I remember most often was running into a former colleague who said, "Oh well, what good are breasts anyway - they just hang there and get in the way." Being in the middle of steroid rage and having no mouth filters at the time, I responded, "Oh good, well let's make an appointment to get yours cut off then."
Now I know she was trying to bring me consolation, but I'm glad I've never run into her since! LOL!
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